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 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 45
Would you sacriface friends and family?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I like where I am.

I like my house and the woods that surround it.

This is my home, my tastes and my sanctuary.

I would prefer someone move here, however I realize he may feel uncomfortable doing that.

So if he can supply me the same type environment, I may be willing to go.

As for my family, they are all over, I travel to see them.

My friends, well they are all involved in my business, and I can take my business anywhere.

This may be up for negotiation.
 VacationGuy234
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 54
Would you sacriface friends and family?
Posted: 12/17/2010 12:56:37 PM
This would not be an easy decision for me, given that I have a disposition, finding a good job would be harder than for other people. In addition, being on the older side and dealing with younger competition further narrows the job market. I wouldn't rule it out, but it would be a greater chance in my case. I'd probably love it though..

I'll have to checkout the movie.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 58
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Would you sacriface friends and family?
Posted: 12/18/2010 5:24:49 PM
"Really family and freinds are there for you? Maybe on TV, but not in the real word."

Family is all deceased, but friends are always there for me. A huge part of my real life.
Give them up....................not going to happen.
Why should it?

Years ago, when happily married, my late husband and I were best bests, all to each other. We didn't have close friends. When he died, basically I had no support. Took me years to develope the friends I now have. I won't even be giving them up. I need their support, and they need mine. I will be living out of the country for six months less a day with long term friends in another country when I retire in a couple of years from now. I will return year after year, to my friend support group in both countries.

Secrifice that..................never.

I feel torn enough now between the two countries. I need to be their for births, and deaths, and they need me there. Any partner who couldn't be part of that, would be the wrong partner.

"Family is the one thing in life you can count on for most people."

Those of us who's family is deceased, we know that if we are blessed, true life time friends will show up.
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/19/2010 11:58:44 AM

So....would you go the distance and move away from family to be with the one you loved when you didn't even have a job you liked?
I'm having difficulty trying to figure out WHICH of these you're really placing as being "more important".

While with any sane person....Family is always "more important" than ANY job, it's often the "job" which ends up being "in the best interest of the family". So, if jobs were "equal" then without a doubt....family comes first.

Another issue which seems to have been "unspokenly accepted" as a given is families are ALWAYS something that it's desirable to "move away from". I also have a problem with these "black and white" ultimatums...like, "if you loved me... you'd leave your family"....to which I'd have to reply...."yeah, and IF you loved ME....you wouldn't ask me to do so!"

I tend to believe however that when one is trying to establish some definitive answer to this question BEFORE the situation even arises....or has arisen, but has yet to be discussed....that there IS already a hidden agenda; and that the "question" is being asked to establish some justification (logical, but false, reasoning).

Having once been in a relationship that paralleled this question, I agreed (happily) to drive 150 miles PER DAY (round trip) to MY job, which I would not give up; in order to accommodate his life...which included...a low paying, unreliable job....and a minor child. My "reward" for trying to accommodate his "needs" were endless fights about the long hours that I worked....and the fact that I would take an additional 2 or 3 hours per WEEK so that I could perhaps meet my daughters (all in their early 20s at the time) for lunch before I went to work (I worked 2nd shift...3-11pm).

Therefore, when this question is proposed, I naturally assume that the "hidden motives" are issues of "control" and that the generosity of spirit and compromise are rarely either respected, or appreciated.

IF however, the rare couple is looking for a FAIR and equitable solution to the problems associated with a "long distance relationship"; then there can be numerous factors to be considered; and it's always nice if BOTH partners are willing to bend, or compromise.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 12/22/2010 8:34:18 AM
Work is work; we don't all always have the luxury of having a job we like. That's why it's called 'work'; they pay us to do something we wouldn't do for free. Would I move for love? Sure. In a second. Love doesn't come along every day, and I do the kind of work that I can get pretty much everywhere.
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