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 DivineBovine
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have you given it thought as to what it will look like when you hit your older years?


what i have isn't visible for starters. and secondly, it's not exactly a part of the body that sags with age.




I'm not into defacing my body.


got pierced ears? it's still sticking a needle through a body part when you come right down to it.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 5/10/2011 6:24:56 PM

I would want to know no later than the first date.....so I may bow out!
I will not, no how - no way, give oral sex to a man with metal in his penis!

You do know they come out, right?

While I've done it, I might not do it again with that particular type of piercing.


I'm not into defacing my body.
If that is what others wish to do, find by me.
However, have you given it thought as to what it will look like when you hit your older years?

I don't consider it defacing, and can't really decide if I'm offended or not by that comment.

I have 6 holes in my body that I wasn't born with. Each was chosen and wanted for a specific reason. Only 5 are visible to the public. I also have a tattoo. It would be incredibly hypocritical to me to turn down someone similarily adorned... the extremes however.. might be another story. Especially where piercings are concerned.


Is it a turn off to you knowing theyre pierced, should it be something that's brought up early on?

I will mention it.. maybe. I like to know but it's not usually a deciding factor for me.


Everyone has there limits in what's acceptable and what's excessive, what do you draw the line on?

I'm not a huge fan of excessive facial piercings. Don't mind an eyebrow piercing or two, or multiple ear piercings.. not fond of the stretched lobe, but don't think it's a deal breaker for me. Snakebites can be sexy on the right person. The split tongue is freaky. Not too many men have Monroe's, dimples or nose piercings.

I'm ok with PAs, dydoes or frenum ladders (limited number.. say 3 or 4 maybe?)... the idea is actually very appealing to me from an aesthetic view point. The theory of it anyway. The practical is something I have yet to experience (beyond the one oral with an ampallang.. not something I'd repeat soon). Too many and it becomes a cheesegrater-like effect.

Ink is another topic..
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
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Posted: 5/14/2011 10:50:45 AM
To me its a complete turnoff. Put a pretty woman in a shapely pair of jenes and I went wild in my youth. But jewelry has never done anything for me, and piercings in private areas? Not for me thanks. To each their own I guess, course I am not 56 but when I was younger, didn't like tattoos either.
 BLUEMISS
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Posted: 5/14/2011 3:46:20 PM
I have never experienced a man with his penis pierced...but I am thinking it would be a huge turn on for me!
I have one nipple and my labia pierced and have never had any complaints.
If you are into piercings, there is something about the skin and the steel that makes it all good.
To the naysayers...Don't knock it, until you've tried it.
Some peoples minds are so closed, it's a wonder that they ever get laid.
It's a good thing it takes all kinds to make the world go round.
 BLUEMISS
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Posted: 5/22/2011 2:08:30 PM
jco415...To answer your question, I have tried three out of the six you mentioned.
I say, try something once, if you like it...try it again.
 NicolaSeven
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Posted: 5/30/2011 1:24:22 PM

I have never experienced a man with his penis pierced...but I am thinking it would be a huge turn on for me!


Metal against enamel is somewhat disconcerting...

I've only got my ear lobes and one tragus pierced and I think that's enough for me. I am curious to know if nipples are pierced, do they loose sensation? If someone were to pinch my ear lobes really really hard I would hardly feel this and I can only put it down to the piercing (two in one side, three in the other) - so I wondered whether this would be the same with nipple and other piercings?
 Barredbard
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Posted: 6/4/2011 9:52:50 AM
Different strokes for different folks, so this is no roast. For me, pain and sex don't mix, despite the efforts of the pornographic industry. I can hardly look at tattoos and piercings without thinking of when they were acquired, and who might have put them there.

For me, the body is a temple not a canvas. If I am attracted to a woman, I am already hooked. Every line in her face, every crinkle at the corner of her eyes, etc. makes for a study, and I always take my time.

Tattoos and piercings are very unwelcome distractions, and are a huge turn off for me. Rings belong on the ear lobes and on fingers, although I have had occasion to tolerate them on toes and nostrils. Tattooes, if they must exist, must be miniaturized, and in a non-conspicuous place. If they're too visible, they take away the option of being trashy when one chooses to be.

I do remember dating this drop-dead woman, who just happened to have angel wings tattooed on her shoulder blades, and sweeping into the middle of her back in an elaborate flair. I had to shut my eyes whenever we became physical in such a way that her back was facing me. While I crave transportation to heaven, I have absolutely no desire to violate a heavenly creature. My list of sins is already long enough, without that particular addition.
 in_the_now
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Posted: 11/14/2011 12:15:03 AM
After reading so many posts in several similar threads, I thought I'd weigh in.
I have several piercings, less now than I used to have and here is my experience and feedback thus far:
Tongue--love it, for intimacy and general orally-fixated fun (like drawing smiley faces in ice cream). Had to take it out after 11 years because the dentist said it was wearing down the enamel. As fun as it was, I'll keep a full, healthy smile.

Genital--at my height, I had 5 piercings down below: reverse PA (6g), apadravya (6g), and a 3-'rung' frenum ladder (4g). For those that don't know, a 4g is about 1/4" and the 6g a bit smaller. The apadravya didn't last long due to a complication while healing; no damage, infection, lasting troubles. Let's just say that if your piercer says wait the full healing time--then do it. The reverse PA was fun, but when my partner was on top and leaned back I experienced discomfort. Although it was good, I opted to remove it.
The triple ladder is still there and I love it. Currently I am using circular barbells, which kinda sound like a windchime if my shorts are loose. It drove my partner crazy (in a good way). My partner and I were intimate with and without them, with and without condoms (bareback once we were comfortable and tested) and she absolutely preferred them in! The only problem was in a doggy-style position, as they caused her extreme discomfort. That was our only negative experience.

I don't forsee myself ever taking the ladder out permanently. It is just too much fun, in the bedroom and out of it. Ok--so I do laugh a bit on the inside when I'm in the men's bathroom... When I shake, it makes noise and tends to make the other guys wonder if they've heard something.

Note--I've put condoms on successfully with all of my genital piercing combinations and never had any problems with the condom whatsoever. For hanging jewelry, like my circular barbells, it does cause them to 'hug up' but it's no big deal. Anyone who says they have problems tearing condoms when trying to put them on or breaking them during sex is probably not putting them on properly.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 11/14/2011 8:03:33 AM

I have never experienced a man with his penis pierced...but I am thinking it would be a huge turn on for me!

Well.. I can say I’ve done this now. *big grins*


Let's just say that if your piercer says wait the full healing time--then do it.

True that. And get the right kind of jewellery for your anatomy.


The triple ladder is still there and I love it. Currently I am using circular barbells, which kinda sound like a windchime if my shorts are loose. It drove my partner crazy (in a good way).

I can see how that would work, having developed a particular affinity for the little tinkling sounds of jewellery on something. Just added another “pro” to the why I want this done. Thank you. *squirms at the thought*


EDIT: And I've always wanted to experience sex with a prince albert but so far not had the chance lol - reckon that would be interesting to say the least lol!

Well, as stated above.. I’ve done this now. I had my partner pierced in July with an 8g PA. Healing was a **** based on his particular anatomy and the style of jewellery used. Less issues once the ring was swapped for a curved bar. He upgauged to an 6g about a month or so ago. All I can say about that is f*cking yummy. We are talking about adding a ladder now. Our sex life was good before, now it’s out-f*cking-standing. So yeah.. *two thousand million gazillion thumbs up*
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/14/2011 10:49:27 AM
It's not something I'm ever going to do. And I could probably handle it okay on a woman that I was involved with. Probably. Maybe.

I once had an initial meet and greet with a very lovely lady. Educated, intelligent, good conversationalist, and did I mention she was lovely to look upon? Except... She had a ring in her nose. I absolutely, positively, could NOT get over, under, or around that. Just a personal thing, my problem not hers. I'm not sure how I would react to a piercing in a private area.
 Secondhand_Lion
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Posted: 11/14/2011 10:22:42 PM
I find it so amusing for people to come on here and ask what other people think after the fact.....sort of pointless isn't it? The part that really makes no sense to me is, if you are looking for a partner, why would you do something that cuts your potential chances down at least 50%, and pay hard earned money for the penalty. I've never heard of someone being rejected because they had no piercings or tats, but depending on age (older people like me), 50% will reject you because of them.....including myself. Funny thing is, the tats and holes themselves aren't the major turnoff for me.....it's the lack of inner self that makes one do what others do (susceptible to peer pressure) that turns me off. Logical people that know it's what's between your ears that matters....not what's on or through you skin are a turn on in my book. Keep yourself natural, and you won't have to concern yourself about what others think.....and if it doesn't matter to you what others think.....why do you come here and open these threads??????
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 11/14/2011 11:40:05 PM

To those who keep saying they feel like their old fashioned for not liking them I think that's rubbish. Being old fashioned doesn't mean you hate piercings and tattoos, and not liking them doesn't mean anything else apart from that you hold up a different ideal standard for beauty than I do.


OMG..

My father use to say, periodically; "I have socks older than that kid."

Ratsrule..I have tatts older than you!

Getting old sucks..
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:19:51 AM

Yea but my nan likes my tattoos whereas my mother (her daughter) doesn't.... so it's not an age thing or being old fashioned - it's about the standard of beauty that you idealise. My mum is very much into eu natural beauty whereas my nan less so.

I don't think it's a bad thing for people to like difference - and i'd respect someone who said that i wasnt their type because of my tattoos and piercings... But i disagree strongly with whoever said it's down to peer pressure. The reasons for my piercings and tattoos are varied but not one of them is because someone else has one - they all have huge emotional significance for me.


Atta girl Nan!

I agree completely, and I have seen tatts come into vogue, leave, come back. It is sometimes a generation thing. I got mine for personal reasons. My late wife, who never had a tatt at all, didn't like/dislike them, decided to get a memorial tatt after the death of our daughter. I took her to a shop that was in my precinct. Bunch of very gifted artists, good guys. Shop owner was a artist for a well known toy company, but had it with the corporate world and loved old cars and tattoos. Super nice guy.

She told them what she wanted, and they designed a very beautiful memorial tatt that was everything my wife wanted. It was beautiful. She had it placed on her leg, and loved it. I still have the stencil of the tatt, obviously pictures of her getting it as well. Just an example that people get tattoos for THEIR reasons, not anyone elses.
 ThickNSweetGirl
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:19:30 PM
Good question. I have my nipples pierced,and would never think it would turn a guy off.
 DivineBovine
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:35:58 PM
SecondHand_Lion wrote:

the tats and holes themselves aren't the major turnoff for me.....it's the lack of inner self that makes one do what others do (susceptible to peer pressure) that turns me off.


i got mine almost 20 years ago when i was in my mid-30s due to sexual "difficulties", not because of "peer pressure". there are many reasons why people choose to have piercings or tats; i doubt few have anything to do with "peer pressure".

Arteest1650 wrote:

If you're decorating down there....you're expecting way to much company...


*snork* i've had droughts of 4+ years twice since i got that piercing "down there"...



Rose Dagger wrote:

I almost went and got my clit done with a girlfriend but we both chickened out, it looked like it hurt waaay too much


i'm sure you mean clit hood. actual clit piercings are generally regarded as dangerous and rarely done because they can cause you to lose all sensation, while hood piercings (vertical more than horizontal) increase it. and, as i posted earlier in this thread, mine didn't hurt at all.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 11/16/2011 7:06:08 AM

I don't mind a woman having petite nipple rings, but not the huge barbells or anything...they gotta be feminine for me...I have no experience with any other piercings but at least visually I'd probably be good with petite again.
I'm not a fan of tattoos at all though...some I can ignore...others, not so much.

My jewellery and tattoo are probably the only petite thing about me. *grins*


The part that really makes no sense to me is, if you are looking for a partner, why would you do something that cuts your potential chances down at least 50%, and pay hard earned money for the penalty.

That’s your opinion that it will cut down a person’s chance by 50%. I don’t believe that isn’t an accurate statistic for the general dating population.

I've never heard of someone being rejected because they had no piercings or tats,

I have.

Funny thing is, the tats and holes themselves aren't the major turnoff for me.....it's the lack of inner self that makes one do what others do (susceptible to peer pressure) that turns me off.

I got mine 12 yrs ago… no one else I knew at that time got what I got. I’ve never done anything because everyone else is doing it. I’m not that much of a lemming to follow along with the “in crowd”. I had a rat tail when no one else did. I wore velvet and linen in high school, along with garters and stockings. Love me, hate me.. I don’t care.

Logical people that know it's what's between your ears that matters....not what's on or through you skin are a turn on in my book. Keep yourself natural, and you won't have to concern yourself about what others think.....and if it doesn't matter to you what others think.....why do you come here and open these threads??????

Because it’s nice to have conversation with like-minded people. I’m sure even YOU would agree to that. *soft smiles*

WINNING!
My hat is off to you.

Thank you PittsburghVixen. It took a long time before I was ready to take that step. I’m glad I did though.

Your line of thinking is a dying breed.

This made me lawl. On so many levels.

If you're decorating down there....you're expecting way to much company...

This also made me lawl… but for different reasons. I got my first non-ear piercing for me. Purely for esthetics and nothing more. It’s decoration, much like having pierced ears. It’s not there for any sexual reason or purpose. I don’t decorate my home for anyone but myself. I don’t wear clothes for anyone else either… well, except on special occasions and on request by him.

When many men find out about mine, they want to see it. That leads to playing with it. That leads to smiles for everyone. Not a bad deal in my book. Only a handful have actually been allowed to touch it.


Piercings- not a cosmetic enhancement, usually, to my eye, but I've learned (from some upfront ladies), that they're about function, pleasure, and nip and hood trinkets can bring daily bliss, with or without somebody else's manipulating them, like ben wa balls. If that's true (and I understand that doesn't "work" for everyone), then you piercees have my full-fledged support. I kinda like hanging with a woman who is a little extra-motivated and squirmy; a stimulated woman stimulates me, and I'm sure my response is not unique. Pierced nostrils/eyelids/other non-erogenous zones? meh. But if those piercings make the wearere feel sexy/sexier

I got curious about hood piercings after talking to a GF about hers. Yes.. I was interested in experiencing easier orgasms like she described. So I had it done. There’s a long story to that, I won’t go into it. I ended up having to have it removed 5 days later because the pain was excruciating. I couldn’t get away from it.

I enjoy the mental aspect of things. I like and need a lot of mental stimulation. Flirt, tease, mind-f*cks… paint me a picture with words and images and I will be a leaking squirming mess for days. I adore a reaction from someone. If I can get into his head and make him wiggle and squirm, then I’ll be right there wiggling and squirming with him.
 Secondhand_Lion
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Posted: 11/16/2011 10:29:45 PM
^^^^There must have been at least a hundred threads on this topic, and thousands who swear others, trends, fads had any influence on their tats and holes. Actually, I can't recall a single person that admits to being a follower. I guess I'm very fortunate to have landed in the midst of thousands of originators in one place and time in modern culture. The only thing I've learned here is....when the shoe fits...everbody is barefooted. I hate to point this out, but read the second to the last paragraph in the above post starting with "I got curious". Oh yeah!...that's solid evidence that you wouldn't be influenced by others.

That's what I would call living in denial....but then again, I'm not young enough to know it all.

Give them enough rope and they will hang themselves.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 11/17/2011 1:51:45 PM

read the second to the last paragraph in the above post starting with "I got curious". Oh yeah!...that's solid evidence that you wouldn't be influenced by others.

That's what I would call living in denial....but then again, I'm not young enough to know it all.

I understand how hypocritical that statement might be to some, and I knew how certain people would take it when I wrote it. What you don't understand is that I had been thinking about doing it for a while, a long while, before having my conversation with her. I didn't do it BECAUSE she did. But whatever... you don't listen to anyone anyway.

I was 27 when I got my tattoo. I got it the day after my brother got his, and the same day my exhusband got his. I got it 11 yrs after I decided I wanted one... it took me that long to decide what I wanted.

I was 29 when I got the first piercing done. NONE of my friends or peer group had any.

Why did you start having sex, or driving, or dating, or drinking alcohol, or get married and have children? Or doing ANYTHING in your life? I'm sure someone, somewhere was doing it before you were... *rolls eyes*
 Secondhand_Lion
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:01:41 PM
^^^^I guess the same could be said for eating, breathing and sleeping. The key to having any debate would require that both or all parties be rational. When biological requirements to live or reproduce start getting confused with body art.....clearly, rational thought has left the room. To that I can only respond "what's the use"?
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 11/18/2011 8:21:38 AM

Of all the piercings I have had, the triangle was by far the most painful. I actually levitated up off the table I was lying on, even with two people holding me down. The pain was excruciating but only for a few seconds, and afterwards I had no pain at all.

When I had my first one done, I experienced the same "sting" and levitation. The pain was gone in about 30 seconds, and I wasn't aware of it 3 hrs later. That first pee stung a smidge tho.

My second was a VCH. It was not typical of most piercing experiences. There were so many *wrong* things that I ignored. Inexperienced piercer, wrong type of jewellery, etc. The piercing itself wasn't horrible, but she failed to tell me what she was doing and when she went to insert the jewellery, I flinched and she completely lost the hole. So she repierced it. It never stopped hurting and 5 days later I had it removed.

Bottom line.. do your own research. Know your body. Ask questions. Talk to the piercer. Visit the studio. Trust your gut instincts.

@Secondhandlion.. fine. Keep it to non-biological points then. Why wear skinny jeans? Why a cableknit sweater? Why do you like a certain color? Why anything... seriously. I don't view my body mods as being any different than getting my ears pierced or not wearing miniskirts. It's a part of my personality and who I am.
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