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 dottieprincess
Joined: 2/16/2011
Msg: 26
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I say Amen sister!! I once had a guy dump me when I was 38 for a hot 50 year old. I agree with you she should go for it. Shes attractive and it sounds like he is interested in her.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 27
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:57:12 PM
Op, how old is your pic?

For everyone who is saying she looks great for her age...Im confused...what if she didnt look great should she crawl under a rock?

Attraction is attraction...if she is attracted to him then she should let him know...rejection wont kill you...ask the guys they deal with it alot of times. :P
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
Msg: 28
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/3/2011 11:03:12 PM
My age is not attractive?


It's not your age that makes you unattractive, it's lying about it with seemingly no qualms.


About my age, yes this website says I am 45, as it apparently would until I'm 70. I could delete and repost my profile changing my age but I don't think this type of guy would care either way.


OT

If you want to ask him out, wait until after the job is completed. Don't put him in a difficult position by asking him out earlier.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 29
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My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/3/2011 11:49:33 PM
I just turned 50 and am hesitant to think a guy in his 40's would be interested in someone my age.


Yet on here it says you are 45? LIAR! Why the games?

You age changes every year on the website. A year from now it will show 46.
Your credibility is shot.Once you start lying about one thing you cast in doubt everything you have ever said.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/4/2011 1:57:59 AM
I don't agree with anyone here...must be my age. Why do you have to be the one going for it, is he some sort of timid whimp? Wouldn't you like to know if he would have ever ask you out without it being your idea?....at 50, you can't be that short on patience or curiosity. Hitting on him first may get you laid fairly quick, but if he makes the move on you, there is a hell of a lot better chance for some long term. Maybe todays man is different, but I need a little challenge to keep my interest up....anything less is just a roll in the hay. If that's where YOUR interest lies as well, then do what everyone here is suggesting and go for it....I'm sure he will take you up on your offer for at least one reason.
 gardenias2
Joined: 1/13/2011
Msg: 31
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 2:13:01 AM
if you look anywhere near as good as your pof photo here, and if he's single he will be thrilled if you bust a move. go for it!
 mr_ultimo
Joined: 6/26/2011
Msg: 32
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 4:02:16 AM
You lied about your age, who knows if we are even seeing current photos. I would stay away from dating hired help and go to socials and try meeting guys your age. Grow up and act your age.
 Vamperella
Joined: 4/27/2010
Msg: 33
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 6:29:13 AM
Does the word 'cougar' have any bearing here??....or is that so last year?

Damn chick....are you going to let us know how you got on??...it's been almost 2 months since you posted this 'dilemma' you appear to have, and i'm curious to know if you or he took a shot at it
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/4/2011 7:18:36 AM
When the work is finished, and you give him the last payment, ask him out. Before then, it could get awkward if he says no or you don't hit it off and the job's not done. He may feel compelled to say no until then, but may want to say yes.

Anyway, it's not an age that is attractive or not - it's the person. He seems receptive, but it could also be professional persona. However, nothing ventured, nothing gained! Good luck!
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
Msg: 35
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 7:33:11 AM

been almost 2 months since you posted this 'dilemma' you appear to have,


She posted this query yesterday.
 MsMuscleChick
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 36
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 7:34:32 AM
Why do you have 45 on your profile?

Why worry about your age? It is what it is.

I think you need to start with being honest with your own self first.

Maybe he just was not attracted to you.
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 37
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 7:48:07 AM
I don't think age difference is the issue, here. BTW, there are a gazillion threads on that topic. You asked if YOUR age is unaatractive.

Age is neither attractive nor unattractive, in and of itself.

What is your undoing is your desperation to be affirmed as attractive ... Your thinly veiled attempt to draw attention to yourself and the eau du desparation stemming from your deceit and blithe rationalization of your ability to lie and dismiss it as the fault of someone other than yourself.

Those character traits (not your appearance - because it is tough to know what a liar would post as a pic, anyway), are what ultimately reveal an inner ugliness in one's soul.
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 38
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 9:05:50 AM
What is truly unattractive is the fact you lie about your age in your profile.

Can we or anyone really believe what you say.

It may seem like a small lie to you but to others it shows you are willing to lie if you think it benefits you.
 AxMurderer
Joined: 5/30/2011
Msg: 39
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 11:04:34 AM
Just go for it. Seems like he's possibly interested.
 ocean_park
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 40
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 11:30:02 AM
Ask him out and see what happens. You have nothing to lose.
 Skotch
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/4/2011 12:09:27 PM
Just FYI, she says that her age never changes on pof and therefore its stayed 45. Seems either she's lying about that or its buggy.

Either way, this guy she's interested in is NOT on pof, so he's not being deceived.

here's some ways this can go down, assuming you ask him after the job is done and the bill is paid.

(1) he's genuinely not interested, married, taken, etc. Says "no", happens to me all the time!
(2) he's embarrassed that some old nag asked him out, "as if!" You didn't want to date someone who would react like that anyway.
(3) he hadn't considered it until you asked. He could at that point be flustered and say one thing or another. Just remind him that he has your number if he changes his mind.
(4) he says yes.

No result there seems life threatening or heart wrenching. Take a chance.
 Megan06825
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 42
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 12:18:35 PM

Why do you have to be the one going for it, is he some sort of timid whimp? Wouldn't you like to know if he would have ever ask you out without it being your idea?....at 50, you can't be that short on patience or curiosity. Hitting on him first may get you laid fairly quick, but if he makes the move on you, there is a hell of a lot better chance for some long term. Maybe todays man is different, but I need a little challenge to keep my interest up....anything less is just a roll in the hay. If that's where YOUR interest lies as well, then do what everyone here is suggesting and go for it....I'm sure he will take you up on your offer for at least one reason Why do you have to be the one going for it, is he some sort of timid whimp? Wouldn't you like to know if he would have ever ask you out without it being your idea?....at 50, you can't be that short on patience or curiosity. Hitting on him first may get you laid fairly quick, but if he makes the move on you, there is a hell of a lot better chance for some long term. Maybe todays man is different, but I need a little challenge to keep my interest up....anything less is just a roll in the hay. If that's where YOUR interest lies as well, then do what everyone here is suggesting and go for it....I'm sure he will take you up on your offer for at least one reason
agreed, you look great, you must have men approaching you on a regular basis, why not say "yes" to one of them?
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/4/2011 12:29:01 PM
I don't know about age attractiveness ,perhaps it depends where I'll meet a guy.
If he is doing a business deal with me I'll put OFF the single woman ,man thing first...
I want to have a run of my money,that the guy should concentrate with full attention on his job for me.. Besides a good working man (professionalism) when on the job their mind is on one tract to do the job right and get done. What my take with a man is, it is not because we don't have the same genitalia we don't have a the same mind set...
For me if a person is acting in a unclient way I will assumed that he is trying to waylaid me not to pay for my services and materials for the work on his property, kinda take out and trade, nooo,it's not happening for me,business is business, so to speak I don't shyte where I eat.....

Men are visual they care more on the obvious ,intelligence,comely tits& azz than reading the fine print of a birth certificate....

So after his job,perhaps I'll call and invite him for a lovely dinner in my house,wearing a nice black body hugging velvet spaghetti straps with a front slit up to the crotch and see what happened..............................................................
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 44
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 12:49:03 PM
No no I get that Holly, I'm saying in this case, lots of folks are harping that she lied on her profile, yeah I get that but that has nothing to so with the man who is renovating her place and they didn't meet on POF is what im saying.

She might be a liar on here regarding the age thing, and like I said her present situation has nothing to with her profile.

Even if she deletes and constructs a new profile with her proper age that still doesn't address what does she do with this guy she is interested in.
 LucyOnBlack
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 45
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 12:50:17 PM
I was married to a fellow 13 years younger than myself. At that time 36 years old, I never thought about it, neither did he. When I turned 50 he left me for a younger model.
As I said, we never noticed age, didn't even come to mind but later on age was noticed as was commented on and he moved on. We have remained friends, as life happens.
lol we laugh as I said to him recently... you traded the Decker for a Sportster.... and we all know very few keep the Sportsters... he's separated .....
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 46
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:06:25 PM
I feel what you're laying down Holly, If she's lying on here what else is she lying about
Not excusing why she lied on her profile she has her reason, but its no different from guys and gals on here saying they they " athletic" and you find out the only exercise they get is going from the fridge to the couch getting beer and cheese cake, or someone lying about height , weight, martial status etc.

I remember speaking to a woman when I first joined the site and she tells me " oh she's single' but her idea of single was really scary, she lives with her ex, they share the same bed in a one bed room apartment but has had sex in over a year, so that qualifies as single?
some people's kids eh?
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 47
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 2:11:47 PM
I agree with this


Op......................just a bit of advice, whatever you do, if you decide to hook up with him, be honest from the start, tell him you are 50 not 45 like on your profile, there's nothing worse than starting off a relationship with a lie.


How would you feel if the guy you "liked" had a profile up and it said he was 45 and he's 50? If it means deleting and starting over then do it. I wouldn't trust you if you started out with a lie as well. And yes I do think he would mind, if he had any good traits, if he found out you lied about your age from the get go.

To you it may be a petty lie, esp since women are "suppose" to lie about their age. To me and many other men its just all in out dishonesty and if you're going to lie about something like that just to get me then what else would you lie about?

On to the original question I say go for it. I work in customer service and my niceness and great personality is often misinterpreted as flirting and liking someone. But hey no ring and no interrupting calls from a g/f go for it I would if I was attracted.

Best of luck to everyone
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 7/4/2011 2:18:00 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I lied my age and my bank account.
When it comes to numbers I lied that is my prerogative, even the count of my hair strands.
But when it comes the passion of my undying love ,I am drop dead Honest.....







hahahaha
 Soulstace
Joined: 12/19/2010
Msg: 49
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 2:42:26 PM
Age does matter. It matters for various reasons. In the short term enjoy yourself and get your rocks off. But to think you're going to live happily ever after... that's another story.

Porn has made "Milfs," "cougars," and "Gilfs" very popular these days. And it's not because they want to hold your hand when you're feeling blue.

The OP is an attractive woman. But you must understand that a younger guy will tell you anything you want to hear to get you into bed. If you simply want to enjoy yourself, then enjoy yourself.

If you're looking for q lifelong companion... you're going to be waiting a long time. And even if you do find a guy 10 years younger.. there aren't many that stay together. There is always something.

Don't hate.. but after being a bartender for 12 years I've seen it all, and the path to heaven is paved with broken hearts.

People give too many politically correct answers like it's going to "up" their "date-a-bility!"
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 50
My age is not attractive?
Posted: 7/4/2011 3:23:09 PM

Dont 'worry' about being 50, you look great for 50!!.....instead, celebrate!! Here's to the next 50!!


How do you know the picture isn't ten years old? She lied on the profile because she's insecure about her age...I would automatically assume the picture is quite old too!


The most attractive thing to me other than honesty is someone who is secure with who/what they are.
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