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 Laughing Leprechaun
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 112
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Sure I've had a few "strange" encounters.
I use Skype now, to chat, its free and even if your in the same town works. Also nice is the
video feature that POF has. At least your seeing people in real time.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 113
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Posted: 8/30/2011 8:31:35 AM
Well if you ask for something it will surly come along someday, i said i never had a werid date\ meet, lol well had one, thank god i made it out alive, she didn't look the same as her pic, and i could hardly get a word in, as she was talking the hold time, lol
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 115
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Posted: 9/1/2011 3:00:05 AM
lmfao...... first off why did your kids meet him and sec why u going out with a forty year old guy gross jus sayin . dont be so nice
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 116
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Posted: 9/1/2011 3:03:39 AM
omg...... to hilarious
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 118
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Posted: 9/1/2011 5:57:43 AM
I AM NOT GOING IN THERE! I met this really gorgeous girl at an open house............ I mean
this gal knew how to wear a tight sweater and leather mini. I thought I would try to “score some points with her” by inviting her two young boys to go target shooting with us on our first date. They had a ball and shot especially well which wasn’t hard with my super accurate .22 caliber rifle and novelty targets. I mean I was scoring major points, or so I thought. After finishing our target shooting, I took them up to our clubhouse to show them around. We got to the door and she asked me if there were any trophy mounts hanging on the wall. When I told her yes, she said that she wasn’t going in there since she didn’t approve of hunting and killing animals. I took
them home and she invited me in for a drink and some more conversation. Just then the phone rings and it was her exhusband. For the next 10 minutes while I sat beside her she told her ex all about our date while I was sitting next to her. Goodbye, I said and out the door I went never to see her again.
Joined: 8/29/2011
Msg: 120
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Posted: 9/1/2011 7:59:10 PM
It didn't happen on this site, butttttt...this was my first experience with meeting a date that I'd found online. Two effing weeks ago.

He seemed really sweet, quite normal, we had a lot in common, you know. It's the same story with a different ending. I was still in SoCal for the summer, but we made plans to meet once I got back to the San Francisco area. We talked on the phone, texted, Skyped a lot...then about a week before I was to make the move back up north, things started getting odd. He just mentioned waaaaay too much how he'd never felt like this with another girl before, etcetera, etcetera. I usually just brushed him off with a smile if we were Skyping or a hint to take the conversation in another direction, and frequently made comments about how I wanted to take things slowly. It was a little weird, but I figured I'd still meet him the once in person at least, since I'd invested a lot of time in talking to him.

So we met up for frozen yogurt, and first thing he does when he sees me is KISS ME. And not a modest peck on the lips, either, he was trying to get his tongue in my mouth. I stepped back after a few seconds of that and just tried to pretend it hadn't happened. We got our frozen yogurt, started wandering around walking and talking, everything seemed fine for a while and I started to relax. Conversation was good, he was sweet and polite. So he asked me if I wanted to come back to his place to play a game or watch a movie, and I said sure, since things seemed to have normalized (I though perhaps he'd gotten the hint about not touching me when I backed out of the kiss).

We went back to his place, he put on the DVD from a live concert of one of the bands we both know, and then the weirdly awkward silence descended. I felt like I had to do all the talking because he was just looking at me, smiling weirdly, not really saying anything, and whenever I stopped talking he would lean in to try and make out with me.

I chattered on until he asked if I wanted to be in a relationship with him, and taken aback and sort of weirded out, I just said "Okay...", because I had gotten kind of freaked and afraid that he would do something if I pissed him off at all--he gave off that vibe. At that point I told him I needed to get home and start unpacking my apartment, so he volunteered to walk me there (streets of Berkeley not exactly safe at night, so I did appreciate this).

Unfortunately, this meant that he got to find out where I lived. The next morning I sent him a message saying that I didn't think it was going to work out, that I didn't really want a relationship yet (not with him, at least--he moved way too fast), but that he was a great guy and I hoped he found what he was looking for. I thought that was the end of it.

Two days later he called me and left an angry message about how I never had been good at picking up his phone calls. Okay...

Then, that Friday night, he texted me saying, "Don't you think you owe me a phone call?"

Okay. I talked to this guy for about two weeks, that's true. But I still didn't think that ending things after a first date required so much effort. I texted back saying it wouldn't make any difference, that my mind was set and that was it.

He proceeded to drunk-dial me and leave me long, angsty voicemails all night. They started getting crazy when he said he was so in love with me and had thought about killing himself over the situation. O.O Luckily I have a male housemate who's quite protective, so I wasn't too worried about the guy coming back to my apartment building, because if he did, my friend would have scared him off.

I didn't really know what to do in the situation. Do I call the police and tell them that he's a suicide risk? Or is it just a major guilt-trip for me? My friend went with the it's-a-cry-for-attention line of thinking, so I blocked his number, ignored his messages, and tried to put it behind me.

I'm just hoping I have better luck on this site.

(Oh, and we've checked his twitter newsfeed since the incident. He's still alive unless he's tweeting from beyond the grave.)
Joined: 8/24/2011
Msg: 121
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Posted: 9/1/2011 8:18:09 PM
so...a member here sees my profile and we talk by text and phone. it all sounds like we are on the same page in terms of respect etc.

he picks me up and drives us to a kareoke bar. he waits til we are getting out of the vehicle to tell me we are meeting a friend of his. we get in and this guy cant tear himself away from his phone or texting. he let me believe it was to be just us..he keeps dipping out to get a better signal and leaving his friend to babysit me. just as the music has gotten loud enough that he has to yell for his friend to hear him i overhear this "if i'm dancing with my ex-wife you're dancing with ..."and points to a woman i saw come in who was on a date with someone else...."..her"

i was livid and pissed...i pushed the carona away and went to the resturant on the other side of the building and asked the host how fast he could " me a cab so i can get the hell out of here".

the guys friend came around the corner of the host stand to use the bathroom, saw me sitting on the couch in the waiting area and profusely apologized for his friends lack of respect....and a few days later messaged me to apologize on his behalf even more...what a dill hole....every blonde that came in got his attention away from his cellphone and yet he didnt bother to aknowledge that i was even there after he brought me.
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 122
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Posted: 9/1/2011 9:02:12 PM

She failed to mention on her profile that she had smoked Pot/Weed for the last 26 years and she was into Druids and Black magic!


Umm, I hope the date ended well? That is important to know.

Before I go on dates I make sure I find out what kind of druidess she is. I had a bad experience with a mere low-level druidess. I prefer White magic and I'm willing to bend for long as she doesn't create shrinking potions.
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 124
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Posted: 9/3/2011 2:08:16 AM
Oh great, Soft Lily, now I'm wondering if I have. lol

Before POF, I tried another site and after writing and talking on the phone to a man he asked me to go fishing. I'm thinking the nearby lake and yet the morning we were to meet up there, he calls and tells me to meet him and his friend at the river. I said no and he went off how I should trust him and was really angry.

I met one for coffee and he reminded me of the serial guy in Lovely Bones even laughing like him and saying the word "polite" a lot like him. He didn't look like his pictures at all. When he said he had a surprise for me but we had to go to his house, I told him no and had to leave practically running to my car. He followed me but I was fast. I had no idea I could move so quickly.

I've been talking to someone the last two weeks along with a few others but this one guy watches for me on here and soon as I sign in, several messages come here and text's. My personal email is flooded with photos of flowers and he said he copied my pictures to carry around with him. Now I'm creeped out.

Tonight I get a message from a basketball hall of fame person and his phone number yet for some reason feel someone is making a joke.

After reading everyone's dating experiences and reliving mine, I hid my profile again.

Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 9/3/2011 4:22:44 AM

She then drunk called me an a$$hole venting phone calls for the next month. Usually at bar closing time...

Imagine what your bar bill..could have been?
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 127
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Posted: 9/3/2011 11:01:24 AM
artful22, I did get suspicious and told him I refuse to put myself in that dangerous situation and he went off on me - I hung up.

I never meet in a secluded spot nor will I allow a stranger to pick me up even after several dates. It's amazing how many men want to know where I live and even try to find nearby areas so they can search. One man said he tried to locate me on a Sunday drive but I didn't give him enough info. WTF?? I never told him where I live but did realize I said a few things that could give a inkling so I really have to watch how I talk. Asking what car you drive and casually asking if nearby establishments are more comfortable for you can give them ammo to search - especially if you live in a small town.

I'm finding this site is good for the forums whether it's learning something or entertainment. As for dating I have one Wednesday after work with someone I've been talking to since I joined here so not completely saying no but not actively seeking either.

I know a lot of people here say give phone numbers right away. I don't like that especially since even right now as I'm typing a POF er is texting me why am I ignoring him when he sees me on. sigh

BTW if you block someone, does that keep them from seeing you on or just messaging?
Joined: 1/9/2011
Msg: 130
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Posted: 9/4/2011 9:24:28 PM
After reading all of these I figured I might as well share one of mine. lol

I had been emailing back and forth with someone (not from POF) for a few weeks and talking by phone for awhile as well.

We agreed to meet for lunch at a restaurant here.

I arrived early and watched the pickup he had described to me pull in but park at the back of the parking lot. He sat in the truck until the time we agreed to meet.

As he came up to my vehicle (which I had described to him) I asked if he was Len and he admitted he was. I got out and he immediately swooped in and kissed me. WTH???

I could tell he was nervous so I told myself to chalk that up to nerves. We proceeded into the restaurant, got a table and began to talk.

They had a buffet or you could order off the menu. I said I was going to look at the buffet before deciding and he gets up and has his arm around my shoulder like hanging on so I wouldn't run off. lol

Went back to the table and just ordered a burger like he did. We talked some. Rather I tried to carry the conversation with him interjecting a few things in there ... about his dogs, his duplex and his grandchildren. Nothing much about him. Oh he did mention the ex a time or two. lol The rest of the time he stared intently at me while we talked. Odd.

He finished half his burger and pushed his plate away. I hadn't even gotten through half of mine yet. He said ... "Are you ready?"

I went ahead and said I was. I figured it would only go downhill from there so why not agree?

He paid for the meal and I waited. He walked me to my vehicle (again holding onto me around the waist like he was afraid I'd run off) and when we got there he proceeded to move in quick for another kiss which I ended much sooner than he wanted.

He asked me over and over to come to his house and "check out his movies" so we could watch one and spend the afternoon together.

I agreed just to get him to let me leave.

As we drove off I headed home. I did call him and say that I had gotten a call from home and couldn't go his place after all and I hope he understood.

I never talked to him by phone again. About 8 months later he messaged me from the site and wanted to talk/email. Asked questions and wanted to meet me like we had never talked before. When I told him that we knew each other and had previously had lunch .... he stopped trying to talk to me.

He made me uncomfortable from the beginning when he swooped in for a kiss but I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Then when he held onto me whenever I moved like he was desparate or something and just watched me when I talked ..... I knew I was never going to see him again.


Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 131
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Posted: 9/5/2011 11:42:56 AM
Maffers, I think men and women have a different perspective because women generally are more vulnerable if they agree to meet a stranger. I have met only two people on this site - after enough dialogue that I felt reasonably safe meeting them in a public venue. But I am interested to read your logic - I honestly have been scared away by men who were in a hurry to meet in person ; ) I thought that was a big red flag! So I ended all contact with them.
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 9/5/2011 11:59:23 AM
Yikes! I'm still new to POF and these stories are freaking me out a lot!

[I never told him where I live but did realize I said a few things that could give a inkling so I really have to watch how I talk. Asking what car you drive and casually asking if nearby establishments are more comfortable for you can give them ammo to search - especially if you live in a small town.]

I also live in a relatively small town, so I agree to meet somewhere public. But I never considered the clues I could be dropping just in innocent conversation! There is so much to learn!!
Joined: 2/10/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 9/5/2011 1:01:14 PM
Some of these dating stories made for some very interesting reading.
I was laughing to myself thinking if any of the crazies that were written about in some of these posts would even realize it was them if they happened to be reading through this forum.
As I was going to pick up one of my first dates from another site, we were talking on the phone as I was driving to her house and she was telling me if we were going to be drinking I was going to stay over her place, and this was our first time meeting. When I got to her house, she had already been drinking. We went to dinner, she happened to know the owner and she paid for our dinner without me knowing. She was quite intoxicated when I got her home, and fortunately I was sober enough to get myself home.
I was just a newbie at the time, but I learn very quick.
Joined: 4/2/2007
Msg: 135
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Posted: 9/5/2011 1:44:07 PM

That sounds like one of my better dates.
Joined: 9/3/2011
Msg: 136
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Posted: 9/6/2011 6:34:31 PM
I just got home from a first meeting that I knew I should have cancelled from this guy's pushiness on the phone. Lesson learned- a red flag is a red flag for a good reason and being too open minded will always backfire. He was a good deal heavier and less attractive than his pics and he keep licking his lips by sticking his tongue out like he was catching flies to the point that I am convinced this is a tic. Conversation was okay, but he did a lot of complaining about past dates and how women here are uptight about physical affection and hung up on good looks. I told him I have to go slow and allow for things to develop naturally.Well, I was tired and mentioned at 8pm that I needed to go.It is a school night after all and I'm a single parent as he is. Well he gets up and says he has to go to the bathroom. The check arrives and I wait. And I wait. And wait some more. I try texting him to tell him I have to leave and was going to leave half the money for the bill. The text won't go through.I try again and again. I have now waited 15 minutes and I don't even take that long in the bathroom as a woman. I knew at that point he had walked out on me ,so I paid the bill and left. His car was gone. I tried to call but he blocked my number. I was furious at this-the only reason I can think of for what he did is that he took extreme offense that I wanted to go home.I sent him a message here that he should find a good psychiatrist because if this is how he functions in the dating world, he has some BIG issues.And then I blocked him.
Joined: 6/10/2010
Msg: 138
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Posted: 9/7/2011 12:21:12 AM
omg...where do i begin?
My date took me out to a Dinner and ran out on the bill. Literally ran out the back door and the staff chased him down the street. It was a nightmare!

Another date took me on a 2 hour drive no where and threatened me by saying if he wanted to cut me up in pieces and throw my body out the door into the street, no one would ever know.....

I won't go into detail about these dates....just be careful and PLEASE look out for any red flags...move with caution....I can say that i have met some incredible, wonderful men on POF, made many friends BUT i've also met the creepiest of creepers too!

Joined: 6/30/2011
Msg: 142
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Posted: 9/11/2011 7:58:31 AM
These threads always, inevitably make me facepalm and ask "what the **** is wrong with people?"
Joined: 2/1/2011
Msg: 143
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Posted: 9/11/2011 9:45:50 AM
That is definitely one of the better stories. What a creep. Good Luck.
Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 148
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Posted: 10/26/2011 10:04:15 AM
Alright...You guys are seriously scaring me. I have never had a bad date but now you guys have me wondering what the law of averages are that bad dates are just around the corner. javascript:smilie('')
Joined: 4/30/2008
Msg: 149
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Posted: 10/26/2011 10:42:18 AM
thanks for sharing, that was really weird...or better said she was.
Joined: 9/7/2011
Msg: 150
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Posted: 10/26/2011 1:17:54 PM
A few years back a business associate who I knew, came over from the UK and my company asked me to take him to dinner in NYC. Naturally I obliged. We were to go to the symphony first which I really liked. I was wearing a black dress and new Donna Karam hose but I had a raincoat draped over my legs. When the lights dimmed he slipped his hand under the raincoat and held my hand, brushing against my leg from time to time. When the lights came up, I moved the raincoat and was astonished to see my hose in tatters. It seems his rhinestone cufflinks had lost a stone and the jagged setting snagged my hose. Not exactly a date from hell, but I look back with amusement now.
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 151
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Posted: 10/26/2011 2:44:45 PM
Wayyy back when I first signed up on here ... a man contacted me..he was visiting my town and wanted to meet me as we had chatted on line (he lived about 1.5 hrs north of me) I agreed to meet for coffee. I did not find him attractive at all when we met but we the conversation he mentioned he'd been in my town overnight seeing a friend he met on POF.... I asked if he slept with her..he said Yes, and had been for a couple of years. (I was surprised because here he is meeting me) so i asked why he was meeting me if he is sleeping with someone?

Here's his answer: "Well, she is a good friend and has breast cancer, and I've been lactating her breasts, the Doc says it helps her breast cancer... I've been doing it for 2 years and I think it helps her" ... eeehhhh whaaaat??

After choking up my coffee, I excused myself to go to the bathroom and slipped out the side back door!

Sick eh?..he tried several ways to contact me on POF again, and I notice he is still on POF eeewwww
Joined: 7/18/2011
Msg: 153
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Posted: 10/26/2011 9:45:07 PM

~OT~ I posted about this in a different thread right after it happened, and I'm still just as creeped out today as I was then. Met him here on POF, talked for months. We planned to go to dinner. He picked me up, opened doors, etc., etc., seemed very nice and such. While driving to the restaurant, it was reasonably pleasant. Well, we sit down across from one another and it started. Staring. I don't mean eye-contact ~ I mean oooooogling-stares. At first I wondered if maybe he was a bit tetched or maybe even a little slower than most ~ just couldn't really figure out WTF!!! The staring then went on on the ride home. He wrote the next day and I wrote back and asked if he'd known he was staring. Yep. He proudly admitted that he was doing it on purpose. I told him it was out and out creepy. He proceeded to ask me out for a month or so ~ not quite getting the extent of the creepiness obviously. I got an email from him a month or so ago (over 3 years since the ooooogling incident) and he again, mentioned the staring and why he was doing so. He's overseas now, and the creepy-factor is still in full-effect. ***shudder***

Cmon, you gotta do way better than this. You dated a guy who was nice in all aspects except he stared at you? Not so bad at all compared to the other stuff I have been reading.
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