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 sand_water
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 51
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Yes. Usually people may celebrate being together for a year. But not 3 months. As for the birthday, yes he could have got you at least a card. But I wouldn't have expected anything major from him. Especially since this is a still relatively new relationship.
 dare2c4yourself
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 52
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/8/2011 2:06:32 PM
It's too soon to get all upset about this, and a very good friend of mine is one of those who forgets lots of things like that, he was not an elephant in any past lives LOL.
So give it time, don't put pressure or give hints, it's a turn off.
 drizzy77
Joined: 5/20/2010
Msg: 53
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/8/2011 2:10:49 PM
i think u are over reacting slightly with the "anniversary" dates..
i could understand the years thing but months.. na

Now for bdays, maybe u have apoint. But other circumstances could be at play. Maybe he didnt have the means to give u something. Maybe he feels like yall arent that serious yet...
or maybe he is just cheap..
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 54
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/8/2011 10:12:24 PM
Three months is WAY too soon to have to acknowledge any anniversaries---and at the time he wished you a happy birthday two weeks ago, you'd only been dating him for two and a half months.

Absolutely, you're overreacting---like a spoiled, self-entitled, little princess. I think you'd be doing him a favor if you dumped him, because then he'd be free to find another woman who's less high-maintenance. Epic Fail
 RazzleRoadRunner
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 55
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Posted: 6/8/2011 11:06:47 PM
OP.....where did you find this boyfriend? Are you renting him from Rent-A-Boyfriend Inc. if your paying his way most of the time. Just because you gift him, a date on the town with you, doesn't mean that he has the mental, emotional or financial capacity to gift you back in the same way and/or with the same amount of money.

If dating him is too much of a financial burden for you.........then stop spending so much on him, unless you want him to think you are his SugarMomma. Tell him you would like the expenses for dating to be divided more evenly.................as in you pay your way and he pays his own way on every date. If either or both of you can't afford a particular venue.........find something cheaper to do together.

And.......OH, WAH, WAH, WAH on the lack of a birthday present. I've never heard of anyone giving a birthday present to someone they've only known for 3 months. As for the anniversary gift..............geezus, I gotta find myself a dumb guy that will give me an anniversary gift for every 5 minutes that we are exclusive together.
 RubyWaxxx
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 56
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Posted: 6/9/2011 3:49:02 AM
^^He could have bought her a birthday gift and he could have joined in the celebrations. Buying a gift is hardly a big deal. I'd do it for someone I was working with, if I liked them. And you'd hope he likes her.
The anniversary thing is lame, but I'm an old hag so what would I know. Maybe if I was 20, I'd think it was normal.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/9/2011 6:37:35 AM
"Anniversary" = "The annually recurring date of a past event, especially one of historical, national, or personal importance"

Since it has not been one year, you have not had an anniversary yet.

He sounds like a pretty lame boyfriend. Why are you with him?
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 58
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/9/2011 8:13:55 AM
Find you a much older man with some cash........that wants to spoil you like a child.

Beware though, as he may come with a few "kinks".


 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 6/9/2011 11:45:46 AM
junkyard dawq

Great feedback!!! ,I will frame your message ..
 alexandramarymae
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 60
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 1:12:57 AM
to all the old women laughing at the fact shes upset he never cared for their anniversary, seriously no wonder your that age and still on a dating website, no one likes a negative person, especially a rude one.. and to liebejenni, the birthday thing in unacceptable, he should want to make you feel special. about the anniversary thing, i don't think its stupid.. its a fun excuse to go out and have time together. I say you explain to him how you feel, and if he doesn't get it, leave him before you get too attached , there's always "plenty of fish" in the sea :)
 RubyWaxxx
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 61
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Posted: 6/10/2011 1:47:57 AM
^^I think it's weirder for an 18-year-old to be on a dating site than for a middle-aged woman. But there you go...
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 62
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 2:51:27 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^ OMG double ditto.....

I didn't" stoop" myself until I was an OLD SEA HAG Lmaooooooooooooooooooooo

Who the hell under 45 needs extra help meeting people?

Only us "infirmed" ancient desperados that can't walk to get out da hoooooooose.

Wheres my hover round and depends..I wanna go out!
Call me a cab sister
Get me my alert bracelet and hearing aid that doesn't buzz when MJ goes Whoo.
Come on!!
The way you make me feel....

Wheres my snack cracker and ensure?..ooops I passed wind..pardon
* rubbing preparation H under my eyes and on my azz*
 MsMuscleChick
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 63
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 4:07:48 AM
3 months and you are having a melt down because he cannot remember the night he met you? Really? This is a bit childish. Worry about it in a year if it makes it that far. My personal opinion just from the text I see is he doesn't think of you to much. You also seem to not be the type to let him even say much first. He doesn't even know you that well. Why all this drama? Stop acting like a bunny boiler. Women like you are why men get scared & creeped out. Times, dates on everything. Geez.
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 6/10/2011 5:00:34 AM
to all the old women laughing at the fact shes upset he never cared for their anniversary, seriously no wonder your that age and still on a dating website, no one likes a negative person, especially a rude one.. and to liebejenni, the birthday thing in unacceptable, he should want to make you feel special. about the anniversary thing, i don't think its stupid.. its a fun excuse to go out and have time together. I say you explain to him how you feel, and if he doesn't get it, leave him before you get too attached , there's always "plenty of fish" in the sea :)


whoa, that's gotta be a record for one of the most arrogant and self-absorbed things i've ever heard a woman say on POF. gawd i guess your babyshoot must be lined with gold and smell just like beef jerky, because if you don't get your way there are plenty of other guys out there who are willing to perform on cue and as expected. OMG THAT'S LIKE SO AWESOME!!!

i may be ancient, but sonofa**** the alzheimer's hasn't quite kicked in yet. so i remember what it's like to be 18 and even at that ignorant know-it-all age, i didn't have an entitlement complex. so i can't figure out where all these #1s and #66s are coming from.... is it the ritalin they put on your frosted flakes or did you just spend too many years collecting "my little ponies" and watching cinderella reruns? not sure what it is with you people and your incessant demands to "feel special". whine much? disney princess, make your princess dreams come true. sparkle sparkle!
 llbmecb
Joined: 1/6/2011
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Posted: 6/10/2011 5:36:53 AM
Nope! He doen't want a committed relationship! I have a 24 years old son who recently did the same thing to the girl he is dating---Nothing for her birthday--I cann't believe she didn't dump him like a hot potatoe! He doesn't want to be the "boyfriend" but wants all the benifits that go along with being the boyfriend. Dump Him!
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 66
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 5:46:31 AM
It's the one-day 'anniversary' of the posting of this thread! Where's the cake?


Now that's just priceless. LMAO

I agree with everyones take on the 3 month anniversary thing. Get over it.

Her birthday should have been acknowledged by him in some fashion. He knew it was her birthday because he was invited to something she DID tell him about, and he did nothing. I say he's a cheap little douche and she should throw him back in the fish tank.
I like to fuss over people on their birthday. No matter who it is. Maybe it's my inner child, but I want to always keep a little of that Peter Pan mentality and never grow up TOO much, if you know what I mean. I think it's sad when someone thinks of their own birthday as just another day of the year, and don't feel some excitement over it anymore. To me, THAT is what getting old is, and I want no part of it. But it's even worse when your SO doesn't care and your special day means nothing to them either. My goodness, we only live once. Bring on the balloons, cake and confetti.
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 67
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 5:54:41 AM
OP
Yes I think your over-reacting and seem to have a need to be put on a pedestal..........you hardly know this guy....... I have to agree with what most everyone else has said........
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 68
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Posted: 6/10/2011 7:06:10 AM
Msg.66:
Now I got it why YOUNGER MEN ARE HITTING ON OLD WOMEN, I thought that young men are after tits & azz plus $$$$ but I was wrong, they are after their great attitude/mind on how they make their men special and not treating like a shyte because he forgot her birthday/ anniversary big deal.. complaining to him that she feel
bad that he is not kissing her Azz on her birthday as if he owes her the world.

An" old woman" when her birthday comes ,she'll cook special meal/cake for his man and tell him it is her birthday,she did not make him guilty instead she make him a special guest on her birthday, hey,she like bling bling/travel, better than a cheap flowers and that's what she got.
When their Anniversary comes she'll give her man a special gift and say Happy Anniversary Honey!!!* Not all men remember birthdays, anniversaries, ect,,*they have important things to do ,like their job,child support,of course they can vividly remember football game day and time ,beer bonding with buddies, but old women don't fault them for that.
Now you know,why young men just want to shagg young women , and they do old women for keeps..

<div class="quote"> seriously no wonder your (you're) that age and still on a dating website,no one like a negative person.
Frankly my dear, most of us have BFs we are only here for the forums...
Meh I would rather have a man who forgot birthdays, anniversay,christmas,new year but he carry his weight around the house , and put beef steaks on the table.

Vannili
PS You can demand to your father to put YOU on a pedestal and kowtow to you, but not somebody's son.. He doesn't owe you anything..
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 69
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 7:43:58 AM

to all the old women laughing at the fact shes upset he never cared for their anniversary, seriously no wonder your that age and still on a dating website, no one likes a negative person, especially a rude one.. and to liebejenni, the birthday thing in unacceptable, he should want to make you feel special. about the anniversary thing, i don't think its stupid.. its a fun excuse to go out and have time together. I say you explain to him how you feel, and if he doesn't get it, leave him before you get too attached , there's always "plenty of fish" in the sea
Welcome to the forums Alexandramarymae. If this is your first post in these forums, I personally can't wait to see your second.
 foreverstacey
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 6/10/2011 8:02:54 AM

Who the hell under 45 needs extra help meeting people?


To be fair, times are different NOW than they were when most of the over 45ers were 18. Personally, I don't know one person my age (24) that HASN'T tried internet dating. Sooooo... yeah. Just remember, things aren't the same anymore.
 ComplekCity
Joined: 1/17/2011
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/10/2011 8:24:44 AM

i guess your babyshoot must be lined with gold and smell just like beef jerky


BEEF JERKY ????????????????????

No thanks !

I'll pass on that !

 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 6/10/2011 8:25:11 AM
LUV YA cowgirl & Petunia

When I was 17 I have a mind of a 50 years woman ,I was not born that way , a
Spanish Duchess taught me that you don't demand the attention or material things from a man but make him special person and he'll you give the kingdom..

Now that I am 59,not bad of what I am and what I got..
 quantumenergy
Joined: 5/6/2010
Msg: 73
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 8:37:22 AM
Where I went to college, an anniversary marks the date of one year----12 months, 52 weeks or 365 days (except 366 on Leap Year).

Ok, so maybe I'm a little bit of a wise ass with that comment--yet with the intent of humor, some truth is said in jest. I wonder if getting a sense within yourself----ask yourself this question: Am I looking to measure milestones----day/month/date----or truly giving of myself into this relationship? Do I feel better as a person when with this guy? Am I proving something by staying with him if I don't feel more empowered and supported as a person?

Perhaps the guy doesn't count your first date to mark in his life---he may have the perspective of the date when he decided to stick with you for awhile and explore developing your relationship. Maybe offer him a gentle reminder----in a friendly, NOT nagging way--of what you enjoyed on your "First Date" and mention that day, month and year---see if he catches on :)

Best of luck!
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/10/2011 8:45:09 AM

to all the old women laughing at the fact shes upset he never cared for their anniversary,

Old is relative sweetheart and it comes with experience and you have a LONG way to go.
If you READ the posts then maybe you'd understand that an anniversary is something celebrated at each YEAR, not once a daym month.


seriously no wonder your that age and still on a dating website, no one likes a negative person, especially a rude one.


I think it's weirder for an 18-year-old to be on a dating site than for a middle-aged woman.
Yep that about covers it.
There is a difference between being rude and answering the OP's questions HONESTLY, but I'm guessing at your young self righteous age you still don't know the difference.


he should want to make you feel special.

The key word here is WANT.


about the anniversary thing, i don't think its stupid.. its a fun excuse to go out and have time together.

If you were OLD and feeble (lol) you'd realize we don't need EXCUSES to go out and have fun.



 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 75
Am I over reacting?
Posted: 6/10/2011 8:03:29 PM
@cowgirl & @petunias...I am still laughing my azz off and wiping the tears of hilarity...Thanks for the good laughs!
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