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 viper1j
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 39
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Where was the gut feeling/intuition that never fails when you decided to walk down the aisle with Mr./Ms. Perfect and promised to spend the rest of your life loving and caring for that person, and now you're single again, fishing for another Mr./Ms. Perfect?


I took care of her until the day she died, and that was 17 years ago.. I didn't stay with her for the rest of my life, but I did stay with her for the rest of her's.

Any other questions?
 The_Song
Joined: 5/21/2008
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your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 10:30:56 AM
i trust my gut feelings alot, even thou i am willing to give people the benifit of the doupt. It has steer me clear of many situations and proven itself right numerous times.
A few times i clearly remember, a night out with my friends we decide to go out to a afterhours, some people suggest we go to this one called Red Lights, usually i like that place and would go, but that day something did not feel right and I was pretty much oppossed to it to the point that i argued with my friends about no going there and going somewhere else. In the end i pretty much told them that they can go if they want but that i was going to another instead. Next day i hear there was a shooting at Red Lights and 8-9 people got shot.

Same thing goes for people, sometimes u just get this bad vibe from people, you warn your friends about them, sometimes they dont listen and your proven right later on.
 Justplainjohn
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 41
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 1:57:17 PM
It's impossible to know if you gut is right with out constant feed back.

Lets say your gut say run from this person and never look back ... and you do .... how do you know you were right?

However you can use your past experience as an indicator. For instance in my divorce every single thing that my gut suspected turned out to be the truth. So for verifiable gut feelings I'm batting 100. Yesterday I got an email from a lady and my gut says she is not worth following up on. Am I right or wrong? Who knows? But I still go with the gut every time.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 42
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 2:33:01 PM
My gut is usually right.
I just never listen to it.
:-(
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 43
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 2:39:01 PM
My gut is calling for a beer right now. I trust my gut.
 CMaj7
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 44
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 5:05:55 PM
It is a useful guide and shouldn't be ignored. I try to temper my gut instinct with seeking clarification and information. If someone has gone silent you have dated our gut may tell us you are being blown off. The reality is there is a thin line between what our instinct tells us and making assumptions about a situation. So in the above example I would simply ask. And sometimes my assumptions and gut have been proven wrong. Not often.
 socialgirl3
Joined: 8/19/2008
Msg: 45
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/18/2011 10:38:15 PM
My instincts are almost always right....I have learned that if I do not listen to them, I regret it later....
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 46
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/19/2011 8:07:24 AM

Listening to *intuition; or your gut...giving yourself a good reason not to be ALIVE!

Just think at the end of your dull boring life you can say...see how well I lived I never took a chance on anything. I lived a good safe complete life!


REAL easy attitude to have, until you think about your 12 year old daughter getting the flag, and flinching at the report of a 21 gun salute, as you lay in a steel box.

My gut made sure I went home to her every night.

I no longer care if a complete stranger thinks Im being a snob or a racist...if someone creeps me out, Im outta there and I dont care what anyone else thinks. My safety is more important then being perceived as 'nice'.


And 3 days later, the complete stranger is sitting behind the desk as you show up for your job interview?


I'm sorry I would pat you on the back but your own hands are getting in my way of doing that. My point is that so many people LOOK for what is wrong with someone and then claim that it is a gut reaction...WE MAKE PEOPLE BE WHO THEY ARE TO US BY OUR OWN EXPECTATION OF THEM!

No one wants your charity...no one wants to feel that they are the underdog in a relationship...and since this is posted in the relationship forums then it is about relationships isn't it?
 cashleys
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 47
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/19/2011 9:31:19 PM
Pretty close, I would say that women have a sixth sense though and ours is more 95% correct, but we tend to think too much and convince what we know is not as it really is, then we ignore it then after if comes to fruition we say SEE, I knew it.
 jcmaine
Joined: 5/18/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 7/21/2011 5:48:01 AM

I'm sorry I would pat you on the back but your own hands are getting in my way of doing that. My point is that so many people LOOK for what is wrong with someone and then claim that it is a gut reaction...WE MAKE PEOPLE BE WHO THEY ARE TO US BY OUR OWN EXPECTATION OF THEM!


I said something very similar to this.


I say, if peoples "Intuition" was so great they'd not be on this site and they;d not make the dozens of relationship blunders they have in the past.
 LabradorOokpik
Joined: 6/30/2007
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:20:31 PM
^^^A lot of people dismiss their intuition and try to rationalize their feelings. I have heard of people getting into dangerous situations because they dismissed what their gut was telling them. Perhaps a lot of people do the same when it comes to love. In my own experience, I ignored things I shouldn't have and ended up getting hurt. Maybe I could have avoided that if I listened to my intuition instead of trying to rationalize it, but I guess, as they say, hindsight is 20/20. And yes, sometimes people do the same things over and over. I agree, though, that sometimes people are what we expect them to be.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 50
your gut and how smart it is
Posted: 7/22/2011 8:56:09 AM
Jco said it perfectly "My gut is about 98% accurate but too often I don't LISTEN to my gut in favor of giving people the benefit of the doubt.

I don't think I wanna change though....I'd rather have my heart broken than be bitter and closed off... I figure In the long run, I'll have more good memories filled with anothers' heart than being alone...it's just that it will be a collection of hearts instead of just one! I DO hold out hope though that the ONE will eventually come along.


And that's the best one can do until then, I think..."

Sometimes though, a person needs to go on a fast, until their vision looks clearer.
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