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 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 35
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(pinkpoodle) I was recently told by a man I know well, that a guy ONLY has anal sex with his girlfriend when he's cross with her, feeling a bit angry, in a bad mood or just generally wants to hurt her a bit.

He then said, unless she really liked it, then you'd do it because she liked it.


You may know him well, and he may know you well, but he don't know Jack...


That's not seriously the reason is it?


Maybe, maybe not. 3.4 billion guys (approximately) on this planet: 3.4 billi0n reasons...


That's weird thinking?


Yes, it is weird thinking. I mean, what was going through this guy's mind, that he would spill one of our secrets so blithely...

Arlo....

(YANK this dude's card!)
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/5/2011 5:08:07 PM

(mermaid140) Sounds like he has a mean streak in him.


Nah. Sounds like he has a stupid streak...

Arlo...
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/5/2011 7:19:27 PM
Revilors: That was the point I was making: if someone believes what Hollywood garbage movies tell him, he might say something "stupid" (quoting Arlo) like was in the OP. I didn't say that I personally believed it. The original post was asking why a guy might say something like that. Hence my suggestion. Anyway, further clarifying conversation is ALWAYS the most likely cure for confusion about what someone meant..and that conversation should take place with the person who confused you, rather than a bunch of third-hand bystanders.
Anyway...
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/5/2011 9:51:18 PM
Yeah, I think it's safe to put that in the WTF file....
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/7/2011 2:13:19 PM

Revilors: That was the point I was making: if someone believes what Hollywood garbage movies tell him, he might say something "stupid" (quoting Arlo) like was in the OP.


There are those times when perfectly good sarcasm is wasted on me. Depending on how much I've been paying attention.

Sorry
 LittleMissImpossible
Joined: 12/23/2010
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/10/2011 2:35:06 AM
Have you been talking to my boyfriend?
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/10/2011 10:26:21 AM

As a woman watching that, you imagine that afterwards the guy may be planning to kill the girl, because he knows that he has crossed the line from regular human behavior to a criminal act.


I may be "out of touch" with contemporary entertainment, and I don't watch many movies, but . . . even when I did, I understood that each was a flight of someone's fancy, intended as entertainment, or, at worst, exaggerating to make a point, like, damning with hyperbole. Folks who pattern their RL behavior, or perceptions, after whatever they see on the screen, are not often well grounded.


Any guy who would consider the actions of the psycho killer/bad guy in a movie as appropriate for a real person should be prepared to eventually do the jail time.


Out of context, I agree with you here, but if you are suggesting that anal sex or tastes are the province of criminals, well, that's very provincial thinking, and perceiving, imho. I understand that you're 19, in WVA (yeah, had to look at your profile, which I promise I will never repeat, lol), but you seem to be very defensive, in your approach, to, well, alot of life experience. Maybe your circumstances require that. Dunno. But your diagnosis doesn't seem apt for the majority, your treatment (if you really are suggesting that experimenting with rectal rooting (lol) is criminal) is kinda like cauterization for every ailment, and your prognosis is pretty dim. jmho
When you take a rule-out-every-risk approach to living, e.g., abstinence, you just might reach the end unscathed. I went the other way, from the get-go, generally intent on doing at least one of everything, lol, and haven't yet reached the point where I morph from a risk-taker to a risk-avoider (which is my working definition of "old").
Sorry, not trying to "cauterize" your post with criticism, but abstinence imho is a poor life approach choice.



This should serve as a warning to those ladies that post forums posts that state that they are submissive and let a guy do what he wants.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 1/12/2011 10:30:45 AM
forget mainstream and forget movies.

a good reference is duckman .
a very educational and informative cartoon touching on most topics on this forums.

Mr T threatening anal sex on some naughty men....."Pity the fool!"
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/12/2011 1:00:36 PM

Mr T threatening anal sex on some naughty men....."Pity the fool!"




Mountain Man: What do you want to do now?
Toothless Man: [grinning] He got a real pretty mouth ain't he?
Mountain Man: That's the truth

Sorry, couldn't resists. The alternative to angry anal sex I guess. Best said in Deliverance, circa 1972. (Still eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewie!!! And all too angry and icky! OY!!)

 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 1/13/2011 4:28:33 AM
kayliekat: "But wtf movies are you watching? Can you even give me ONE movie that shows anal sex??? Um, and a rape scene does not count because rape is not the same as consensual sex at all."

My point, again, was that this guy the OP was talking about MIGHT have seen, as I have in some mainstream movies , anal sex depicted as a violent act. I specifically was REFERRING to rape scenes, so no I can't say I've seen anal sex in mainstream movies that was both violent and disrespectful AND consensual. And no, I wasn't suggesting you could find any GRAPHIC depictions of such in a mainstream movie...you can't find ANY mainstream movies with gynecologically graphic sex of any kind.
Such a lot of fuss over such an unimportant comment by someone who isn't even ON pof!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 2/10/2011 5:03:46 PM

That isn't the normal reason.


Lol. You were expecting "normal" here in these threads?


The normal reason is it is suppose to be a tighter fit, and feel really good.


Gotta be careful throwing that "normal" rubric around. It strongly suggests boundaries and lines imposed upon human behavior, and creates "foul territory", inhabited by sickies. lol "Common" is less threatening. The anal fit, to me, is only slightly different from the vaginal: entry is tighter, or can be, but either way there always seems to be lots of room inside. First time I ever ran across anything (read preference, not the humans involved) like the OP describes was decades ago, in the Penthouse Letters, about a Greek girl who favored men with her "love muscle". In that "letter", she thought she was "saving" her virtue for marriage. My concept of anal, and reasons for the allure, are far different from any of those given here so far. But it's definitely not the "fit" that's the key.
But, yeah, it does feel really gooooooood. lol

I have never heard of a guy giving that reason before
 garvey14
Joined: 6/6/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 7/8/2011 2:25:11 PM
What prison was he in and for how long?
 sunnyflower1974
Joined: 10/4/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 10/18/2011 8:26:28 AM
my ex just only like the sex way is anal sex, but i tried ,that is so pain for me,so he love it but he never asked again,because he knows i was in pain,so he won't do it again. so my point is if he still in love with you that he won't do it just becasue his anger.
 8plenty8
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 10/18/2011 8:41:46 AM
If you want to know what men like look at the porn they consume. It caters to what they click on the most.

If slow and gentle and caring was in so much demand there should be umpteen porn sites selling it.

Guys, what's most common in porn? Slow, gentle, easy does it sex or ass pounding from two big guys who call her names and push her around?

I think what your friend meant was "a lot of the time" not "the only time" since there are obviously men who will be considerate but I agree with him, there are a lot of men who like abusive sex but hopefully more on line than in real life.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 49
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Posted: 10/18/2011 8:54:59 AM
pain in the ass is never good unless she enjoys it.
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 11/22/2011 3:49:14 PM
Pulp Fiction had a pretty angry anal scene. Ooooooch Get the Gimp....

Just saying

On topic, I have never heard such nonsense. I think most men like it because it's the Final Frontier in sex between an intimate couple. It gives a guy the feeling he is fully trusted and completely welcome to do what ever pleases....

Well that, and it feels awesome...
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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Posted: 11/23/2011 9:30:31 AM
I agree with Iconoclast.
Using sex as a weapon is where I draw the line as well as not healthy for a relationship.
 SecretSub
Joined: 11/10/2011
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Posted: 11/23/2011 9:39:16 AM
Kink only works when it's safe, sane and consensual. From your description, I can't quite tell tell if both of you were/are on board with this.

Unless you are BOTH kinky, and unless you BOTH agree to this type of scene/play, then no, it's not okay.
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 11/23/2011 12:24:27 PM

Kink only works when it's safe, sane and consensual


The Safety Word is "Banana"
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2011 12:46:15 PM

I thought the safety word was..."FLÜGGÅNK€HIØLEN". lol

*Euro Trip reference

I lawled.
 wingnude
Joined: 5/21/2008
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Posted: 11/27/2011 8:19:00 AM
Anger issues maybe? Why would you want to hurt some one you care about? T
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 11/27/2011 8:44:12 AM
"Banana"

Reference was Family guy as Peter and Lois getting Bondaged up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOVq81k4Y_U
 GeekyCrazyButCool
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/27/2012 12:14:34 PM
Really? what kind of guy does this? pretty sad if you ask me :(
 dremo202
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 58
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Posted: 12/27/2012 1:27:02 PM
A REAL man never hurts any woman physically, especially not a woman he cares for. This "man" sounds like a sadist and a bully. He is using sex as a power trip, and controlling mechanism. Sex between lovers is intended to make each other feel wanted, satisfied and loved, never used as a punishment. If she enjoys anal sex, then they are both happy to have another fun thing to share together. Dump this guy, he is a loser.
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