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 DontAskMe2CarryUrPurse
Joined: 1/22/2013
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I don't see any issues with dating in my 50's. Actually I don't find it any different. Why? Because all those people like me who were in their 40's have now joined me! You have to be an interesting person for someone to be interested in getting to know you. I think it's pretty simple, actually. Unfortunately, many people are not that interesting. Yet here we are, with more options than we've ever had. I have found myself with a renewed zest for life. Especially after turning 50. I'm now 51. I see so many possibilities for hobbies and interests. I really can't get enough of new things to learn and try. When you present yourself as a dynamic and multifaceted individual, many people will find you attractive and you'll have no problem dating again. I used to like dating younger women when I was in my 30's but now I want someone close to my age. That, too, is a consequence of turning 50. I appreciate this age. I have a deeper appreciation for women my age. Good luck and happy fishin'... !
 kriscat9
Joined: 2/28/2013
Msg: 327
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Posted: 3/11/2013 9:54:16 AM
Thank you for your post Hannah. It was very good. I've read a lot of good answers on here.
Dating is hard at any age. The pool does get smaller as you get older, for a lot of reasons, but there are a lot of good guys out there.
I like men my age. I'm 64 and I have found quite a few men my age and older who are really amazing. :-)
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
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 Susan in San Antonio
Joined: 8/14/2009
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Posted: 7/30/2014 8:36:30 AM
Same here. Harder to meet men that are attractive after 50.
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
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Posted: 7/30/2014 10:18:40 AM
Susan - definitely the 50s are a time when men really hit the wall hard looks wise. I'm sure both us (I'm 49) would have no problem getting a man in his 60s and 70s though but I never had dreams of dating a daddy.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 7/30/2014 12:22:40 PM

Susan - definitely the 50s are a time when men really hit the wall hard looks wise. I'm sure both us (I'm 49) would have no problem getting a man in his 60s and 70s though but I never had dreams of dating a daddy.


You should know how it goes.

The ones that are easy to get aren't worth the getting. And who wants a daddy that is only 11 years older than his daughter?
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
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Posted: 7/30/2014 12:48:39 PM
"Harder to meet men that are attractive after 50."

I'm sure the same applies to men looking at women close to 50 or over 50. Just looking at profiles of other women at times makes me shudder: duck lips (geez, are you 15?), half naked, boobs hanging out (do you figure you're hot?), draped over a bed in little attire (are you a porn star?). It's sad and pathetic. At 50, my age, we have wrinkles, dimples, stuff might be sagging a bit and I, as well as other women my age, don't look as hot as we used to. So, some men (not all) look for 10 years younger and really, do you blame them?

To me attractive is much more than just the tight body and unlined face, it's attitude, how they carry themselves, their openness and the aura they have. He could be bald, short, tall, blonde, chubby, thin...it's his character.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 7/30/2014 1:50:04 PM

...definitely the 50s are a time when men really hit the wall hard looks wise


Is it any different with women who are over 50, who have sagging, wrinkled body parts and are overweight, who are only after a guy who is a gym rat who has rippling muscles, has movie star looks, a movie star bank account, and must make her laugh?

As for guys who are wanting and chasing a much younger woman: If a woman is willing to date a much older guy, why is the guy the villain? It takes TWO people-which includes the woman-to agree to a relationship, which is a concept a lot of women don't understand. Some women think these women with older guys are forced into it.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
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Posted: 7/30/2014 8:15:25 PM
You know, I will be 46 in 2 weeks.

I'm totally open to dating a gal 10 years older.

That being said? I've had a few 'lackluster' dates with women in their 50's that I suspect were having menopausal issues. It 'appeared' they brought zero libido to the date. Yeah, yeah. Maybe I was boring. Check. This doesn't happen often, but it got me thinking after hearing a female co-worker, 50, who is going through menopause (why share with me?) and her husband is leaving her because she is no 'FUN' anymore.

I'm responsible for bringing an erection when the time is right and the older gals are responsible for having their hormones in check.

Again, this is rare and not the norm. Just saying.

Other then the hormone thingy, there's some hot mommas older then me out there:)
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 7/31/2014 7:49:43 AM

..definitely the 50s are a time when men really hit the wall hard looks wise


Why are there male stars who are over 50 who are still considered sexy, that many women wouldn't mind bedding-George Clooney, Sean Connery when he was in his 50's, and others? How many female stars who are 50 and older have the same amount of sex appeal as when they were a lot younger-especially among women who have never had plastic surgery, botox treatments, or any other beauty treatments or procedures?
 Ready_Real
Joined: 6/5/2014
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Posted: 7/31/2014 8:40:26 AM

How many female stars who are 50 and older have the same amount of sex appeal as when they were a lot younger-especially among women who have never had plastic surgery, botox treatments, or any other beauty treatments or procedures?


Probably slightly more than there are male stars. However, few of these have the good fortune to be loved by a man their own age regardless of how well-matched/highly compatible on paper are their physical, emotional, and spiritual attributes.

Because male stars 45+ typically want women a decade ----or more -- younger. As do everyday ordinary men who are physically fit, financially secure, and intellectually compatible with the women their age.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
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Posted: 7/31/2014 11:59:37 AM
"How many female stars who are 50 and older have the same amount of sex appeal as when they were a lot younger-especially among women who have never had plastic surgery, botox treatments, or any other beauty treatments or procedures?"
If you are talking about the entertainment industry you are no longer in the real universe, but having said that I disagree that women lose their sex appeal at 50, or even 60. TV and film do not showcase older actresses often, they are focused on young hotties that bring in box office. Watch and see how long today's sexy stars remain marquee names.
 Like2dance
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Posted: 7/31/2014 3:46:28 PM
My fifties were incredibly joyful datingwise. I had a fantastic time and dated many women. Life was great! Now, just into my sixties, things are slowing down some but they are still way above any expectations I had in my younger years for what life would be like for me today.
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
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Posted: 8/2/2014 1:53:48 PM
Maleness - I'm 49, never worshipped the sun nor was a brood mare for some dude to carry on his genetics so no saggy anything on me Men in their 50s typically give up period. Santa Claus looking men, balding/no hair with leather skin on their face and 9 month pregnant looking guts have no appeal to me. Please point out the women who would be turned on to this.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
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Posted: 8/2/2014 3:06:47 PM
^^^oh please. There are many slim, trim and decent looking men and women in our age group...but the thing is, do they have a bad attitude or just a nasty disposition or negative outlook like some that post on here. Ugly on the outside can be dealt with; ugly on the inside is just....ugly. No one is turned on but this attitude.

In my circle of folks, everyone is married or living together. So yes, it's way harder meeting single folks than it was at 21. So we have to be more proactive.
 Your_Move
Joined: 11/12/2009
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Posted: 8/2/2014 4:39:13 PM

There are many slim, trim and decent looking men and women in our age group...


I wonder if some of this is a function of "where people live"? I find the same thing as blue - there's still plenty of people in our age group that "haven't given up". I'd even say as many as when we were 40. But outdoor activities are big here, and there's so many great places to go walking, hiking etc, that people do a lot of it here. I'd imagine Florida is similar. I also find it easier in general to meet people now, than 20 years ago...but on the downside, I have a better picture of where I do *not* fit - so finding someone I feel I'm a good match for is harder now.
 purplerider1200
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Posted: 8/2/2014 9:00:35 PM
Location, location, location. That has everything to do with it. I live in the "Dead zone" with few options. I'm learning to deal with it, and make the best of a bad situation. In viewing my local dating pool, I find myself choosing to be alone more often. Which is the lesser of the two evils. I was told at one time that as I grew older, I'd find more single women. That might have been the case 25 years ago. but no more.
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
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Posted: 8/3/2014 6:57:21 AM
Dragonbits - my Mom is ONLY 69 and I'm 49. She didn't wait until perimenopause to breed (married young and widow). So a 61 or 63 year old is out of the question, not dating any man only 7 to 9 years younger than my Mom.
 Like2dance
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Posted: 8/3/2014 9:08:17 AM
Easter, I dated for quite a while a woman whose mother was 10 years younger than my ex-wife. Her mother was 16 when she had her. My friend is a great lady. Eventually we decided a FWB relationship would be the best for us. That lasted a few years. We are still friends.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 8/3/2014 9:20:42 AM
Easterparadehat
Dragonbits - my Mom is ONLY 69 and I'm 49. She didn't wait until perimenopause to breed (married young and widow). So a 61 or 63 year old is out of the question, not dating any man only 7 to 9 years younger than my Mom.


Your post about age said you didn't want to date a man 11-21 years older than you because this would be “dating a daddy”. Most of those ages are too young to be your daddy in our society. Though technically you could have meant ANY daddy, but I assume you meant someone old enough to have been your father in some alternate universe.

I will give you that men/women as they get over 30 show the signs of aging at an accelerating rate. So as we get older there are fewer and fewer people that can stay fit, healthy and visually appealing. The older we get the more variation in fitness with more people not being healthy.

But ….

Fauja Singh recently finished a 26 mile marathon in 7.48 and he is 101 years old. Yesterday I, my wife and mother all walked to the top of Starved Rock. My mother is 87, wife 39 and I am 61. My mother barely made it, my wife was sweating and a little tired, it didn't faze me in the least. The distance is only 0.3 miles but it's a 35 degree slope rated a moderate difficulty. However I would hope that if my wife chose to make exercise a priority, she could out run/walk me in time. But I am a similar age to a poster names LiterateHiker, I am sure she would hike me into the ground.

So I never specified an age range when I was dating since there is so much variation in individuals.

The way you word your post makes me feel your father was older than your mother. Is that true?
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
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Posted: 8/4/2014 4:10:08 AM
One year older she didn't like dating any daddy figures either.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 8/4/2014 4:49:15 AM

One year older she didn't like dating any daddy figures either.


My father was 10 years older than my mother, they remained married for over 50 years till he died.

I have found we most often emulate the patterns of our parents, it looks like for us this is true.

take care
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
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Posted: 8/4/2014 7:52:30 AM
yanno what?
When ya hit the big five oh, for a lot of people, the big five oh hits back!
For those who have made it to 50 and beyond with no health issues, good finances, no issues with kids. grandkids, no "baggage"-you have my heartfelt admiration provided you reached that pinnacle honestly and fairly.
But for a TON of 50+ folks, things are not so perfect. This does not necessarily make them bad or unworthy people.
OF COURSE everyone is completely free to be just as "selective" as they choose to be. But don't go to the North Pole and whine because you can't find a grove of coconut palms. Don't go to a wheat field in Nebraska and b*tch because you can't find a flock of penguins.
No it's not hard to meet people. But it is impossible to meet perfect people, regardless of the age bracket.

This is not to say that people over 50 should just latch onto whatever they cross paths with in terms of dating/relationships. That would be as wrong-if not more so-than continual b*tching because you haven't found perfection.

Yes it is nice when a couple can share activities because they are on an equal level of functionality and have the same interests. But I have seen couples work it out if they weren't an exact match, or if they didn't share lots of interests in common.

Again, it goes back to the simple fact that when it comes to over 50 and meeting people for romantic purposes, a lot of those people are already taken. That isn't anybody's FAULT. It isn't some "flaw in the system".

But if your very high standards and/or particular requirements leave you with a very small dating pool, don't blame the rest of the world for that.

Yeah yeah, when it comes to people over 50 and health/fitness problems, most of us brought it on ourselves. But what's done is done!
What I'm looking for I couldn't begin to describe except that it is a connection, a resonance in one anothers' hearts and souls. While there are some guidelines I've learned to follow as far as "this just can't work" or places that I won't go, I certainly don't blame the rest of the people over 50 if I'm not paired up.
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 Ready_Real
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Posted: 8/4/2014 9:21:19 AM

Maleness - I'm 49, never worshipped the sun nor was a brood mare for some dude to carry on his genetics so no saggy anything on me. Men in their 50s typically give up period. Santa Claus looking men, balding/no hair with leather skin on their face and 9 -month pregnant looking guts have no appeal to me. Please point out the women who would be turned on to this.


Bingo.

And the above is the way of romance opportunities for lovely, loving, financially secure, physically healthy, intelligent woman who are 49.

At 59, a woman can:
---be well educated and reasonably intelligent;
-- be blessed with excellent health, capable of maintaining a very active lifestyle and has continued to work at remaining healthy by not taking that good health for granted;
--own her own home, have a solid retirement, have zero debt, and is happy to pay her own way as an equal partner;
--- have raised her children to be courteous, responsible adults themselves living a healthful lifestyle and well educated gainfully employed and off on their own;
--- hear on a regular basis, "you look beautiful";
---with open arms sustain a long term relationship as both a friend and a lover and continue to keep her heart open to just this

It doesn't matter a hill of beans. She is almost universally considered a decade (or more) too old for men her own age. Which leaves men her mother's age. Unless she "gets lucky" and some man her own age fitting the above description (and is also medically challenged with diabetes, severe emphysema, liver damage, an STD, asexual or a medically dx. "non-responder" unable to maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse) does what he clearly considers to be an act of tremendous kindness. And writes to her indicating that he's interested in getting to know her.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 8/4/2014 11:17:53 AM
^^^Msg 425: Talk about a lot of nonsense and double talk and hypocrisy:
"Santa Claus looking men, balding/no hair with leather skin on their face and 9 -month pregnant looking guts have no appeal to me."

But then go on to insult men because men want someone who is physically attractive to them. I will date the ugliest woman if you are willing to date the ugliest man you can find-the Santa Claus man with the 9-month pregnant looking gut and leather skin who is balding, along with other flaws.
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