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 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 53
Tattoo of his ex-wife!Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Tsk tsk. This is yet another reminder why I would NEVER get a tattoo of my significant other, I couldn't care less how small the tatt is.

Couples get these tatts, end up splitting up and then are left to deal with ink of their ex that is still in the way. I know ex couples who either had the tatt removed, or changed to something else.

Shall you guys' relationship continue in the long run, and he hasn't yet gotten rid of the tatt, I would just bring it up to him.
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 54
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Posted: 6/17/2011 11:41:27 AM
My ex-wife was always pushing to have my initials on her back, and her name on my arm. I bet she is loving me for talking her out of it. As well as her name not appearing on my arm.
 ThatGuy1082
Joined: 8/23/2010
Msg: 56
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:12:23 PM
Good money wasted on a self imposed, invasive permanent scar with more than just ink leaving an impresion. I'd tell him. Bet he's thought about removing it several times, but that would leave another scar, cost money and be painful to boot. Hmmm. Just another reason to think logically and sleep on it before gettiong a tattoo I suppose.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 57
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 12:19:16 PM
LOL...reminds me of a meet n greet I had...actually second coffee...anyway, she had a tat from wrist to inside elbow...new...I took one look at that n said "self-we're outta here."

So, for "me" a discrete butterfly/flower/heart...ect...small...on a woman..is ok...but, a giant tattoo statement isn't working for me...and a tramp-stamp...ROFLMAO....not gonna happen in this lifetime...

So, the OP's B/F has a tat of the ex's face on his back...this is exactly why I tell the kids a paste on tattoo is OK...cause it washes off....the other kind...yer gonna live with the rest of your life.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 58
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 3:54:56 PM
Well good for him in having it covered up.
painful... but probably worth it from his perspective.

... however a mischievous thought occurred to me.
and being on the guy team I shouldn't mention it.
but when he's at the tattoo parlor...
have him put one of you on the other side.
heheh

That way if things don't pan out....
it will be the next girl's headache.
:-P
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 62
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 4:58:24 PM
OK I guess this has been discussed and decided upon... and I think he made a really generous offer. Generous to you.... or any other woman who feels that her face is a bit distracting.

Do I think anyone who puts the face or name of another lovah on their body needs to have a few brain cells jump started again....YUP. Would I date a guy who had such a piece of art emblazoned on his body.... NOPE.

And gotta come to the defense of TDH49, though he doesn't need nor ask for it.... I have missed you, my Forumite "friend"..... He is speaking to an audience who, IMHO doesn't care what you think. *as any true Forum poster knows is the only way to survive here.....

Take what he says and remove any feelings of being singled out aside.... After all, you came here and asked a question, and you should know "the risks" in doing so.

He made some very valid points. First and only of which I will discuss is that you have only been exclusive with this guy for 2 months. Discussing something as painful and permanent as tattoo removal/re-working should be left to those who are ingrained in a serious and long term relationship. Sure, I get wanting to know where he stands, but feeling like you have a SAY in what he does is a bit premature.

That said, I'm glad you were adult enough to let him know how you felt and that he was willing to do something that would appease you both.

Carry on.............



bullie~
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 63
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:49:11 PM
it's one thing to have an opinion, it's truly another to make slams against someone you do not know. You are the only participant here who has done that.
You have a sense of humor OP I have to give you that. Oh Wait you were serious with this comment?....Just a sec let me go look back at a few of YOUR post in this thread.


Your past relationships must not have had much intimacy involved, because in answer to your question... Yes, i do look at my boyfriends body all the time, every lovely piece of it... in bed while I hold him from behind, in the shower while i wash his back, while i straddle his waist so i can massage him.... Fact is... you seem like it's been awhile since you have had any of that... it must be where all your negativitiy comes from. Sad for you.
Lets start here shall we?


Obviously some posters need some real intimacy in their lives.
Move on to here.


Your responses are greatly appreciated!!!... some more strangely bitter and antagonistic than others, but there will always be some strangeness when dealing with the masses.
Then there is this little gem.


Some people are so quick to add their judgmental two cents that they don't even bother making an informed comment.
Yea lady I am the one making personal slams against someone I don't know. You come here asking for opinions and all you have been doing is taking very personal shots at everyone that dare to have a different opinion that yours. You want only views that agree with yours maybe in the future you should start a blog and stay away from public forums. In a blog you will get the validation you crave while here you will actually get opinions that's different then yours. Here you need a much tougher skin, something you very well may be lacking.
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 64
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 5:55:55 PM
And gotta come to the defense of TDH49, though he doesn't need nor ask for it.... I have missed you, my Forumite "friend"..... He is speaking to an audience who, IMHO doesn't care what you think. *as any true Forum poster knows is the only way to survive here.
You are much too kind. You are always welcome on my defence team, at least I know I'm being well represented.
 LatinLadyToo
Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 65
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/17/2011 6:24:54 PM
Tattooes are painful to get and more painfull to remove.

He could have it covered with another one. This is very common.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 66
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Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/18/2011 7:57:45 AM
A tattoo the size the OP is talking about could cost about $1000 a square inch to remove,could take many sessions and may still leave scarring in the shape of the original tatoo,,,,,,,,,,,,,


A mother advice> I hope you MEN learned your lesson that you don't inked the face of a woman who gave you gratification of your horniness on any part of your body,for it will be a big and costly problem to the next woman, so just be content to have a little picture developed at Walmart and put in your wallet,if the relationship goes south just shred the picture and plush it in the Toilet..
PS. In the height of your passion don't even think to tattoo her face behind your nut for that is part of "Every Lovely Piece of your body, if you happen to have a woman like the OP that she check every part of your body,( I hope she doesn't scrub your lovely nut) it is a big problem, okay?
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 69
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/18/2011 5:14:49 PM
why don't you get a tattoo of his d!ck on your t!t?

That way, when you spoon, it will look like she's giving him a BJ!

Just like in the good old days!


How do you come up with this stuff? That's funny.


For real. Jayzus, you must be a buzz kill!
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 70
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/18/2011 10:26:43 PM

You want only views that agree with yours maybe in the future you should start a blog and stay away from public forums. In a blog you will get the validation you crave while here you will actually get opinions that's different then yours. Here you need a much tougher skin, something you very well may be lacking.
I was only half joking when I wrote this. Now it seems the Op went and deleted her profile. If anybody knows where she started her blog please let me know?
 LaraBernal
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/19/2011 1:30:04 AM
I agree with this view point. Two months into this you are already trying to change him? Already upset about something that happened in the past? Yes, the tattoo is there, but what woman is he with now? OH, that's you. How about stop making his past decisions about you-you were not anywhere in the "picture" when this took place. We all have to accept that those we date have a past. And we are not a part of that past, but that past is a part of them. Look at the bright side-he was committed enough to believe that it would last the rest of his life. At least it says he is passionate about the person he is with. That person is now you.
 Rocketeer309
Joined: 4/5/2011
Msg: 72
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/19/2011 6:13:21 PM
Make him get a tattoo of you in his chest ^_^
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 73
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/19/2011 6:54:06 PM
TDH, I guess the OP didn't like any viewpoints that conflicted with her own, took her marbles and went home.

NEXT...
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/20/2011 3:04:00 PM
Cover up tattoo is the best bet here. A lot less expensive then removal.
 totum_spirit
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 76
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/20/2011 6:06:18 PM
That is why to tattoo a name of anyone on your body is a stupid idea. Your parents and your children are the only ones in the world that sticks with you until you die. So anyone elses name is a dumb idea.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 80
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/22/2011 4:22:45 AM
That must suck to have the face of the other woman on your boyfriends body.Personally I would just hightail it out of there,but that's just me.


Men are like buses.Wait 10 minutes and another will come along.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 81
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/22/2011 5:36:53 AM

clearly it means something in the future, as the opening poster is dealing with quite the hurdle.

he didn't even think/care about the future....not a good sign in my opinion. i'd pass on by and maybe he can find a woman with her ex's name tatoo'd on her breast.


Even when you buy a piece of art you can always sell it, throw it away, hide it in the attic/garage/basement. But, with a tattoo it's pretty hard to get rid of...even with laser removal..if I understand it correctly...there's discolored skin in the exact shape of the removed tattoo....so, a choice one makes today to have a tattoo...better be a really good one because, generally speaking, it's the choice of a lifetime...no divorcing that one easily.

A well hidden tat can be tasteful...but, someone elses name, face, or the alltime fav the tramp stamp...is pretty hard to explain to the next lover....
 richie90731
Joined: 6/19/2011
Msg: 82
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/22/2011 12:32:08 PM
haha thats what you get when you go for guys just because they have tats. u got what we call owned!
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 83
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/22/2011 12:46:36 PM
Oh gawd to think of all the men burning my face off their back with holy water.
It burns It burns!!!

Kayla..you beez baaaaaaad
 maryb1956
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 85
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Posted: 6/22/2011 6:12:04 PM
he had a past life before you...learn to live with it.
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 86
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Posted: 6/22/2011 6:23:32 PM
I have a tattoo of a map. It shows where all my money is kept. But you have to look at the map before you get to the money. You know where the map is? Only joking my friends....
 leadpipe1958
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 87
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/23/2011 5:39:45 AM
Tattoo a mustache and beard on her or make it cross eyed.something to get it to be your tattoo. Tattoo are just trouble when you put another person on you.AN ex-girlfriend wanted to tattoo my name on her neck I told her no.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 88
Tattoo of his ex-wife!
Posted: 6/23/2011 6:21:55 AM
What would be scarier is if the guy had tattoos of women's faces all over his body-women he slept with in the past, and is leaving a area blank to put a tat of your face and other future lover's faces.
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