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 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
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They've lied to me about not only their age, but their height. Sure, I prefer men taller than me, but that is not the only factor of course. I have dated quite a few men shorter than me, but never twice if they lied about it.
 fl344
Joined: 3/22/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2011 7:28:00 PM
Thanks for the encouragement... hadn't thought about all the other things that could be lied about... yikes! :)
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 7/20/2011 7:34:55 PM
Well clever you found out at a distance.
Been even more awkward if you had met in person.
So I'd say score one for you.
 cion3
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/20/2011 9:52:37 PM
Yes, it happened to me. His profile indicates he was 11 years younger but when we met he admitted being untruthful in his profile. I asked him why, he said he does not want to meet old ladies. I told him he was an old man! The sad thing about it was, he was actually a nice man. It did not bother me that he lied but it bothered him more that he did. We did not see each other after our second date. Sad...
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
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Posted: 7/21/2011 1:52:58 AM
Welcome to the crazy world of online dating OP. I've had them lie about their age, height and marital status, but don't let it bother you there are some good honest guys out there, you just have to patient and don't be afraid to send off a message to a man who catches your interest.
 DivineBovine
Joined: 5/13/2005
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Posted: 7/21/2011 4:27:42 AM
this morning i saw my first big gap going the *wrong* way on a man's profile.

his age is listed as 44 and he swears he's really 35!

 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:26:22 AM

Army_Mom:
My personal twist on the age issue: Tell people you're WAY older than your real age then they'll be amazed at how good you look ...


I have met several women who looked much better than their photos, and that is always a VERY pleasant surprise.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 7/21/2011 1:09:48 PM

Out of the last five men who have contacted me, all five have misrepresented their age! Why? Once you meet, of course you are going to know they lied... how does one move forward? Is this happing to anyone else?


I think your man picker is broke.

I would think, that if these people were misrepresenting their age, they probably had no intention of meeting you to begin with, or, they believed that had enough glib to talk their way though their lie.

Change the choice of men you pick.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/21/2011 6:10:51 PM

Out of the last five men who have contacted me,


Change the choice of men you pick.

Ummm-if they are contacting HER-how is HER 'picker' broken?
If the information and photos in his profile are false/outdated, how in the world is she supposed to know that BEFORE she meets them?
Well, OP-there you have it. Presume that any men who contact YOU are lying about their age because somehow they can sense your picker is broken.
Ping-no disrespect-but reread the OT. She says they are contacting her-what is she supposed to do, other than just flat-out ignore emails and refuse to meet any men from PoF?
Cindy O
 fl344
Joined: 3/22/2008
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Posted: 7/21/2011 9:32:21 PM
I did not end up "going out" with any of the men I mentioned. So I guess my radar, or "picker" as a few of you have deemed it, is working just fine. My question, which was answered, had more to do with WHY would someone lie and expect to get away with it. Basically, as you have told me, there is no negative consequence and only things to be gained by lying. (And yes, I did report it to pof, including copies of chats where he said he lied, and he is still here.) The feeling that it might be "just you" or somehow your fault is unsettling; however the other posters have been encouraging… and I KNOW there are good men out there. In our local paper today there was an article about a woman who married a man she met through e-harmony and it turns out the guy was still married to his first wife! Things could always be worse and I feel lucky that my radar kicked in and I did not waste anymore time! This was my first forum post… thanks for making it a mostly good experience!
 goatdriver
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/22/2011 9:11:46 AM
Yup.it's happaned to me in various ways.I am honest about everything on my profile simply because the truth with catch up with you sooner or later so one might as well be honest from jump street.It irks me to waste my time on someone who thinks that running game on me is ok.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/12/2011 8:21:43 AM
ROFL!! I had one guy who had claimed to be 52 in his profile but only after talking a few times on the phone did I come to find out he was actually 63 years old!! He said he didn't put 63 in his profile because he didn't LOOK 63 - he put the age he LOOKS.

What a rodeo clown.
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 10/12/2011 8:29:53 AM
I don't really know what age I look, but I told the truth about everything on my profile. I might put things in the best possible light -- that's what advertising is about -- but it's all the truth. And I made sure the date-stamp on my profile pic is visible.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 10/12/2011 9:33:50 AM
Well OP........I applaud you for being brave enough to "cam" because most that are far off from their profile, will not want to do that because they will then have to prove their claims and cannot............ Using a "cam" is more and more a necessity for me, and it has nothing to do with sexual activities, and all to do with seeing if they look like their pictures and fit their profile.

Before you start blaming all the men for the fudging of their birth dates, let me tell you that women do it just as much, if not more then men, and it really does not matter to me, as long as they can prove their claims..........

So, since you feel that you need to rant some about age, let's put the shoe on the other foot and talk about weight............ Is it just not, if not more so, delusional, fudging, and manipulating when one calls themselves average, and they are "fat", and when one says that they are a few pounds overweight, and they are truly obese, as it is to think one looks younger than their drivers license?

My point is this, if a site has a mandatory part that one must state their age, it should have also a mandatory part that one must state their height, and weight, giving us a general idea of how that person will look as it deals with both weight and age. To allow one thing like weight to be passed over, but mandates the age requirement, just does not make sense to me!

cd..................
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