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 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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And finally, cheating in a spousal relationship, can lead to divorce or other form of loss of spouse, loss of property, loss of kids, alienation of family, kids, etc. Loss of money, car, house etc... There are a lot of incentives to NOT have sex with someone else...
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and yet millions still do it!
 chromelove08
Joined: 11/17/2008
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Posted: 11/3/2011 9:43:45 PM
If you are fwb's and that's it then why should it matter if you have sex with someone else? It's not like you are committed in a relationship.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/4/2011 4:00:08 AM
Its also the case that many of those will actually just be a FB, but people (especially on public forums) have a tendency to want to make what theyre doing sound "nicer"

For it to be an FWB you HAVE to be friends, or at least heading towards forming an actual friendship rather than just "chatting" as a means to having sex

Youre also missing the fact that many relationships end up being non monogamous too, its called cheating. And agreeing to monogamy in an FWB and not being true to that isnt much better than doing so in any other relationship, its still deciet but it also has the added aspect of lying to a friend, which by itself isnt something actual friends tend to do as a rule

So wheeling out other threads doesnt alter anything, you can also find droves of threads by people who were cheated on in their marriage too, does that mean marriages arent monogamous?

Or does it just mean that "some" prople will cheat after claiming to be monogamous?

It seems youre the one making "assumptions" but ones you probably wouldnt equally make about marriage or full blown relationships even though they have an equal predisposition towards being non monogamous


As for ones where the couple AGREE it wont be monogamous, again, that also happens with marriages and FWBs, but if its been mutually agreed then its the arrangement both people wanted, not an indication of how ALL FWBs are in the same way that open marriages also dont define how ALL marriages will be

A flawed conclusion based on selective interpretation isnt as compelling as you seem to think it is
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 11/4/2011 7:24:18 AM
It fills a need in the vast spectrum of human sexuality. The question isn't why, it's "Why not?" The answer to that is ONLY valid for the individual contemplating the situation.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/4/2011 7:39:25 AM
I had to laugh at a woman I knew claiming that an FWB in the spaces between actual relationships filled a "void"

Being honest though she did have a very nice "void" and it would have been a crime against nature to have not filled it as often as possible
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