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Joined: 3/21/2004
Msg: 52
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?Page 8 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)
You know; I often have more respect for NO photos then for those who post only themselves at that ONE blacktie event they have ever attended or that ONE pic that shows them looking pretty.

Photos...are a great way to bias your ad or lie about who you are, on average.

At least the tittie girls are showing you something that gets to the ROOT truth of who they are.

With that being said; I have messaged and WILL message people whos' ad and descriptions sound appealing and leave them as a real or not.

If you're going to put a photo u,; use a good one; because people WILL judge that they have your whole character figured a pic.

It sure makes communication a lot nicer to know who you are responding to...know what I mean?

Well thought out ads, and good converation help you to know who you are talking The way someone looks is NOT the sole identifier of who they it?

Or are you one of these girls that thinks "if it looks like a sheep"....and then comes on to cry about the boy who used you and treated you like poo?

IN total though; I do also enjoy seeing a pic sometime before we meet or allow conversation to get too deep. (So; I'm much like you that way)
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 53
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/30/2006 3:32:14 AM
no photo because:
-They aren't dating
- they don't feel like posting one
- they don't want you to see them

Everyone has a reason that's important to them
Just ask nicely if its important to you
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 54
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/30/2006 12:07:48 PM
someone just needs to grow up a little, Never. Ya know? Its like reasoning with a teenager that thinks they know everything and everyone else is stupid. Hate that.
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 55
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:50:04 AM
.............................. well anyway

umm people who don't wanna post anything have that right and shouldn't have to be judged by total strangers that have no impact on their real lives. Whats it matter what "Joe Stranger" thinks? exactly.
 Roxie Hart
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 56
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:07:18 PM
"""" the point I was getting across was that some people in public positions don't want to. If a person wants to take advantage of all the technology thats great, if they don't then that is their choice."""""

gimme a break, everyone is in a public position. And undercover cop's prefession is irrelevant because unless he writes in the profile HI UNDERCOVER COP ALLERT!!!! no one gives a damn that the guy has to work incognito all the time nor would he jeopardize his cases by simply being seen on here.
having said that, I respect someone who doesn't want everyone to see their picture, no matter what their personal reason is.

As far as exchanging pictures behind the scenes I would never meet a guy without a pic.

Oh and as to the we never know who someone is...chances are that if you have a few pictures they are more than likely the person they say they are.
Joined: 12/21/2005
Msg: 57
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:00:04 PM
"chances are that if you have a few pictures they are more than likely the person they say they are"

Not necessarily. Anyone can go to Webshots or Botfolio and collect all the pics they want of someone's family vacation and play it off as their own. Those are photo album storage sites where people store their personal pictures, and many people do not set them up as private. And there's nothing protecting the pictures from the ole right click and save.
 Roxie Hart
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 58
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 3/31/2006 10:08:41 PM
It does matter for the undercover cop because the people who think he's someone else (the bad guys) might see it and find out what he really is: a cop, a KILL him or at the very least make it harder for the police to solve the case he's on.

You may well be right, but no one can guarantee that the people he's working against will not see him on here, nor is it worth his job or life to take that risk for a free internet dating site.""""

DEAL WITH IT: I think you may be watching too many murder mysterires LOL first off undercover cops would never reveal that's what they do for a living. look around and see how many people don't even state what they do for a living, I don't and I'm no undercover cop or detective. So a picture alone says dyck-all, furthermore it does not jeapordize a person's work, sorry I disagree in that case. I only see it as a problem a some people said their pictures were used to form fake profiles THAt is a real concern.

JACKFROST: sure they can and you might never know until you meet them. I've looked at guys pictures who looked like they have "psycho eyes" watched what they had to say and totally decided I was not interested just based on that. I was right. you use your intuition. generally speaking a person who is honest will send you more pics of them once you speak to them. I have never shown up and seen someone misrepresented. I had one guy who seemed like he could be lying and most those people can not keep up with their lies. I had asked him a question about something in the backgound of a picture since I was suspicious it was a phoney and a month later we were talking again and asked him the same question but changed the answer to make it seem like he has said something else, he fell for it. so he was lying, he didn't remember what he told me the first time and that is how I caught him. just be smart that's all. of course you can't control the outcome of every situation but use your judgement.

Picture is 100 times better than no picture.
Joined: 7/5/2005
Msg: 59
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 10:48:06 AM
Besides if they got killed...that would be good and then the rest of us could have fun without having to worry about accidentally getting to know a cop..
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 60
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 11:08:10 AM
{Seems like there is a trend on POF where men (I don't look at the profiles of too many ladies, so can't comment on women) are deciding not to post their pictures. It sure makes communication a lot nicer to know who you are responding to...know what I mean? }

I know what you mean, sort off. It's still good to know a person.

would you rather have someone post a fake pic?, Probably not, so sometimes we have to chill and just get to know someone and then when we do see their pic, don't reject them because of there looks.

Lets play nice.
 Roxie Hart
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 62
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 3:28:42 PM
Xavi: I know!!!

the bottom line is people will come up with the most ridiculous stories not to show a picture, excuses might as well be lies. if you need excuses to hide behind words, then I don't need an excuse when I want nothing to do with you. NOT INTERESTED - PERIOD.

Why would you come on a dating site and not want to show what you look like unless you have something to hide? And the old "my job is very important to me", sounds like a crock of shyte! Everyone's work is important to them, get over it!
Joined: 4/1/2006
Msg: 63
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 5:15:48 PM
People got too much time on their hands just to come online and rag on what total strangers choose to do with thier own profiles. If ya don't wanna talk to em, then don't. Griping and ribbing them isn't going to change anything any more than you'll change for them. sheesh. We all come here for some escape, not more stress from people we don't even know.
 Roxie Hart
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 64
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/1/2006 5:22:38 PM
^^^Speak for yourself. some of us don't come here for fantasy or ESCAPE!?!?
Some of us come here TO DATE in case you haven't noticed this is a DATING site. If I wanted escape I read a novel NOT FAKE PROFILES on a dating site!
 Knight Rider
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 65
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/7/2006 9:31:29 PM
I'll tell you this,My pic in the forums match the name I chose for this site,nothing
more ,nothing less.

On my profile however,I do have pics of myself,wich by the way I must update
very soon.

And when I write to someone,I always send a pic of me with my letter,so in the
forums it is not a big deal at all!!!

Knight Rider!
Joined: 2/15/2006
Msg: 66
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Posted: 4/8/2006 7:28:05 AM
Posting a photo is taking a bit of a risk. If you're eye candy (as you are getreal) Posting a pic will attract a lot of attention. and invites, good and bad.

I can see many reasons for not posting good and sleezy.

Seems like it would be perfectly reasonable for you to paruse the non pic profiles and if the descreption of his character is what you are seeking, ask for a photo. If he declines, move on.
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 67
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:17:06 AM
Well it's the persons choice if they want to put up a photo or not. I put up a photo and get mixed repsonses, soem have accused me of being photogeneic (forgot what that means lol ) and also they suggested that I manipulated my pics and went to some photo store to get them modified and what not. Well that is not true, and atleast i have photos up and I vary them on a weekly bases.

Because I do have a girlfriend I am not so much concerned about which photot i put up, but I think it's still nice for people to see who they are :

1 chatting to
2 who's post they are reading

But again it is the person choice weather or not they put it up. Some prefer to put it up publicly, others are willing to show it in private.
Joined: 3/21/2006
Msg: 68
What's Up With NO PHOTOS?
Posted: 4/13/2006 8:45:32 AM
Don't know how........................

Please forward instructions.

...and not afraid of sending
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 69
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Posted: 2/19/2007 8:12:10 PM
I think part of the problem is that people don't have pictures to post AND are not bright enough to figure it out. Other than that they have a lot to hide like the fact they are really fat or married. Just my opinion though
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:37:26 PM
I personally think it is absolutely ridiculous to be on a dating site and not put up a picture of yourself. Take anyone's profile - anyone's - and any decent writer (either gender) could have written that profile and even written e-mail and convinced you he/she was the most wonderful person you can imagine based on the profile attributes. If there is no picture, you have no idea who you may be meeting. Even that is no guarantee as some have said above.

The only excuse is someone like myself who is just here for the forums and has to have a profile in order to post. If someone writes to me privately, I reply whether male or female. Occasionally I will write to someone I believe may make a decent friend.

Fishing with no bait? You need to read, "Cyrano de Bergerac" or watch the movie, "The truth about Cats and Dogs."
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 10/1/2007 11:09:06 AM
I don't think a person needs to have a pic on their profile. Yet they should be willing a send a pic to the other person after a few emails if things are going well. You can't always tell how attractive is by a few pics, but a pic can give a general idea of what a person looks like if the pic is accurate and recent.
Joined: 8/22/2007
Msg: 72
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Posted: 10/1/2007 1:08:29 PM
When a man doesn't post a photo, there's a reason. Anytime I've met a man who refuses to provide a picture I've regretted it. So, I skip these men.
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 9/30/2008 5:57:10 AM
Looks are nice, but they aren't everything. The inside counts more than the outside, and a plain-or even homely-face may go with a beautiful personality. Honesty, fidelity, sense of humor, and general compatibility, matter more than do looks...and photos can't show those things. Photos are over rated.

You want to choose personality instead of look. I want both. So seeing his picture is important.
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 1/11/2009 8:34:08 PM
I would suspect that men (and women) who have profiles with no photos have experienced the unwarranted (and unnecessary) snide comments from people who seem to think they have the absolute right to offer snide comments in the interest of "honesty" on the photos on our profiles.

I have been told that I should remove the photo of me in a red jacket because it makes me look like Ronald McDonald; I should remove all photos because no one wants to date a "fat old broad;" need to lose weight, etc. etc. etc.!

The bottom line is that I post pictures that I feel good about - and if someone wants to know why they can ask!

But - you need to have a pretty thick skin to post photos if you happen to be over 45, more than 10 pounds overweight; not have the most photogenic face; or frankly just not really like getting your photo taken!

I am totally supportive of someone who doesn't feel comfortable putting themselves out there for that kind of abuse!
Joined: 9/22/2008
Msg: 76
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Posted: 1/12/2009 1:57:57 PM
Okay first, if the guy has no photo just move on. (common sense). Second, like its been said a million times, some people feel uncomfortable, are looking for people that aren't shallow, or just don't have the option. In the defense of the lady who posted this thread though....Being shallow and knowing what you want are different things. Being shallow is when the only thing you care about is the persons looks bottom line. You won't date anyone who weighs more than 120 or has a scar, isn't tan, whatever. Knowing what you want is when you don't want to date someone who is over weight because you simply would prefer someone who weighs less than you, takes good care of them self, is in good health, ect. Its a preference just like height, eye color, hair color, skin color, shoe size, ect. Its about what the person prefers in what they want not because they think the person doesn't deserve love or whatever lol.
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