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 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 44
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First you cavalierly perform fellatio on a man out in the parking lot at your place of employment---and then you wonder why he appears to be backing off, and if you've ruined any relationship potential?

He's probably thinking that you've played the pink piccolo with other men at your job, and are comparing their penis sizes against each other. Yes, I'd venture to say you blew it---in more ways than one!
 foreverstacey
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 45
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Posted: 6/21/2011 3:19:24 PM
At a NEW job none the less too... just so you know, they can fire you for any reason what so ever before your three month probation period is over.. which includes, and is not limited to, giving a co worker a BJ out in the store parking lot.. which is the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/21/2011 3:27:02 PM
"Where do I go from here?"

Don't shut down that job search just yet.

And when you move on (whether it's by your choice, or when you get fired for that BJ on the premises), remember to try to avoid having sex with your co-workers. Bill Clinton notwithstanding, it IS sex.

~Sitting back and waiting for the next troll post~
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 47
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Posted: 6/21/2011 4:07:05 PM
I have concluded one thing, after others have pointed out the many different posts by this person..whomever they are...they have real problems.

Troll post, after troll post.who knows what they really look like.

I can only pity them.

The internet is all they have to seek attention from?
 gentlewm
Joined: 12/18/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 6/21/2011 8:26:04 PM
wow, why do all the young beautiful girls have paper for brains? I just find it incredible, what is wrong with you lady, get some values, do you want to be a slut. grow up
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 6/21/2011 8:42:46 PM

he's been quieter. He doesn't text me as much


Sure sounds to me like after your kiss at your car, that woke him up and is now trying to figure out for himself what to do about you. Does he keep it as things are right now or, evovle it to a relationship?


I've never been in a situation like this before. I have a huge crush on him


NOW you understand why office worker dating is frowned upon. When a dispute erupts in a relationship and they work together, it makes it rather difficult to take break from it and think about what happened.


Did I ruin any relationship potential?


Of course you didn't ruin anything it's just that, he now needs time.
 Skotch
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 50
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Posted: 6/22/2011 9:55:06 AM
I haven't even finished reading the first page and it seems that more than half of you think all guys that get some in an adventurous fashion are pigs. OP has taken things slow, the guy has probably shown patience as a result, he's probably not just looking for a brag at the work place. He might however be uncomfortable about commitment but now that you've gotten a little more touchy feely he's thinking that he's got to either step up or step out.


I would walk right up to him, and privately ask him what the deal is. Not nagging or nasty, just curious. He may be unsure how you feel, but if he's going to be an azz about it, I find it's good to know right up front.


As a guy, if I'm unsure about taking the next step, this may well scare me away. I'd say give him some space, don't assume he's off telling every other guy in the place that you fooled around. FFS, don't assume that there's anything wrong with that. Women's lib is not about protecting yourself from being called a slut, its from taking ownership of the fact that you can be sexually active and it not be a bad thing. Of course you're not going to go around sleeping with a bunch of people in your work place immediately to try to make him jealous. That's just stupid to think that as an intelligent person you'd do that.

Don't be ashamed of what you did, don't assume you have to do it again without some movement from him in the right direction either. Its your body. As long as you're responsible about it you set your rules.
 Skotch
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 51
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Posted: 6/22/2011 10:18:00 AM
Just playing the devil's advocate here...
If some gets head, are they a virgin if they've never gotten anything else in their life? I mean, is it like a murderous act without actually killing the person, therefor attempted murder but still not technically be a killer?

I could really care less. I'm god damn 34 years old in either definition I haven't had to worry about it in a long time, but whatever.

I didn't look at the OP's forum history. I look through these forums mainly because I like intelligent conversation. I take their word for whatever they're saying, even if they're lying I'm looking for the intelligent conversation, not to solve their problems with my miraculous advice. So here we go, obviously the OP is full of it, but lets go back to the original problem in a theoretical perspective.

Said girl has been looking to date said guy that she works with in a part time job. They've been taking it slow mainly because of scheduling constraints, but slow nonetheless. They got frisky in the workplace parking lot and she gave him head. He's backed off and she's not sure why now.

This isn't a guy she just met. This hasn't been a habitual thing in her past. I'm not going to pass judgement on how she wants to act sexually, but it seems like 75% of you think that giving head (or receiving for that matter) is restricted for long term commitment. I mean, what constitutes an acceptable time for sex? Call me a pig but I kinda like sex. I'm only going to go about it with someone I am in a relationship with or at least think I'm on the brink of starting a relationship with, but I'm not going to look down on those others who are a bit looser with their standards. I don't like chili either. I don't look down on those that do.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 52
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Posted: 6/22/2011 10:28:02 AM

This isn't a guy she just met. This hasn't been a habitual thing in her past. I'm not going to pass judgement on how she wants to act sexually, but it seems like 75% of you think that giving head (or receiving for that matter) is restricted for long term commitment. I mean, what constitutes an acceptable time for sex? Call me a pig but I kinda like sex. I'm only going to go about it with someone I am in a relationship with or at least think I'm on the brink of starting a relationship with, but I'm not going to look down on those others who are a bit looser with their standards. I don't like chili either. I don't look down on those that do.


Hey man..click on the history link under the original posters initial post..review it for a bit, then come back and tell us what you think? K?

Or..hail the person up and date them..bet we see a post about you with an hour of the date..this one, if she is actually real, needs some serious intervention by trained professionals.
 daddyjoe1973
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 53
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Posted: 6/22/2011 7:28:29 PM
hes just regrouping probaly not sure wat to do his self!
 daddyjoe1973
Joined: 6/5/2011
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Posted: 6/22/2011 7:31:36 PM
And ant a damn thing wrong with u haven a relotionship with a coworker hell its exciting! just b cautious
 hitmewithyorbestshot
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 55
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Posted: 6/22/2011 7:35:49 PM
My guess would be he lost respect for you and himself. Move on.
 Sportsfreak89
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 56
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Posted: 6/22/2011 11:40:51 PM
As one other poster said, I think he's confused. My advice would be to have a private talk with him and ask him where he thinks you two stand. Tell him not to hold back either. If you like what you hear, make something happen. If you don't like what you hear, then salvage what you can and go from there.
 nicol3y
Joined: 6/10/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/22/2011 11:54:52 PM

We didn't have sex, I gave him head.

You left nothing to the imagination, and he lost all respect for you. Oral sex is still sex.
 foreverstacey
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/23/2011 8:52:12 AM

And ant a damn thing wrong with u haven a relotionship with a coworker hell its exciting! just b cautious


There is when you're giving him a BJ in the work parking lot when she's NEW to the job too. They can easily fire her for that.
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