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 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 899
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As far as volunteering as a venue to meet new people, I want to meet people on the same level emotionally...& socio-economically.

So if anyone out there is heeding the previous advice, choose very carefully where u volunteer...it can be just as bad as online dating!
 forumfella
Joined: 10/18/2013
Msg: 900
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/26/2013 7:43:18 PM
I tried a photography meetup group a few weeks ago, one of the woman had more of a beard than me, so ya perhaps online dating is safer, but then again, she could be one of the many without a picture on here too. :|
 SuzieQForForums
Joined: 8/5/2013
Msg: 901
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/26/2013 8:53:43 PM
Well I'm volunteering to volunteer, and to prevent feeling isolated or sorry for myself, not to meet people to date. But the other people who volunteer ARE on the same level as me. And I've recently decided one of my criteria is to look for is someone who does something to make the world a better place. So if I meet another volunteer and start dating, that would be a good thing.


As far as volunteering as a venue to meet new people, I want to meet people on the same level emotionally...& socio-economically.

So if anyone out there is heeding the previous advice, choose very carefully where u volunteer...it can be just as bad as online dating!
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 902
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/27/2013 3:01:04 PM

As far as volunteering as a venue to meet new people, I want to meet people on the same level emotionally...& socio-economically.

So if anyone out there is heeding the previous advice, choose very carefully where u volunteer...it can be just as bad as online dating!


I suggested volunteering as a way to alleviate feelings of isolation and self pity; not as a way to pick up women. Cripes, if a person can’t do something altruistic without expecting something in return for ME ME ME, don’t bother because you will get nothing meaningful out of it, and put nothing meaningful into it.


I tried a photography meetup group a few weeks ago, one of the woman had more of a beard than me, so ya perhaps online dating is safer


Omg….are you okay? How did you ever manage to escape with your life and sanity after a horrific encounter like that?! Oh yeah hiding behind a screen in your boxers swigging a 40 is waaaay less psyche damaging than risking running into ugly women in real life.

OT The real problem for women is finding a man worth laying. I can take care of myself nicely and treat myself to an ice cream without having to tolerate some smelly snoring creature I’ll just have to clean up after before he finally leaves. (Some) Men are way more trouble than they’re worth. IMO.
 forumfella
Joined: 10/18/2013
Msg: 903
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/27/2013 3:14:51 PM

Omg….are you okay? How did you ever manage to escape with your life and sanity after a horrific encounter like that?! Oh yeah hiding behind a screen in your boxers swigging a 40 is waaaay less psyche damaging than risking running into ugly women in real life.

I didn't say she was ugly, i said she had a beard..we ended up trading grooming tips, and I rarely drink , and I don't wear boxers, thanks for the concern though grumpy. :D
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 904
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/27/2013 4:28:08 PM
The real problem for women is finding a man worth laying. I can take care of myself nicely and treat myself to an ice cream without having to tolerate some smelly snoring creature I’ll just have to clean up after before he finally leaves. (Some) Men are way more trouble than they’re worth. IMO.

The same of the latter part can be said in the opposite direction too! I think many of us guys have woke up thinking "WTF was I thinking?!" mistaking her underpants under the covers that are covering his ankles as a smaller, odd, over-used bed sheet that he never remembered having.

But how "worthy" the guy or the girl is for a fun game of hide-the-salami, doesn't really matter... whether they're ugly or hot relative to the person, it's FAR easier for a girl to obtain such a spur-of-the-moment playmate. Especially one who wouldn't be ugly (that's where the guy has at least a little leg room).

I will add this though: Given common culture conditioning, a reasonable looking guy (who's not hot tho) approaching a gal he's never met or seen before, is going to question his "worthiness" to many -- on a level she will probably not be aware of. Many women look down at guys approaching women who very well may be wanting a piece of arse. Not to say if he has some charm and isn't intrusive/rude she'll hiss & hate him -- but still, worrying/having that vibe will make it more of an uphill battle of "worthiness" as opposed to meeting thru people they know.

Hence, under the (not so common) scenario of "Hmmm, I'm just going to pick a guy to bang," for many ladies, he'll have to be more worthy than the level of a guy she'd agree to go out on a coffee date with from POF... as the scenario itself gives many an underlying "not so good" touch to things.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 905
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 1:41:42 PM

Many women look down at guys approaching women who very well may be wanting a piece of arse.

Oh, I'm not so sure that women look down on men for looking for a piece of tail, it's men who act as if they are OWED a piece of tail and get snarky if the lady declines his interest.
Or men who come onto dating sites and become infuriated because women aren't LEAPING to respond to his contact.
I don't look down at guys looking for a piece of tail any more than I would look down at a cat for catching a mouse. But I will look down on a man who acts like he's OWED sex because he has a d*ck.
I don't think I've every seen any kind of predator animal having a hissy fit/temper tantrum, if they failed to catch their intended prey.
Incidentally, I have to make an observation on post(s) that presume the advocacy for volunteerism,activism, or other altruistic pursuits is a means of meeting potential Significant Others. That is so NOT what it is about.
Also interesting that someone drags "socioeconomic levels" into the discussion.
Must be they presume that not only the recipients of services ,but those who volunteer to provide services are all emotionally and socioeconomically stunted, as well
For the most part, people I have met as either recipients of services or my fellow volunteers are NOT on some lower emotional,social or financial level.
I cannot help but wonder why some women don't just tell it like it is...they are looking for a relationship to shore up their own socioeconomic position,first and foremost.
And to add another thought, "volunteering" doesn't mean exclusively service to the financially unfortunate. Many organizations that protect animals, nature, the environment , support community improvement, political concerns, provide support for veterans, current military & their families, are highly dependent on volunteer involvements.

But again, to the OT- yes, women usually CAN-in theory-get laid whenever they want. But most women-other than prostitutes- cannot just grab any old pole to put in their hole, they have to LIKE the guy. And achieving true sexual satisfaction, for women, is generally a more complex process than it is for guys. Oh trust me, I've heard all the comments about bags, flags and the crack of dawn.
Cindy O
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/25/2013
Msg: 906
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 2:36:23 PM

(fleuron) Cripes, if a person can’t do something altruistic without expecting something in return for ME ME ME, don’t bother because you will get nothing meaningful out of it, and put nothing meaningful into it.


I hope you're being deliberately provocative in an effort to promote spirited discussion...
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/25/2013
Msg: 907
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 2:40:45 PM

(ladyc4) But again, to the OT- yes, women usually CAN-in theory-get laid whenever they want. But most women-other than prostitutes- cannot just grab any old pole to put in their hole, they have to LIKE the guy.


Crane your neck up, up, up... see the question? It's not, "Do women have to like a guy?", but "Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?"...

(I wonder why so many women dodge a straight-forward question?)
 Dan6308
Joined: 10/23/2013
Msg: 908
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 5:58:06 PM
Usually it's easier for them. But those that aren't too attractive have a harder time.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 909
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 6:48:53 PM

I tried a photography meetup group a few weeks ago, one of the woman had more of a beard than me, so ya perhaps online dating is safer, but then again, she could be one of the many without a picture on here too. :|


This reminded me of the following experience ....

Quite a while ago, when I was working in Maryland, I met a little person in a bar, she was about 3 and half feet tall. Very weird to dance with her, the top of her head was about at my belt buckle, which in itself made me horny.

We went to a booth, and we started to make out.

She had this bearded stubble on her face, which put her a little over my comfort line. Strange midget lady OK, strange bearded midget lady, it starts to get weird.

But it was really my second thought that was the mood killer.

Was she a she or a he, which would have been two giant steps over the line. Even the fact that I knew I would be leaving the state on a jet plane didn't make me feel at ease.

Had I not gotten weirded out, no doubt I would have had an unique experience, not matter what the lay of the land was.

So not every woman can get laid whenever they want, but maybe she got laid from some other laddie that night?
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 910
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/28/2013 8:01:08 PM
Oh, I'm not so sure that women look down on men for looking for a piece of tail, it's men who act as if they are OWED a piece of tail and get snarky if the lady declines his interest.

Many women in common environments are not keen on a guy just looking for tail. If I turned to a female friend who was decently approached by a guy, and said that I knew him and he's just looking for a piece of a$$ -- the reaction most likely will be in the negative range at least to some degree. There are even plenty of women who will scoff and get upset.

I also think many women look down on women just looking for a piece of tail, too (see people-watching "skanks at bars"). Plenty of women on POF also have it in their profiles that they don't want guys who just want a piece of a$$.

I think the guys are just looking for that who also think they're all that and treat women like sh!t is what helps further the turn off of guys just wanting a$$... and yes, women will truly hate guys like that, whether they're Just looking for a$$ or not.

yes, women usually CAN-in theory-get laid whenever they want.

Yes, and that pretty much answers and resolves the forum question. In other forum threads (and in some profiles), it's said without argument something to the effect of "... if I just wanted to get laid, I could do that pretty much any time I wanted by going to the bar...".

The question of this forum thread is about the same as "Does a bear sh!t in the woods?" The only real debate would be how easy it'd be for some girls vs others, when it comes to a guy who's at least okay looking... and what venues would make it easier than others.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/25/2013
Msg: 911
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/30/2013 4:58:15 PM

(dragonbits) This reminded me of the following experience ....

Quite a while ago, when I was working in Maryland, I met a little person in a bar, she was about 3 and half feet tall. Very weird to dance with her, the top of her head was about at my belt buckle, which in itself made me horny.

We went to a booth, and we started to make out.

She had this bearded stubble on her face, which put her a little over my comfort line. Strange midget lady OK, strange bearded midget lady, it starts to get weird.

But it was really my second thought that was the mood killer.

Was she a she or a he, which would have been two giant steps over the line. Even the fact that I knew I would be leaving the state on a jet plane didn't make me feel at ease.


Gather 'round, children! It's time for Uncle Arlo's bedtime story, "Arlo and the Close Call"...

A few years ago, I met this girl off here. We met at a local shopping centre for coffee. She had on tight jeans, a tank top, knee-high boots, and she had a red mohawk (as in, red that you never see in nature...). Anyway, we strolled around the mall for a while, then went back to her place, where I was startled to see that she had an extensive collection of leather bondage gear in her living room... we kissed, then I left (she said she was going to see a band at a bar with some friends that night).

Anyway, a few months later, while I was blasting the guns at the gym, I idly thought about her. I remember thinking, "That girl had rather brawny arms. Not like the girls here who do yoga; more like the guys who are toning. Come to think of it, she had rather large hands, too... *SUNNUVA****!*"

Imagine how it could have ended: with me running, naked as a jay, wailing like a Banshee, holding my bunched-up clothes to my chest, and with a bad case of Shrink-D!nk (it was late October), and her calling after me, "COME BACK, SWEETIE! I PROMISE IT WON'T HURT MUCH!!!"

I still have nightmares, and wake up in a cold sweat, when I think about that close escape...
 motown_cowgirl
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 912
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/31/2013 4:49:17 AM
It's not, "Do women have to like a guy?", but "Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?".

according to you and dragonbits, the answer is "almost all of them" but that never stopped you from also bragging about the ones that got away.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 913
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/31/2013 7:46:00 AM
In my experience,some of the ladies who are "not keen on a guy just looking for tail" are usually those who've had a bad experience with one...or two. He was the type of guy (I won't use the word, "man") who has been described by other postings--he thought dinner was enough to buy it, or was otherwise owed a happy ending simply b/c he brought an erection along, et cetera.

there were other ladies who were raised to be good little girls and save themselves for marriage. A dude looking to get the milk for free would, of course, not be the business deal they were looking for.

Ladies, however, who were open minded (that's not a label, that's a literal definition)had met fellows who acted like adults while "pursuin' a little strange" had a better respect for future guys who were lookin' for some release. In their experience, a fellow could take a "no" gracefully.

Can't say I blame any of those groups for coming to the conclusions they came to.
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