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 honestbynature
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 137
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.Page 8 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
It is so important to work together to keep a relationship alive.....it takes 2 to have good sex and it takes 2 to have good fun.....it takes 2 to have a conversation......it takes 2 to do a lot of things. The key is it takes 2! I'm not saying that everything has to be done together but sometimes it's nice to know you're there for company or in spirit even if it's something that you don't really like to do. Women do this all the time and they rarely tell you....it's just how we are. If you open the door for a woman on your first date why have you stopped after 6 months or a year? It's not about getting comfortable with the relationship.....it's about keeping the fire burning, wanting to get home to call her or see him. Why does that part of the relationship end??????
Don't stop doing what you started doing to get into each others arms.
Way back the man was the provider financially and the woman was the homemaker.....the man wined and dined his wife because he wanted to give her a break and the woman wined and dined her husband every night at home because he worked hard all day........she kept the house clean, he kept the house paid....it's not rocket science! Our lives are not like that anymore so my point is do for each other as well as yourself.....everybody has become so damn selfish!
It's not an "EXPECTATION".....I love that word.....it's reality.....take a good look.....and choose to live life with a companion or alone.

Ah that feels better......thanks for listening....hahahaha

Newby to the forum world
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 138
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 7:10:47 AM

It is so important to work together to keep a relationship alive.....it takes 2 to have good sex and it takes 2 to have good fun.....it takes 2 to have a conversation......it takes 2 to do a lot of things. The key is it takes 2! I'm not saying that everything has to be done together but sometimes it's nice to know you're there for company or in spirit even if it's something that you don't really like to do. Women do this all the time and they rarely tell you....it's just how we are. If you open the door for a woman on your first date why have you stopped after 6 months or a year? It's not about getting comfortable with the relationship.....it's about keeping the fire burning, wanting to get home to call her or see him. Why does that part of the relationship end??????
Don't stop doing what you started doing to get into each others arms.
Way back the man was the provider financially and the woman was the homemaker.....the man wined and dined his wife because he wanted to give her a break and the woman wined and dined her husband every night at home because he worked hard all day........she kept the house clean, he kept the house paid....it's not rocket science! Our lives are not like that anymore so my point is do for each other as well as yourself.....everybody has become so damn selfish!
It's not an "EXPECTATION".....I love that word.....it's reality.....take a good look.....and choose to live life with a companion or alone.

Ah that feels better......thanks for listening....hahahaha
Very nice effort for a first post in the forums.


Newby to the forum world
welcome, looking forward to reading more from you.
 NewToTN9
Joined: 11/12/2010
Msg: 139
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 7:39:23 AM

Some never mature...women are nurturers and we are meant to be caring and responsible and know what we want,need, and will tolerate in a mate..We need stability in a relationship, if man not providing the needs . Don't expect much in return.

True. I have dated a few women who knew what they wanted in a man. The interesting observation was that none of them could themselves live up to the loft requirements and attributes they placed on their mate, not even close.

Women are less happier in relationships because men do not live up to a woman's expectations in the relationship.

Just curious to why you think women are less happy in their relationship? They most certainly verbalize their discontent more, but does that mean that they are less happy than their male counterpart?

Ask a woman for advice we are great future planners.

I am not speaking for all men here, but I am pretty sure most men are perfectly capable of planning their own future.
 Eddie1962150
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 140
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 1:29:53 PM
@ hippyera

No, Not arrogant. Just the truth. Like a lot of others, You can't stand it. Don't write me telling me to pass you up. I would never have written you to start with. Remember, You wrote me. Kinda dumb on your part don't you think? To write someone telling them to pass you up when they never thought about writing you (Haven't written you) in the first place? It's a forum thing, Leave it a forum thing. Don't PM me just because you don't agree or can't stand the truth. One thing I do not need is another crazy person writing me. Don't PM me telling me I'm arrogant when you are full of shyt. If anything is arrogant it's PMing someone out of the blue just because you don't agree. Leave it a forum thing. By the way, Why me? I'm not the only one who jumped on that load of crap you said. OR, Did you PM them too?
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 141
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 2:29:21 PM

And last, what do YOU have to offer in a relationship. All that you talk about is filling a women "needs", what is your purpose in a relationship?


Gotta agree with this. Men and women have needs. I think accepting each other's needs (even if it's a "man thing") is important.

It's kinda like the whole name change thing when people get married. Many men still like their future wife to want to take his name. Women may not understand it, but really aren't there things that us women have thoughts on that we can't really explain, but want men to accept?

Plus the first sentence of that post cracked me up, but that's off topic.
 DivineBovine
Joined: 5/13/2005
Msg: 142
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Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 3:18:53 PM

A FACT: Women matures much faster than men..Some never mature...women are nurturers and we are meant to be caring and responsible and know what we want,need, and will tolerate in a mate.


really?

can you provide a source for this "fact"??? an impartial study in a peer-reviewed journal.

i've known plenty of men who are "caring and responsible".
 cribplayer55
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 143
Women are less happy than men in their marriage/long term relationships because they expected more.
Posted: 8/17/2011 5:53:40 PM
That is why the Divorce rate of married couples is very high, These women are way to picky and also thinks the man always wants sex, That is why most Marriages Fail!!

If females put males to the test then why when it comes down to the man wanting something from them, they shut you down like a can of beans, blast him away?

Sex is not a bad thing, if so then why do women have kids, if sex is such a B##$ to get?

I hear stories from all these girls that have been in relationships, that they tell me how come it' s all about me when it comes to sex, I'm like please it's not all about you it's on my end too and don't tell me you dont like it, cause your a lying sack of crap!!
 cribplayer55
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 144
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/17/2011 5:55:15 PM
I"m kind & caring and that hasn't go me DTF in years!!

My point EXactly , way to picky!!
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 145
Women are less happy than men in their marriage/long term relationships because they expected more.
Posted: 8/17/2011 11:17:36 PM

Sex is not a bad thing, if so then why do women have kids, if sex is such a B##$ to get?

I hear stories from all these girls that have been in relationships, that they tell me how come it' s all about me when it comes to sex, I'm like please it's not all about you it's on my end too and don't tell me you dont like it, cause your a lying sack of crap!!


There are people who don't find sex important and just want to mate. Some women actually go through life not having any good sexual encounters, some never experience an orgasm at the "hands" of a man. Most people are unable to discuss sex openly with their partner. It's a whole different kettle of fish coming on here and talking about it vs. sitting down with your partner, looking them in the eyes and being totally open, discussing fantasies etc. People are not taught to be open about sex. Society and our parents make it taboo; even though it is flaunted in front of us daily. It's a constant mixed message.

As for women liking sex? Only if it's good, if you have a partner who is not open to communication the same way you are, it will suck. If your partner doesn't view sex as important as you do, it will suck.

I've come to a point that I dump someone if the sexual chemistry is not there and they have the attitude that they are good enough and can't learn anything or cannot discuss it.

I've met far too many men who think they are good enough in bed, when in reality they are horrible lovers and do not know how to discuss sex and are frankly afraid to.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 146
Women are less happy than men in their marriage/long term relationships because they expected more.
Posted: 8/19/2011 9:31:22 AM

It's a constant mixed message.

Indeed it is.
But is't this topic about marriage/ltrs as a whole...not just about sex?

I think that there must be a fair number of PEOPLE of both genders who are less happy in their marriages, thus the 30%-48% (depending on which pack of lies-oops!I mean statistics!) you choose to believe, rate of divorce.
Since no specific stats are gathered,( insofar as I know) about the breakup of LTRs, I don't know as we can speculate. I have seen opinions ventured that there are some projections based on anecdotal information/ polls/surveys, indicating that the break-up rate of nonmarital LTRs is noticeably higher. Generally speaking, this would make sense,IMO.
But I do not think that we can boil down marital/relationship unhappiness to being just about sex. I do know it is cited as ONE of the top reasons...but perhaps sometimes unsatisfactory sex is simply a by-product of some other issue?
Cindy O
 boredintheboonies
Joined: 7/27/2011
Msg: 147
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/19/2011 10:23:29 AM
Stereotypes. There is no such things as rule that applies to ALL women or ALL men. This is the kind of thinking the ends up causing people problems in relationships.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 148
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/20/2011 2:21:01 AM

A FACT:
Women matures much faster than men..Some never mature...women are nurturers and we are meant to be caring and responsible and know what we want,need, and will tolerate in a mate..We need stability in a relationship, if man not providing the needs . Don't expect much in return..
Women are less happier in relationships because men do not live up to a woman's expectations in the relationship. A relationship is suppose to be 50/50. Can you name 3 you know that are??
TIP: As women get older (like men) we tolerate less n less in relationships because we have had years of knowing what we will/will not tolerate in a man...
Ask a woman for advice we are great future planners...



^^^^^^HA!!! Bull^&*%! You've been Hippyera
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 149
Women are less happy in marriage/relationships than men because they expect much more?.
Posted: 8/20/2011 6:03:46 AM
I'm going to do something out of the norm and quote this positive post again:


Having high expectations is to norm, in most relationships when you are young ... But as you get older you learn that life isn't about expectations but about living and enjoying what life has to give you...
But if as you say...Men are simple creatures then women wouldn't be trying to read theirs minds so much...
65 % of relationship problems are due to communication.
Assuming, jumping to conclusions, flat not listing to what each other wants or needs.
I’m not talk just about women but this includes men too.


Enjoying what life has to give you.
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