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Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 18
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While I've flirted in text...
even sent smutty haikus in text...
I've never sext.

I mean how could it go?

unnnnggg uuunnnnggggg
your text is soooo BIG!!!!

Joined: 11/22/2010
Msg: 19
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Posted: 4/29/2011 3:51:58 AM
My dude,
You`re both young and if she`s into teasing you, than by all means have fun!
It sounds like she`s really into being with you and wants to make it perfectly clear to you!
Good Luck with your FWB. Don`t think that will transpire....
Joined: 4/24/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 4/29/2011 10:29:43 AM
This is the first time I've heard of "sexting." Wow, I must be getting old!

If you "sext" be prepared that the a great first meeting or an absolute failure. If there aren't any sparks it is made so much worse if you've exchanged explicit message. If she isn't into you, she will be embarrassed and not sure how to let you down especially after the intimate moments that you have shared.

I have "sexted" done the whole phone sex thing. While it is fun, it is also just a fantasy and makes it hard to transition to reality. Compound that with first meeting jitters and you've got a very emotionally charged meeting. BTW, it doesn't make starting the relationship that much easier, usually it's often harder as some things just don't make the transition.

If you're not wanting a relationship, then I don't see the problem. It's the safest sex around. If you do... there will be pitfalls.
Joined: 6/15/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 6/28/2011 8:34:27 AM
so long as you are very clear what your intentions are and she has a similar desire there is nothing wrong with sexting, just be sure you're absolutely positive she's over 18 or you could get hit up with child pornography charges, which may make meeting in person first a better option if you have any room to doubt it.
Joined: 8/2/2010
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/4/2011 11:17:14 PM
I would rather have hot sex to lol
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 25
phone sex/sexting before meeting someone
Posted: 7/5/2011 7:53:15 AM
It's not that I wont meet someone without knowing what they are like sexually....but it can be convenient to know before you meet someone what they are into sexually, and just have a general idea about their sexual mindset ahead of time. If one person is a vanilla bean and the other puts the K in Kinkster...then doesn't it save alot of trouble, if they get into some sexting before they meet? Or at least some open talk about their sexuality? I think it's a practical thing to do, and I'm a practical kind of girl.
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 7/5/2011 8:12:10 AM

The percent of teenagers who have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves:

20% of teenagers overall
22% of teen girls
18% of teen boys
11% of young teen girls ages 13-16

The percent of teenagers sending or posting sexually suggestive messages:

39% of all teenagers
37% of teen girls
40% of teen boys

This has been going on for several years, nothing new about it.
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/5/2011 10:39:59 AM
It seems a few of the women I have met in the past have always seemed to bring this up before I would, never real graphic but a general idea.
Joined: 3/19/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/8/2011 8:32:07 PM
I did the sexting before meeting someone..turned out great! Granted,we broke up weeks later,but we still sext
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/3/2012 10:30:56 AM
"i feel like this could end up as a phonesex/sexting fling, but i dont want that...
does sexting a person before meeting them for the first time ruin the flirting and romance?"

honestly, i do not know why people would have phone sex with someone that is not their significant other.

"i'm not looking for a relationship either, rather just a friends with benefits situation, so would sexting rather help me, or will it more like kill the sexual anticipation...any advice please? and have you ever met up with someone after you sexted them?"

i honestly don't know what to say to this. why is it that women go along with this whole fwb type of relationship? this is the type of relationship that benefits the man. this is being used for sex and sex only. if a man wants a fwb with you, he's telling you that you aren't good enough to have a relationship with, but your are good enough to screw. at this point, if a woman had any self respect, she'd say, "leave $500.00 on the night stand when you leave." at least then the woman would be getting something out of it.

Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/4/2012 7:10:58 AM
This is a type of relationship that benefits the man? "At least the woman would be getting something out of it? Honey, are U aware that some women, good looking women, use male "escorts" and pay THEM?

This may come as a shock to you, but some women actually want and actively seek a FWB relationship. Who does that benefit?

You know the old line, He who is .................cast the first stone.
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 1/4/2012 8:08:01 AM
if you are only look for friend with benefits, i think the sexting will help you. but keep in mind that you are talking to a girl, and girls think different. i can give myself as an example.. i had a two year relationship with a guy i met online, and our relationship began with sex talk. so i get into this relationship, and because girls can't be sexual without being thought of in a vulgar manner only, and because my first impression was sex toy, i got cheated on a million times. just saying if your going to be friends with benefits you should somewhat care for her, because that is different then a one night stand. make it clear to her you want no relationship, because girls can be just as bad as guys with putting sex first. think about her as well, not just yourself of getting lucky. someone will get hurt.
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/5/2012 12:35:12 AM
One of the WORST things that Facebook has brought about is random texts from 'friends' you have on your list from where you knew them in high school, at an old job or whatever, and all of a sudden out of nowhere they pop up asking you 'Hey pretty lady, how are you?' Where are you living now? Can I come by and see you sometime?'
These men are 99% of the time married or in relationships. 100% of them have NOT read my page, because it clearly says I am engaged and where I live now. I also have a picture of me and my fiance AS MY PROFILE PICTURE!!!! How frikken stupid do you have to be to not understand that I am NOT AVAILABLE????

OK, so once you get past their obvious idiocy regarding me as a viable candidate for a fling, you then just have to shake your head at how BAD these texts are at attempting to lure someone into a one night stand or whatever. Having a dude text 'I've always thought you had the best ass in our class, and your tits look yummy' just doesn't make me think 'Oh, he's my knight in shining armour!!!' It honestly makes me laugh at how stupid it is! My UPS man decided last night at 11PM was the time to make his move, for some unknown reason. The texts were so ridiculous that I felt it necessary to share them with a couple of friends and we had a good laugh! The worst of it all is he has a really nice girlfriend that we all know, and he has a reputation for making stops on his route here in town and banging some really skanky women. I was insulted that he thought he could even have a shot with me, and then in some weird way flattered that he was trying so hard...even if he is an idiot.

If a man wants to have a fling with a woman, call her. Don't put it in an im or text or email. If you are trying to get in someone's pants, have the balls to speak to them, not type. Just remember that anything you write that is stupid can be saved and shared forever!!!!
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/7/2012 6:44:53 AM
Vixxxy, I have to agree with PetyGrace. I think you jump to a flase assumption about exchanging sexual ideas and painting a negative picture of a woman.

I'm surprised at all of the negative coments about sexting. Not sugesting that more people should do it but rather with the attitude and the negativity towards it. The greatest way to stimulate a person sexually is to first stimulate their mind. Once you unlock the fantasies and desires of the mind the height of sexual arrousal can be unlimites. That's not sugesting that you have to follow through with all of the fantasies, afterall, some fantasies are just that, fantasies. But unleashing the thoughts and desires and sharing them can be quite intimate and arrousing. I think this can hold true when whispering and talking "dirty" to each other in the bedroom, or by some other means.
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/26/2012 1:59:39 AM
thats sexy i mean its a turn on
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:32:44 PM

Sexting before meeting doesn't really affect anything but the magnitude of the disappointment/excitement when you meet in person. If there's mutual attraction when you meet, your meeting will be hot. If there's no mutual attraction, the meeting will be a real dud.

I concur.
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/26/2012 11:28:56 PM
I agree, what is it with all the texting? I would not find that a turn on at all. I need to hear a voice at the very least. But then I am of the older generation. All too robotic for me. I would not sext with anyone I had serious intentions of meeting until I knew who I was actually dealing with. Dont get it.
Joined: 7/11/2012
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/27/2012 1:36:21 AM
I say no, but I have never really gotten the whole sexting thing anyway. If it's just flirty stuff, I guess I would be fine with that, but it's the pix that are never a good idea as far as I'm concerned. imo always to be avoided unless you are in a serious LTR. So if the FWB thing is what you are looking for, and it's not clear to me how well you know this girl, honestly I would, lets say, set some tight boundaries on it. Not much to be gained, imo.
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/30/2012 1:38:36 PM
Ted 61

yes, there may be SOME women that do this, but the VAST majority of women are not built this way. MOST women are looking for love and a real relationship, and a large number of the women that agree to the bs fwb are only going alongwith it because they are hoping, praying, and wishing that the relationship would become a serious relationship. if you don't believe me, go read all the broken hearted forum posts from women who are "in love" with their fwb, and feeling heart broken. if you think for one minute that this sort of relationship suits the average woman, then you a) don't understand women, and b) are looking at female sexuality through the prism of male sexuality.

...and as far as your male escort comment goes... uh, i am sure there are some women out there that have used male escorts... but i would opine that the number of men that use prostitutes, go to massage parlours, frequent strip clubs far exceeds the number of women who use male escorts. the typical, average women is just not built this way, and if you don't believe me, well, then i guess you'll find out the hard way next time your fwb blows up into big drama because she wanted more from the relationship and ends up feeling hurt and used.
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 8/14/2012 7:32:42 AM
Wow. I thought I thought that only men texed dirty. Personally, I don't get it.
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 8/14/2012 2:28:26 PM
Some people prefer fantasy to reality..
Joined: 1/25/2012
Msg: 43
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Posted: 8/14/2012 9:39:46 PM
Spot on - Abelian. I agree with you.
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/15/2012 3:54:09 AM
Ive had some woman ask me about what I for actual sexting thing.....waste of time unless your some snot nosed kid who as most do dont know how to communicate without a keyboard...pretty sad!
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Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/15/2012 4:48:26 AM
personally, i never start talking about sex,every woman i have chatted with does
yes it important to me
sex that is
and it will be very impoertant to any woman i have anything to do with
nothing against people that do not place much importance on it
but they are just not interesting to me
i have had two long term relationships ,both great
but one was very sexual, the second was good too
but sex trumps anything else
so yes, i respond to everything sexual, pictures fantasies and so on
Joined: 7/8/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/1/2013 11:31:28 PM
It's a fluid situation. If you're uncomfortable with what sexting could result in then you shouldn't do it. Sexting flirting and steps are best when desire meets communication. :)
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