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 lassiter
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 26
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frankly, i put pictures up because people like to know they are speaking with another person...remember in the movie "castaway" how tom hanks needed to put a face on the volleyball? same deal. my guess is that people that have no pics find it detrimental to their plans for this site. maybe they feel unattractive, perhaps they need anonymity, or rather they know looks would hinder the kind of relationships they are seeking. who knows...i'm only here to meet new ideas.
 Nottaprob
Joined: 6/9/2005
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/21/2005 10:17:48 AM
Lassiter wrote:

...people like to know they are speaking with another person...remember in the movie "castaway" how tom hanks needed to put a face on the volleyball? same deal.

Terrific illustration!!

A person who wants to go "picture free" should perhaps include the reason for doing so in his/her profile. Otherwise, many (like me) will assume the person is a cheater, or otherwise has something to hide.
 frankin2006
Joined: 4/19/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/21/2005 3:41:36 PM
A person who wants to go "picture free" should perhaps include the reason for doing so in his/her profile. Otherwise, many (like me) will assume the person is a cheater, or otherwise has something to hide.


how about saying picture available on request? But i find so many women on here are either overwhelmed with number of emails they get or just dont wanna spend anytime reading one's profile as soon as they see no immidiate pic is available. The funny part is after a while they notice humm!!! why cant i find a good guy on here?


 Nottaprob
Joined: 6/9/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/22/2005 10:47:55 AM
This may not be fair, but IMHO it's accurate: Putting a photo on your profile is the same as putting your money where your mouth is.

Frankin, you have your reasons for not putting a photo up, but it probably wouldn't hurt you to add some content to your profile. Perhaps that will help make up the difference.
 JonathanUnruh
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/22/2005 6:53:48 PM
Even w/o reading the other responces here, I would have to say that posting pic of one's self is a (passive) form of honesty... if you can't see to getting a photo online, what are you hiding? - major self esteem issues?/ significant other won't let you use the digital camera (or scanner)?...

I wouldn't take anyone seriously w/o seeing their picture... and I don't look at the profiles that pop up if there is no picture - and I think most people at a site like this should be able to agree with me... hense this thread.

Pictures of you can be had w/o posting them on some dating site, so that paranoid responce doesn't cut it in my book...

Yeah mine isn't by any means flattering... but hey, it's a photo I took one night while sitting at the computer... so it puts a face with my profile...
 tunesman
Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/22/2005 11:13:47 PM
I would urge everyone here to not ignore the profiles with no photos. You may just be passing up someone truly great. Give all profiles their due and read between the lines. That is really what reveals all that the person is really about. I never overlook a profile just because there is no photo there.

I do think in an ideal world that it is only fair for the other person to provide a photo for you. If they are able to see you, you should be able to see them. While looks are not everything, they certainly are something and do constitute at least a part of that magical thing called attraction. There is not any great use in carrying on with something, which may not be destined to work. The overall attraction has to be there.

Other than what has been said already, I would like to add a couple of other legitimate reasons for someone to not have a picture up. Someone like me who is frequently at the business end of the camera simply doesn’t get around to getting a goodly number of shots of him or herself. It is a major act of gymnastics to do that with your own camera, all by yourself. I have found that many people are just a bit scared of a higher end digital camera; volunteers for snapping me are very few and far between.

From my own experiences, many of the people in my circle simply hate having their picture taken at all costs. Despite gentle persuasion that the camera simply loves them, it can almost turn into a bloodbath. Two of the ladies I have met through POF have indicated the same thing.
 Jonezy
Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 32
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Posted: 7/23/2005 1:28:27 PM
I agree . I look at ALL the profiles , pic or no pic . I may have a slanted view of this because I have no photo , but most others' views that slant the other way DO have a pic . Even though I have nothing to hide I have no pic . My profile is completely honest . I'd hate to lie , meet someone I like , then have them find out I lied and blow the whole deal . People are either going to like me (and accept me) for who I am or get lost .

I have no photo for several reasons (even though I will post one when I can) :

1. no digital cam .
2. no scanner.
3. out in the middle of nowhere -no photo hut here to get CD
4. I do have one pic on my computer , but I look awful in it.

There are perfectly acceptable reasons for not having a pic of yourself in your profile . Shame on those who jump to conclusions about everyone with no photo saying that they are hiding something . Not all of us are .
 Legal Catch
Joined: 7/3/2005
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/23/2005 2:13:19 PM
@rackhunter-"There are perfectly acceptable reasons for not having a pic of yourself in your profile . Shame on those who jump to conclusions about everyone with no photo saying that they are hiding something . Not all of us are"

Excellent-That just had to be said twice.
 Jonezy
Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/23/2005 5:04:04 PM
Just to appease the photo Gods , I have added a photo to my profile .
<-------There . Is everyone happy now ?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/23/2005 5:50:42 PM
rack Dude, you got one hairy face....but pretty eyes though!!
 peaceful_hermit
Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/24/2005 5:00:52 AM
Getting a picture of yourself isn't all that difficult nowadays. I'm not a camera type of person, so I just bought a disposable one. Stuck it in front of my face and snapped it. Then had the film developed at a local store where they had the option to put it on a computer disk (which a lot are doing now). And that was that. As you can see, it doesn't look as good as having someone take the picture for you (and helping you out with a smile) and using a good camera, but it at least gives people a general idea of who they're talking too.
 Mispriss
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/24/2005 6:35:01 AM
I don't respond to people with no photos - too annoymous feeling. I do want to know who I'm talking to. Of course I'm aware that the photo could always be fake ...
 Mispriss
Joined: 7/12/2005
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Posted: 7/24/2005 6:42:02 AM
He hee looks like I've invented yet another word "Annoymous".... I guess I do feel that IS annoying and anonymous when people won't post a photo....


cheers,

Mispriss
 frankin2006
Joined: 4/19/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/24/2005 8:47:22 AM
tunesman very well said.

Obviously with your age you are talking from experience. I can understand those who require a photo in order to go further with anything but what I dont like is those who do not even look in your profile and read everything as soon as they notice there is no immidiate photo in your email. But then I think if they are so shallow or cant keep up with the emails then they are NOT destined to be with me anyway.

cheers

 peaceful_hermit
Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/24/2005 11:22:40 AM
It's said that adding a photo of yourself for your profile will bring in 10x or so responses. But it's important to realize that 0x10 is still 0.

A sad but true statement should be added here. For males on a dating site, it's very difficult to get anyone to respond to your profile regardless of what you do. I'm adding this comment here because a lot of the gentlemen out there with no photos might be reading this thread thinking that if they go to the trouble of adding a picture, responses are finally going to come rolling in. Unfortunately this isn't the case. Although a picture will increase your odds, just bear in mind that you're still playing the lottery and don't get depressed when the winning ticket, or I should actually say *any ticket*, doesn't show.

So if it's a lot of trouble for you to put up a picture, don't worry about it, chances are that no one will respond anyway.

I think for the ladies is where it makes a big difference. For a lady's profile, if they show a picture, that basically helps to verifiy that they're really female and that they're at least slightly attractive (contrary to popular belief, as long as a woman is under 300 pounds, looks don't really matter). And as long as that basic premise is established they're going to get mail flooding in.

For the men folk out there reading this, a prescription for an anti-depressant will probably do you more good than putting up a picture.
 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/24/2005 11:54:35 AM
I see many women on his site and others with NO photo on their profiles.

My experience has proven it is for a good reason.

With todays obesity epidemic it's usually better NOT to see them and move on lol.

Also they may not want the wife/husband to find them so using no photo is safer.
 GuelphDude
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/24/2005 2:18:40 PM
Women do it as much as men do I would imagine, I know half the profiles that appear in a search have no pictures, or some obscene picture that is not them but of something else. I am as ugly as sin yet i still have pictures in my profile, only a couple.
 Always Smiling35
Joined: 7/1/2005
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/24/2005 4:16:06 PM
No photo for me = no chat.

Need to see if there is a physical attraction there before going any further.
And it doesnt mean all I want is sex.
It means I want a relationship where I am physically and intellectually attracted to a potential date.
No point in wasting my time and hers if you dont find the person at least a little attractive.

If she has one to send and it is not in profile thats fine.
As long as she actually has one and is willing to send it on first contact.
 Jonezy
Joined: 7/21/2005
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/24/2005 10:53:27 PM
There's more to a relationship than good looks/physical attraction . I couldn't care what someone looks like as long as she and I can have a good time together . You know , a REAL connection . I can be proud of anyone I'm with as long as we can be relaxed and have a good time together . I believe that if you are ashamed of someone you're with when you're out with someone , you are worried too much about what others think of you .
That's just sad .
 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 45
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:19:44 AM
Good luck skippy.

*I couldn't care what someone looks like as long as she and I can have a good time together

Most of the takers will want a date with the dog I bet lol.

When you are unattractive you take what you can get.

People who look good have options you don't.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 46
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:24:32 AM
Well, I just took my pix down. I figure that should drop the BS level quite a lot.
btw
I am neither obese nor ugly. I am just "cutting bait".
 wireddd
Joined: 5/25/2005
Msg: 47
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:26:23 AM
always smiling no pic no talk ,let me tell you every girl that dosnt have a pic in her profile could be a guy,this is the net man!
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:29:19 AM
Holy crap! Talk about NAIVE!! The pic doesn't actually have to be THEM! It is seriously easy to find a pic of someone and pretend it is you. People on dating sites do it all the damn time, both men AND women!
 wireddd
Joined: 5/25/2005
Msg: 49
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:34:41 AM
not just 1 photo,how about 5 and no glamour shots!pics that are done with a web cam!take it easy,calm down
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 50
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:38:15 AM
sigh
It is just that I have met people who had the fake pix...or the ones that were 20 years and 50lbs ago. I think some people use pix of their friends or even their kids!! There is just NO way to know who will actually show up at that first meeting. I guess if you did the web cam chat thing it would help, but it seems that a lot of guys use a cam to exhibit Mr Happy, so I won't chat like that anymore.
IF I was interested in meeting someone, I would be happy to post pics again. Unlikely to happen though.
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