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 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Beauty over age 45Page 6 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
Interestingly enough, I find a LOT of women look great who are near my age (60).

The nice thing about that is that I don't have to worry what they will look like when they get older... they already have a combination of good genes, a healthier lifestyle, including not smoking or having excessive sun exposure, they keep their weight in check, are active and most of all have a great attitude.

For those that are not like that, I have little interest in finding out if there are other good qualities a great relationship needs. Many women in the age bracket I am interested in (51-64) look great, so why would I date someone who doesn't? I'm sorry if you smoke or smoked for a long time, if you thought being in the sun all the time was great, or you indulged in foods that did not much for nutrition but stuck around on your body as a reminder. If your interest is your couch and TV shows, oh well, I'm not your guy.

There are so many quality women out there that have an inner and outer beauty, many here on POF.
 Green_Jello44
Joined: 6/19/2011
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/1/2012 3:25:38 PM
We can complain and argue on many topics on these boards, but one thing is fact.....women look amazing these days! I have no need to date or dance with babies, when women 45+ look so hot!
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 100
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/1/2012 7:45:21 PM
Shelf life? I get hit on all the time by men in their 20s, not to mention men my age and men who are older..
It may be there for you..but its not there for me or a lot of other women.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/7/2012 8:00:37 AM

PureSentiment:

Ever noticed.... guys in our age bracket will state and filter for women within a 15 to 20 year age bracket at the bottom of their profiles?

I find it odd and amusing at the same time. Doesn't bother me, or make a difference in my decision to talk to them, but it does make one stop and speculate that perhaps women too should do the same.


There is nothing inherently wrong with dating someone younger than yourself, not for men or women. But there is a need to be realistic. You have to be able to attract them. Sean Connery in his 60's could easily attract any woman of any age. There are women right here on POF who could easily attract and keep men 20 years younger.

And there are those who delude themselves. Many older men fall into this category, and wind up being used by women who are after their money, or if they don't have money, wind up alone and bitter. Amongst the older women, I have seen so many posts here in the forums by over-45 women saying, "I could have a date every night of the week if I wanted to date young men." And I look at their pictures and say to myself, "No, you couldn't. You could get fycked every night of the week by a different young man, but you could not have dates."

Just be realistic, that is all I ask.
 hunny7
Joined: 6/19/2007
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/10/2012 11:11:44 PM
why dont men take care of themselves, the look old and fat and bald. i'm having a hard time dating my age group because of this. hey guys, listen up, we women also like to look at someone handsome and sexy, so start doing something about it
 amethyst10616
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/12/2012 6:38:12 PM
Attraction is what is missing so often when people meet and greet. If we are so lucky to meet someone whom we share a mutual attraction to, as well as have fun with, then who really cares about age? I say that we all need to do what floats our boat, who cares what anyone else thinks?

A large age gap can be problematic when it comes to where you are at in your life's journey. Personally, I have my children grown, and am ready to enjoy this stage in my life without so many responsibilities.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/15/2012 11:28:22 AM
That's like comparing an oak tree to a sapling. Both are beautiful.
 amethyst10616
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/20/2012 5:26:44 PM
So much about what makes someone pleasing to look at is their inner joy. It absolutely radiates on their face. Joy can transform someone from plain to pretty. Women do tend to take care of themselves better than the average man, especially women our ages. We know that time is not kind and most of us, at least the women I know, try to make the most of our assets.

I have been out with men who do not groom well and it is unappealing. A big pot belly is not healthy, nor attractive. Yellow teeth are just gross. If I am fortunate enough to ever meet Mr. Right again, I do not wanting him keeling over from a heart attack.
 GASailor
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/21/2012 6:55:28 AM
Well, at 66 it looks like I am the old geezer here. I think the problem is that many of us (both men and women) get comfortable in a relationship and over time let our appearance slip. When that relationship ends I believe it is often a lot easier for a man to recover than a woman.

The key is in the mind. If you can maintain a youthful outlook and take pride in your appearance you can stay sexy for a long time. I have dated pretty women 20 years younger than me who were on an obvious down hill spiral. On the other hand I have dated some very elegant ladies my age and older whom I would have a hard time keeping up with.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/22/2012 11:33:29 AM
Mithrillmoon, you are so right! I find that most of the 50+ men I have met on "dating sites" fit one or more (generally more), of the unpleasant, unhygienic conditions you describe....
 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 113
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 4:46:40 PM

And men seldom will put women over their own age on their dating list. Is it age, beauty standards, or what?


Yes, it's age. Yes, it's beauty standards.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 114
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:30:07 PM

Yes, women have a shelf life.

And many placed themselves on a very high shelf. Can't reach them.


Only a lazy person won't reach for the higher shelf
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/25/2012 9:25:29 PM
Love the "gray hair distinguished look" on men; am totally repulsed by the gigantic gut!
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 118
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/25/2012 10:28:11 PM

BlackLady1953:
Love the "gray hair distinguished look" on men; am totally repulsed by the gigantic gut!


Lots of ladies in this age range are not slim and trim and many never were. That door swings both ways, there. I see a lot of pics of women who claim they're a average body type, average if the 'average woman is fat' that is. Then many more try and hide it with creative photo angles or cropping. There's the whole throwing rocks while living in glass houses too.

 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 119
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Posted: 2/26/2012 12:02:33 AM
Fifi, we are the size/shape we are. But some try and hide what size they are and that's deceptive. Do you think a lady whose hips and waist are the same size is an 'average' body type? I like all types but prefer more of a curvy hour glass figure. I've read enough posts in the short time I've been here, putting down short, fat, and bald men. Well I've been fat in the past and may be again sometime in the future. But I don't think I'll ever be bald or short. Though I did shave my head when my wife lost her hair to chemo.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 120
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/26/2012 12:43:19 AM
Fifi, I'm sorry, that's not how I meant the post. I was replying to the one about big gut men. I think you know sarcasm don't translate so well to this medium.

You also see people who list their body type as 'thin' but with their bone structure they never will be 'thin'. My brother is 1" taller than I am and 30-50 lbs lighter. He is/was thin where I take after a different part of our family and will always be big boned/stocky no matter how much/little body fat I have. My late wife was the same way, she never would be 'thin'. Her rib cage, hips, and shoulders wouldn't allow it.

Again, my post didn't translate what I was trying to say and I didn't mean to offend someone like you. I looked at your profile and I don't see where you would be trying to deceive anyone about yourself. My post wasn't aimed at you.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/26/2012 2:28:29 PM
I don't think it's your age. Your profile is nice and well written. There are plenty of active men in their 50's or 60's. Maybe you should raise your age limit slightly.

If anything, it could be the location.
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 122
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:47:17 AM
Some of the most attractive women "out there" are in their mid 40's and up. I'd really feel foolish prancing around out and about with a lady that looks young enough to be mine or somebody's else daughter.

Look how ridiculous Hugh Hefner has looked over the past 20 years.......and ESPECIALLY now, lounging around in his bath robe...yucking it up with bevy of 20 somethings.

Actually....that looks a little (a lot) sick.

In my humble opinion, the lady who posted this thread was/is a very attractive woman!
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 124
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 3:03:01 PM
Well yeah...........of COURSE common sense tells me he they aren't actually DOING anything with him. But he WAS engaged to be married just recently to a lady that was 40/50 years younger than him, and she called it of.

You are right..it's all about the iconic image.............has been for years.....and of course the young ladies are there for the exposure.......... (pun intended)


 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 125
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 3:07:15 PM
I just googled it..........Hugh Hefner 84.............his fiance 25.

Common sense tells me that THAT was ridiculous!
 VoxClamantis
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 127
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/16/2012 6:15:51 AM
It's demographics, pure and simple.

20-something women are desired by everyone nearly universally. This is the gold standard of female attractiveness, and women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s who approach this standard will have the most certain success. Grossly overweight women will appeal to fetishists. Among the 20-somethings, therefore, the power lies mostly with young women. It may not seem so, because the number of men that women find attractive is always a smaller subset of the number of women that men find attractive, but in general, young women can reject 50 men for each man she accepts without any damage to her prospects.

However, after about 40, the number of single men available to single women drops precipitously, and power swings over to the men. Thus, the number of men approaching will be lower and probably the quality as well. The good news is that you still only need one...
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 128
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 8:42:44 PM

Men become more beautiful over 45. For us women, the upkeep is ridiculous. the shaving and plucking and tucking and angling-ugh. Exhausting. Give me a man with cataracts and no depth perception ASAP.



I agree. And that's why I prefer candles or dim lighting.


...mae
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 10:09:57 PM
Omg....No hope for us with contacts and 20/20 then....lmao

cd
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 130
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 10:18:34 PM
Omg....No hope for us with contacts and 20/20 then....lmao



...Oh gosh no, I wouldn't want to scare you...especially first thing in the morning...lol




...mae
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/22/2012 11:35:35 PM
Man a lot of cop outs on this site...age, hair, body type...bla bla bla. Look for the ones who are looking for you, not the ones who are not.
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