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 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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^^^and what does that tell you about men?

This is not rocket science really.


Why is the fact that an awful lot of men would screw anything that walked by, does that somehow become a "flaw" in women? How is that on us? Why are you hating on women like this is somehow our fault? To hear most men **** and whine about how they have no standards and its not fair that a woman wont do anybody that asked, that somehow translates into women are the ones that have the problem here, frankly amazes me. I seriously think that an awful lot of men have some serious hang ups regarding sex and have absolutely no ability to keep some semblance of perspective.

Just because you have no problem eating out of a dumpster, dont get all pissy that I choose to not eat out of dumpsters and whine about how unfair it is that I could eat out of a dumpster but choose not to, and that isnt fair.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 8/17/2011 4:42:53 PM
Oh No I got your point, I was merely asking why men want to "blame" women for having standards. I should have quoted what you were responding to as well.
 Ms Cheevious
Joined: 12/8/2008
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Posted: 8/18/2011 5:23:50 PM

I think it depends on the women..I can..if I choose too,
When Im not in a serious committment, there are friends with benefits.


Ditto



those "pretty girls" who are under the age of 40 might be able to get laid whenever they want. but if you wear a double-digit size or have a plain face or are over 40 - forget it.


There is ALWAYS an excuse, huh?
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 8/19/2011 1:17:23 PM
^^^^^^^^^^ Didnt you know? Its different for men, because they have to "work" for it, so they are just taking advantage of an opportunity that they rarely get. Now women on the other hand get to be hated and resented by men due to the fact that they dont hop on any swinging****wandering by, so that is what makes it so hard for them to get sex. And in their little pea brains, its all our fault. If women would just screw any guy that asked, this problem would go away and men would be happy, and thats all that matters, men getting sex. I realize that this position makes absolutely no sense but that is the thought process.

In a nut shell, women "make" men have sex with a woman even if she is an ugly and undesireable women because thats all that is available to them, so its not really their fault, they have no choice but to have sex with these women....Makes sense doesnt it?????
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
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Posted: 8/19/2011 3:53:21 PM
^^I''ll say it again. What does that tell you about men.

About men in general? Not much. Not all men base their views of women on an anecdote or two, real or imaginary. Not all men agree with those posts.



If an extremely attractive women goes to a bar and decides she's going to have sex that night… she'll probably go home with a pretty good looking guy.

Yes, maybe. But will he be nice, smart, funny, sober, trustworthy, likeable, single? Will he smell nice? Will he have clean teeth, a nice voice? Will he be a good lover? Use a condom? Or know when to go home?

Sure standards are an individual matter, but let’s just say (hypothetically) that most women like most of those things most of the time.

Even if she’s extremely attractive and has the pick of any man at the bar, how many of those preferences is she going to find in one guy?

Or which is she gonna compromise (or forego altogether) just to get laid? At what point would she have just preferred a night at home with bob? How easy is it really, if she has standards?
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2011 8:30:52 PM

See how sex is like a sales pitch from the guy to the girl, rather than a mutual desire?

I've observed even attractive guys having to "pitch" endlessly.


Generally sales pitches are only required when the item being offered needs to have its benefits showcased because it is not immediately apparent why it is of value or its value needs to be justified, if there is a desire for the item being offered, there is no sales pitch required it will happen on its own. Usually stuff that needs to be "pitched" is not worth the effort or the cost. If you have to "pitch" having sex with you, I suggest you may want to have a look at what you are offering....
 grizzelda
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Posted: 8/21/2011 7:38:03 AM
Then why are so many men advised to be "more assertive" and "take charge"?


Depends on who is giving the advice and what are the circumstances.

If you have had 3 dates with a woman but have still not made any mention of taking things seriously but want to go in that direction then yes you should be more assertive in making your feelings known. That is an example of good assertiveness, not taking charge and this type of advise is generally given by people with your best interests at heart and within a scenario where it will benefit you.

If you have been pursuing a woman and she has not reciprocated your interests and a book tells you to be more assertive and she will respond, that is bad advice and is based on the urban myth that all women want bad boys and this will get her in your bed.

I think that if you have to be told to "take charge" in a romantic relationship, you probably have bigger problems than being assertive.


My estimation is that women are incapable of appreciating the value of a man. They don't respond to real value - they respond to their feelings and their subconsious. And hence, the men who want to seduce them have to appeal to that subsconsious by behaving in ridiculous, irrational ways that they wouldn't normally engage in.


IMO men are incapable of appreciating the value of a woman, they don't respond to real value, they respond to their****getting hard and the idea of getting sex, so they are forever behaving in irrational ways like lying, and picking women based only on her appearance...See how that works? I can make generalized statements about men that are equally ridiculous too


(Look at the amount of pub brawls that start with two men competing over a female. How many pub brawls have you heard of that started with a dispute between engineers over which design is the best? Or between philosophers?)


Um, these are men fighting over women, are you suggesting that this is a problem with women that men will resort to such ridiculous behaviour? I think it has more to do with the amount of alcohol consumed by said men than a woman. I have witnesses drunks fighting over many ridiculous things, I think you are a little confused as to why this type of thing happens...
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
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Posted: 8/21/2011 9:09:04 AM
ALivingDream has it 100% right with the sand/beach analogy.

If a woman would like someone to go to the movies with her or maybe out to dinner it's a little hit/miss, but if she's just looking to get laid...a couple of phone calls should do the trick. It's not something I'd recommend, but since you asked the question...YES WE CAN.
 4x4offroad
Joined: 1/1/2011
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Posted: 8/23/2011 11:59:38 AM
I believe that anyone can get a piece a ass if you really wanted just depends if u have no standards. I have a vibrator that count???
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 8/23/2011 11:39:11 PM

For men, there was also a significant difference, but not as much of one -men ranked in the top-fifth for hotness received 5x as many messages as men ranked in the bottom-fifth for hotness.

Because there's not as many messages, for one thing. Plus, women don't send NEARLY as many as guys (a wink, smile, nudge, view by a women will get the guy to write them), all things being equal, and there's fewer women to send. And that site, at least in my area, has a TON of dogs. Horrible ratio of at least decent looking women vs fugies. It's like going to a bad garage sale. I'm sure in other areas it's different -- but just sayin'. :)

And here's something to consider: If fuglie women post on their profile that they're interested in "casual sex", they will get messages. If fuglie guys post the same, they won't. And great looking guys will -- but yes, not as much as said women.

It's easier for women to get laid. Easy. Men do lower their standards, but sure, not to the bottom of the barrel, and a bottom portion on an internet site isn't just a chubby checker.

Reasonably attractive women, statistically, care about looks. A lot. Studies show this, they don't deny it. When it comes to who they choose to date, looks exceeds what they claim matters as much beforehand... for guys, when it comes to money/success, the same thing -- that exceeds what they claim.

In the end though, we're talking about getting laid. Guys most certainly are more willing to have casual sex w/o hangups than women statistically, and yes, guys do lower their standards for such endeavors.
 missraven1
Joined: 8/12/2011
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Posted: 8/24/2011 1:31:37 AM
Men can too. That's what prostitutes are for.
 dave402
Joined: 11/26/2008
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Posted: 8/24/2011 1:45:18 AM
Thanks sowrite for your honesty in your basic economics 101 class.
I agree
In a relationship a guy can initiate and may be rebuffed, but when the roles are reversed, he won't decline the offer.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2011 6:54:02 AM

If all guys went to prostitutes to satisfy their purely sexual urges, I honestly think the whole dynamic of these dating sites would shift dramatically!

It would probably cleanse the dating sites of most guys just looking for casual NSA sex or a quick one night stand (well, except those who can't afford to pay!).


I think you're onto something there, Luke! Since the Republicans are such family-value advocates, I have an idea for them that will encourage that. I propose they create a GetLaidAid program (administered by Medicaid), for men who don't yet want a relationship. If they only use government approved and licensed prostitutes who accept the GetLaidAid reimbursement rates, and stay off of dating sites, those seeking long-term relationships and desire family-oriented mates will have a clear playing field. Of course, there should be a means-test, and penalties for more affluent men who abuse the dating sites seeking NSA sex. And the real plus is that Republicans would get millions of new GOP voters!
 poker_fan_in_nyc
Joined: 4/6/2007
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Posted: 8/24/2011 4:27:52 PM
I have not read all 16 pages...I will answer this as a BBW female who has low self-esteem ...YES we can get laid whenever we want...I do not like the way I look and hate my body...I make this very clear with guys I talk to...once I filter out the good ones I have met a few for a booty call or whatever you want to call it...I hate to even type it (hate how it sounds I guess)...I don't do it a lot...but if I chose to do it every night with a different guy I know it could be easily done...
 poker_fan_in_nyc
Joined: 4/6/2007
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Posted: 8/24/2011 4:33:01 PM
^^^^I just realized I posted this in the 'dating' section...this behavior is NOT for someone I would date...but since my separation I am not ready to date and have some catching up to do LOL
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2011 7:16:46 PM
awww...poker fan! It kinda broke my heart when you said you hate to type booty call 'cause you hate the way it sounds. You are a pretty girl, especially in the picture w/ the little kitten. There is no reason for you to feel like you have to settle for a booty call if it makes you uncomfortable/unhappy.

Back on topic...agreed...a different guy every night is very possible. It might not be the guy you want, but it's available. Pfft...who has time or energy for all that?
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 8/24/2011 7:21:04 PM

A woman who wants to get laid may not be attracted to the options immediately available to her.



whatever...girls have tons more options for immediate sex then men do.

I always say- women can get an immediate with a dude hotter than she is.

at best, guys typically have to pick up low lying fruit...


GIrls just have to be willing to be a bit more agressive and they can get much better immediate sex than they can a bf...

at least based on looks and looks alone.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 8/24/2011 7:40:50 PM
If all guys went to prostitutes to satisfy their purely sexual urges, I honestly think the whole dynamic of these dating sites would shift dramatically!

If any guy was wiling to see an escort, the whole dynamic would change for him. Once a guy realizes he can get laid wiith a few hundred dollars just by making a phone call, he will stop thinking with his d!ck, make better choices dating and be less tempted to be jump through hoops to date someone.

It would probably cleanse the dating sites of most guys just looking for casual NSA sex or a quick one night stand (well, except those who can't afford to pay!).

If a guy can't afford to pay for it, he also can't really afford casual sex. Casual sex is rarely free, unless it's one of those chance encounters you can't count on or predict. Add up the cost of ``dates'' which are ostensibly for casual sex at some point and it will add up quickly without being an assurance of anything.

I wonder what the ratio of guys who are actually looking for a committed relationship to girls who want the same would be?

That would be difficult to determine because it's not black and white. I was open to casual sex or a committed relationship (and I am now engaged.) Personally, I think that knowing where to find an escort would be the most useful to guys looking for committed relationships. It's easier to decide to not date someone for compatibility reasons if a guy doesn't let sex get in the way of deciding that.

All you have to do is go to bar and flirt with any guy you think is cute.

I don't know why you'd think that. I'm not all that cute and I've turned women down because I wasn't attracted to them. Why would you think a woman would be able to get laid anytime by someone she'd want to have sex?
 BoonDockSaint73
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Posted: 8/24/2011 10:45:00 PM

If any guy was wiling to see an escort, the whole dynamic would change for him. Once a guy realizes he can get laid wiith a few hundred dollars just by making a phone call, he will stop thinking with his d!ck, make better choices dating and be less tempted to be jump through hoops to date someone.


how very true...
 brap999
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Posted: 8/24/2011 11:02:39 PM
Well I can honestly say no. Because I've certainly turned women down before, so they weren't getting laid when they wanted.

A better question would be 'is it easier for a woman to get laid than a man?'. Yes of course! There are thousand of men in any given area, so while it might take a few tries for a less attractive woman, if she really wants it there is a guy out there willing to give it to her eventually. Guys are generally more open to sleeping around then women. So the opposite isn't always true. Even the best looking guys cold through dry spells, despite what they might make you believe.

It sounds though that your friend is not getting laid because he whines about it, and focuses on the fact he's not getting laid. That kind of attitude will reek of being desperate when he does meet a woman who might be interested, thus resulting in him defeating himself.
 KIWI3nme
Joined: 6/6/2006
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Posted: 8/24/2011 11:06:49 PM
OF COURSE WOMAN CAN GET LAID WHENEVER THEY WANT.......................











its just that **stard has no head and requires AAA batteries!!!


sigh .
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 8/25/2011 4:35:16 PM

If any guy was wiling to see an escort, the whole dynamic would change for him. Once a guy realizes he can get laid wiith a few hundred dollars just by making a phone call, he will stop thinking with his d!ck, make better choices dating and be less tempted to be jump through hoops to date someone.

Absofreakinlutely. Go get some balance. Pay for it. True you're paying for it either way. If your goal is really to get laid, cut the BS and just go buy it.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
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Posted: 8/25/2011 7:07:14 PM
Womaninprogress totally gets it! If getting laid is all you want, why are you wasting time, energy & $$$ on women who want anything else? You could buy a decent escort for the price of a nice dinner. You don't have to try to convince her you're a good guy. She doesn't care. You don't have to buy her dinner. She doesn't want to have dinner or conversation with you. Open the door w/ both your fly & wallet open. The less time it takes the better.
 missraven1
Joined: 8/12/2011
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Posted: 8/25/2011 10:39:25 PM

You could buy a decent escort for the price of a nice dinner. You don't have to try to convince her you're a good guy.

That underestimates the size of the male.. ego.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
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Posted: 8/25/2011 10:47:43 PM
^^^ No, they can't. Why do men say such stupid things?

Cause they believe them to be true. Because they’re not thinking about things from the woman’s point of view. They don’t believe that women might be feeling the same sexual frustration that men feel.
Maybe because they’re feeling rejected, and too bitter and angry. Maybe because sometimes single men and women don't understand each other's lives very well.
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