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 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 126
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Because ..I was the one in our marriage , who in tradegy had to be strong and make decisions about funeral arrangment , what casket , what clothes to be buried in.
Because ...I was the one who had to go check the strange noise downstairs at night
Because ....I was the one who would always to where needed , when the roads were icey and snow covered

Because of these , and hundreds of other similar things

My ex and g/fs........ would only smile , if I referred to myself as head of the house
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 127
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/22/2012 6:34:06 PM

Ask any man if they had to choose between hard labor and loosing their masculinity.

How very sad that your masculinity is so tied into how much you make and contribute to your household. I truly hope you never lose your ability to work or grow old because if so your sense of masculinity will cease to exist.
 Older_N_Wiser
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Head of the household?
Posted: 2/22/2012 8:04:01 PM
In my relationship, my boyfriend is the head of the house. This is something that we both agree on. In all situations different people have different ideas and someone has to make the final decision. In our case, that is his to make. Oh, I do get imput. We discuss the situation, he listens to my opinions and desires. But in the end, he makes the final decisions. And the consequences of that decision, good or bad, fall to him as well. I may not always agree with his decisions and that is ok. I know he will strive to always do what he feels is best for both of us.
 DesmondT
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 129
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/22/2012 8:08:32 PM
Lol women only show up when it come to equality in certain aspects. Most often they hide behind the man for security they say... well I personally see all as equal
 Older_N_Wiser
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 2/22/2012 8:48:54 PM
Men and women are not the same. Yes we are both equally valuable but in different ways. Both are (in a way) incomplete without the other. We are two halves of a whole, both dependant on the other and at the same time independant of the other.
 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 131
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/22/2012 9:17:41 PM
@Zen
That's all fine and dandy if it didn't influence society as a whole. Now female choices are 'put out' or 'get out' as the need for relationships and family has been pushed into obscurity.

And yet the world's population has exploded as a result. Imagine that!

What man in his right mind would want to get married nowadays?

What woman would want to get married nowadays either? What point are you trying to make?

Perhaps you should look at this society objectively and judge it just as harshly as you do others.
Adulterous, immoral me, I and my self culture that thrives on instant gratification, greed and misery.

Unless you actually know me (which you don't), you can not know why I make the decisions I do, what I believe in, what I will stand for, the roads I've walked, the things I've done and seen, my passions, the people I value, the things I'll fight for, what makes me smile, laugh, cry, etc. etc. etc. So that leaves you only to project and assume the incorrect about me, so just who is judging harshly here?

Older N Wiser
We are two halves of a whole, both dependant on the other and at the same time independant of the other.

Very well said.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 132
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/22/2012 10:49:11 PM
How very sad that your masculinity is so tied into how much you make and contribute to your household. I truly hope you never lose your ability to work or grow old because if so your sense of masculinity will cease to exist.
Me? Though I appreciate the attention, don't make this about me. My masculinity is not up for discussion.


Explain the sales of Viagra dude.
HAHAHA! And birth control explains sluts?


And yet the world's population has exploded as a result. Imagine that!
Do you actually view that as a positive outcome?


What woman would want to get married nowadays either? What point are you trying to make?
I just point out the obvious. If you are happy with a society of casual sex I am certain modern men will not lift a finger to change it. 'They don't make 'em as they use to' Today men and women are unable to form and maintain long lasting relationships. This why some people are unhappy and look back at 'good old days'. There is cause and effect and yes, I take bias into consideration. Chivalry, masculinity and femininity are constantly under attack. Womens and individual rights always take precedence over family or mens rights. Why this wasn't an issue 60 years ago?


Men and women are not the same. Yes we are both equally valuable but in different ways. Both are (in a way) incomplete without the other. We are two halves of a whole, both dependant on the other and at the same time independant of the other.
It is a shame so few realize this.
 DallasPrettyLady
Joined: 2/6/2012
Msg: 133
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 2:55:37 AM
To me it means that the man is the main provider who takes care of the family. Both parents should be equally in charge and treated with respect. I just think some men like to feel like the man of the house. This shouldn't mean that the woman's opinions are irrelevant. A couple should decide on things together.
BUT make sure you know what he thinks and believes about the head of the household term before getting involved. He may have some strong opinions that you wont agree with. To him it could mean that he's the king and is in charge, the decision maker etc.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2012 5:10:47 AM
It is reality, there are millions of men that have abandoned their families and run off to a better deal, there are millions of men that have chosen booze or drugs over their families, there are millions of men that have physically abused their spouses and children.

What reality do you live in? There are millions of women who have done the same. It's called ugly side of humanity. Stop living in a rosy glow of feminism and stop demonising men. Women are not perfect, men are not perfect. People are not perfect.


Apparently this is very difficult for you to follow and understand. I am very aware that people are not perfect, that is actually my whole point if you would actually stop and lose your 'man done hard by feminism" act. No one is demonising men, this is about facing the cold hard truth that the idea that men are natural leaders and that men are natural providers is baloney, and that this attitude that men "should" be the head of the household because they are more competent in these areas than women is also baloney.

Women have been providing for their families since the dawn of time because the "natural" leader decided he didnt want to play anymore, decided that his needs were more important than his families and that providing for the children he created wasnt as high a priority as a myriad of other things.

Now since this isnt an isolated incident, that it happens repeatedly, why is the myth still being held as fact? In fact I am willing to bet that you know at least one man who has done exactly the things I have listed. I know I do, in fact I know several, some from my generation, some from my parents generation and some from my daughters generation. So if men are such natural leaders and providers, why is this still such a common event?

I agree with those that believe that a successful marriage and family is about team work. Please note that I have never said that women should be the head of the household, because no one single person has all of the skills needed to negotiate life and the trials that raising a family hold.
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 135
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 5:27:09 AM

Did you perhaps stop and think for a minute that NOT ALL women want babies and the picket fence and neat white house with a swing set in the yard? That some women actually looked at all their options and made choices that suited them better?


That's great for a casual sex kind of life or a "I'm never going to have kids" kind of life but the question is about the head of the household which most people look at that as a "family" situation. What's unfortunate is that there are woman with the attitude as stated above who already have kids and because having kids is all about what the mother wants it's only natural to rip the family apart to pursue her career?


Again, some women actually love their jobs and realize that their jobs/careers actually contribute something worthwhile in their lives.


That seems to be the norm these days. Woman are so determined to prove to society that they are equal that while they are busy burning their bras away from the home they are ignoring the fact that little tommy misses his Mom and wishes that at least one of his parents had time for him and the husbands are wondering what the hell happened and why the wife is too tired to help out around the house and maybe snuggle a bit at night. Why can't Woman value the fact that they were given the incredible ability to bring a child into this world and then a nurturing nature to raise that child in a loving and safe envirnment. Do you honestly believe that there has been no concequences to having 2 working parents and underpaid staff raising our children? Think about it.

When Men were the true heads of the households I agree that the woman were powerless to their husbands and woman suffered for it. Rather than evolving from that to the society we are now, we should have possibly considered using our voices to put in place laws that protect woman from their abusive partners rather than going to the extreme and abandaning family values and most importantly our children. But of course now our hands are forced to do so. We have done such a great job in showing how equal we are in society that you have to be very well off to have only one parent working while the other stays home and takes care of the family.

So if letting the man be the head of the household means me being able to stay home with my kid, keep the house clean during the day and make supper so we can eat when the man gets home which leaves for more family time at night and regular sex without feeling exhausted, sign me up! I have no problems allowing my man to make the important decisions and being the one to put his foot down, after all...I would never choose a man who would abuse that power and who doesn't follow along with the same line of thinking and values as me. Remember, now we can wisely choose our man.
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 136
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 5:38:52 AM
@grizzelda

I believe that men were much better providers when the woman would let them be. There will always be a schmuck here or there but nowadays men aren't allowed to just be men. We are 2 completely seperate entities and as much as woman have needs, so do men.

How many grandparents or great grandparents (depending on your age) do you know are seperated or divorced? No, our grandparents play a big part in our lives as the cookie giver and the wise and compassionate shoulder when mom and dad are being unreasonable. Our children now are going to be saying "I'm going over to my grandma and step-grandfathers house tomorrow and then next week I'll go see grandpa and his new squeeze..."

Grandpa did a great job at making sure grandma was always provided for and now they have their house and are spending their winters in florida. That's the natural order of things. Now who knows what's going to happen. Why couldn't we just let our men be men and work on putting laws in place that correct the men who weren't really being men but jerks? If we could have just done that then our kids would be able to have cookies with both of their grandparents in the same house!

...And I'm with Zen on all this. Woman can be equal jerks if not more. It was wonderful when our men were out fighting the war and coming home to pregnant wives who just had to invite the mailman in for coffee. There are 2 sides to every story :-)
 DSMTraveler
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 137
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 5:41:23 AM

My question is why would someone belive that a man is inherently qualified to be the "head of the household" just because he is a man? Exactly what is the thought process behind this?


The Biblical reference is in Corinthians -- saying that like Chist is the head of the church so a man is the head of the wife. Traditionally it was because a woman did not have any legal authority other than being a possession of her husband, she had no money and very few rights. Dealing with money and learning to read were often thought to inhibit a woman's ability to have children.

Why someone would beleve a man is inherently qualified...? Probably because it's easier to unthinkingly accept tradition than to change. In other words, there is no thought process behind this.

For IRS purposes 'head of household' is an unmarried person with dependants. Otherwise you check single, married, or married-filing separately.... so 'head of household' in that case means no wife/husband.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2012 6:09:15 AM
How many grandparents or great grandparents (depending on your age) do you know are seperated or divorced?


Nice try but my Grandfather on my Dad's side decided when my Father was 4 that he didnt want to play anymore so he abandoned my Grandmother and his 2 sons. After leaving he moved to another city and commenced to start a whole new family and never contacted my Father or his brother again. I didnt get any cookies from him... The reality is that many men just up and left because they could, because society really didnt care about these women and children. So apparently all the men who were in positions of power at the time, who could make the changes to the laws, couldnt be bothered. So tell me again where the natural leaders were all hiding? Where were all the natural leaders when guys were beating the shit out of their wives and children on a regular basis? When the cops would look the other way because it wasnt their business? All of those natural leaders who were always looking out for the women and children....

On my Mothers side, my Great Grandmother gave birth to 22 children and spent her life as a brood mare so that his family farm would have farm hands, she ended up dying in her early 60's while my Great father lived to 95 years old. All of my GrandFathers sisters have stated that she essentially died from exhaustion because of her life. Who the hell was providing for whom here while she was taking care of the 22 kids that ensured that the farm had free labor? Good old fashioned French Canadian Catholic family values Hmmm?


...And I'm with Zen on all this. Woman can be equal jerks if not more. It was wonderful when our men were out fighting the war and coming home to pregnant wives who just had to invite the mailman in for coffee. There are 2 sides to every story :-)


I see you too have trouble staying on topic, well how about all those women who's husbands didnt come home from the war that were forced out of the labor market because the men had families to support, when these women had children and no man to support them. That is also another side to that story too....

So what I hear you saying is that men, who are natural providers and leaders, are unable to function in that capacity because women dont let them? Interesting, perhaps the reality is that all men have never been these natural leaders and providers, they just lived in a structure that held up the fallacy that they were. I am not saying that men are not capable of being providers or leaders, what I am saying is that those are men that have those character traits and abilities, and it is not because they have a penis. The idea that ALL men have these traits and abilities so they should automatically be in charge is laughable at best. The same argument is that all women are better parents because they are women, if any woman was to come into these boards and make those claims, every single man that has posted supporting the claim that men should be the head of the house would have a fit tearing that woman apart, because it isnt true. Even if that woman was using the very same reason and supporting arguments that suggest that men are natural leaders....

Can you honestlysay that every male you have ever met has been the same? Because really that is what you are saying, all men are the same and that every man has the same abilities.

 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 139
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 8:23:39 AM
In the dating phase of a relationship, every woman wants a man who is confident, take charge kind of guy, it's the man's job to pursue the woman, make date plans, must have a protector, provider, warrior image, and pick up the tab on most or all dates. Why does all of that change 180 degrees (except the paying part) after they walk down the aisle and say their "I do"s?
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 140
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 9:06:03 AM
I have no problem with equality. Most women want equality when it is beneficial. I know many who want equal rewards, but won't, or cannot suffer the struggles that accompany the success. Hence the term "Man up"!

Back on subject; I prefer to run a household as a team, and have each one use their strengths to make an easier life. Unfortunately, I do it all, and that's OK too.
 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 141
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 10:56:31 AM
@CarKam:
That's great for a casual sex kind of life or a "I'm never going to have kids" kind of life but the question is about the head of the household which most people look at that as a "family" situation. What's unfortunate is that there are woman with the attitude as stated above who already have kids and because having kids is all about what the mother wants it's only natural to rip the family apart to pursue her career?
Woman are so determined to prove to society that they are equal that while they are busy burning their bras away from the home they are ignoring the fact that little tommy misses his Mom and wishes that at least one of his parents had time for him and the husbands are wondering what the hell happened and why the wife is too tired to help out around the house and maybe snuggle a bit at night.

Hmmm, did you ever stop and think there could be various reasons why a woman chooses not to marry and have children besides being a whore, feminist, bra burner, addicted to a career, etc. etc.? Do you realize that it is also a huge decision NOT to have children? Do you stop and think that some people make their choices very carefully as the future is not predictable? Or just because a woman chooses something else that she has nothing personal to the woman that do choose marriage and family? And that she is grateful to have a life without children even though she likes kids? And that women are more educated these days,more capable than our mothers/grandmother's were in some ways, and some really celebrate that? Oh yes, and some women have talent for a career AND family too and manage to do BOTH well?

Do you think that user *ComplexEnigma chose to be a correctional officer on Death Row in the state of Texas to (be) "so determined to prove to society" she was an "equal"? Seriously, that just sounds so f ucked up to me..... (and you have my utmost respect Comple Enigma). I can't see you saying it to her IRL anyways...lol.

I was raised in a household with both parents who I respected equally, no labels were used (thank you Ma and Pa), so it just comes to make sense these old cliche's like "Head of the Household" or another favorite of mine "Who wears the Pants" are just silly statements to me...

@Zen:
I just point out the obvious. If you are happy with a society of casual sex I am certain modern men will not lift a finger to change it. 'They don't make 'em as they use to' Today men and women are unable to form and maintain long lasting relationships. This why some people are unhappy and look back at 'good old days'. There is cause and effect and yes, I take bias into consideration. Chivalry, masculinity and femininity are constantly under attack. Womens and individual rights always take precedence over family or mens rights. Why this wasn't an issue 60 years ago?

I'm sorry you feel stuck in a world where you don't fit however, last time I checked it was 2012 whereas anyone can live their life however they choose. You seem to want to blame women for all the world's woes, fine...how is it working for ya so far??

No household can function well without having an equal division of labor and where both parties are satisfied with the resulting arrangment. A household where one is the 'boss' and one is 'subordinate' does not work for everyone and I quite frankly, think it's immature as hell.
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 142
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 1:58:09 PM

Hmmm, did you ever stop and think there could be various reasons why a woman chooses not to marry and have children besides being a whore, feminist, bra burner, addicted to a career, etc. etc.? Do you realize that it is also a huge decision NOT to have children? Do you stop and think that some people make their choices very carefully as the future is not predictable? Or just because a woman chooses something else that she has nothing personal to the woman that do choose marriage and family? And that she is grateful to have a life without children even though she likes kids? And that women are more educated these days,more capable than our mothers/grandmother's were in some ways, and some really celebrate that? Oh yes, and some women have talent for a career AND family too and manage to do BOTH well?

Do you think that user *ComplexEnigma chose to be a correctional officer on Death Row in the state of Texas to (be) "so determined to prove to society" she was an "equal"? Seriously, that just sounds so f ucked up to me..... (and you have my utmost respect Comple Enigma). I can't see you saying it to her IRL anyways...lol.

I was raised in a household with both parents who I respected equally, no labels were used (thank you Ma and Pa), so it just comes to make sense these old cliche's like "Head of the Household" or another favorite of mine "Who wears the Pants" are just silly statements to me...


I think you are misunderstanding what I am saying. and have put words in my mouth.

I think bravo to woman who choose to have a career and choose not to have children. Woman are capable of many things, being a woman myself I know this. I do not believe that our gender is destined to slave over a man all day whether she is a stay at home mom or not.

I do however believe that our children would benefit a lot more if they were being raised by their parents and not by hired help. Nowadays it is barely cost effective to do so, but if it were I believe that if a married couple (or not married) decided to be a family and raise a child, they should do just that. It's a lot easier for woman these days to be more cautious in who they choose as a mate and if they are with someone who is not abusive, respects their opinions and is dedicated to the family then in choosing wisely it would be a better situation.

Do you honestly believe that our children are in a better position now? I am a full time worker and a part time mother. I say this because I am at work all day and after picking my son up from daycare I have 2 hours to cook, clean, bathe him, spend time for play and/or homework before I put him to bed. The majority of his day is being spent outside the home. Like it or not, I'm not the only one raising him and developing his morals and preparing him for life. If I could be the one to play that role on a full time basis I absolutely would. But it's not financially possible. And the worst part is that when I get home I am exhausted from work and after dinner I truly just need a break! Sometimes I give into that and sometimes I don't. But if I was picking my son up from school at 3:30 when it ends, I'd be home early enough to cook dinner and have it on the table for when my partner gets home and because all of the cleaning would have been done prior and between 3:30 and lets say..5pm I would have had time to prep dinner and help my Son with his homework, that equals to more family time at night. The man is less exhausted when he hits the pillow because everything at home has already been taken care of and his woman isn't worn out and crying off sex because she's so tired (I'm not saying all woman do this and I am fully aware that the man does it too). That makes for a better situation in my eyes. But that's just me.
 Michelangelo1976
Joined: 1/18/2012
Msg: 143
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 4:32:41 PM
Case in point.....an elderly couple is nearing retirement and the husband is a long distance truck driver, gone for days at a time. The lonely housewife gets tired of being lonely and gives the husband the ultimatum of come home from the road or she wants a divorce. The husband retires. A year later, housewife and husband are having dinner and wife casually says "I wish you would go back to work. We need more money."

That elderly couple is my parents.

Women typically make their decisions based on emotion and not so much by thinking things through. It is what it is.
 tjl503
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 144
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 4:53:43 PM
A joint income is very appealing to me. I would love to meet a successful woman who helped bring home the bacon. My luck has been mostly with women who are looking to be housewives. I don't have to be the breadwinner and if my girl made more money then me I would be proud. As long as she still knows who has the upper hand in the relationship, the man of course:)
 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 145
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 5:40:47 PM
@CarKam

I do however believe that our children would benefit a lot more if they were being raised by their parents and not by hired help. Nowadays it is barely cost effective to do so, but if it were I believe that if a married couple (or not married) decided to be a family and raise a child, they should do just that.
Do you honestly believe that our children are in a better position now?


No I do not.

The problem I see over and over again is people not asking themselves these questions before they take the plunge:

1) Would you be able to raise a child on your own? Anything can happen in a relationship including divorce and death. Once you have a child, you are responsible no matter what for that childs needs and requirements.

2) Do you have insurance and a will? If not, then you are being irresponsible. A will and insurance are no longer considered luxuries once you have children, they are necessities.

3) What is your real reason for having children? Mostly it is selfish reasons like: I am bored, I am giving into societal or family pressures, loneliness, right my parents wrongs, give my life meaning all the way to wanting to simply see what my child would look like, etc. etc. Why produce another child needing care when there are so many already here/existing that do too?

4) Are you and your partner in agreement on how to raise the child? Sometimes marriages/relationships work all the way up until the issue of child rearing pops up and many divorces occur after the first child is born. Although no two parents will always be in 100% agreement, they must agree at least on most issues or else things won't go very well.

Other things people don't think about are:
*can you afford braces, multiple births, children with major health issues, college?
*have you taken your own health issues into consideration?
*do you have family or friends that can help you when you need support of any kind?
*can I afford to raise my child full time if I wanted to?

How does this tie in to the head of the household? Find me a man that is smart enough and we'll talk about it then...lol. Not every woman bases her decisions on emotions only.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 146
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/23/2012 7:01:44 PM

Posted By: roylee42 on 2/22/2012 441 AM
Subject: Head of the household?

I personally cannot stand being told to make all the decisions. If I wanted to have another kid I would just have one not get into a relationship with it.


It is so nice to hear a man saying this--because women say it a lot, when they are married to men who act like children. I honestly think a lot of men continue to believe that women are, somehow, less capable of being adults--and that these men therefore put up with a lot of behaviors from their wives/gfs that other men, and a lot of women, would not put up with in a partner. The ways in which men act irresponsibly are often different than the ways women will act irresponsibly, but each sex has members who haven't seemed to grow up, despite their age. Hold your partner to a higher standard, and you will be happier (well, that's assuming you hold yourself to an equally high standard).

I think it is so odd, too, that people believe you must have one person who will always have the final say. What is so awful about taking turns? So when you get to that critical impasse where each believes his/her decisions is best, you just agree to take turns making those types of decisions. On one major issue, she does; on the next, he does. This is assuming you are both bright enough to defer to the person with more knowledge/experience on the given issue, when that is appropriate; and it is also assuming you work toward consensus or compromise on issues that aren't so critical or time-sensitive.
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 147
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:14:31 AM
@sylvanswan

You are spot on! In order to have a child and raise a family you need to be completely selfless in your motivations and you actions moving forward. Having a child and raising a family means that you are no longer number 1.

To me personally, the way this ties into head of the household is recognizing that each member of the family has a role to play in order to achieve all that you have stated as well as maintain a proper balance of a healthy relationship at home. Whether it is the man or the woman who is the head, there will always be a leader. It is the primal instinct of moat men (not all) who take on that role. Being the leader does not give you the right to abusive of that power, it simply means that you are taking the precautions to make sure your family is safe, financially stable and putting a firm foot down when someone is living outside of their means and in my opinion it's always good to have that good cop bad cop scenario during a crisis in the home so the child knows what the final word is and also knows that he/she has a sympathetic ear to turn to when in trouble.

The parent who is not the head has the responsibility of keeping the piece, maintaining a balance in the home that keeps all parties satisfied, attending to everything that the head of the household has worked so hard to achieve as a sign of appreciation as well as for health reasons (if you are at home...for god's sake will you pick up a broom!), and when the children are in bed it is time to show your appreciation to the person who is working their arse off so you can live this life by taking care of them so they can relax. If you are in love with your spouse and truly do appreciate the situation then doing so won't be a chore but a pleasure. At least it was like that in my case.

Now for a couple that has no kids? I believe that being the head just means being the one making the final decisions and if they are with a spouse who doesn't work, then all of the above but without the kids.
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 148
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:20:29 AM
Mind you, I keep speaking as though we are assuming that the head of the household is the only working member. If the family has 2 working parents, then although the head is responsible for making sure their family is safe and living within their means, he/she also has to recognize that their spouse has been working all day too and can't expect to get home and rest while the other gets home and continues their second job of chores and taking care of the kids. It's got to be equal in every sense.
 tlcme1964
Joined: 8/28/2009
Msg: 149
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/24/2012 6:07:09 AM
The term "head of household" is nothing more than a tax deduction when you have financial dependents nowadays.

The man was inherently anointed, in ye olden days, because his family was dependent on him for their physical well being too.

Flash forward to 2012 & "I am the king of my castle" only applies when the wife isn't home or the dude is single.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 150
Head of the household?
Posted: 2/24/2012 6:11:23 AM
Head of the household....I dunno, that is SO 50-60's, so like, 5 seconds ago...heeelllo? *complete with Paris Hilton accent*
LOL I don't think I'd be head of a household if I was in a couple, it's a team thing. Kind of life wrestling, you might have a main guy, but a tag team isnt one without his partner.
However, since I AM Y2J Chris Jericho's worthy successor, while I am single and at home....I AM the King of My World (all rights reserved)
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