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 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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The changes here over the years have made it less useful to me, but I'm sure it works great for many others. I'm mostly here just for the forums, but still browse profiles now and then and get a couple of first messages a week from others whose interest is piqued by my profile.

I met my last girlfriend on greensingles, which caters to my treehugging crowd. It's a pay as you go site, so it doesn't cost to just be there, only when you initiate a message with someone you haven't already corresponded with. You buy credits, reasonably priced, and it costs one credit to send out an initial message. I like that approach, and have never run across a scammer there.

I've been on match in the past and still have a hidden profile there but have not been motivated to re-up this go round.

My current favorite is OKC. I like to delve deeper than a standard profile allows. When these forums were actively promoted here this provided a great venue to learn how someone actually thinks. It made POF seem like a real community. Now it's just those of us who know the secret handshake who hang out here, and the lack of a steady stream of new participants means some of us just keep having the same arguments over the same things.

OKC has forums but they're barely used. But their optional questions can provide great insight and save a lot of false starts. My last two dates came from there, with another first date scheduled for tomorrow. The fact that I'm having my third first date in several weeks shows no there's no guarantee anywhere, but both of those first two fell into the "close but no cigar" category. Both were enjoyable dates, just not quite enough to warrant a second for one or both of us.

I have seen the occasional scammer here on POF, but far less than on Match. I've had one on OKC contact me, but there are also plenty of fake profiles easy to recognize by the way they're put together, always including an attractive woman half my age seeking men in my age range but offering little profile detail.
 chill78
Joined: 10/13/2013
Msg: 133
Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 2/8/2014 10:31:10 AM

Isn't it amazing how many email notices you get from Match regarding messages, interested matches, winks..only AFTER your subscription runs out and you haven't renewed it?? Lmao, what a scam site!...


That has happened to me when I briefly tried other pay sites. Not on Match though.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 134
Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 2/8/2014 11:49:56 AM
POF was a lot more fun a few years ago, BUT, , , things are what they are. Now you have to pay for some of those features that were free, and I dislike being cut off from younger people that want to message me.
Still , we can have a good amount of service for no cost.
 Midwest_Southwest2
Joined: 11/1/2013
Msg: 135
Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 2/9/2014 9:05:19 AM
I’m at POF for the forums now, but my favorite site for dating is OK C because the answers to the questions the provide show how someone thinks and feels.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 136
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Posted: 2/17/2014 1:32:04 PM
mostlypoetry- POF is free and I love the forums.
Meetme- A good site if you like to chat and you have a chance there to meet friends too.
Eharmony-pretty useless if you aren't willing to upgrade and pay.
match.com-Want to get laid? Yes, you're good, no, don't even go there.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 2/27/2014 6:50:47 PM
I believe the internet is an excellent way to meet people.

The forums are a main draw for me now but when I was looking, I was on several sites (3 at a time) and did not find that other sites were especially "meet me friendly".

POF was the friendliest site.

BTW- what I thought was the love of my life turned out to be my worst nightmare but he's gone so all is well now. * I want to mention, meeting someone on the internet, at church or work, does not guarantee they are a nice.

There are always red flags but I believed with my age, I was past the hostile, antisocial, drug using men. Surprise!

Green Thumb:-- I also miss being able to "chat" with younger people. It was not about dating or adopting them but simply chatting. More fun but I guess the power to be feel otherwise.
 dwmitch
Joined: 12/31/2009
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Posted: 4/2/2014 2:40:35 PM
When I was 18 I tried Yahoo personals, which was a paid service, and didn't have one bit of luck. Very few women in my area and the ones who were either were my cousins or women I already knew and didn't have much interest in.

So after a couple of relationships and finding myself single in 2009 I decided I was only going with free sites. The lack of financial investment also meant I could cast a wider net, so I'm not even particularly loyal.

The past few days this has been the only site I use, though. I had an account at Ok Cupid but then they turned to activism. It doesn't matter if it's something I'm for or something I'm against, I'm getting sick of having social issues forcibly crammed down my throat, so when I logged in to see that was trying to talk me out of using Firefox just because they don't like something that the CEO did I decided I was done with them.

I signed up for some other free sites that day to fill the gap but ran into the same problems I did with Yahoo personals, though without the fee, so I guess PoF has become my only dating site through the process of elimination.

Edited to add: censoring references to the competition doesn't really accomplish much. People who are dissatisfied with this site will find it through Google, anyway, people who don't care about the site won't be drawn away, and when it comes to free dating sites a lot of people have profiles on multiple sites, anyway, so filtering it out only leads to hoping you catch the removal in time to edit it.
 Tired_Annoyed
Joined: 1/16/2013
Msg: 139
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Posted: 4/8/2014 12:06:17 PM
I honestly have no bleeping clue why I'm here.

Of the few local women results I get, at least 3/4 of them are abandoned, if not more. I know this because of the display options being ordered a certain way. I saw a profile that said she was 21 but her basic information said she was 23. Everyone past her was an even older profile.

I only get six, seven tops, supposedly "recent" results and one of them is more than likely a cover as I've seen her on a certain...list site? Cr...you can figure it out.

Of the remaining women, they don't respond, are completely not the kind of person I could get along with, or clearly have a shopping list of the kind of guy they want to meet.

Living by a small town is horrid. I live on a farm about a half hour away and unless you drink, gamble, or typically boring things like that, there's nothing to do. I can't even stand the smell of beer, let alone the taste. I don't believe in gambling.

Any possible social circles are closed to me because I don't fit some preconceived 'image' and a stranger (me) saying so much as a "hello" in a non-store or facilty setting APPARENTLY means I'm a creep or want to peddle something (around here, a lot of people assume religion, I don't belong to any). As a result, they do everything possible to get out of saying "hello" (or anything else for that matter) back.

I would not be surprised if I did away with this site. I have no idea why I thought this would be any better.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 140
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Posted: 4/8/2014 12:28:03 PM
"I have no idea why I thought this would be any better."
Why would it be better? In order to meet women, there have to "be" women, and apparently you live where there are none that will socialize with you.
You have 2 choices(if you want ) , either YOU move to them , or THEY move to you. Mail-order brides are not a new invention, especially in rural areas, they have been alive and well for generations.
 Tired_Annoyed
Joined: 1/16/2013
Msg: 141
Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 4/16/2014 1:22:40 AM
I understand the general notion of, 'I don't know why people talk about issues they have if they don't even have some ideas of how to change their situation', or even as a REALLY big stretch, 'tough love', if you will (for lack of a better term).

That, however, does not excuse narrow-minded viewpoints. I mean, heck, I admitted up front that it was fairly pointless to even come here. No matter what, it's all the same nonsense that absolutely, without any doubts whatsoever, that the humans, as a species, was nothing more than a genetic hiccup combined with sheer, dumb luck. A fluke. A *mistake* of nature. Any supposed "higher being" that's all-wise and knowing could not POSSIBLY be so stupid to allow this travesty to happen.

However, it honestly cracks me up as to just how many people, in any facet of life, will suggest picking up and MOVING for any little thing they aren't satisfied with in their life.

Dating
Internet
Wanting to own just one more (or first, depending) pet
Shopping options
Social activities
etc.

Look, as much as I would LOVE to drop everything, move, and change all this: I ALREADY TRIED THAT AND FAILED SO HORRIBLY THAT I WAS FORCED TO MOVE BACK IN WITH MY GODDAMN PARENTS!

Everyone has issues. I'm just one of the few people honest about them and don't deny them and hide every little flaw in the hopes someone doesn't catch on until much later. Apparently, having self-respect and integrity is counter-productive to meeting new people.

And mail-order brides? What the frigging hell are you on? Oh, sure, yeah. Totally gotta get some foreign woman to move to a frigid, overly dry and exceptionally windy region of Canada that the only thing going on is a gas and oil boom that'll die out in the next few years and cement this place as a dead retirement town (really, where I live, they just LOVE to toot their own horn and desperately grasp at straws to convince people to stay)….

Yep. That'll work out, I'm sure! Also, this woman doesn't need to have any connection to me and we be able to tolerate one another. After all, as long as the whole marriage thing goes through and she "earns" (I use that word quite loosely) a cheap, gimmicky citizenship, that's ALL THAT MATTERS, AM I RIGHT?

Now I know remember why I had never previously looked at the forums here before: I'd be trolled *or* made to feel like I probably should have put that .22 in my mouth as soon as I got back to the farm. Heaven forbid any sensible ideas come about. No, that would mean civility was still gasping for dear life.

I had originally posted what I felt was a neutral statement. I figured, "meh, give my input, probably won't garner attention since my style of writing is usually ignored anyway". I don't look to people for sympathy. Like I said, I'm just HONEST with my situation. If someone doesn't like that…well…I guess this happens.

I really hate text and its ability to be read in so many different ways. For all I know, you could have been completely neutral, yourself. However, the combination of past experiences and general stigma from stereotypical scenarios plus the completely illogical 'solution' (if you can even call it that) to my dilemma means that I cannot see your response as anything but passive-aggressive and I have constructed this post to issue my reply that is best suited to deal with such an attitude.

Hate feeds and breeds hate, yada yada yada. I'm feeling pretty good about getting this off my chest because I'm, rest assured, never going to so much as read the forums (let alone post anything else) from now on.

Don't worry; I won't let the door hit me on the way out.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 4/16/2014 7:30:11 PM
When I first joined, I thought I would want to date, but then my son suddenly passed away and I really haven't been interested in dating since then.

I do get a huge kick out of looking at some of the profiles in here (in the forums). Honestly, sometimes I read posts from men who profess to be very successful self-employed businessmen and it's clear to me that self-employed pretty much means they live in someone's basement and mow lawns for a living. It's apparent they don't have any original thoughts except to repeat entertainment news channel opinions ...

My daughter tells me that POF has a reputation of "losers". Since I'm really not interested in dating, "loser" status doesn't mean much to me.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 8/11/2013
Msg: 143
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Posted: 4/17/2014 6:47:45 PM
I'm on here because it's no strings attached, I can have my profile up or hide it depending on what I feel like, and not worry about paying. I've actually gone out with one really nice guy from here. But it didn't work out and then I hid my profile but I can come back anytime if I want to.
 holaks
Joined: 5/25/2014
Msg: 144
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Posted: 5/3/2016 1:39:14 PM
True it was a free site, but I figured that there would be atleast one decent man. Boy, was I wrong! Everyone was looking for hookups, and so I figured maybe that would be ok. I was wrong again!
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 5/3/2016 1:43:38 PM
Because it worked. I got the most dates on here.

I found that it's a very personal thing. One of my friends got most dates on Match.com. I think I only have 1 date ever from there.
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 146
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Posted: 5/3/2016 3:30:58 PM
POF has been quite good for me, couple of LTR's, few 1-2 month dating, lot of meets. Currently testing the waters with The BEST blind date EVER. LOL
Tried Match, nothing, not even a meetup, OK-Cupid had only a few locals, did have one meetup, lived 4 hours drive away but she did not want to do the long distance.
This is since 2008 so have not been inundated with messages or dates but overall POF has worked very well for me. Way too much of an introvert to have ever met these women in real life.
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 147
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Posted: 5/15/2016 5:01:12 AM
Because its free, but the truth is that I am not digging the pool that I am swimming in here. I leave my profile here for the forums. POF is not really big in KC because the other site I am on, which is OK CUPID, has a lot more compatible people, more contact and I'll be honest here, more women who I find attractive. I tried tinder but that has turned into a spam site with people selling porn and chat services that I have disabled my account there.
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 148
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Posted: 5/15/2016 5:39:09 PM
If you are looking for something fleeting, 1 date to six months, it is fine.

It DOES NOT SEEM that MOST Men on here are looking for anything more.
(They will accuse me of bashing but I tried to even put it in CAPS so they could take a deep breath first.)

If you are looking for a commitment, look elsewhere.
Yes, I have. It works,
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 149
Why did you choose Plenty of Fish? Thoughts on other Dating Sites?
Posted: 5/16/2016 5:41:45 AM
It could be that the whatever percentage of women past forty that use pof for strictly quick hookups ruin things for the others.

But IIRC,Dee felt most white men just wanted an "experience". :)
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 150
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Posted: 5/16/2016 6:59:23 AM

If you are looking for a commitment, look elsewhere.
Yes, I have. It works,


Can you give some insight into what dating sites have only people who are looking for committed long term relationships, where nobody is looking for a hook-up or a casual or short term relationship? Would it be a good idea for a woman to pick out her wedding dress and make wedding plans in advance when going on one of these magical sites that are full of Prince Charmings and Cinderellas waiting to be swept off of their feet and live happily ever after?
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