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Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 102
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now women are fighting for the right to die..

Oh, I see. If the women get in the lifeboat first, they're selfish, exploitative b1tches, and if they stay on the ship, it's cause they're too stupid to live.

Women are fighting for the right to make their own choices. Sometimes we will make stupid choices, or wrong choices, but hey - so do men! We are willing to take responsibility for them. (Our choices, not the men.) So don't worry, the weight of all the dead women on sinking cruise ships will not be placed on your shoulders.

I expect you to let your daughters do whatever they choose to do, once they're old enough.
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 103
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Posted: 3/15/2011 5:50:33 PM
The MRA movement and it's convoluted websites like MGTOW and Happy Bachelors, etc, have become dominated by guys who blame women for all their ineptitude at relating, and harboring a hate-fest against the females of the species, decrying "feminism" as their scapegoat for merely being misogynistic, narcissistic, ***holes who suffer from karma.

It's the fault of feminism, ERA, and everything but personal responsibility. Not sure yet if this is another corporate construct to divide and conquer, or a Fox Newsish plan gone awry yet again, but the result has led to violence against women, with echo chambers of misogynistic narcicists re-enforcing their hatred, disdain, displeasure, and anger against people who saw them for what they were and chose not to participate with these reactionaries. The founder of Happy Bachelors intended on a viable support group to bring guys together for a positive re-enforcement, get over it, move forward, find other interests, and be smarter about future choices, sort of advocacy, but like Fox and other hate sites, it quickly became a forum for divisiveness, blame, and anger. He shut down the site for awhile, but others resurrected it, fanned the hate flames, and it became a losers club for narcisistic misogynists, guys who need their sickness re-enforced by others so affected and incapable of accepting personal responsibility.

The MGTOW and HB crowd are trolling on sites like these to get a rise. Recognize them, explore their sites, and fight back against this division, no matter who is fommenting it.

The following is a thoughful response from a "mangina". These misogynistic narcisscists, feed on the echo chamber and are not gentle with thoughtful people of any gender. There are women with Stockholm syndrome who try to protect them.

This is in context of some dear friends who have suffered under, and/or been victimized by this women-haters reactionary movement. To know it, is to understand it and fight back intelligently to it.
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 104
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Posted: 3/15/2011 7:04:03 PM
Mom, sister, cousin, and step sisters, an aunt, second cousins, friends, and others in my life have been victims of this backlash. It is first hand, it is personal, and if not for my dedication to non-violence, ......

When I see sites like I mentioned, the hatred, the fomenting of such, and know still, the women in my life, subjected to such ugliness, it pains me that this somehow acceptable behavior in this day and age. I was put into the position at age 12, to either defend my mother from an attacker/stepfather by killing him on the spot, justifiably, or succumb to her bloody pleas to not do so as to alter my life forever. I honored her bloody pleas, but both paths would have altered my life. Tis the shits to have such crappy options at such an age. high intolerance of misogynistic narciscists, drunken wife beaters, and general****hits who wish to blame women for not putting up with their bullshit.
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 105
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Posted: 3/15/2011 7:16:04 PM
I don't know where all these men (according to these forums) who keep getting sniped at by women live. I am a feminist; I live in Missouri, and men open doors for me all the time. I smile and say, "Thank you." I teach at a college, and as many young men open doors for me as do old men. I have even had young men rush ahead of me to the door so they could hold it open before I got there.

I love having the door opened for me or those other small things that men do. I've never once in my life thought it wrong or felt demeaned.

I also hold doors for all people. In fact, the other day I was caught up with something and forgot to hold the door for someone, so I turned around and apologized. It was a man and he responded "no problem" with a smile.

These are small things that add extra to any person's day.

As for feminism, I grew up with the notion that a man would not be taking care of me, so I should work; however that didn't mean I should not accept help from a man or anyone else for that matter if I needed it.

I have never felt that I didn't "need" a man, I have always felt I could manage without a man and live just fine. Sadly, experience has taught me that the men I have chosen have not been there for me when I needed it the most, when I was ill. They are there for me when I move, when I need help installing an air conditioner etc., but I don't "need" a partner to get this done, I could hire someone or ask my brother to do it. I need someone to be strong for me.

As Scorpio mentioned, if I were living in a different time, things would be very difficult for me, but due to the feminist movement, I'm able to take care of myself so that I can live and this is a good thing - for any human being.

What I find interesting is that there are not that many hard-core feminists out there. Even reading these forums I can see that. I don't need to be in competition with a man in the professional world just because I'm a woman. If I'm happy with my job and salary, that is all that matters; I'm not going to go on a crusade if Billy makes more than me for the same job. That may be insulting and not supportive of women, but frankly my family and loved ones are what matter and there are injustices in the world for which I feel much more strongly about and some are not gender specific.
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 106
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Posted: 3/15/2011 8:42:40 PM

Quite often women receive the message that feminism is bad, for them as well as men. You would therefore expect that women who do not embrace feminism would be liked and admired. Yet, women who do not espouse feminism and expect men to assume traditional roles, are also belittled as clingy gold-diggers without career aspirations, while the feminists are derided for taking male jobs or being b!tchy opportunists.

I have witnessed exactly the same!

Mom, sister, cousin, and step sisters, an aunt, second cousins, friends, and others in my life have been victims of this backlash. It is first hand, it is personal, and if not for my dedication to non-violence, ......

I have also seen men who complain and moan about feminists and women in general who, in the same breath, say that they would harm anyone who treated their daughters in the same way that they advocate women in general be treated.

Thank you, Pups. :)
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 107
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Posted: 3/15/2011 10:09:07 PM

Mom, sister, cousin, and step sisters, an aunt, second cousins, friends, and others in my life have been victims of this backlash. It is first hand, it is personal, and if not for my dedication to non-violence, ..

If such a "backlash" exists, does it not stand to reason that at some point, there must have been a "lash" in order to have a "backlash"? And if there was, then how can you say men's rights advocates are 100% wrong?

I have yet to hear anything come out of a men's rights advocate's mouth that even comes close to these feminist nuggets of wisdom for real hate and vitriol:

"In a patriarchal society all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent." Catherine MacKinnon

"I claim that rape exists any time se xual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire." From Robin Morgan

"Romance is rape embellished with meaningful looks." Andrea Dworkin

"All men are rapists and that's all they are." Marilyn French in People, February 20, 1983

And let's not forget all those fish with bicycles.
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 3/16/2011 12:19:08 AM
Men are as damaged as their mothers...and fathers.
Women are as damaged as their mothers... and fathers.
Some are lucky and have a good grandparent or wistfully...a good mother and father.
Feminism is beside the point after a long while. What matters is what seems impossible to happen. An understanding that life holds no court in either gender.
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 109
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Posted: 3/16/2011 3:42:29 AM

I have yet to hear anything come out of a men's rights advocate's mouth that even comes close to these feminist nuggets of wisdom for real hate and vitriol:

Try these:

1500 - Martin Luther (1500): "If they [women] become tired or even die, that does not matter. Let them die in childbirth, that's why they are there."

400 - St. Augustine of Hippo: "What is the difference whether it is in a wife or a mother, it is still Eve the temptress that we must beware of in any woman... I fail to see what use woman can be to man, if one excludes the function of bearing children."

A.D. 200 - Tertullian: "Do you not know that you are each an Eve? The sentence of God on this sex of yours lives in this age: the guilt must of necessity live too. You are the Devil's gateway: You are the unsealer of the forbidden tree: You are the first deserter of the divine law: You are she who persuaded him whom the devil was not valiant enough to attack. You destroyed so easily God's image, man. On account of you even the Son of God had to die."

1250 - St. Thomas Aquinas (1250): "As regards the individual nature, woman is defective and misbegotten, for the active force in the male seed tends to the production of a perfect likeness in the masculine sex; while the production of woman comes from a defect in the active force or from some material indisposition, or even from some external influence."

These quotes are by church "fathers" who were highly influential in the formation of Christian ideology. These are the thoughts to which the feminist "backlash" responded.

Take a step back:

'It is the best for all tame animals to be ruled by human beings. For this is how they are kept alive. In the same way, the relationship between the male and the female is by nature such that the male is higher, the female lower, that the male rules and the female is ruled.' Aristotle, Politica, ed. Loeb Classical Library, 1254 b 10-14.

Aristotle has had a huge influence in Western thought and philosophy. Women have had such hate and vitriol thrown at them for millennia.

Also, check out a little book called The Malleus Maleficarum. Open it and point to a passage--you'll find not only vitriol, but passages that helped condemn thousands of women to death as witches.

Let us add:

"The Blessed [Buddha] one said, "Amrapali, the mind of a woman is easily disturbed and misled. She yields to her desires and surrenders to jealousy more easily than a man. Therefore it is more difficult for a woman to follow the Noble Path. This is especially true for a young and beautiful woman. You must step forth toward the Noble Path by overcoming lust and temptation"

"Cunning women and witches we read of without number, but wisdom never entered into the character of a woman. It is not a requisite of the sex. "-- Richardson, Clarissa Harlowe

"The souls of women are so small, that some believe they've none at all. "-- Samuel Butler

"There are some meannesses which are too mean even for man - woman, lovely woman alone, can venture to commit them. "-- William Makepeace Thackeray

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Msg: 110
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Posted: 3/16/2011 5:03:31 AM
The trouble with battling out who is worse, the vitriolic feminists, or the vitriolic anti-feminists, is that it's easy to find nasty things being said about anyone.
One of my biggest personal frustrations, which is illustrated here again, is that so MANY people get into these debates without any intention of SOLVING anything. Because their goal is to make themselves feel good, and to put down anyone they perceive as an enemy, they will seek out the worst things said by the (usually) LEAST representative members of the opposition, and quote them as though they are the central guiding force of the other side. That's what Fox News loves to do, and what some few Liberal "news" honkers like to do. It's what those misogynists are all about, and what the small anti- male group who pretend to be Feminists are about.
The only thing WORSE than initiating such a lame argument, is to EXCUSE them on the grounds that "the other side said it first." Thus, suggesting that the misogynists are "lashing back" because the feminists "lashed first," and should therefore be accepted, is worse than nonsense. It's destructive in the worst way, because it encourages the SPREAD of the undeserved vitriolic hatred, not it's abatement.
Though I am not a religious person myself, I suspect the old adage of "turning the other cheek" might have been an admonishment about how to stop the madness: demand civility and COMPLETE accuracy from all who step up to a podium of any kind.
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 111
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Posted: 3/16/2011 5:56:44 AM

I suspect the old adage of "turning the other cheek" might have been an admonishment about how to stop the madness: demand civility and COMPLETE accuracy from all who step up to a podium of any kind.

I think in some circles, that's what's called a "Mexican Showdown", where one side says:" I'll put my guns down when you put your guns down", and the other side says "No, I'll put my guns down when you put your guns down"

And so on..
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 112
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Posted: 3/16/2011 6:33:48 AM

I think in some circles, that's what's called a "Mexican Showdown", where one side says:" I'll put my guns down when you put your guns down", and the other side says "No, I'll put my guns down when you put your guns down"

Nice analogy, but for the fact that one side had all the guns and power for most of time, and the other side is still highly outgunned, only now getting into some sort of bargaining position and the highly gunned side is getting fearful, reactionary, more prone to violent rhetoric, and inciting violence against the less armed. We just had a congressman from Georgia introduce legislation to make it a death penalty offense for a woman who has a miscarriage if she cannot prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that there was no human intervention.

I don't see anywhere in history, where such a powerful, well armed, strong majority has ever played the "victim" card so loudly and with so much whining. The anti-feminism backlash is about power, keeping it, and being able to use it at will.

The solution is simple. Just do the golden rule thing.

On another note..Daniel Craig in drag in honor of Internatinal Womens' Day.
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 113
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Posted: 3/16/2011 8:07:00 AM
viper1j and Gwendolyn2010 are BOTH perfectly right.

1. Many self-appointed feminist spokeswomen (spokeswomyn, spokeswimmin, spokespeople-- I just love post-A.J. Ayer nonsense etymology) have said all kinds of ludicrous and irresponsible things in public. Many of which were nothing more than attention-seeking ploys.

2. There's a long and well-bearded tradition of misogyny in this culture (and many others). All kinds of very intelligent and well-read people have said and written rather misogynistic things.

But without being too much of a religious chauvinist about it, many of those same people were of the firm opinion that painful childbirth and wearing clothing were both results of a rib-woman getting a clay-man to eat a magic apple because a talking snake told her it was a good idea. (The same school of thought that produces the Georgia politician to which earthpuppy makes reference.)

Civilized countries have had independent judiciaries for much longer than they have had meaningful democracy (which showed up in the U.K. around 1928, in Canada around 1960 and in the U.S. around 1965), precisely to deal with irresponsible and stupid legislation passed by attention-seeking hacks.

3. The "anti-feminism" backlash is not about power, or at least not in the way earthpuppy is claiming. The people engaged in it do not have power-- that's what they're whining so loudly about. No one is impressed. They're not a "powerful, well armed, strong majority", that's just a left wing stalking-horse. These people are *powerless*, which is why they are doing what the powerless do: whine and complain. They're all graduates of the "it's not my fault" school of thinking, where blaming others for your inability to succeed or accomplish anything meaningful is a substitute for actually *doing* something practical about your personal situation.

Mom was mean to me and broke up our family by divorcing Dad to shack up with her personal trainer. My girlfriends used me for free food and entertainment while cheating on me with guys who were better looking and less polite. My ex-wife grunted out two kids then got fat, lost interest in our s*x life and took me to the cleaners in the divorce. Now I'm saddled with child support and a dead-end job. WAH!! The world's not fair, girls have cooties and it's ALL YOUR FAULT. Who is impressed with that?
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