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 bogienights
Joined: 12/24/2012
Msg: 101
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^^^ Care to generalize much?? All of us are too old for some folks; you, me and the rest of us.

I had an odd conversation with my 82 year old father over Christmas, for some unknown reason he had to tell me that he and my mother enjoyed a decent sex life until she got sick 2 years ago. She just died and he doesn't know if he'll marry again but would like a companion....and "it" still works. Parents talking about a sex life is uncomfortable but it was good to know he still thinks and knows he's a sexual being.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 1/15/2013 8:32:18 AM

"Old men are looking for a nurse or a purse," my active mother said.


Well, I expect to be looking for the same thing as now: A willing woman who wants to make love mid-mornings on cold Winter days, and in the grass of a meadow with a nice view on warm Summer days. Spring and Fall venues negotiable....:)

Now, if she happens to be a rich geriatric care nurse as well.....whats to complain about!
 rob4320
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 103
Dating in your 70s
Posted: 1/16/2013 7:30:30 AM
"Old men are looking for a nurse or a purse," my active mother said.

Maybe some men but I bet most are looking for companionship!
 sowhat43
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 104
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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:34:08 AM
don't need a nurse or a purse ..i'm one of those looking for a companion..
 swtcarolinej
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 105
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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:30:45 PM
"a nurse or a purse."..never heard that one..When I first saw this post I sure thought he looked great for 70 LOL but he was posting for his Mom..how sweet..she sounds just fine being herself..her active self!!she really doesnt need someone around her neck weighing her down at this point..If its meant to be she'll hopefully find a nice man..to spend the remaining years..thats all our hopes right??Im 62 and somedays feel so much younger its just a number.. The guy that posted about fishing in a mudpuddle now that was funny!!!
 liketo
Joined: 12/20/2011
Msg: 106
Dating in your 70s
Posted: 1/20/2013 11:29:50 AM
On the same subject, "I think I have a problem". When I see most ladies my age, they remind me of my mother. My last wife of 22 years, was 26 years my junior. I was fine with her and people her age. She complained of having to be around older people and I understood that. Also, I think, when I retired and put a stop to her hefty bank withdrawals, she became increasingly cold .

Even so, I feel comfortable with a some-what younger lady. This psychological barrier may doom my attempts at attracting a mate!

Any other guys share a similar mentality? I expect to be horse whipped from some female posters.
 Scottish_Rose
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 107
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Posted: 1/20/2013 1:42:41 PM
All men over 65 are cautious and don;t want to get involved in a relationship...Women needs a bit of companion ship and security knowing that the man at least likes being with her......I am totally giving up on finding a nice friend, there are none to be had, they want to be left alone and maybe, so do I....
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 1/20/2013 6:58:01 PM
I'm more into reality, and if I missed the boat....I missed the boat!....but, I'm not going to stand on the dock all day watching as it sails over the horizon.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 1/20/2013 10:12:19 PM
Heck, I look at men my own age (59), and listen to them talk, and am amazed that we are the same generation.......because so many of them sound like YEARS AND YEARS older and have the strangest ideas about women......
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 110
Dating in your 70s
Posted: 4/6/2013 9:38:12 PM
Why doesnt she go for the younger guy if she is fit? Men in their seventies are usually worn out and not good in bed and
if she has the air of really looking desperately for a boyfriend, she wont get one. She needs to just relax and let it happen or not. However these dating sites are not really the answer. If she is willing to be the nurse/house maid for an older guy then fine, because that is what they are looking for.
 lostnfoundluv
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 111
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Posted: 4/7/2013 11:54:05 AM
She has better chance living in an assisted living environment with other singles in her age group. if he is on internet he is probably checking out in 30s and 40s maybe.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 112
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Posted: 4/7/2013 8:48:13 PM
Should be required reading for anyone on this thread, lol!

http://www.amazon.com/Round-Heeled-Woman-Late-Life-Adventures-Romance/dp/0812967879
 CDMer
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 113
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Posted: 4/7/2013 9:02:15 PM
At 71 I am sticking with women in their early forties. They are the best; seasoned yet still fecund.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 4/8/2013 3:08:19 AM
^^^^I'm sending you a bill for my keyboard....doubt I'll ever get out all the rootbeer I just spewed on it. LOL
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 115
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Posted: 4/8/2013 12:22:56 PM

^^^^I'm sending you a bill for my keyboard....doubt I'll ever get out all the rootbeer I just spewed on it. LOL


+1...except mine was iced tea.

On line dating is so far removed from reality. At my age, I look for guys my age, and come across profiles like
CDMer, and I honestly think they're too old for me. Then I find out they really are too old for me because they
lie about their age.

Most of the mail I get is from men much younger than myself.
I'm thinking I need to get over my "too young" feelings and just go for it.
If he can do it...not sure why I shouldn't.

Even if it's only in my mind.
 PROTON67
Joined: 4/26/2012
Msg: 116
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Posted: 4/8/2013 1:44:21 PM
There are 3 levels of dating at this age ... therapy, rehab, and hospice.
 LongHairedLass
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 117
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Posted: 4/8/2013 2:22:55 PM
I hate shopping malls and casinos, and stereotypes.

One explanation is that all active guys are on on the lakes and rivers, and the women are active in casinos and shopping malls.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 118
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Posted: 4/8/2013 4:37:09 PM
They are the best; seasoned yet still fecund.

I thought it sounded a bit like a rump roast. . . .
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 119
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Posted: 4/10/2013 3:02:59 PM
i have two friends 70 and i might add who are both interesting role models for me as i near 65. neither one does the botox/filler journey which i admit i do to help look younger, but both make choices and live accordingly.

one had a wonderful husband for over 40 years. she is an active professional and leads many groups. she is not interested in meeting a man. plus, her husband was successful and gorgeous and she'd just like to leave the memory at that.

the other one dates several at a time and then focuses on one. she belongs to some sort of scientific dating site. she is very physically fit, although looks her age. still she dates men in their early 60's and that solves the problem for her. i might add that they "look" older. she does branch out and travels to see the men she choses and vice versa often in different states and is open to moving. she too was married over 40 years and nursed a sick husband for ten years.

boils down to how hard you want to try and how far you want to look. but then again, i have several beautiful female friends in their 40's, also unable to find men, and they are dating men the same age as the 70 year old! these men also don't look all that hot, but all are nice guys as are the women.

not everyone has the same story. if i stuck with statistics, i never would have been successful in my mostly male profession, never adopted teens in my 50's and never met my current guy who is 6 years younger. i was not looking for him, he found me after recuperating from my prior breakup.

so, bottom line: she has to want it and make it part of her plan and intention and then live her life in a manner that is conducive for it to happen. if she just hangs out with the girls, unless she is bi-sexual, she is more apt to hear a lot of whining. although, in retrospect, my single male friends, also whine a lot too!!! so stick with the winners and not the whiners:)
 victorianist
Joined: 2/22/2013
Msg: 120
Dating in your 70s
Posted: 4/10/2013 6:15:43 PM
We all age at different rates (emotionally and physically). Some men and women are still strong and vibrant at 70 while others are at death's door. Some are educated and interesting while others have no interest in discussing anything other than their medical problems. I'll be 70 this summer and see no reason to stop dating - or skiing or hiking or dancing or appreciating the company of an interesting lady.

Perhaps your mother's problem is more than her age? Perhaps what she needs is a profile review?
 ladywilltravel
Joined: 8/25/2012
Msg: 121
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Posted: 4/15/2013 6:16:21 AM
You fear your Mom being alone in her golden years and she complains of the lack of eligible candidates, why? Even if she did find a boyfriend, that is no guarantee of happiness and companionship for the rest of her life. A lot of younger women have the same complaint of the lack of suitable gentlemen.

As an active volunteer for several organizations, I would not recommend that senior women seek volunteer opportunities with the expectation of meeting the perfect man. There are too many interlopers who use volunteer work with the ulterior motive of meeting eligible men; the ratio of male to female volunteers is proportionately the same, or less, as meeting eligible people elsewhere. I have seen too many volunteer women come and go when that reality set in. Volunteering to increase your dating pool is not the right mentality to a happy life, nor would such a person be an asset to the organization.

Staying active and involved in one's community would increase the opportunities to meet others.

At 70+ years, I would hope that I would still be living an active, productive, useful, life and if a gentleman happens into it, fine, and if not, that is still fine. By staying active and doing things one enjoys is the best way to meet others with similar interests, while enjoying life.

It is never to late to find a mate, but I question why this should be a priority?, who's priority is it?, and why?.
 mitchozie
Joined: 3/11/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 4/18/2013 3:57:10 PM

There are 3 levels of dating at this age ... therapy, rehab, and hospice.


LOL. I can understand the sentiment, but I can't relate to the experience. Having been blessed with good genetics, I have been approached by younger women, for more than 50 years, and (scandalous) my last girlfriend was younger than my youngest daughter. I would like to date a woman of a more appropriate age, but my contemporaries seem to fit into the quoted categories.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 3/22/2016 5:59:45 PM
The geezers in their 70's are chasing women in their 40's and 50's.
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 124
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Posted: 3/22/2016 7:29:00 PM
^^^ So are some of the women. Many women on here in ther 40s, 50s, 60s, plus, saying thy want younger or only date younger.

What is the female equivalent of "geezer"????
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 3/22/2016 8:15:32 PM
^^^^ Biddy.
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