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Joined: 10/6/2004
Msg: 78
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ha ha man
Joined: 11/16/2004
Msg: 83
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 11/21/2004 12:40:01 AM
I don't know about others, but I was married to ONE woman for 19 years and did NOT cheat on her even ONCE. I guess I was brought up to believe that marriage is a sacred institution, one man, one woman, FOR LIFE. I can only wish you the BEST of all that life brings you.
Everyday of your life, you make hundres of choices. Each with consequences, some much greater than others. The learning process starts when you look at your choices and realize how high a price you have to pay for them. Then, and only then, can you decide which choices that YOU truly want to make.
Darryl K 1987
Joined: 12/10/2004
Msg: 94
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 10:12:02 AM
Kissme4you: Another reason that people cheat is they get frighten when things are going too well and they are not accustomed to having decent relationships. If people that pray to have wonderful people in their lives do not prepare for that time in mind and spirit they usually do something to sabatage it when it does happen. Just another point of view.

Then you get people that want their cake and eat it too. We live in an age where people are less responsible about their actions toward themselves and others. There are folks that want something with out the investment.

I know that you assume that if someone is your friend or lover that they have a level of respect for you and then you get dissappointed. I understand where you are coming from. I have never cheated in my life. I have been cheated on once or twice though.

Mysticalman: What you said is utter nonsense. There are beautiful women with wonderful bodies that get cheated on daily. There are men that are drop dead sexy that also get cheated on. People that view relationships totally in terms of respecting their partners based on appearance are not mature, respectful or capable of having decent relationships.

People like that need to not be in a relationship because they have nothing of use to contribute. They are usually the ones doing all of the taking. They need not be shocked that they can't find anyone to date or that when they do that it is someone as heartless and ridiculous as they are.
Joined: 12/10/2004
Msg: 96
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 12/15/2004 10:16:28 AM
Aya: If all men cheat then so do all women because if they are not gay or bi then most often they are going to be cheating with a willing female. So that blows this assumption of yours out of the water don't ya think?
I do not cheat and I haven't by the way. I know many many men who haven't either.
Joined: 1/23/2005
Msg: 101
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/4/2005 9:06:42 AM
Women flirt and cheat far more than men. I have a woman friend that has****pix on her computer. Where do you draw the line and label these people white trash? My jury is out and waiting to enter the courtroom with the verdict. Catch you later.
Joined: 3/30/2005
Msg: 102
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/4/2005 9:37:13 AM
Yea i understand where your coming from...because, I too, have been burned plenty of times. But as for your case...i never really understand why Men cheat. I dont! lol, but i just think its that mentality saying that if he got you, then he can get someone else. I think sometimes men get a lil greedy at times because your either not giving it up easy or often or just want something different. I know it sounds bad, but its reality and sometimes the truth hurts.

I know many women asked theirselves the question "What does she got that i dont have"? Money, popularity, fame, etc...never know it could be something simple as in she has a nice butt...People are all different when it comes to relationships...Just be careful and watch out for those Types that like to flirt alot or hang out alot when your tryin to talk to him.

Any other questions....feel free to IM me...jus check the profyle....later
Joined: 9/25/2003
Msg: 103
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/4/2005 9:49:54 AM
not all men cheat

I was married for along time and slept on the couch for as long as 13 months at a time
and i never cheated

but now at 38
I am also mature enough to say that If i am with a woman and she says she cares about me
I am not going to go without my needs being met
I wont cheat on her I would just not stay with her

but i am single alone and old and ugly
so thats not going to happen anyways
Joined: 7/5/2004
Msg: 104
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/4/2005 10:12:20 AM
The power of sex is so strong that men want sex, not love, in which sex is only one factor.
To get love, both people have to understand what it is and how to behave in a loving relationship. The most important is communication which is a must. Without it, love is not possible but with it, when you have it, you are already at the start for a love relationship.
Read a book on manners and check out communication.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 108
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Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/18/2005 4:29:55 PM
We are not monogamous by nature. For some men promiscuity keeps us "connected" with our youth.
Joined: 4/17/2005
Msg: 110
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/19/2005 8:53:49 AM
I been burned twice also. But I think men cheat because they want their icecream and cake. They also think they miss out on something. I had a man said a woman hurt him so bad that he did alot of strange things because he love her. but he can't see because he's doing the same thing she did to him that he is doing to me. He broke my heart and don't think nothing of it.
Joined: 4/16/2005
Msg: 113
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/25/2005 4:12:48 AM
I guess men cheat coz they have the chances and there are still so many heartless women out there who dont care about how you feel. and you can never change men, they are like that, when he already cheated on you once, he will do it again and again coz he knows you always there to forgive him.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 115
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Why do men cheat?
Posted: 4/28/2005 9:05:28 PM
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 121
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Why do men cheat?
Posted: 8/17/2005 4:34:08 AM
Discovery health channel had a big thing on cheating.

From what I got from it, men do it instinctively to spread out their genes.

While women do it instinctively to find a partner that can help raise her genes.

But I'm not buying all into that because then people will use that as an excuse into why they did it.

I mean hey, just like animals some animals mate and go onto the next set of animals in their species the next mating season. While other animals pick a mate and keep that mate for life and reproduce with the same mate they picked the first time and never go onto a diff one.

In the end it's all a matter of choice for human beings.

I never cheated on anyone. Personally that is the only way to go because if you have kids and you help raise those kids with the same mother then their odds or at becoming successful in life are much greater then the ones that don't stick around for their children.

So basically it all boils down to quantity vs. structure.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 148
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 6:43:02 AM
Hey troubled, this girl KNOWS you adore her and is using you as a hammock while she trys everyone else out. You dont want to hear this but you have to get rid of her. You have settled, and feel she is the one for you!, but unfortunately she doesnt feel the same. She is letting you know that by her actions. She is comfortable with you, but drifts off when bored the comes back when it doesnt work out. You will never be able to trust her completely, that is hard to live with.
You deserve better, move on hun, by moving on you open your self up to better things, if you dont this will go on for as long as she wants it to....
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 149
Why do men cheat?
Posted: 10/20/2005 6:48:46 AM
Touche Z Man well said
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