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 FreschFisch
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 108
Beauty over age 45Page 9 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
"why dont men take care of themselves, the look old and fat and bald. i'm having a hard time dating my age group because of this. hey guys, listen up, we women also like to look at someone handsome and sexy, so start doing something about it"

While my lack of hair may be hereditary or typical of my age. The paunch in your tummy doesnt have to be....
 GASailor
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 109
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/21/2012 6:55:28 AM
Well, at 66 it looks like I am the old geezer here. I think the problem is that many of us (both men and women) get comfortable in a relationship and over time let our appearance slip. When that relationship ends I believe it is often a lot easier for a man to recover than a woman.

The key is in the mind. If you can maintain a youthful outlook and take pride in your appearance you can stay sexy for a long time. I have dated pretty women 20 years younger than me who were on an obvious down hill spiral. On the other hand I have dated some very elegant ladies my age and older whom I would have a hard time keeping up with.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 110
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/22/2012 11:33:29 AM
Mithrillmoon, you are so right! I find that most of the 50+ men I have met on "dating sites" fit one or more (generally more), of the unpleasant, unhygienic conditions you describe....
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 111
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/22/2012 12:49:47 PM

Ever noticed.... guys in our age bracket will state and filter for women within a 15 to 20 year age bracket at the bottom of their profiles?


I have no such statement or filter.

 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 112
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/22/2012 12:50:58 PM

Yes, women have a shelf life. Otherwise, men wouldn't limit there search for women to 35 years old.


I have no such limit.

 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 113
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 4:46:40 PM

And men seldom will put women over their own age on their dating list. Is it age, beauty standards, or what?


Yes, it's age. Yes, it's beauty standards.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 114
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:30:07 PM

Yes, women have a shelf life.

And many placed themselves on a very high shelf. Can't reach them.


Only a lazy person won't reach for the higher shelf
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 115
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:45:57 PM
There's so much more important in life than who is still physically beautiful when they're older.
Who gives a shit.

And that's what I think.
 ro1970
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 116
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/24/2012 5:48:16 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Amen to that, Drummingnut! I like the way you think!
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 117
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/25/2012 9:25:29 PM
Love the "gray hair distinguished look" on men; am totally repulsed by the gigantic gut!
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 118
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/25/2012 10:28:11 PM

BlackLady1953:
Love the "gray hair distinguished look" on men; am totally repulsed by the gigantic gut!


Lots of ladies in this age range are not slim and trim and many never were. That door swings both ways, there. I see a lot of pics of women who claim they're a average body type, average if the 'average woman is fat' that is. Then many more try and hide it with creative photo angles or cropping. There's the whole throwing rocks while living in glass houses too.

 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 119
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/26/2012 12:02:33 AM
Fifi, we are the size/shape we are. But some try and hide what size they are and that's deceptive. Do you think a lady whose hips and waist are the same size is an 'average' body type? I like all types but prefer more of a curvy hour glass figure. I've read enough posts in the short time I've been here, putting down short, fat, and bald men. Well I've been fat in the past and may be again sometime in the future. But I don't think I'll ever be bald or short. Though I did shave my head when my wife lost her hair to chemo.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 120
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/26/2012 12:43:19 AM
Fifi, I'm sorry, that's not how I meant the post. I was replying to the one about big gut men. I think you know sarcasm don't translate so well to this medium.

You also see people who list their body type as 'thin' but with their bone structure they never will be 'thin'. My brother is 1" taller than I am and 30-50 lbs lighter. He is/was thin where I take after a different part of our family and will always be big boned/stocky no matter how much/little body fat I have. My late wife was the same way, she never would be 'thin'. Her rib cage, hips, and shoulders wouldn't allow it.

Again, my post didn't translate what I was trying to say and I didn't mean to offend someone like you. I looked at your profile and I don't see where you would be trying to deceive anyone about yourself. My post wasn't aimed at you.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 121
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/26/2012 2:28:29 PM
I don't think it's your age. Your profile is nice and well written. There are plenty of active men in their 50's or 60's. Maybe you should raise your age limit slightly.

If anything, it could be the location.
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 122
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:47:17 AM
Some of the most attractive women "out there" are in their mid 40's and up. I'd really feel foolish prancing around out and about with a lady that looks young enough to be mine or somebody's else daughter.

Look how ridiculous Hugh Hefner has looked over the past 20 years.......and ESPECIALLY now, lounging around in his bath robe...yucking it up with bevy of 20 somethings.

Actually....that looks a little (a lot) sick.

In my humble opinion, the lady who posted this thread was/is a very attractive woman!
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 123
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 10:30:43 AM

Look how ridiculous Hugh Hefner has looked over the past 20 years.......and ESPECIALLY now, lounging around in his bath robe...yucking it up with bevy of 20 somethings.



Hugh Heffner doesn't actually do anything with those women it's all for marketing purposes.


He still looks ridiculous. Soon his girlies will be pushing him around in his wheelchair and drawing straws to see who has to change his Depends.

Lately he reminds me of Boris Karloff when Boris played Frankenstein’s monster without his dentures, to give his face that sunken look. So now when anyone mentions Hugh Hefner I think of Frankenstein.
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 124
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 3:03:01 PM
Well yeah...........of COURSE common sense tells me he they aren't actually DOING anything with him. But he WAS engaged to be married just recently to a lady that was 40/50 years younger than him, and she called it of.

You are right..it's all about the iconic image.............has been for years.....and of course the young ladies are there for the exposure.......... (pun intended)


 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 125
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/29/2012 3:07:15 PM
I just googled it..........Hugh Hefner 84.............his fiance 25.

Common sense tells me that THAT was ridiculous!
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 126
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/16/2012 12:25:55 AM
Helen Mirren has had face lifts and all the enhancements and if she was a natural 66 year old, she would not be so hot. She has a good figure I grant that and wears the right clothes to show it off. Youth is beauty and that is a fact of life. Older women are only beautiful if they have had work done and do not look their age. Nothing pretty about grey hair and wrinkles. Call them character lines if you wish.
 VoxClamantis
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 127
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/16/2012 6:15:51 AM
It's demographics, pure and simple.

20-something women are desired by everyone nearly universally. This is the gold standard of female attractiveness, and women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s who approach this standard will have the most certain success. Grossly overweight women will appeal to fetishists. Among the 20-somethings, therefore, the power lies mostly with young women. It may not seem so, because the number of men that women find attractive is always a smaller subset of the number of women that men find attractive, but in general, young women can reject 50 men for each man she accepts without any damage to her prospects.

However, after about 40, the number of single men available to single women drops precipitously, and power swings over to the men. Thus, the number of men approaching will be lower and probably the quality as well. The good news is that you still only need one...
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 128
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 8:42:44 PM

Men become more beautiful over 45. For us women, the upkeep is ridiculous. the shaving and plucking and tucking and angling-ugh. Exhausting. Give me a man with cataracts and no depth perception ASAP.



I agree. And that's why I prefer candles or dim lighting.


...mae
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 129
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 10:09:57 PM
Omg....No hope for us with contacts and 20/20 then....lmao

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 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 130
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/17/2012 10:18:34 PM
Omg....No hope for us with contacts and 20/20 then....lmao



...Oh gosh no, I wouldn't want to scare you...especially first thing in the morning...lol




...mae
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 131
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Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/22/2012 11:35:35 PM
Man a lot of cop outs on this site...age, hair, body type...bla bla bla. Look for the ones who are looking for you, not the ones who are not.
 okfinewhateva
Joined: 11/14/2009
Msg: 132
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 4/23/2012 1:48:47 AM
Maybe I am a rarity but I prefer women my age or a bit older. I have found they are more focused on what they want in a relationship , more grounded , and every bit as beautiful as a younger woman. Plus we can talk about about movies, music and even old TV shows and you know exactly what I am reminiscing about. I have no desire to date someone that is half my age. My last girlfriend is 58 and she is still quite gorgeous. My vote is for the mature woman!
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