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Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 31
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To be straight, I'm not actually trying to provide good advice, just advice:

Recalling roughly what Mors Kochanski says in Bushcraft, "that good spot is rare. You may have to feel around in the dark under hundreds of trees before you find a dry place to rest."

The bugs you're looking for are not under each rock and you may have to poke a few gourds to see what crawls. In short widen your limits, explore: Verne Troyers to Shaq, Bieber to Hef, Street bums to Branson and Pink to White Stripes. All excellent threesomes.

Like Clinton get junk happening that forces comments: wear makeup to truly look like a boy (with somethings..) dye gold tips on blue fleur de lis in that spikey hair, wear a big "speak french to me" placard. Smile and say hi to everyone you meet;(best avoid that trick on the metro and dress Christmas-sy so its not bizarre).

Hunt where the prey lives. Let them know you're there. Carry a spear. TO has a mobile animation festival, volunteer as a beer girl at something huge, artsy and full of guys with the oppposite problem to yours.

You'll do fine. As Zapp Brannigan says, "That young man fills me with hope. Plus some other emotions which are weird and deeply confusing."
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 12/20/2010 9:18:56 PM
OP, Miss attention seeker....LOL

I don't date white girls....not really - its been more than a decade for me.

but if you were closer, I'd make at least an initial date with you.

2nd date? well, that depends on the 1st date...

so now, do you feel better?
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 39
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Posted: 12/20/2010 9:51:14 PM
Most even slightly attractive young women are showered with guys looking at them all the time, so you may be numb to that. You're profile says your a student; at any co-ed college, there are plenty of guys, so you'll have to be on the lookout for those who are looking at you with interest, and perhaps make a friendly remark or two, to spark a conversation. But there's always this: marketing. Think of the 'customers' you want to attract, and what you're doing to attract them. Sure, if you like having your hair cut short like a guys, then fine. But know that you're cutting down your 'customer base' considerably by doing so, most guys prefer long hair, and everything else being equal, they're going to go with the girl with longer, prettier hair. Same with everything else. While most people like to think that we should ignore stereotype looks and behavior, well, there's a good reason why those stereotypes exist: They work. Sure, somewhere there are guys that are attracted to women who don't like to dress pretty, don't like make up, don't like feminine long hair. But there aren't a lot of them. Be thankful that you can change things about your appearance that will make a very significant difference in how many people you attract; lots of us have things we can't change. Remember, people always say 'just be yourself'. But if that's not working, we can change.
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 12/23/2010 8:52:28 AM
I agree with Coma...the girls that have messaged me...I've gone out with them...with the exception of a copule...cuz they were awfully unattractive and overweight...

but the ones that I've found attractive...lets go!
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 12/29/2010 9:47:42 PM
Is the message settle, go for the gusto with no fire?

I like that, .. hotties for olderviille,,.. wait there are reports from section Alpha, a margarita spritzer battle, they've taken island four - got our Caelis and the adult diapers. Consewella can't take out those under agers before they've the cards to our rooms, enama and Androgel supplies. Have to hole up in the elevator, hope they've too young to realize someone might be using anything other than stairs in a three story building.

Preaching for pof is like being an eHarmony dwork. Without the "w".

However the real show up. People read your profile, digg nuggets from photos and find what is going on. They're not perfect or sensible but fits happen. I don't mean spastic or public problems but ease; that sense of "I can turn my back a sec and still know what's up", or the opposite, "she's totally snakeoid but that's a wonder".

Specifically. Over a decade five matchs have contacted me. ICQ, youtube, here-some were satanic wildones, total wild lesbians. But true occurs. Please See it when its there. I made one MaJor\ error not realizing. Try not to make that mistake and no.. I am not that non-mistake guy.
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/30/2010 1:33:27 PM

Don't get me wrong, i'm not looking for the one, i'm just look for someone. I'm basically looking for what ever girl wants: a semi-interesting, semi-literate,semi-intelligent, semi-attractive man.

^^^If it were really that bare bones as to what you're looking for, you'd not be posting this. You are being picky---but that's okay and important, there's no need to settle--ever.

I'm going to suggest that you've already met that 'semi' man, but he simply isn't doing it for you. The missing piece or what flips the switch is often something quite intangible and it doesn't often show up as ordered with the full complement of desired traits in tow.

You wanted advice. I'd suggest that you start dating every once in a while with a few those that you feel come close but who you believe are missing what you'd consider 'the icing on the cake' bits.

Have faith...I think you can get mostly what you're looking for, but I doubt it will manifest in the exact way you'd like, so these dating experiences will help you understand how firm your personal deal breakers really are.

Also, I think you need to translate some of what you're writing here onto your profile---successful fishing is in large part knowing how to bait your hook. Your profile is your hook in this realm, and imo you've not capitalized on that nearly enough here. You need to translate what you want to your target because they'll readily self-identify and suggest that resonance with you around those traits.

While POF is ideal for looking for finding men that have the traits you're looking for because it's a medium that emphasizes writing, don't forget your offline appeal too...expand your network.

Finally, I completely get the "ick factor" with respect to older guys-...I was the same way around your age until that day when I wasn't. (Btw, I still get contacted by men who are seriously older than myself but that's because I choose not to use restrictions)

At 31 or 32 I realized that I started to be consistently attracting men in their early-to- mid-40's or so. They often matched that intellectual compatibility and confidence level that I wanted and found attractive, but were really much older than what I thought I wanted or for my comfort level.

Of course as is often the way with intransigent thinking, everything eventually changed with one man----a man that had the kind of intellectual, charismatic and emotional qualities and chemistry that really 'got me', with a body, energy level and appeal that I quickly realized wasn't the least 'old'...
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/2/2011 11:29:07 AM
Since i'm so braindead for ideas, maybe a game of "I rather" is in order. Okay, i'll start:
- i have no idea what i am doing with this.

Are simply describing yourself or are you looking for a guy that has similar tastes to your list here?

As for the semi-whatever you're looking for, you meet those type of people every single day of your life. That's probably not what you're looking for.
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 62
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Posted: 1/26/2011 3:34:32 PM
Hey OP, I'm not sure what you are looking for in your woe-is-me post, but if I were your age, I would find you very attractive, and being the old guy I am, I believe you are gorgeous. Whatever issues you are having is not your looks. Good luck.
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