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 wahay1234
Joined: 1/6/2011
Msg: 51
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it's called a posh wank - not that I've ever had a posh one, I don't think I'm posh enough.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=posh%20wank
 maron8492
Joined: 4/27/2011
Msg: 52
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 7:29:21 AM
I do not know if you are looking for long term with this guy, however if you are honey, you need to run in the other direction as fast and as far as you can.
 4x4fan
Joined: 4/29/2011
Msg: 53
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 8:24:50 AM
Who knows.
Maybe he left them in his truck for a few days and is unsure about how the heat affect them. Maybe he washed them and is unsure about how the detergent affects them. Maybe in the week you didn't see him maybe he gave them to a buddy to use, or a nephew to use during the week you didn't see him and is wanting to protect their privacy. Maybe he lost them. Maybe he does use them when he "chokes the chicken". Maybe you mentioned to him that you are embarrassed to buy comdoms and so he's just teasing you by making you do it. The "maybe's" are endless.
What's interesting to me is that of all the possibilities you think that he probably used them with another woman and and also think that he's an idiot and assumes that you cannot do simply math and would notice that some were missing. Look, if he used them with another women don't you think he'd be smart enough NOT to ask you to buy more but would instead do it himself?
You're making a big deal over nothing and are assuming way toooo much, or should he question you about the other pieces of gum that were in the pack that you bought back in April of 2008? ( hope you caught the sarcasm).
Bottom line....
Condoms are cheap and easily lost, misplaced, given away, ect....the fact that you would post a question assuming cheating (or else you wouldn't post it) tells us more about you than it does him. You don't trust him, and if you don't trust him then the disappearence of a few condoms is the least of your problems.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 54
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 8:45:15 AM
If I were a guy, I could see the allure of a quick clean up ....however, when your gut tells you something is off, it usually is.

As you have no proof, you need to ask him some more questions. I would tell him that you asked if this was a sign of cheating, even point him to this thread....so he can see why you have a concern. Some men have said they do it/have done it, and many have said it sounds 'off'.

Im with the camp that says it doesnt sound right. I would ask more questions of him until my gut was satisfied personally. Every single time I have second guessed my gut, I was dead wrong and regretted it.
 _xxxxxxxxx_
Joined: 4/5/2011
Msg: 55
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 9:00:41 AM


We often spend entire weekends together. 2 weeks ago we had a four day weekend and bought a 12 pack of condoms on the way to where we were going. We used 5 condoms that weekend.




He does have quite the sex drive. ..We go at it like bunnies,


5 condoms in 4 dayz is going at it like bunnies? *shrug

there's a dewd in one of the fly over states that sheepishly admitted he uses a white
tube sock to whack off into, sez it makes for an easy clean up, he just tosses
the sock into the wash when done,

a condom could be plausible
:|
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 56
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 9:13:27 AM

He does have quite the sex drive. I can't really say what his "solo time" habits are because we don't live together but I can say, the boy likes his sex. And it really kind of came as a surprise to me because I would have never suspected him of cheating before this incident. He doesn't really have the time, I mean unless of course he's lying to me about all the stuff he does during the week when he's actually sticking it to some other chick... but I don't want to be that girl that gets all super suspicious like that. lol. At least not without a smoking gun of a reason.


I can't stop laughing.............. and I won't apologize. Even though a few have posted that men indeed do use a condom to masturbate, it's highly unlikely after 2 months of dating you that he's monogamous. He has no reason to be... but every reason to lie if he wants things to stay status quo.

Read what you wrote above. "unless of course he's lying to me about all the stuff he does during the week....." Yup yup..... smells like latex to me.... lol

His "solo time"... that cracks me up..... Put it to the test. Ask him to masturbate in front of you.... tell him it turns you on... and see if his first reaction is to reach for a condom.

I'm not buying it.



bullie~
 cantmakeuluvme
Joined: 10/8/2010
Msg: 57
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/16/2011 12:16:08 PM
I thought this was a joke and was waiting on the punch line. Come on he wants to have sex with out a condom but he likes to jerk off in one. Get real! Maybe he used the others in a water balloon fight. LOL

Use your brain not your heart!
 Skotch
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 58
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Posted: 7/17/2011 6:45:29 AM
Its not just that he uses a condom to jerk off. Its that he used soooo many. If one condom was missing, no big deal, but that many? Most of the posts here that said its not totally unheard of also said it was rare.

I have heard of women putting a condom on a hair brush handle and using that, that even seems more plausible than what this guy is claiming he does.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 59
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/17/2011 7:25:17 AM

I do generally trust him, but I have caught him in a few lies before. Nothing major but just a few details from his stories changed...


"Generally" trusting someone isn't good enough for me. Either you do or you don't. No in between. Small lies are as bad as big lies, in my book. He's a liar. That's enough reason to end it, regardless of whether he really uses a condom when he jerks off.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 60
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/17/2011 8:06:03 AM

there's a dewd in one of the fly over states that sheepishly admitted he uses a white
tube sock to whack off into, sez it makes for an easy clean up, he just tosses
the sock into the wash when done,

I have heard some guys use a white tube sock rolled almost inside out with a condom on the inside with the ring part of it around the sock so it is like a sex toy and use it as a artificial vja . Actually I saw this in porn before.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 61
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/17/2011 8:12:26 AM
Honestly, some of you peeps gotta get out more. There are more than one reason that I guy will use a condom when going solo. Actually, there can be a bit of a list if the guy is really a bit "different", but I'll let your imaginations run, if ya got an imagination that is.

OP, I wouldn't worry about the condom usage as much as the reasons why you two are still using em at the present time. THAT story should be your eye opener, not that a couple of condoms are missing outta the box from a week or so ago.
 Iced1071
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 62
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/17/2011 12:47:17 PM
Please guys, tell me. Is jerking off into a condom really a thing?


Yes, I've done it.

Condoms also allow more creativity ;)

Also makes clean up a lot more easier



I have never heard of this before! Most guys I know complain all the time about having to use condoms and just use tissues or something when whacking off. And he's even said it's better with out. I immediately wanted to call bullshit on him but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I mean if he were cheating on me and knew that I was with him when he bought the last box and how many we used together, he probably wouldn't have said anything to me and just got the condoms himself right? I would be none the wiser and he wouldnt have to explain himself. If it were one condom missing I think I would have dismissed it as he lost one or something, no big deal. But 3 is a little hard to pass over. I do generally trust him, but I have caught him in a few lies before. Nothing major but just a few details from his stories changed... Now I'm not sure if I can trust him at all...


And to me this kinda says it all... If he were cheating on you (and not an idiot), he would have boughten a new box and just played it off as if it were the same 7 you left over.

I'd say he's being honest with you,and it probably was a little bit embarassing for him to tell you that he used them to jack off. And unless you have any other reasons to be suspicious (Changes in treatment toward you, scheduling, texts/phonecalls,secrecy) then I'd just advise you to back off and believe what you are getting is the actual truth...If you're seeking honesty and he's giving it to you, but you don't believe him - what more can he do?
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 63
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/17/2011 1:45:59 PM
The OP states
I do generally trust him, but I have caught him in a few lies before. Nothing major but just a few details from his stories changed...



Another poster states
"Generally" trusting someone isn't good enough for me. Either you do or you don't. No in between. Small lies are as bad as big lies, in my book. He's a liar. That's enough reason to end it, regardless of whether he really uses a condom when he jerks off.


Amen, pass the basket and now where the fook are the gawddamn donuts?!?!
 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 64
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/18/2011 2:19:02 PM
well he didn't lie about this ...... cleaning up after jerking off IS easier if your wearing a condom ...... you may have some doubt ... but thats ALL you have
 buckeye1332
Joined: 5/19/2011
Msg: 65
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Posted: 7/18/2011 3:26:35 PM
changing skies,

I think he is lying. Why spend money to masturbate? That and given the fact you have caught him up in lies before, no matter how small they were. Little lies lead to big lies
 wiggles204
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 7/18/2011 7:53:31 PM
be concerned as I dont know any guy who uses a condom to jerk off... call bullshit!
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 7/22/2011 7:36:38 AM
Don't feed the troll. Some people just like to post stuff to get a rise from the rest of us. This has been posted before by the same person.
 Easygoin68a
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 68
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Posted: 7/22/2011 3:14:36 PM
smell that? smells like bullsh** to me.... sounds like your pal, is getting some on the side - sorry:(
 AGuyWithPants
Joined: 7/19/2011
Msg: 69
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/22/2011 3:36:01 PM
Awhile ago I was dating this girl who requested that I use a specific type of condom (didn't like the lube or something of the ones I had). They were quite different than the ones I like, so the days after we first tried them out together I did a couple practice runs by myself. You know to see how they fit and feel.

I decided I didn't like them, so me and my lady friend tried a different kind. This might sound really strange to women, but condoms come in different sizes, widths, shapes, etc. So it makes a big difference in what you feel when you hit a home run.

I'm not telling you he isn't lieing, just giving you a real world example of what might have happened. Go with your gut.
 lottsofscience
Joined: 8/24/2010
Msg: 70
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Posted: 7/22/2011 3:51:17 PM
Dont be a fool baby. HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.....................
 lottsofscience
Joined: 8/24/2010
Msg: 71
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Posted: 7/22/2011 3:54:12 PM
Dont be a fool baby. HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.....................
 MTL_Giant
Joined: 6/27/2010
Msg: 72
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Posted: 8/5/2011 11:25:18 PM
Ditch him, it's not worth the risk to your health if he's messing around on you and he catches something. Chances are he won't tell you if he does.
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2011 8:39:45 AM
I've tried it, as have a few of my friends. I've yet to find someone who thinks the clean-up process is any easier. I think the amount of effort is about the same. The only difference being that a box of tissue is about $1.50 while condoms are about 50cents a pop once you do the math. In the grand scheme of things though, it's not -so- expensive that he'd be breaking the bank if he chose to masturbate with condoms regularly.

I don't think this guy would go through all the effort to get tested with you just so he can start cheating on you.
 jwscott
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 74
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 8/6/2011 1:05:47 PM
I can't speak for anyone else, but no I don't use a condom for masterbation. Sorry to be blunt, but it sounds to me that he is feeding you a line and expecting you to be stupid enough to believe it. You should dump him and move on. I never lie or screw around on the person that I'm in a relationship with and I'd guess that there are other guys like me out there. Move on and find a good guy hun. Don't settle for a ***hole like this who will just end up hurting you.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 75
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 8/6/2011 4:21:51 PM
His mention of not using them may be because it kills the mood for him and has a harder time staying hard with them (he wouldn't want to point that out to you; and yeah, cleanup is easier so he'd mention that -- hence, a "lie" but not the kind you think it is)... but a positive association could be utilizing one in one of his self-help sessions. Plus, it has a bit of lotion on it anyway. Odd, yes. Been done before by a guy? Yes. Pretty uncommon, sure, but not super improbable or anything, and it doesn't have to be a "thing". And if he had another girlfriend, I don't think he'd say that so readily as a joke...

In essence, that's not enough to go on. I wouldn't sweat things based on that alone. If "nothing major" as you say has happened -- just a few details in stories have changed, well, some people's stories do alter every time they're told on a small scale. If you're LOOKING for trust issues, you'll definitely see suspect stuff all across the board, overly magnified and worse than it really is.

We go at it like bunnies, but there have been a few times that he couldn't finish the deal.

That could be a reason to get better situated with a condom.
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