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Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 15
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How do you think internet dating will change relationships?Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)

What spoils it all, is the dishonest information entered by individuals misrepresenting themselves in the hope of attracting their "ideal"

That's for sure a problem, the bogus people behind some number of profiles.

What's ALSO a problem is that matching up with a new partner is an emotional thing rather than a logical thing. Facts, in the context of mating, are as dry as thousand year old dust.

Unfortunately, many people believe that "chemistry" is nothing but unusual beauty or handsomeness. Yet, however important physical attractiveness is (and it is indeed important to both women and men) there are many, many, many, many, many, many others things which in the end are also important.

An additional problem is that most people are not particularly attractive (doubt that? view the people in the room the next time you go on jury duty), with few attempting to make themselves attractive. These people can look at whatever movie star(s) and say, "I want -- and deserve -- one of them." They, of course, can't get a movie star. Yet, they also don't understand movie stars ARE performers, and they are taught specifically how to look enticing on a movie or tv screen. For most people, that look does not exist in the world of the Internet, though it does exist in spades in the real world.
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 18
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How do you think internet dating will change relationships?
Posted: 12/11/2010 11:43:07 AM
On line dating has its ups and downs. On line is probably healthier than meeting someone in a bar for instance. You only see their outer in a bar. On-line they actually are selling themselves and their interests in their profile and if they are being honest---you are knowing something about them before you meet them and what their interests are. It saves time in the long run. Similar to a job interview. Your first meeting you find out a little more.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 27
How do you think internet dating will change relationships?
Posted: 12/12/2010 6:21:28 AM
All on-line did was just added another type of "relationship" to the mix. I know I chat with a few here that I,realistically will probably never meet face to face. Logistics and location being the only reasons.

On-line dating is just a tool. And notice I didn't say a "great" or "good" tool,,,just a tool. Basically it's up to us how well it will work. And therein lies the crux of the matter. As soon as we get the "fibbers", the "fact stretchers",etc into play, it's just like the real world except magnified. We still have to "weed" out the ca ca(there's just more of it). We still have to find the one that we are most comfortable with. We still have to find that one that will "match" or at least kinda "match".

I don't think initial contact is much easier here, in fact, probably much harder. I know in the real world, I have no problem striking up (and keeping) a conversation with someone that I "just meet/met", if I feel the desire to do so,male or female. Here,people that have been for a period of time, step slowly and quietly. They have seen enough ca ca come their way that will ALWAYS look at an intial e-mail with a raised eyebrow, and even with some attraction will be looking for that dreaded red-flag.

So, in the end, I know that the intial meet,first contact, or whatever ya want to call it has been always hard in the "real world". But I am finding it even harder and less real on sites like this. Kinda sucks, cause like some have said, in "theory" this place should be the place to be. But, like always, reality has to come around and kick us in the bum to keep us on our toes.
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