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 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 23
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okay.. the reason you're having trouble is that you look desultory and your into line has some lame, "I have a lot to offer".

Things need to be proven. Have a variety of photos. Get sun. Shoot in multiple locations and have fun. Collect accidental genius photos. Have a camera around and find those photos.

As for about me, telling stories rather than your own self assessment seems more successful. There are multiple formats but the "I am . And then I am another . " does not work.
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 2/13/2011 2:48:05 AM
sorry j,
that close up pic., you have posted isn't at all flattering.
you should get in front of your mirror and practise how to smile for your profile pics.,.

there's room for 8 pics., take advantage of this and show the women someone who they might want to contact...with varied shots that further your image.

and yes, i always look at profiles before reading any mail.
a picture always tells a story,
and some i'm not interested in reading further...
 jllongfellow
Joined: 2/6/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 2/13/2011 10:41:20 AM
OK, I changed the part about me to read more like a story rather than a list, tell me what you think.....better pictures coming soon.
 MagicalMyteryMan
Joined: 11/26/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 2/13/2011 11:04:23 AM
Hi,
I just think your single photo is not flattering. Besides it being not close up enough, you give the impression of being a bit sloppy because it looks like your shirt is hanging out. But I don't think it's that big of a deal. You do need to put up at least two more pictures, more close up. Also, in your interests you list "God Smack". Some people might think you have a heroine habit. Otherwise it's not so bad, your profile.
 jllongfellow
Joined: 2/6/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/13/2011 1:46:29 PM
Ailliss - Your number theory, about 5's dating 5's and 10's dating 10's, may be true in a virtual world, because looks are all you really have to go by and you can't really get the full affect of someones personality by reading an online profile, unless the person is a very good writer.

However, in general I don't agree with this at all. Looks aren't as important to woman as is personality, confidence, character and the ever important sense of humor. You see women who are 9's and 10's all the time with less than average guys, and although some of those guys may have money or power the vast majority of them do NOT!!!!

Yes, a man needs to dress nice, keep himself kept, that's not what I'm talking about by LOOKS. Guys we don't have to look like Brad Pitt to get a 9 or 10 don't listen to anyone who tells you different.
 PastorTaylor
Joined: 1/2/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/13/2011 4:08:58 PM
I don't know it looks good to me. i get 200 e-mails a day, but i try and let them know what im looking for.
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 2/13/2011 5:31:29 PM
^^only 200 a day?

maybe YOU need a profile critique...
 jllongfellow
Joined: 2/6/2011
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Posted: 2/14/2011 7:10:52 AM
After reading his profile I bet the pastor gets a lot of emails. Prob not 200 a day but a lot. Funny stuff Pastor....lmao
 Lion_of_Ireland
Joined: 12/20/2010
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/15/2011 7:24:18 PM
Alright let me offer you a few things.

Headlines only matter if they are bad. Yers is bad. Consider workingon that a bit

Pictures are 80% and you only have 3 and one of them is with your hands in your pockets? You need 10-15 good ones and rotate them around every so often. Works well, give it a try. You are online and pictures matter.

I wanna break a few things down for you that may or may not help.


On any given weekend you might bump into me at a neighborhood garage sale or get your line tangled up with mine while we try to snag a spoonbill, feel free to ask what a spoonbill is.


Your opening few lines are the second most important part of your page. What you have is so-so. You should try a different angle then asking them to ask you something.




When I go "out", I try to stick to non-smoking or less smoky places such as Bakers Street for Karaoke, Bowling, Hard Rock Casino (I don't gamble) or Dave and Busters just to name a few. I enjoy dinning at many of the restaurants around Tulsa, but prefer to grill and/or cook at home. One of my favorite things to do is sit around a camp fire on a summers night, listening to music, and talking. I play softball and/or basketball a couple times a week to stay in shape, but mainly because it appeals to my competitive nature and I have fun doing it.


Not bad.


My ideal match is independent and self sufficient.


Ditch this. Cliches are lame and in this day and age it is a given.




She doesn't need a man but wants a man to share life's experiences with.


ditch this. Cliches are lame. You find a variation of this on just about everyones page. Standing out really helps when you are online. Try to avoid sounding like everyone else.


She should be intelligent, funny, outgoing, and charismatic. I prefer a Slim or Athletic build, but I'm open to all. I prefer non smokers but might consider dating a social smoker, who owns stock in Altoids.


ouch! This is not gonna help the cause any. A lot of folks say that you should say a few lines about who you would like to meet. (mostly women who email guys) I have found this to be a bad idea for us guys, mostly because we bungle it. Read yours for proof.

Besides what you are looking for in a woman makes for a great first email and you can explain why and what in that very same email.

Who socially smokes?


Final Thought:
Beauty is common, beautiful women are everywhere, but to find one who's attitude, character, and personality out shine her beauty is rare and that is what I am searching for. Because at the end of the day, when its all said and done, physical beauty fades but the beauty within will last forever.


ditch this.
 jllongfellow
Joined: 2/6/2011
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Posted: 2/16/2011 6:49:36 AM
OK, something tells me I stick out from the crowd now. I used something similar to this once before and had good luck with it.

And if the new headline does line the ladies up I don't know what will...
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 2/16/2011 7:02:01 AM
well,
what do you know?
the guy can smile...

this is so much better than the original pic., i commented on.
'though i'm not fussed on that head line,
it's not at all original or quirky.

anyway, good luck...<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
 You go first
Joined: 5/1/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/16/2011 6:43:35 PM
We have a winner.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/16/2011 6:53:46 PM
Nice pictures.I like the main one.You look so happy.
 Ailliss
Joined: 3/16/2010
Msg: 36
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Posted: 2/17/2011 2:22:27 AM

Looks aren't as important to woman as is personality, confidence, character and the ever important sense of humor. You see women who are 9's and 10's all the time with less than average guys, and although some of those guys may have money or power the vast majority of them do NOT!!!!

Not in my universe. When hot women are with second-rate looking guys they always have equalizers; be it intellect, money or power.


Guys we don't have to look like Brad Pitt to get a 9 or 10 don't listen to anyone who tells you different.


Not working for you though or you wouldn’t be saying:

I might get one response out of every 30 emails sent.
 hannibalcool
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 37
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Posted: 2/17/2011 2:34:42 AM
Bro , Im no expert but I just happened to stumble across a good combination of profile pics and description. Ive been getting a huge percentage of emails answered and even a ton of unsolicited emails.

Feel free to explore my profile cuz like I said, Im no expert but it just works great!

Goodluck, this is your world and you can make of it what you want.
 jllongfellow
Joined: 2/6/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/17/2011 4:35:30 AM

Goodluck, this is your world and you can make of it what you want.


Well put hannibal, Thanks.
 ProdigalSon81
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 39
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Posted: 2/17/2011 3:24:46 PM
I can't say how it looked previously, but I found it entertaining and the pics look good as well.
 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/18/2014 9:58:14 AM
For now, use your fourth picture as your main photo. It shows your great smile. Women want to see your eyes and smile.

Your profile is well written, fun and interesting with a touch of humor. Congratulations!

You have 8 seconds to make a good impression. Women will see your main photo as a tiny pic the size of a saltine cracker on their cell phone screens. If your main photo is not clear, bright and attractive, they move on. A genuine smile is inviting, warm and attractive. Women want to see your eyes and smile.

Please get new photos taken outdoors for better lighting, and with a quality digital camera, not a fuzzy cell phone. Your main photo should be a head-and-shoulder shot, showing you SMILING and looking at the camera. You also need one full body shot, again taken outdoors and smiling.

Other pictures should show you outdoors, doing activities you enjoy. No hats, sunglasses, alcohol or stupid poses. You must be in every picture. Ask a friend to take 24 pictures of you outdoors with a digital camera, wearing different clothes in various locations. Upload the best 8. Caption and date each photo-giving the location and year- to make the photos more interesting and clear.
 ScooterSB
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 1/18/2014 10:44:33 AM
So, the very first impression you want women to have of you, is you touching up a pregnant mannequin that A) makes you look fat and B) makes it look like you have a weird fetish?

Women will make a judgement on you before clicking on your profile just on the thumbnail of your main pic, so mkae it a good one.
 Mark_It_Up
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/18/2014 12:15:11 PM
Why are we bumping a thread from 2011?
 tatersprout
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/18/2014 1:11:41 PM
^^Was wondering the same thing, Mark.
The OP didn't ask for new review, so I can only guess that someone was very bored to go back 3 years in review....
 Bourne1961
Joined: 9/29/2015
Msg: 44
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Posted: 12/16/2015 12:09:38 PM
I strongly suggest you change your pictures.
The ones with the wig and the bike are not appealing.
You can demonstrate your sense of humour in the written portion of your profile.
Best of luck.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 12/16/2015 12:21:39 PM
^^^^^^


^^Was wondering the same thing, Mark.
The OP didn't ask for new review, so I can only guess that someone was very bored to go back 3 years in review....


And now only 2 years.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 2/7/2016 3:59:15 PM
I like the pics except for the one where you are wearing a woman's wig. If you get one message in thirty you are doing quite well.

Have you actually met anyone in the flesh?

The pictures are what count initially and there is nothing wrong with yours. You cant change how you are and why should you?

If you are contacting hot sexy looking women they are more than likely fakes or flakes. This is a loser's game in the main for men, with very low success rates. I would have very low expectations and concentrate on real life meets where you can see what you get, upfront.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
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Posted: 2/8/2016 7:22:23 PM

Wow, so I'm par for the course at 1 in 30???? YIKES!!!!


Staggers the imagination, doesn't it?
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