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Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 26
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If it is important to you, then yes mention it.
But if it is someone you like, you may have to pony up for the dental bill.
as alot of folks don't have dental insurance.

Perhaps this is more an issue of dating in your income bracket.
Cus for many, dentists are a luxury.
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 27
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/22/2011 2:56:41 PM
Put what you feel is important in your profile:)
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 28
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/22/2011 3:21:49 PM
LOL O MY..... if you date a guy and his teeth are yellow and you don't like it then it's your decision if you want to continue or not.

I mean I can understand if they were black, dark brown blotches on them or missing or not there at all but a little yellowing?? That is a bit picky I think.....
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/22/2011 7:10:59 PM
consigliori HAHAHAHA

I brush the ones that ARE NOT missing.
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 30
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/23/2011 12:26:09 AM

We're supposed to be repulsed by poor oral hygiene as it is an easy identifier of poor general health...

Exactly. Rotten, dirty teeth does poison your whole body. It is a well known fact that it can cause heart disease too.

I cannot date someone who hasn't looked after their teeth, complete turn off to me. I have looked after my teeth all my life, carry a toothbrush with me everywhere too.

Hint: Rinse your mouth with apple cider vinegar and then brush with baking soda (don't be alarmed by the fizzing). This should keep your teeth very clean between dentist cleanings (get one at least once a year, twice is better) and should also eventually whiten them without using chemicals.
Joined: 9/3/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/23/2011 2:55:15 AM
it all comes down to genetics, I had a roomate once who barely brushed never flossed last dental appointent was in the 80's and he has super white healthy teeth. but he is also thin and muscular even though he lives on junk-food and is 42. genetics is his friend.
Joined: 1/19/2011
Msg: 32
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/23/2011 10:34:36 AM
But unless it's asked about missing teeth how do you know what his hygiene is? If the teeth are rotting and terribly yellow is one thing.
Missing teeth is another. I have had bad teeth and bad experiences with dentist (in high school I went to a dentist school and they screwed up my teeth long story) and now I am getting ready for dentures. I brush twice a day, floss and am very concious of my breath so all I can say fir missing teeth ASK. (the teeth I do have are fine by the way)
Joined: 1/12/2011
Msg: 33
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/23/2011 6:04:20 PM
If your teeth are white, but not pearly white, you can use lemon juice and baking soda once a week to get them white. The cost? Less than 5 dollars.
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 34
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/25/2011 8:38:53 AM
Another question: How do you tactfully ask someone for pictures showing them smiling? I met a guy who wasn't smiling in his pictures, and when we met in person he had giant buck teeth with a huge gap between them. People have to know why you'd request a picture like that, wouldn't they?
Joined: 5/17/2010
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:43:13 PM
It is okay to be picky. I am picky too. But the color goes 2 ways for me. Some people whiten way too much. Teeth should not be so white they are almost blue! Naturally white teeth will not be the color of notebook paper!

But I don't like brown teeth either. Unattented to cavities are where I really draw the line. I never had a cavity, so they kind of creep me out.
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/11/2011 6:30:22 AM

I have some missing teeth but I brush them everyday like every other human being.

Dude you're one of a kind if you can do that.

Why are they brushing teeth that are missing?
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 37
Picky about teeth
Posted: 11/11/2011 7:36:23 AM
I definitely can't date someone with yellow teeth. It's disgusting. I take extremely good care of my teeth, and to me, yellowing is a sign of laziness, dirtiness, and unhealthiness. I couldn't imagine kissing someone whose mouth disgusts me.
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 38
Picky about teeth
Posted: 11/11/2011 10:54:48 AM
I am kinda picky about teeth as well, if they dont brush or have tons of missing teeth, not happening.

My late husband has all his teeth pulled (every last one) and replaced with dentures, not long before we met. I was shocked when i found out his perfect smile was dentures! He had wanted to do it for years but had a dentist phobia, but finally mustered up the courage to go sit in the dentists chair. I sometimes wonder if i would have passed him up, who was perfect in every way, if i had met him pre-dental work. It is possible i might have!

He actually did practice good hygeine, but he had suffered from a combination of bad teeth genetics, & choldhood poverty. My former mother in law was very poor when he was a little boy, had no money for dentists nor insurance, & fed him a lot of junk food because it was cheap (not talking down on her, i lover her dearly, i know she tried her hardest & she eventually started wedding business & became well to do).....she actually paid for his dental work because she felt awful that she wasnt able to care for his teeth properly when he was growing up.
Joined: 2/12/2010
Msg: 39
Picky about teeth
Posted: 11/11/2011 11:58:57 AM
Last year when I was out of work I was in a car accident which knocked 4 of my teeth out including my front tooth. I was terrified that it would hold me back from finding any sort of female interaction. Since I had no insurance to cover the massive dental bill I had no choice but to live with the situation, and unfortunately still do since the dental insurance at my current job doesn't kick in for another six months. However the girl I met was very understanding of the situation and doesn't even acknowledge the fact they're missing. In fact when we go out we just tell people I play professional hockey...and in most cases they buy it
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/11/2011 9:42:43 PM
this is a subject close to hand.. I have to admit, the broken/blackened/browned teeth is a turnoff, have been with one guy with it and it took everything to try and not be 'judgemental'... but I just couldn't keep it up - began to be continually repulsed... and had to face up to the fact {there were heaps of other issues too, so not just that one}

I've just paid out {big time - no insurance} for partial dentures to replace missing teeth that came about as a result of poor dental genetics, and injuries to my mouth as a result of violence. I was very self conscious about my 'gaps' and it definitely affected many aspects of my life. {nothing like craving a nice crunchy salad and having no teeth to chew and masticate with}

I'm not sure how he put up with it, but I have to admit never brushed much at all until I lived with my first live in b/friend... then I used to watch him brush his teeth at least nightly and so I began to follow suit. From that 'moment' of starting the habit, I haven't let it slip. I'm not a 4 times a day, and regular flosser but as one dentist mentioned, as long as it's last thing at night with a flouridated toothpaste, it's enough. {I guess not because some of the tooth removal was also as a result of rapid development of a cavity in a damaged tooth}

Now I spend much of my time making sure that my young son understands the importance of looking after his teeth and I will nagg incessantly to make sure that he 'gets it'...
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 41
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/19/2016 8:32:51 PM
Had to revive a old dead thread because the OP spelled it out pretty clearly. Even though we don't have moderators anymore, I didn't want to start a new thread when this one works.

I finally met someone that I really like. He's very sweet and considerate. I definitely don't want to hurt his feelings. It looks like he hasn't had his teeth cleaned in quite a few years though.

I know dentists are expensive. I go there and pay what it costs. I don't think that he's broke or cheap. He has a very expensive boat that costs a lot of money to operate and pay for upkeep. That boat is his baby.

I would like to delicately tell him dental health can affect your overall health. Gum disease can cause heart problems. I know because the dental hygienist and I recently discussed someone we knew who died from an abscessed tooth because the infection went to his brain.
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/19/2016 8:57:36 PM
Most people have yellow teeth. Very few people have movie-star white teeth.

What's disturbing is missing teeth, sores, bleeding gums, and any kind of oral decay that creates an odor you can pick up from 3 feet away.

Maybe it's bad to point out, but breath mints and chewing gum are your FRIENDS on a date. I don't mean chew a big wad the entire date, I mean chew and ditch it before you meet, so you don't have the breath of Smaug.

Some women carry toothpaste or mouthwash in the their purse. No problem with that - they are thinking ahead.
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 43
the tooth pick
Posted: 7/20/2016 7:07:33 AM
"Some women carry toothpaste or mouthwash in their purse"

>>>a fellow who thinks appearance upkeep is a waste of time and money, tends to do better with a like-minded female. I too prefer a lady who likes a kissable mouth, and is willing to do a little bit of planning to achieve that. an unhealthy looking mouth is like any other part of us that looks unhealthy. Ever walk thru an unkempt yard to step inside a beautifully kept house? Its rare. Oh, its not nice to judge a book by its cover, however... some humans tend to be consistant. What you see on the outside, is what you get on the inside. and the times where a gym body hides a plain personality...we still make exceptions :)
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/20/2016 9:35:28 AM

I would like to delicately tell him dental health can affect your overall health.

Oh, F that!

How about, it's disgusting to kiss somebody with gross teeth?
Joined: 4/26/2016
Msg: 45
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/20/2016 11:39:43 AM

I don't think it's likely that he will change his oral hygiene habits, but best of luck getting him to try. At the same time, when you present the situation to him delicately, as you mentioned, there is a possibility he will take your suggestions to heart ... or he may start looking for things about you that need correcting. What you're doing isn't wrong, but he can easily misconstrue your intentions.

Good luck!
Joined: 6/10/2015
Msg: 46
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Posted: 7/20/2016 3:14:17 PM
I once met a guy on POF, and when I saw him in person...he had yellow teeth. Like, noticeably yellow. He didn't smoke either, so I can only guess it was from bad hygiene, or maybe coffee? Either way, it was a turnoff. He was nice, so I tried to overlook it and went out with him a second time, but then I realized there were other things that I didn't like as well. So, just no. Crooked teeth are one thing, but bad hygiene is another story.
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 47
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Posted: 7/21/2016 12:20:22 AM
I didn't say his breath smelled or he doesn't brush his teeth. I wouldn't want to kiss him if he didn't brush his teeth.

Unfortunately, some people think brushing your teeth is enough. Regular cleanings are still necessary. I plan to bring this up as soon as possible. One would think that taking care of something that can cause poor health of even kill a person would be higher on the list of priorities than upkeep on a boat.
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 48
looking down in their mouth
Posted: 7/21/2016 9:27:43 AM
you would think so, but some people compare dentristy to pain. And pain avoidance is an universal characteristic in humans. not that i'm arguing, I literally grin and bear it every 3 months. but I can see the "logic" of people who want to avoid pain until its too late for preventative maintainance.
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 49
looking down in their mouth
Posted: 7/21/2016 9:55:51 AM
Teeth and smile are probably the most important thing as far as attraction goes.

Some people are single for a reason.
Joined: 5/18/2016
Msg: 50
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Posted: 7/22/2016 8:05:48 AM
The number of women that have bad oral hygene in the midwest is staggering. I met one girl who smiled with her mouth closed in all of her photos and her teeth were pretty messed up in person.

She asked me "how do I keep my teeth so nice?"

I responded "I go to the dentist every 6 months for a checkup/cleaning, and brush my teeth daily."

She responded "I never went to the dentist."

WTF is wrong with people. GROSS.
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