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 nfynetquest
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 26
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Have been on both sides of the stick, so to say.... found it pleasurable both ways.
As for me accomadating my lover, it thrilled me and excited me that he could experience a different aspect of having a orgasm, it took some learning and listening to him on my part, we have now decided to try some Ben-Wa balls, should be interesting. This was on his suggestion that we try it, I don't believe that badgering or forcing any kind of sexual play on another has any benefit for either party.

As for my experience with anal sex , I have found it very pleasurable if the man takes the time to know what he is doing by listening to me, and really paying attention to what he is feeling when inside me. Double penetration, with a vibrator in my vagina has sent my lover to a place he said he has never experienced because of the anal penetration and the vibrations he could feel through the wall of my vagina at the same time. It was and will be a fantastic addition to our sexual satisfaction together.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 27
Pegging, from the woman's perspective
Posted: 7/7/2011 8:00:47 PM
Whytwater, I helped a longtime play partner fulfill that particular fantasy this past weekend. He very much enjoyed himself... Me? I was thinking about how best to ensure that he had a good time, being careful not to hurt him by pushing him too far, but also pushing his limits just a tad because that's what he wanted. It didn't "do anything for me" except that I was glad to help him out. It was a pretty intense experience for his GF, though. She hadn't wanted to be his first, but she watched and learned, and I think she is still trying to figure out if she could or would do that for him.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/12/2011 9:13:29 PM
With the exception of a handful of beautifully bold ladies, who offered their good thoughts, and one other pof lady I know could have, nobody seems willing to discuss this topic openly. Can it be that pegging a man is really that rare, or unspeakable? Do you really think men would flee the feline who relished the practice?
Pegging, the latest Final Frontier?
Guess none of us can know.
 4gr8tfun
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/27/2011 9:17:51 PM
Well to bad you are so far away :-)
 bonniegirl75
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/28/2011 8:24:17 AM
There are vibrators designed to stay in the rectum. Let one of those do its work a few minutes. I have done this and the response is amazing. For me, there is also a power aspect to it, I like being in control and riding that line between extreme pleasure and pain.
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/18/2011 7:32:02 PM
I have a lady friend with a strap on. She likes the Domme/sub role play and she says there is a visual turn on for her as well. I like a good prostate massage during a BJ or hand job and will admitt to being more than a little curious about getting pegged. I've asked her but she says I'm not ready, what ever that means.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/19/2011 10:01:42 AM

My question here targets just that, her "take" on the activity, or the path to or away from it, not the morality, indecency, health concerns or rumors, or snide commentary that too often attends the subject.

I have done it... I'm sure that doesn't surprise you Whytwater. How'd I get to that point? I was asked. Plain and simple. The FB asked me at some point, don't even remember when it was... but he mentioned it and I took it and ran. Went out and bought a harness, toys and lube. As PV has already mentioned.. it was quite interesting to see his reaction. The idea he was opening himself up to me in that very vulnerable way.. and liking it.. was.. wow.

I've had a few partners since that have enjoyed it. I have the harness as well as a Feeldoe... and frankly prefer just to use my hands to explore. There's no direction sensation for me with the harness and toys, and it's hard to judge if you've gone too far too fast unless the man says something... which he should. Just like any anal exploration, good clear communication between partners is important. I toy can't tell if you need more lube, or if the muscles haven't relaxed sufficiently yet.

What do I get out of it? Besides wet panties and a happy partner? Meh.. not much. Having a happy, squirming, moaning, groaning, wriggling man before me IS pleasurable for me. That is what I seek. That causes the wet panties.

If he wants it, I'm more than happy to provide it.
 boredintheboonies
Joined: 7/27/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/19/2011 10:56:12 AM
If the man is into it, I will accomodate him from the giving perspective. I am not one for receiving, just a matter of personal taste.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/20/2011 12:39:51 PM

I have a lady friend with a strap on. She likes the Domme/sub role play and she says there is a visual turn on for her as well. I like a good prostate massage during a BJ or hand job and will admitt to being more than a little curious about getting pegged. I've asked her but she says I'm not ready, what ever that means.


I suspect she's thinking unready more in terms of the dom/sub stuff than pegging, but I'm guessing. Pegging can be part of that lifestyle, but it's not owned by anybody, and I see it as just another, and for me, novel, way for two humans, hetero humans, to be especially intimate, and erotic (as No 1 BBY's post graphically summarizes), and as Kaylie's post (with the post she alludes to, which I recommend, lol) likewise endorses. Kinda like learning to ride a bike, that first time the training wheels come off, a major Jolt/Kick (with the right partner!


If the man is into it, I will accomodate him from the giving perspective. I am not one for receiving, just a matter of personal taste.


I get the "personal taste" part, but some tastes are the acquired kind, i.e., like coffee, or martinis, it takes more than one lick for the "taste" to kick in. And I think, if you're approaching it as "accommodating", you might be missing part of the sharing/shared experience upside that explains part of my own appetite. As Onemoondance explained, "driving" can be distracting at first, lotsa stuff can be running through a lady's head. Both of my previous partners used a double-ended tool, so there were definitely some physical sensations, not to be ignored, emanating from her pvssy while she was stirrring my insides. I wanted it to be a team sport, not a favor, and ime, whether it was choice of toy or the particular dynamics between the parties (iers) involved, from what I could sense or hear, I think it definitely buzzed all the players. lol
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2011 1:00:19 PM

I get the "personal taste" part, but some tastes are the acquired kind, i.e., like coffee, or martinis, it takes more than one lick for the "taste" to kick in.

Again.. having a partner willing to explore the pleasure of their own body is intoxicating... not being caught up in what others might think if they knew.

*spoken as a recent coffee addict*


And I think, if you're approaching it as "accommodating", you might be missing part of the sharing/shared experience upside that explains part of my own appetite. As Onemoondance explained, "driving" can be distracting at first, lotsa stuff can be running through a lady's head.

"Accommodating" anyone one is ok on occasion.. Eventually, if you don't find an interest in something your partner enjoys, it will become a chore. Not at all enjoyable.


Both of my previous partners used a double-ended tool, so there were definitely some physical sensations, not to be ignored, emanating from her pvssy while she was stirrring my insides. I wanted it to be a team sport, not a favor, and ime, whether it was choice of toy or the particular dynamics between the parties (iers) involved, from what I could sense or hear, I think it definitely buzzed all the players. lol

This is why I got the Feeldoe. I was looking for some stimulation on my part, and ultimately he'd like for me to orgasm while pegging him. So far.. not such luck.

As for the visual... it's lovely to watch him ride the Feeldoe as I lay on my back and enjoy it. Ride 'em cowboy!!!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/20/2011 3:12:32 PM
I get your position. But is he facing you or facing AWAY from you???


Can be any way/position that he penetrates you, and if memory serves, you've got some "cowboy", or c-girl, experience yourself. With pretty much the same upsides you experience.


And...does he want stimulation on his penis at same time? Like with his hand or yours?


I do- yeah, still stuck on that. Guess I need more experience, to connect all the synapses to direct wire/transmit the -O- to the brain. lol There's lots of good info on all this on fetlife, and whole herds of guys looking for women to partner up with them for this sport. And on that site, it barely qualifies as a kink.


Or is that too personal a Q?


Awwwwww. On of the premier "personal" posters on this whole site has ta ask that question?


I had not thought of it as you being able to be on the bottom... Then again I don't knwo what a feeldoe is. lol (but I"m guessing has something for you at your end)


Fun Factory makes a feeldoe, pliable material with a long shaft to penetrate him, a shorter, squatter one for the pvss, and angled so that it fits in the "standard" positions (not sure about, like, side-saddle and stuff, lol). The one I got has no vibe, but you can get them with bullets that are insertable into the toy. (sometimes the vibe is good, sometimes better without). California Exotic has what they call simply a "Dual Harness", both sticks buzz independently controlled (just one controller though, like your tv, same issues, lol)

You should def'ly get "into" this, K.


Again.. having a partner willing to explore the pleasure of their own body is intoxicating... not being caught up in what others might think if they knew.

*spoken as a recent coffee addict*


Right on, Babe, and that works both ways.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/21/2011 5:26:40 PM

Ok, now you've got me curious. I get your position. But is he facing you or facing AWAY from you??? And...does he want stimulation on his penis at same time? Like with his hand or yours?

Or is that too personal a Q?

I had not thought of it as you being able to be on the bottom... Then again I don't knwo what a feeldoe is. lol (but I"m guessing has something for you at your end)

Facing me. Hand on his penis. HE needs the stimulation... has said while anal/prostate stimulation is good, it feels awkward without the penis being stimulated too.

http://www.feeldoe.com/page2.html - I have the Stout version... with the bullet vibe.

Feeldoe isn't made by Fun Factory.. they make the Share - http://www2.funfactory.de/tags/7#!url=/product_codes/25064&

Same concept. It's a harness free *strap on* that has more stimulation to offer the woman using it, as compared to a strap on harness. There are lots of them out there.

Yeah.. Fet is an interesting place.. and pegging is not out of the ordinary.
 Jypzee
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/21/2011 10:37:08 PM
some guys like it, some ask for it, some like it when they r asked about it, and how do i, as a woman feel about delivering it? i think its hot
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 8/22/2011 6:23:03 PM
"I suspect she's thinking unready more in terms of the dom/sub stuff than pegging, but I'm guessing."
No, that would not be it. We've "played" before, several times, and as we are both switches, we've both had turns at being Dom and sub.
 runknown2004
Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 40
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Posted: 8/22/2011 7:04:47 PM
I have tried to get my wife to massage my prostate but she won't do it. I have used her toys on myself and found it feels great. A female friend told me she massages a guys prostate so that he has his orgasm faster and she can go onto better things. I wish a woman would do it to me and i love it.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 8/23/2011 6:28:39 PM

I have tried to get my wife to massage my prostate but she won't do it. I have used her toys on myself and found it feels great. A female friend told me she massages a guys prostate so that he has his orgasm faster and she can go onto better things. I wish a woman would do it to me and i love it.


Hmmm, married "seeking intimate encounter". That's probably hard enough, but your opportunities will only be further diminished if your efforts are as simplistically couched as "looking for some woman to peg my ass", lol.
Crocodile Dundee can make a notoriously ill-tempered water buffalo lie down for him just by pointing forked fingers and looking the beast in the eye. Not many, certainly not I, have that witchy power, soooo, my best recommendation is-
1. If you're unwilling to forego this pegging thing, and determined to get it done by someone, approach and treat your target as a human (above all), and not some device that can penetrate you with the flick of a switch. Kinda like, "lead with your left", ya know; and,
2. Try to see things through your wife's eyes, or your "target's", which is pretty much the point of this thread (in a narrowed way).
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
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Posted: 9/3/2011 1:52:35 PM
Like someone said to me - Gee, Doc, why do you have both hands on my shoulders?
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 9/17/2011 11:39:25 AM
^^^^^Lol. A woman I know has a bumper sticker, all black, with a white silhouette of a pony-tailed girl on all fours, and it says, "If You're Gonna Ride My Ass, At Least Pull My Hair!"
I'd get one, or maybe the tshirt, cuz that's playful and really cute, but, I'd hafta change the silhouette around some, so as to discourage the real dyks. lol
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 9/17/2011 3:28:46 PM

I’ve heard that’s becoming popular with the bdsm crowd. Something to do with domination and screaming. Around here they call it Fargo-ing. As in “she weren’t puttin’ out no more so I fargoed the wench.”


Re: Sounding: Yes, I know people in my BDSM community who do this. They love it. I've not seen it done in person, but I've seen the pictures of one of my friends blissed out by it. Context is important, as is one's individual interests in this realm. I assure you there are people who thoroughly enjoy being sounded.

Re: Pegging: I've done it, though not in quite a while. It was power-neutral for me with my ex, and his idea. We both loved it. It felt really intimate to me in a way that I didn't get to see him open up during more standard PIV penetration, and he always came really hard afterwards (never during, but lots of guys do). I enjoyed the gender role flip and the bullet vibe that came with the set we had. I didn't find I needed to be excessively careful with him--I certainly started out so, but then soon learned that he could take it just fine. I hadn't been sure I'd like it at all, but I was usually the one asking about doing it again. It was good times for us.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 9/19/2011 10:37:34 AM

I've not seen it done in person


I just saw a vid, on fetlife, of a guy doing himself, for several minutes, fully erect through its entirety. Didn't at all feel that "go for it" twitch, not even a tremor.



I hadn't been sure I'd like it at all, but I was usually the one asking about doing it again. It was good times for us.


That's a right-on description of my take on the practice.

Hey, thanks for contributing. Responses to this thread come like lawyers go to heaven- slowly and one at a time. lol
 laidbackdd
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 9/30/2011 9:40:03 AM
I'd love to try it. Sounds hot to me..

take care,
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 47
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Posted: 9/30/2011 3:52:45 PM
^^^^ wanting a WOMAN to do something sexual to you is homoerotic?^^^^
So would this line of reasoning also apply to recieving oral sex from a woman, or preforming anal sex on a woman? And what of hand jobs? Can we assume then that even masturbation could be homoerotic?
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 10/1/2011 10:13:12 AM

I'm personally turned off by anal play. Not because I'm homophobic, but for aesthetic reasons---I find the idea of manipulating an orifice that's primarily used for defecation to be repellent



Just stumbled over that gem of erm,,,,wisdom?? on post 4

So, if its purely something for waste disposal and that makes it off limits I am guessing thats a woman who would also cringe at the idea of oral sex too in either direction too as piss is also a waste product and lets not beat around the bush (fnarrr fnarr) menstruation is also a waste product too

so gee, that would really cut down her "scope" for sex by quite a bit

Holding hands should be fine though, as long as niether person has been to the toilet in the preceeding 24 hours of course :)
 austin7087
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/1/2012 3:48:03 PM
I agree that it has nothing to do with being gay. I have never had it done to me, but I must say it gets me aroused thinking about it. I think it's more about being able to be totally vulnerable and being able to trust your partner. I think that would create an emotional orgasm for a man too. There again, exploring this with a new partner is like a forbidden kinda thing. Not so emotional, but I could almost cum thinking about it. I am very interested in trying this with the right woman. I think I would rather have her take me with a double headed dildo, one for a beginner(SMALL). I LOVE to give oral and massages, and it is very important to me that she is enjoying herself as well.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
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Posted: 1/2/2012 6:50:55 AM
Well, you wouldn't have to turn your prostate exams into your insurance.
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