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 FunkTheMillenium
Joined: 7/11/2010
Msg: 61
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the whole topic is a damm joke. anyone that needs to ask this question should go back to "dating kindergarten".
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 62
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Posted: 1/9/2011 6:11:18 AM
As a fat woman, my experiences have been that about 50 percent of the men I have met made it obvious that they wanted to have sex with me. This might be a smaller percentage than what the average is for thin women , I do not know. Some women never date men who would imply anything sexual when they first meet them. Might be a lot of variables in this question.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
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Posted: 1/9/2011 9:11:33 AM
i'd say that yes a woman can get *laid* whenever she wants as long as she is not too picky. but like someone else mentioned, usually you are not attracted to everyone who contacts you. call me old fashioned but at this point in my life, i have to be in a committed relationship before any sex happens. and i'd rather *make love*, then just get *laid*, big difference. IMO making love is a lot better than just f*cking someone. when feelings are involved, it's always better for me. the quality is better.
 FunkTheMillenium
Joined: 7/11/2010
Msg: 67
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Posted: 1/9/2011 1:30:49 PM
^^^^ oh the possibilities yes. but i think the mission impossible appearance altering procedure would be a better idea lol.

but i like my face even if the females don't. we are what we are.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 1/9/2011 5:31:55 PM

I'm willing to do research on the topic to help out my fellow POF Forum-ites


I see.
First we start a post on how easy it is for a woman to get laid.
Then we change our photo to one of just wearing a black bra ...
Then we offer our services for research.

My God almostablond ...

What else will you stoop to?

Tacky, tacky tacky!
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 71
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Posted: 1/9/2011 6:19:20 PM
Watch it U make it entertaining - first you "insult" her, then you get emails from her asking if you think you're the moderator. Tacky and stupid go hand in hand with women who really would bang anything that moves. Sitting on a regualar gold mine and giveing it away. tsk tsk
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
Msg: 74
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Posted: 1/10/2011 2:38:51 AM

silly, silly this is a forum for fun


Is that why you didn't cite your source for the OP?

Is that why you're offering your services for research?
Is that why you're posing in your black lace bra?

Makes perfect sense now......

OT and as I've said before either here or on different threads, everybody is capable of getting laid whenever they want to; just means having little or no standards.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 76
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:04:30 AM

I think the original point was that it's EASIER for women to get sex when they want it. Not whether it was desireable or any other qualitative measure.


Exactley. I honestly don't know if it would "easier" for a man(assume of very a good player) or a female(average looking or not),but do know,despite the theory of men "approaching" women first(where did that come from???), women have control over the green/red light switch.

The woman DOES decide. She is the ultimate decision maker here on the fact if sex is gonna happen or not. Without her okay on the situation the man will be choking his chicken all by his lonesome. Simple as it gets. She may not get it "whenever she wants" but she will get it if SHE decides SHE wants it. If we,as men want it, there still has to be a female around willing to ACCOMODATE us(sometimes )
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 77
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Posted: 1/10/2011 6:15:46 AM
You’re a girl; you can get laid whenever you want.” This assumption, is flawed.

Not really. Have you ever noticed that there are very few male escorts who are strictly heterosexual? By contrast, my best friend (who has retired from escorting), easily pulled in $300.00/hr as an escort and she turned down at least 9 out of 10 clients who wanted to see her. I also know several escorts who are, to put it bluntly, not very attractive at all, and the still are able to find men willing to pay them for sex.

Women are often seen as having the power to say “yes” or “no” in sexual situations.

That is pretty much the case. I can tell you from personal experience that women seem to take this for granted without giving it a thought so that when a woman feels like she's lost that control, she'll be much more aggressive.

From the male point of view, if a woman wants to have sex, all she has to do is say “yes” and sex is on. The problem here is that this line of reasoning goes on a lot of assumptions, the main one being that women are in a perpetual state of being propositioned for sex.

Men do not perpetually proposition women for sex because a direct proposition will most likely receive a ``no'' regardless of a woman's attraction to a guy. On the other hand, in a sexual situation (like a date involving some intense kissing where both parties are turned on), a woman who wants to have sex is unlikely to be told no. She can pretty much do whatever she wants - say no, or just let the guy keep going until she decides to send him home (or not). The best strategy for man is to say no first, go home and and let the woman be the aggressor on the next date.

Guys are used to being told no. Women are used to being told yes. This is so ingrained that a woman will wonder what's wrong if a guy doesn't at least try to go as far as she'll let him. If you don't see this, you would be susceptible to the strategy I just mentioned, because you simply wouldn't understand why a guy said no. You've also neglected to even mention that women could out and proposition men directly. The only reason I think that doesn't occur to you is that your only frustration with getting laid is a lack of being propositioned, not because you have tried propositioning men.

A false assumption here is that the only reason a woman wouldn’t be getting laid is because she’s too picky.

That would be the wrong way to state it, since women do turn down guys for sex even when the guy is someone to whom the woman is sexually attracted. There have been a number of threads in the forums in which women have said that they know within the first few minutes whether or not they are physically attracted enough to a guy to sleep with him. Where that feeling is mutual, I'd lay odds that after that first 5 minutes, a woman would say no and a guy would say yes almost 100% of the time. Or in other words, at that point, a guy has inadvertetly relinquished control to the woman.

It’s not fair to say that if a woman wants sex she should just “stop being picky” and have sex with whomever, when men are just as likely to reject people they are not attracted to.

No, but it is fair to say that if a woman wants to get laid, she could simply go out and proposition men she finds as physically attractive as men she would date and she would have no difficulty getting laid.

call me old fashioned but at this point in my life, i have to be in a committed relationship before any sex happens. and i'd rather *make love*, then just get *laid*, big difference

But he question was about getting laid. Your requirement for being in love first would only indicate one aspect of the pickiness the OP was dismissing.
 cookie22222
Joined: 8/4/2007
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Posted: 1/10/2011 7:14:48 AM
Hmmm...I could hit a local bar...or pick up the phone and call any of half a dozen guys I know, who either made it very clear they wanted to be more than friends, or we were more than friends once upon a time.

Yeah, no problem...but I'm past that now, sex is sex, there's more to it for me.
 WaywardWynde
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 1/10/2011 7:55:16 AM

Not really. Have you ever noticed that there are very few male escorts who are strictly heterosexual?


Oh they most certainly exist, but they are VERY quiet about it. (They are doing something often considered illegal enough to draw hard jail time, AND the greater world around them distains them with a passion.)


By contrast, my best friend (who has retired from escorting), easily pulled in $300.00/hr as an escort and she ...


A high end gigolo working the carriage trade can pull down more than $10,000 for a single night's appearance. Such a sex worker can pull down more than three quarters of a mil$ a year.(*)

(*) They WORK hard, hard, hard for their money, and they are very bright. *IF* they had applied the same (HUGE!) level of effort and determination to the corporate world, they would be making two to five times as much money. But ..... that's not their personality. Like all other con artists, they would rather steal than work legit.

They also search out and seriously "hunt" rich women 15 to 30 years older (never younger) and who have seriously unpleasant personalities, 40% of those "marks" themselves once worked as sex workers. (On a minor scale, a friend of friend is a 65 year old unemployed carpenter who is "dating" an 80 year old woman who pays all his bills, and gives him "spending money" to cover his "hobbies" and even supplied him with a brand new F-250 truck.)


I also know several escorts who are, to put it bluntly, not very attractive at all, and the still are able to find men willing to pay them for sex.


THE defining factor which separates the sheep from the goats is not physical beauty, but rather Charm. Besides, "tricks" are fugly and/or socially inept (so much so no woman wants them), so they must more or less take what's available on a per hour basis.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 81
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Posted: 1/10/2011 9:08:19 AM
Oh they most certainly exist, but they are VERY quiet about it.

So are female escorts, in general. Discretion is part of the business regardless of gender.

A high end gigolo working the carriage trade can pull down more than $10,000 for a single night's appearance. Such a sex worker can pull down more than three quarters of a mil$ a year.(*)

We aren't talking about kept men/women. Personally, I think you have no idea what the sex industry is like. In Dallas alone, I could find hundreds of escorts whos rates range from a couple hundred an hour to more than $700.00/hr; several who are extremely exclusive and expect a minimum of 3 hours time, including dinner and entertainment, yet I know of not a single male escort. (Craigslist and backpage ads don't count. Those are wannabes. I'm also not talking about street walkers.) The point is, that just about any woman can hang out a shingle, immediately be charging a few hundred an hour and turn it into a business. (The friend I mentioned turned down 12k/month to see a guy twice/week. She's attractive and under 40, but not by much.) If guys could get laid as easily as women, prostitution would disappear.

Besides, "tricks" are fugly and/or socially inept (so much so no woman wants them), so they must more or less take what's available on a per hour basis.

Again, you don't know anything about escorts or their clients. I know quite a few escorts and although they do get clients who are as you describe, most of their clients are rather average guys and some have been described to me a drop dead gorgeous, charming, great in the sack and wealthy. Women can get several hundred an hour almost regardless of their attitude or even flakiness. Intelligence and personality can get them a higher rate, if that's what they want. Some guys go to escorts becuase they can't get sex anywhere else. Most go because it's much easier to get sex that way, when they want sex. Male escorts are few and far between, because women can not only get sex easily, they can get paid for it.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 83
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Posted: 1/10/2011 9:39:51 AM
^^^Actually, for the men who would only commit to get to the sex, it's better they can get sex right away. That eliminates them from the dating scene where women who want men looking for commitment outside of just sex as a goal don't have to weed through em. Men looking for sexual activity only need only seek it from women who will give it without commitment. It makes no sense they'd be looking anywhere else, obviously.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 84
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Posted: 1/10/2011 10:02:32 AM

Why do you think "commitment" is becoming a thing of the past, slowly but surely...

Probably because both men and women are gradually figuring out that sex is not a reason for making a lifelong committment to another person.

No need to commit when you can get it right away....

That's only true for people who think sex is a good reason to commit to someone. If I can get sex without a committment with a woman who thinks the same way, I can much more easily reserve committment for someone with all of those other qualities that people keep saying are neccessary for a long term relationship to work. I can still commit to someone because I like lots of other things about her, evn if she has sex with me right away. Oh, wait. I did that. We didn't wait long to have sex, but I made a committment to my fiancee because I valued her intelligence, personality and lots of other things for which people want to be valued in a relationship.
 WaywardWynde
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 1/10/2011 10:24:58 AM
Abeli an, I studied the subject INDEPTH for a novel I have in process.

--First off, it is a truly ugly business.

--Second off, those who are in it cause most of their own troubles.

--Third off, I interviewed ***1.)working gigolo's (when I could find them, which was tough, even tougher to get them to meet to talk, tougher yet to get them to talk anything at all specific. Most were concerned about potential legal problems), ***2.) ex-call girls (what a bunch of star-struck crazies, and lazy to boot), ***3.) a therapist with 30+ years history of treating gigolo's (or at least attempting to treat) (she was a tremendous source of actual, on-the-street information, tremendous), and ***4.) women who stated directly or otherwise they had "rented" gigolo's (it was about control, they all said).

Always, always, always with gigolo's there was a 15 year to 30 year difference in age, the client being older.

I also studied indepth the volumes and volumes and volumes of reports on "sex workers" (as the term is used today) and their "clients" done by the acedemic and social work communities (the gist of which is sex workers are lazy people looking to score $$ from "people who don't deserve the money anyway, it's not theirs" who make their own troubles, and tricks no normal sex partner wants even in desparation, even on a bet).

It's a truly ugly business. I could find no redeeming value in the business to make my novel's character appealing to readers, no acceptable to readers justification for gigolo's actions. Because the character, and his actions, are important to the plot of the novel, I was forced to use novelistic tricks to make him more reader-likeable, such as having him be nice to little kids and small animals.

BTW, the most common reason a gigolo's "career" ends is not because of looks fading but rather because of chronic excessive alcohol intake. Gigolo wannabe's who choose drugs as their "numbing agent of choice" don't last more than a few encounters, if that, in the business.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 87
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Posted: 1/10/2011 11:51:30 AM
^^ Hardwood, I don't think the "whenever they want" actually means right that very second.
It means I, who am no beauty, extra pounds, and far from a spring chick, could decide "I wanna get laid" and set out to do that and within probably a 5 hour window come on back home all nicely laid.
Somewhere out there I'd find a man who would say yes. Hell yeah I would.

(disclaimer: NOT anything I feel like doing!!)
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2011 12:06:01 PM
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Yes !!! to those beggar men with no choice.
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 90
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Posted: 1/10/2011 2:36:15 PM
Of course we can! We got the goodies that men want. It's just a matter of at any particular moment DO WE WANT YOU!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2011 3:18:02 PM
Yes!!! to those beggar men with no choice.


I lied and several women pelted me with rotten bananas,eggplant,zuchinnis, carrots and ummm, Okra, yes it is a vegetable( green ,tiny and short with pointed tip)has resemblance to a man's thingy..

These women yelled at me that I was so ignorant that I have not heard of the market booming of man made penises run by batteries and electric. Masses of women are in line to buy these things, in XXX rated adult store.I guessed women can't really get laid whenever they want , they have to wait when a man is good and ready...
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 92
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:05:20 PM

These women yelled at me that I was so ignorant that I have not heard of the market booming of man made penises run by batteries and electric. Masses of women are in line to buy these things, in XXX rated adult store.I guessed women can't really get laid whenever they want , they have to wait when a man is good and ready


One of the reasons the BOB is doing so well, is because women are doing the "Picking",,,,not based on sex,but based on looks, quality of man, etc,etc., thus, the requirment of BOB. Women need BOB cause all of us guys are no good. It's that simple,,,,just ask away right here in these forums. I dare one of you women to post the question,,,,"why do you have a BOB instead of the real thing???" and wait for some HONEST answers. Hell, some of you girls can't even be honest on this question, or you are very unaware of your own power as a woman,in regards to your OWN sexuality. ( I can't hear ya roar?????)
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:28:13 PM
Seriously ,75 % of women wants to treated with love and cherish , and he must have a job and able to support his self and his woman ,not a financially burden to a woman. Sex or "getting laid for a woman "is part of love expression from both of them in relationship.
I don't know about the 25 % of women, who just wants to get laid, perhaps some are lucky to score with a drunken stranger in a bar and some are not lucky that a sane man can filter that a slut is beyond him.. That is a brutal truth.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:38:56 PM
Walts, I've been in relationships where the man withheld sex from me .BOB wouln't do that



If in relationship if a man won't have sex with his woman, there are some reason for that ,the woman doesn't know how to turn him on by caressing him and put him in the mood, or her scent down there is a mood killa, or he is emotionally attach to someone else or he was dead tired from work,ect..

Walt, it has nothing to do that a man is not good enough, the problem is when the honeymoon is over and real life surface, some people don't make an effort that they have to make adjustment to live amecably with another person.. We have to remember that we are not the Star of the universe, we have to get along with others to live a meaningful life..
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 97
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:55:55 PM
^^^^^ So now we are talking about women IN relationships now girls and how they can't get sex????? WTF????? Let's not go there, cause we are already a tad off topic as it is.

Hell, anybody MARRIED or in a longterm relationsip can't get sex every night if you are with the wrong person. But if you are with the right person,and there are the "right" people out there, satisfication is basically guaranteed,one way or the other.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2011 4:59:32 PM
If a person can't control her obsessiveness of sex ,food, ect. that is a weakness. It invoke others to beat her of her weakness by punishing her to make them feel elated.


Life is too short, don't make others deprive you of your dignity,because of your sex cravings..
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 99
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Posted: 1/10/2011 6:20:07 PM

Why do you think "commitment"
is becoming a thing of the past, slowly but surely


Nope. I disagree completely. Commitment is still very much intact, and I don't believe for a second that it is becoming a thing of the past.

For those that just want sex, will get it. However, casual encounters without commitment will in no way throw commitment out the door and leave it lingering in the past.
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