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 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 368
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Geeee, I was wondering where all the money scrounging gas bags had gone off too?

Here they all are in their resplendent glory, miyawn, hows to pre-nup and hosed in divorce goin? Cindy, you still givin him sh1t? I see we have a few new hangers on, for the next act of "as the money rolls"!

I loved that story of the rose petals, actually took 15 minutes to read, had to take a break and wipe the vodka from the screen, dammn, now the keys are sticky.

As I like to say, you can't argue 2 sides of the same coin. IF men make more than women as a percentage of working population(glass ceiling and all doncha know), then it would figure women marry men who make more. Is the number greater than 1940, well I shoul hope so, there's a freakin lot more people now than in 1940!

Will women end up earning more than men at some point, probably. I say that because women tend to be more focused in college than guys. Plus a good number of younger guys I know, have to earn their way through college, and a good number still stop after high school to take whats left of manufacturing jobs. A lot of parents are more willing to help the girls through. I put both my daughters through, didn't have any sons though.

Will that mean women will love their money more and just keep a "BOB" at home and to he11 with men. Sure seems that way with some of the women on these forums! Hahahaha!!!

The only fact I actually believe about all this sh1t, is this. Whether it's a maternal gene or whatever, women seem to be more practical. Men will marry or date a pretty face, even if they make less. Women want more substance, a practical answer to where do we raise the baby, when young. So yeah, they will seek a man with good prospects.

As we get older, retirement looming, I suppose both would latch onto a better off individual rather than eat cat food. If that offends your sensibilities, tough. That's life.

Can a happy medium be struck in the vast majority in between, doesn't seem so, in these 21 pages. But I'll be happy to stick my oar in the water and stir it up from time to time. Hahahahahahaha!!!!!
 DivineBovine
Joined: 5/13/2005
Msg: 369
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Posted: 8/29/2011 4:47:19 PM

Money is the number one thing women are attracted to...


ALL women?

you've asked them? every single last available hetereosexual woman of marriageable age on the planet?

no? didn't think so...

how about all the women in Canada? at least the ones in Toronto?

no? didn't think so...
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 370
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/29/2011 5:00:28 PM

Geeee, I was wondering where all the money scrounging gas bags had gone off too?

Here they all are in their resplendent glory, miyawn, hows to pre-nup and hosed in divorce goin? Cindy, you still givin him sh1t? I see we have a few new hangers on, for the next act of "as the money rolls"!


Oy Vay I see you are as astute as ever......Seeing as I haven't posted to this thread in over a month!

OT Women have always chosen the best provider nothing new about that. Nothing wrong with that.

There is also nothing wrong with making sure one is not skinned alive if the relationship goes bad.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 372
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/29/2011 5:53:55 PM
~OP~ I'm still after love and great sex....guess someone should sue me for not being after the cash. But then again? Those that I've met that have cash? Usually need little blue pills, so their cash is taken. Thank goodneedness for those hotties that can still perform, feel and think without meds.
 Want_You_2010
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 373
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/29/2011 7:25:21 PM
No hatred at all, bitterness a bit, jaded, not so. I just am throwing it out there. The vast majority NOT ALL, going to be pilitically correct, are attracted to money. Just like the ugly/average looking guy who lands the hottie. More than likely he has money and she was not attracted to him at first, but when she found out he has $$ then her tune changed.
Women want to someone to support and provide for them. Doesn't mean he has to be filthy rich, but he has to be generous with his money and make enough to support both ifthey do go long term and she decides not to work, be it having kids, laid off, quit, etc.
I am not knocking women for it at all, in fact they are smart to do that.
SO sorry to correct you, no hatred or bitterness here. Just replying to the topic thread.
Most of the women in Toronto are attracted to money and prestige. Just how it evolved in the big city, get outside the city and then it changes somewhat.
 unclezeus
Joined: 5/12/2011
Msg: 374
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Posted: 8/29/2011 7:54:40 PM
women are marrying for money than in 1940.


This is not new.
Women always marry the highest bidder she can attract with her looks.

No smart woman is going to marry a man who can not provide for himself and potentially her, if they have children .

Women typically are more attracted to the man who has more income than she has. Basically a man with a low income is just not exciting .
In fact the more comfortable a couple lives, the better her orgasms. This is because she is under much less stress.

The more money, power, and fame a man has, the more women he can attract.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 375
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/29/2011 8:15:44 PM
Oh gawd, would you guys give it up about the money and golddiggers! None of the guys on here would get a second look from a gold digger. You ain't anywhere near the bracket.

Let's clear the air so we understand what we're talkin about OK. Most of the guys on here make what 50-60K, let's make it 80K for shits and giggles.

Gold diggers want to live well, not good, their not interested in your freakin dinner at Olive Garden, Applebee's or Red Lobster. They want to travel, and not to the Jersey shore, Tybee Island or Panama City Florida. They also want to look good coming and going, clothes travel mode, hotel, the works.

So to be on the low end you better be driving an Audi R8 or R8 Sypder 115K to 128K.

If your going skiing DC to Aspen will cost you 21K on a private jet. R/T to Paris will cost 83K on a private jet, or if you can talk her down to first class, thats 2K each.

While in Paris you'll be staying in the George V Four Seasons, that runs 800 to 1k Euro's a night. You'll be dining and shopping on the Champs-Elysees you know Hermes, Chanel, Dior, Vutton. Figure 20K for food, room and shopping.

So how many women on here are trying to see if you got that kind of chump change in your jeans?

If a woman expects you to pick up a dinner tab for 80-100 bucks and you think she's a gold digger, your wacky. I've met them, seen them and let me tell you they ain't here.

Are you that worried that a woman is gonna fleece you outta some gas money, a meal or a show or concert? Than why date? You mean you'd rather sit home and be miserable than go out and have fun?

You people have a screw loose.
 Pasionlatina529
Joined: 8/5/2011
Msg: 376
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/29/2011 8:38:48 PM
Not here...all I meet are Brokeazz..men...go figure..
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 377
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/30/2011 12:13:08 AM
I'm gonna try that, Walts. Dog knows if I import my stuff from FetLife or CollarMe, I'll either get zero responses or else the door will be beaten down ("Really? You would trim your nails and use a latex glove and work your hand all the way in?!?! Can I call you? Can I come over RIGHT NOW?!?!" Please, Sir???"

SO I'll clean up, and shave, and do the suit n tie bullshit and stand in front of the Benz (with the top down, of course) and contrast the response with a pic of me standing in front of an Anthropological exhibit at the University of Vancouver wearing jeans and holding a cane.

Hell, we already know how the experiment will end. This is just empirical confirmation, yeah?
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 378
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Posted: 8/30/2011 4:18:00 AM
It's what I've been saying for years on here Oyvey, these men should'nt even be dating with their attitudes.

They think women don't want them because of the money when in reality, it's the ooze of their vibe coming off during the date that is distasteful and lacks class.

Some of the classiest men I know don't make a lot of money and always had women falling all over them (they are taken and have been for years).

The only men on here that seem to have any sense are over 55 (there are a few younger ones). I always knew I was going to have to wait until I'm older to settle down. Most men my age and younger have, as oyvey says, have a screw loose and demonstrate their lack of strength in their posts about these ridiculous subjects.

Wah wah wah. We've heard it all before. It's been almost 10 years I've been on here and you are still telling the same story.

Such martyrs.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 379
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/30/2011 6:34:58 AM
Well, I'm definately safe from women like that.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 380
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/30/2011 8:48:07 AM
Best bumper sticker I ever saw said: "Ass, grass or gas, nobody rides for free.."

Found on cars of both male AND female drivers
vroom vroom !
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 381
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/30/2011 8:59:41 AM
Ha...hilarious! I doubt the women are marrying men from POF for their money. (Please see "going dutch??" Thread) Seems a lot of the guys here aren't even willing to spring for coffee on a first meet.

BTW...where are these men with enough $$ to make them worth marrying for their bankroll??? (just for research purposes...heehee)
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 382
increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 8/30/2011 9:27:41 AM
Some interesting observations I'd like to comment on:

"women, to my observation, don't put themselves in the shoes of men on a topic like this"

No, they don't! Why should they? Do men put themselves in women's shoes(gee stilleto's would be painful! haha) when it comes to their emotional reaction after sex? Or what is clean enough with regard to a house? Or when you look at them as contributing nothing for maintaining children and home?

Almost everyman I know has these insane ideas that what he does(job) equates to who he is. He derives his importance or self worth from his job, not his humanity and worth as a person. Check with any guy you know gunning for the top. Watch him get that important promotion, then if you look closely, you see the let down, it didn't make him a better person, just a more important one in the company.

"BTW...where are these men with enough $$ to make them worth marrying"

A common misconception, but a simple answer is everywhere. Buffet was and is in Omaha, Jobs and Gates in Cally or Seattle, Sam Walmart was in Arkansas. The list is endless. Of course there are the usual sources NYC for wall street types, LA for the movie types.

The key though are they as a person worth marrying? Few of you women would be happy with many of them, they work obsesively, no not all of them are old, but most are driven, by things or reasons sometimes they don't understand. The thing about a gold digger is she is content to be on the sidelines, living the good life, with minimum attention. I doubt that most of you would put up with that. Further some of these guy develop some nasty ego centric habits as their power expands. Others seem to stay relatively normal.

"why would a rich guy pay top dollar for below average looking woman"

Cause he loves her? Or cause she cares about him, shares his interests and meets his needs. Look at Bill Gates wife, not bad looking, but far from hottie status. Same with a bunch I know. It's REALLY only the Trump types who need to demonstrate they rate a super hawt woman to show how important they are. Now when I say types, that can go for the 100K dentist, lawyer or VP as well. Insecure to begin with, this reinforces their importance, despite lack of self esteem even as they make good dough.
 Silverhawk_tkn
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 383
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Posted: 8/30/2011 9:36:47 AM
Gee, I find the exact opposite....most women I encounter these days are the career type that like to flaunt that they "don't need a man" to pay their bills.

Traditional women that don't mind a guy opening doors, taking them for dinner, etc. are really hard to find in my neck of the woods.......
 Dreamer_in_SC
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 384
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Posted: 8/30/2011 9:54:09 AM

Look at Bill Gates wife, not bad looking, but far from hottie status.


Not sure about you but brains usually factor in and she got those. Looks pretty hot to me...lol Looks fade over time so better have something going on upstairs in the brain dept or trouble and trade in seems to be the result once the looks fade away.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Melinda_Gates

I would take the smart woman with average looks over the super model dumb as a box of rocks any day....

Just my opinions
 infennario
Joined: 5/24/2011
Msg: 385
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Posted: 8/30/2011 10:55:20 AM
I read only the first two pages of posts, so this has probably been addressed, but I’m too impatient...

CarolAnn0308 said on page 1:

<div class="quote"> Of course we have to ask the question "Why would a highly educated wealthy man want this woman?" She obviously has something HE wants. Could it be love? What a horrible thought.

My thoughts exactly! Oh my god, this is so funny! I can’t stop laughing. So the premise is that we’re the pickers?! We’re “the deciders”?? I never knew that men passively sit in a line for us to choose from, ESPECIALLY the better educated and wealthier ones, who tend to be SO MUCH more passive, right? Stepford men… huh… well, shoot… I guess I've encountered only the outliers. I had no idea that rich and educated men were so malleable! Now, Dr. Catherine Hakim, might you be underestimating, perhaps a bit condescending to, the brotherhood? The fiesty guys I've come across seem to think, feel and make mating decisions.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 8/30/2011 11:20:43 AM

i'm at the point in my life where i just want to be happy ..i make my own money so any guy out there who steals my heart better damn well make me happy.. i can care less what his material gains are.


GOOD ANSWER!!!!


BTW...where are these men with enough $$ to make them worth marrying for their bankroll??? (just for research purposes...heehee)


Consider Sam Walton of WalMart... a billionaire.... drove an old pickup and wore bib overalls..... The man behind Berkshire Hathaway.... lives in a modest house and has a modest lifestyle...(Warren Buffett).... there are many others like this too

Some of these men of much lesser status have become so disenchanted with being used.... they resort to escort services for dates to avoid all the drama and lingering issues..... not my choice.... but just saying I understand why it happens is all....

I personally know several of these types..... and for the reason that they don't want the complications of being pursued for their money as a hidden agenda.... they purposely conceal/ downgrade their lifestyle to make sure a person loves THEM first.... In my social circles I know 3 men who are very well off.... totally healthy, in their 70s and don't want to bother with a relationship in their bracket because of all the users/gold diggers/unhealthy women available.... but in various ways will engage a "professional" for services.....

Just an observation is all.... IME
 Dreamer_in_SC
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 387
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Posted: 8/30/2011 11:38:16 AM

I got an education so that i can be free to choose my partner and nobody backs me into a corner and says where can you go.


but did you really get an education or did you get a mindset training? The difference is an education would tell you that you are no different than any other person on this spinning ball of rock.. a mindset training would teach you that you are in a minority of people that are "smart" ... the difference is you are nothing more than a slave of your surroundings...

the next generation of truly mindless drones willing to do all the work and allow others to take the credit... you do not matter in life and if you were to disappear there would be someone else standing in line to take your place...

the true test is.... DO YOU TRULY MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN LIFE? DOES YOUR LIFE MATTER TO ANYONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOU? If you die will the world be worse off or do just fine?


Do you even know those answers?

Life isn't about the money it is about what is left behind!

just my opinions...
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 388
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Posted: 8/30/2011 12:34:34 PM
Escorts? Really? (sigh) Again, you miss the point and are headed down the wrong road.

The golddigger/power(rich)guy dynamic, is something that occurs out of abberation, not normal life. S/he(GD) wants a life of ease and money, willing to give (within a narrow sphere) themselves to someone who has achieved, inherited weath, power. That person for whatever reason, usually needs the hawt woman, to go with his Buggati Veyron, Gulfstream 2 and other toys to make him feel important.

Does it really matter what you call it? Gold digger, escort or by any other name? Doesn't sound like much of a life to me. Basically roll over, fetch, play dead, play sexy...whateva!

So now the whole dynamic, of a I got an education so I could choose, or mindset training, or learning it's more important to live on the North Shore if LI, than the south shore. Or choose your mate based on some fundemental life choices that will make you feel safer, more special, more privileged is more hoey of the samr kind.

WHat I will agree with most strongly is this "DO YOU TRULY MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN LIFE?" "DOES YOUR LIFE MATTER TO ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU?...or better "DOES ANYONE ELSES LIFE MATTER TO YOU?" and I'm not talking just love and sex.

"LIFE isn't about the money it is about what is left behind!"

Why do you think these millionaires and billionaires build foundations, museums, hospitals? Because in their myopic view of money, their gifts will outlive them and allow them some sense of immortality.

We can all make a difference in life. It may seem a stone in the ocean, but you can never tell how far that ripple will travel.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 389
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Posted: 8/30/2011 12:42:54 PM
Warren Buffett himself has said that he thinks it is immoral that his tax burden by percentage is only about 2% of income and his secretary has to pay in the double digits.....

Foundations and charitable as tax vehicles are also strategies that actually reduce tax burden greater than if just paying straight taxes alone....

For my example of guys concealing their wealth are not the ultra rich..... but have usually worked in the trades and have a VERY comfortable life savings through wise investing and careful expense control.... and they are still targets of "gold diggers".... which is any person not able to carry their own way..... maybe opportunist is a better word than gold digger.....

I have found foreign nationals to be a larger group of opportunists as well.... and why not.... we are the richest place on earth.... so the attraction is predictable...

Yep CindyO..... Warren Buffett is the one who in an interview put that one out there and he admitted that he preferred to choose how his tax dollars were spent rather than an ineffective government system... and also allowed him to give more and still reducing his total tax burden including foundation gifts....
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 390
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Posted: 8/30/2011 12:54:10 PM
Well, I've always figured that a lot of the philanthropy emanating from the uber-wealthy( or simply wealthy, well-off or even just "gifted") was out of generosity, out of appreciation for their blessings, to make a difference for those less endowed with material success or special gifts( athletic,competitive, or in the arts)-in IOW-because they want to, because they think it's the right thing to do.
I do acknowledge that tax breaks, good publicity/good karma are benefits from philanthropic activity-but I've always thought that there was a higher motivation.
Sorry-guess I'm not cynical enough?
Cindy O
 PurpleFusias
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 391
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Posted: 8/30/2011 1:19:18 PM
I don't think that this studt reveals that women are marrying men FOR their money just by stating women tend to marry men with higher education. I would definitely consider marrying a man with less education than myself; however his ability to provide for himself and possibly me and possible future children would be a part of this consideration. I also expect myself to have the ability to provide for a family that I might create. These are not unreasonable expectations, as things happen; I could be injured and unable to work or laid-off, or a million other possibilties affecting my ability to bring in an income during some period of during my life-time and so could he. We should BOTH have the ABILITY to provide for all bills associated with the UNIT.
With that being said, I would also, rather be at home after the family is established, once children come into the picture; therefore someone who sees taking care of a house and children as a substantial contribution to the PARTNERSHIP would be essential to me. If I have to work after delivering a child, then so be it, but I expect that the man I am intended on spending my life with respect what I would rather do, and help make that happen.
 Dreamer_in_SC
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 392
Increasing numbers of women are marrying men for their money
Posted: 9/1/2011 2:50:29 PM

what ever happened to love.??? Screw money--- yu can make your own-- but love? Now that's something money can't buy.


true but also love isn't free either.... good luck finding love without money... That may be possible in teenage years or even for some thru early to mid 20's but once age enhanced the BYOB parties, and large group activities where most others are also economically challenged are a thing of the past (At least for most they are)

That means... money does in fact play a role in finding love because very few things are low cost these days....
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 393
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Posted: 9/1/2011 3:20:57 PM
I will fall for a man with a great personality and he has to have money to empower that great personality of his..........
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