Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > no sex/kiss on the first date      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 MiaCat74
Joined: 3/3/2011
Msg: 100
no sex/kiss on the first datePage 5 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
I think you shouldnt have so many rules for yourself and treat every individual date as just that
and do what yu choose at the time

I always think it is so cold and robotic to be thinking 'hes made it to x number of dates, today is the day we kiss, and in x more dates then we try the sex'

Rules are only fun to break
 GottaBSomethinMore
Joined: 8/30/2011
Msg: 101
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/19/2011 4:01:32 PM
"It's all in the kiss"..... Sex has its place in a relationship, and one might consider the 90/10 percent rule when it comes to the sexual pleasures between two partners. in a relationship. Some may feel that there is no rush for either, however, how can one know if a person is "right" for them without the kiss?
 sleepsafe
Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 102
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/19/2011 6:34:48 PM
Apparently it ment "I don't want to have any ****ing thing to do with you" No response to emails, no answer of the phone. And this from a woman who said communication and honesty was important to her. WTF is up with that. I know ..SOME..guys do the same thing. Never me. Doesn't work, say so, let everyone get on with what they are doing. BTW I know from the site info she has read the emails.
 NolitaFairytale
Joined: 10/4/2011
Msg: 103
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/19/2011 9:13:04 PM
I don't think anything's wrong with kissing on the first date and I will if I like the person but I totally understand about the sex, I would NEVER EVER have sex on the first date.

I'm sure all guys are thinking about it but you have to find the ones who have the decency not to act on their urges for at LEAST a few weeks!
 xxxno77xxx
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 104
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/24/2011 9:46:56 PM
dating has chaged redically for me recently as I have stopped looking for someone to jump into bed with and started looking for someone to marry. I dont kiss or have sex with anyone. lol this may sound strange coming from a guy but I find that it weeds out the ones that are looking for a meal ticket or just someone to jump in the sack with. When my reelationship with my babys mom ended, jerry springer style, I now have more than just me to worry about as I kept my little girl. I am looking for someone that is fitting for me to share my life with as well as hers. It isnt going so well so far but Im not giving up or giving in. I do however vocalize difrectly when I am interested in some one or start to be ennamered with them. if they take my lack of physical contact negatively then they are either shallow or insecure. Idont need that and my lil princess definately doesnt.
 wildlifelover1979
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 105
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/25/2011 8:32:51 AM
I always perfer it kissing on the first date if I know alot of information about her. It depends on thee sex issue and if the woman is trying to use me has 1 time sex. That has happen before.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 106
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/25/2011 8:48:55 AM
No sex on the first date, period!

Now about the kissing, If there is no kiss on the first date, it shows you have no physical interest in me, there will be no second!
 VFR294
Joined: 4/1/2011
Msg: 107
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 10/25/2011 9:07:04 AM
The issue with this is, at least at my age, sex is pretty important. So, you can either have sex on the first date or a few dates after that... and figure out of the sex is good or bad, then work on the relationship part. Or, you can wait till the relationship, then have sex... and find out if its good or bad. Either way, you're screwed. I've had sex on the first date and have the sex be amazing but the emotional connection wasn't there. Just happened to me recently, except I thought the connection was there :\ haha. it sucks.
 cutenperky2
Joined: 8/2/2011
Msg: 108
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 11/26/2011 6:07:44 PM
There should be no rules for any of this just what two people are mutually comforable with. If you didnt kiss a guy on a first date maybe he would think you just want to be friends only .. just keep that in mind.Lots of time men dont know what a woman really wants and they arent mind readers so maybe its good to tell them.
 aero86
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 109
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 11/26/2011 6:17:13 PM
well, i guess i think of sex probably once a minute, im guilty of it too, but its not the first thing on my mind when going on a date. depends on the signal. i tend to like to get to know a girl first, either through emails, texts or phone calls. so, either the first date goes by just a friends kinda thing, or i get a kiss. the last one happened that way. she kissed me as a matter of fact.
 Valjia
Joined: 3/11/2013
Msg: 110
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/21/2013 8:07:45 AM
If you dont want sex, then don't. If your first dates starts to push towards that after five minutes, then just leave. Any respectful being ( respect for yourself, that is) wouldn't want to get naked with a stranger. And, on a first date, you're both strangers.

For some induviduals, getting laid is all there is. Not very attractive, at least not in my mind. I'm already done with high school and raging puberty hormones, can control my urges, probably much rather "do it" on my own than shacking up with some ( nasty) horny dude, that's just need to get off. These days, I, much like you, need to get to know the person first. Know his mind. See if I like that, see if he's got humor ( sexy and a turn on)

I'm so tired of horny "jack-offs" desperate to get to score, lol. Just sayi'n. Keep in mind, that's MY mindset of this: I'm not judging, if anyone else is all into just sex and getting the pants off after just one cup of coffee: by all means, have fun!
 Valjia
Joined: 3/11/2013
Msg: 111
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/21/2013 8:15:03 AM
Whoah, that's a little judgmental. It's ok to think, another to say it out loud. In that case, MEN are "floozies" ( word from the 1800's? ) too? Cheap skanks? Hey, if two "floozies" meet up and have fun, who are you to tell them either one of them is not REAL, cheap n only worth a rupie? How much are you worth? A dollar? Don't judge, let other do their thing, you hop on in your lala land and do yours. Soooo old fashion, but from the looks of the words you're using, you must be very old?
Anyhow...
 wildlifelover79
Joined: 8/15/2012
Msg: 112
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/23/2013 11:13:03 AM
Having no sex on after the second or third date would make most men upset. I know I quit talking to a woman if she tells me she doesn't want to have sex with me. Why do you think men cheat on their wives, finacee, or girlfriend? Because they refuse to have sex. I know most guys view having fun with a woman is having sex with a woman. I mean come on! I have sit there on dates hearing a woman talk and talk. It just down right bores me to death. Makes me want to poke my eyes out! Just kidding! It is painful though to hear women just chat contstantly. Really women should just give up and make friends with other women. The only real reason to have a guy is to get pregnant the old fashion way. Not artifical insemination!
 stayinafloat
Joined: 2/10/2013
Msg: 113
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/23/2013 11:47:26 AM
Two months? Are you kidding? you should have married that guy! sex after a couple dates to see if there's chemistry sure but that's asking way too much of any guy!!! And kissing on a second date at least!
 OhioJeepindude
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 114
view profile
History
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/24/2013 1:07:44 AM
No kiss on a first date??!! That's a good way to not get a second date with me.
I did once geta BJ on a first date,..... I normally get to know someone before having sex though.
We got engauged about 5 months later.We split later for other reasons.
 missvictoriaaaa
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 115
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/24/2013 4:02:07 PM
wow you made the guy wait two years.....thats pretty crazy...also u need to remember where were in a time now where sex has become easier to get.. and love has got harder to find...i feel u shouldnt have sex on a first date...but a kiss should be okay....your set in ur ways and thats fine.....do what u wanna do and what u feel is proper...
 independant_thinker72
Joined: 3/10/2013
Msg: 116
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/24/2013 4:29:06 PM
if there's is obvious chemistry or even some nervous energy then go for the kiss. If you get shot down well atleast you can say you tried. If the nerves etc.. are really bad maybe it will take a date or 2 or 3 before that first real kiss and that's ok if it works out in the end.. but to get laid on the first date is almost a sure sign of it being the last date unless you're only hooking up for sex to begin with.
 xray9
Joined: 9/4/2010
Msg: 117
view profile
History
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/30/2013 9:56:58 PM
I agree with missvictoria what`s wrong with a kiss on the first ? but sex not me I wanna get to know my date much better before sex if theres a 3rd date yes but never on the first date for sex that just says your to easy & to be honest id refuse Im not looking for sumthin` with high mileage .
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 118
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/30/2013 10:03:46 PM

There's floozies and REAL WOMEN
A real woman knows her worth and will make a man wait

No, there's floozies, real women and game players.
Floozies will have sex early because that's all they are after.
Game players will make a man wait.
Real women know what to do when with men who have potential, and they don't abide by stupid rules.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 119
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:16:42 PM

independant_thinker72
but to get laid on the first date is almost a sure sign of it being the last date unless you're only hooking up for sex to begin with.


Yep it could be the last date.....She might not want a relationship with some guy who would give up the goods so quick.....With your attitude, if you have sex on the first date, then you're just a Man Slut....... I don't know how some of you go through life thinking any woman that would have sex with you, would do it with just anybody......I sure have a higher opinion of myself, than that.......
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 120
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:31:16 PM

If you get shot down

If there's even a remote chance that you get shot down, don't do it. She's not interested in you. By the end of the first date you should know whether she's interested in you. And if you don't, she's not.
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 121
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/31/2013 1:50:26 AM
I don't see the point kissing on a first date. You are getting to know the person, and kissing should be when you both feel comfortable to do so. There is nothing wrong with waiting. Plus, kissing always leads to leading someone on just in case later on down the road you decide that person is not for you.
 eattoplease55
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 122
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/31/2013 6:03:04 AM
Sorry bout your luck.....as for what you have said....Ive never asked for either on the first or second date......and anything farther would depend on how I felt on the chemistry,chat we had and so on.......at this point Im having a time trying to find sanity with whom Im meeting...most are on a mission and have some Idea of a knight in shining armor thing......Im looking for a woman...as in ONE who doesnt clinge and can give me a secure feeling with the relationship....this has been hard to find...
 gogogo66
Joined: 2/4/2013
Msg: 123
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:18:56 AM
Had a date friday,no kiss,pure gentleman,guess we will kiss this second date,haha everyones differant.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 124
view profile
History
no sex/kiss on the first date
Posted: 9/15/2018 5:59:05 AM
LOL....usually if they are geared for sex or kissing on the first date you won't see them again after.....and in these days and times it happens more because woman are driven more with self satisfaction as far as getting a piece for lack of better terms....oh there are still some who want a full out relationship but quickies are in many orders along with kink....
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  > no sex/kiss on the first date