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 gelvak
Joined: 7/19/2011
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hahah I don't think that was the intention. I think the list of stats was just to say that most guys on here appear to be looking for much younger women. They put on a profile that they're looking for a "long term" relationship but then go on to describe a sex kitten of 23 instead of a more reasonable mate closer to their age. I'm not saying a 60 year old man should be looking for a 60 year old woman but c'mon --- really???? Anything younger than 50 and I'd be wondering what he or she wanted from the older person.
 Perigee123
Joined: 7/14/2009
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Posted: 8/3/2011 6:13:36 PM

It's a competitive world out there ladies and gents.


Depends on exactly what you're competing for, Donald;

A competition suggests that there is some prize at the end of it - and how each person defines a prize in this venue is variable. And what defines a no-prize is, as well.

And that's probably why the situation is so difficult at this stage in life - too many definitions, and (honestly) the close appeal of 'doing without.' At this point, I imagine very few of us NEED someone else. (And, if they do, they are 'needy,' and are instantly out of the running as a 'prize') We'd... like someone else. We'd prefer it. Under the right circumstances, anyway. A prize has everything we want, and nothing we don't. And after years of putting ourselves together in just the way that pleases us personally, someone meeting that criteria does not exist.

But our willingness to compromise is small, and growing constantly smaller by the year.

By 50, we're done cooking; if we're bookish, we're not going to suddenly turn into sitcom people - if we're physical, we're not going to become sedate (barring medical issues) - if we're introverts, we're not going to become extroverts. Multiply that by every life preference we hold, and that goulash of personality we've mixed for ourselves personally become the image of our 'prize.' A prize so personalized, and a tolerance so strict, that it in all probability it does not exist.
 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/3/2011 6:24:48 PM
Op ..........I actually find it much easier to meet and date , in my fifties than I did in my forties
I'm sure there are many cases ,were it may not be ,such as location,economics ect.
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
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Posted: 8/3/2011 6:26:02 PM
People's venues change with age. What do you think those cruise ships are full of? Older unattached women! If you approach the problem logically you'll meet more mature available women.

Get out of the house and stay out. Walk the neighbourhood every evening.
Say "hello" to people you pass. After a while they get used to you and stop to talk. If you aren't meeting people you need to change your behaviour.

I've seen so many women's profiles here that say they want to travel and maybe retire overseas. Your wish to retire overseas is no limitation. It's opportunity.
 crazy4mars
Joined: 2/9/2009
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Posted: 8/4/2011 2:42:06 AM
I used to have a hard time meeting people until I was told that guys just aren't going to come knocking on my door if they don't know where I live.. So I now make an effort to meet 2 new people a day, go to yappy hour, basically being more social and letting people know that I am not married nor do I have a boyfriend. It's amazing how many people will assume your unavailable.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 8/4/2011 1:08:57 PM
To the (mostly it seems) Americans on here who have replied, you ARE a foreign woman. :)



Don't forget the Canadians...hehe.

In my wildest imagination I would not have guessed that one day I would be on a dating site hoping to meet my S/O....but then I thought marriage mean't forever... LOL


...mae


 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 8/5/2011 12:39:27 AM
Outside of online dating, definitely. When I was younger, the only places I knew where I could meet single women were nightclubs and church -- talk about extremes! Now that I'm older, the nightclubs are out because people my age don't go there; and I happen to belong to a small church where there are literally no unattached women my age.

Sure, women can be found in other places; but how does a man know if they're truly available, and how many offer opportunities to begin a conversation that can lead up to a date? Maybe I just don't have enough lifetime experience in asking women out, or I suppose I could be lacking in imagination; and I'll admit I don't want to ask a woman out only to learn she's married or in a relationship.
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
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Posted: 8/5/2011 2:11:32 AM
Try meetup.com.... a place where people get together based on mutual interests... not dating. What a novel thought ay?

From quilting to motorcycle riding, skiers and surfers, language or country aficionados.. to dining and cooking.. seems the sky is the limit depending how close you live to a larger city, look it up.... if I lived in the states I'd give it a whirl.
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
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Posted: 8/5/2011 4:18:09 AM
^^^that's what you get when a bunch of "me too" old broads start watching "Sex in the City". all of a sudden everybody's a big cougar. so in vogue. mcdonald's should have a special happy meal.... sliced apples with caramel sauce, a capuccino, and two ribbed condoms with a big clown face on the ends of them.

your age range just shot up 20 years. now you can start cruising Senior World. lol.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 8/5/2011 5:58:59 AM

Try meetup.com.... a place where people get together based on mutual interests... not dating. What a novel thought ay?

From quilting to motorcycle riding, skiers and surfers, language or country aficionados.. to dining and cooking.. seems the sky is the limit depending how close you live to a larger city, look it up.... if I lived in the states I'd give it a whirl



I joined meetup.com here in Calgary. Best thing I ever did. Haven't made any romantic connections but I've met some very nice single people, bith male and female. We do all sorts of stuff together from hiking to dancing.
A girlfriend met a guy by attending a "games night" at a local community centre. That was six months ago, they're still seeing one another. You have to widen your social circles.

...mae
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 8/5/2011 10:39:06 AM

hahah I don't think that was the intention. I think the list of stats was just to say that most guys on here appear to be looking for much younger women. They put on a profile that they're looking for a "long term" relationship but then go on to describe a sex kitten of 23 instead of a more reasonable mate closer to their age. I'm not saying a 60 year old man should be looking for a 60 year old woman but c'mon --- really???? Anything younger than 50 and I'd be wondering what he or she wanted from the older person.


My viewing limits are 50 to 65. Typically I'll restrict this to 53 to 64. I'm 60. One thing that stands out is that the more a woman has taken care of herself (and by reading her profile she knows it) the more picky and restrictive she is in who they will accept. There are a handful in my area that are mid-50's who are VERY attractive with very nice physiques . Their age limits for men: 35 to 50. So it's not only the men who do this. The better we perceive ourselves the pickier we become.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 8/5/2011 12:24:54 PM
I am average looking to most men and I am picky regarding the man I find appealing (which is based on a lot more than his appearance), gosh, how picky would I be if I had "taken care of myself" and was tall, thin and blonde? Few would be good enough for me even though my appearance would be good enough for them...mmmm...I do find it difficult to meet men my age, when I retire and move and/or have the time to persue more of my interests the size of my dating pool might increase.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
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Posted: 8/5/2011 4:36:48 PM
Living in a small town...it's more of an issue of 'distance'...
If 60 miles..(K/C)..is too much...I'm _Really_ hosed..!!
Semiphoring S O S
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
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Posted: 8/5/2011 4:45:09 PM
Chelly - Your hard work does not go un-noticed.
The Royals have left, but if you come to Hollywood, may I show you the sights?
 roe64
Joined: 7/9/2011
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Posted: 8/5/2011 5:56:09 PM
I've been on POF off and on and all I get are men in their 70's, and not even alot. I'm wondering how I look on my pic. I',m actually 64, but I'm not going to put that down, it's hard enough now getting someone to write. Where is that dinner place? I'd really like to know.
 roe64
Joined: 7/9/2011
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Posted: 8/5/2011 6:00:17 PM
Oh come on now, why shouldn't a 60 yr old man date a 60 yr old woman? I was married to a 60 yr old. We had alot in common. Don't these guys want to have something in common with their mate??
 4heavensharmony
Joined: 9/9/2010
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Posted: 8/5/2011 6:59:44 PM
the problem i have found is that men, in their 50's, still have not matured and figured out what the important things are in life (which, i guess is why they are here). The men who DO know the importance of the non-superficial are "taken" and know the worth of putting in the work to be a happy couple.

Aging is a natural thing and those who don't understand the process will remain unhappy in their search for the "perfect" person: looks, physical and mental health, etc. Do men NOT know that there is a time to have children and an age to NOT !!!

the most frustrating part of trying to meet people online, is that they seem not to understand life's process, they don't understand themselves, nor do they understand that relationships are not handed to them on a silver platter -- you must work to make it work.
 LiveSleepLove
Joined: 3/1/2011
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Posted: 8/6/2011 8:05:23 AM
I meet women all the time that are single, over 55 and looking. Most are divorced or widowed, asexual and starting to hit the wall. Although a relationship may be possible, I can't help but think in just a few years I'll be dating someone that looks bad and I'll want to seek a younger girl.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 8/6/2011 9:38:02 AM

I can't help but think in just a few years I'll be dating someone that looks bad and I'll want to seek a younger girl.


Ouch!!!! So glad all men don't feel that way.

As I said before, I don't have a problem meeting men my age...lots of very nice guys out there. Unfortunately, that elusive feeling we term as "chemistry" has not happened for me. Sometimes I wonder if it ever will experience those "magic moments" again. *Big sigh*

...mae
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 8/6/2011 9:48:34 AM

I have put alot of effort/engery and expense into looking after my mind and body - so I would like to meet someone, who has at least done the same - regardless of their age


Exactly! People who have worked at keeping themselves in shape (as much as we can at this age) have earned the right to be somewhat selective in their preferences. Those who do not label them as "Shallow". IMO the out of shape individuals expecting to date someone in shape people are the shallow ones.
 skyydogg22
Joined: 4/3/2011
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Posted: 8/6/2011 10:22:30 AM
[you might want to check meetup.com. it's networking for local events; but it is NOT a dating site. yet another way to meet people. ]

I just went to their site and found a social group for 40+: "WEARING OUT, NOT RUSTING OUT! " is having an event just a few miles from my house this evening.

Thank you, motown cowgirl.
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
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Posted: 8/6/2011 11:28:58 AM
I meet women all the time that are single, over 55 and looking. Most are divorced or widowed, asexual and starting to hit the wall. Although a relationship may be possible, I can't help but think in just a few years I'll be dating someone that looks bad and I'll want to seek a younger girl.


Dear Messenger #53 (and Anyone Else Male or Female) Capable of Writing Message #53),

Please accept my thanks for substantiating - prima facie - the thesis statement of my previous post.
 zippytwo
Joined: 6/7/2006
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Posted: 8/6/2011 12:05:13 PM
Yup, you bet, sad but true.
 antiquities
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2011 1:35:12 PM
Men in their 50's are not really looking for women of the same age, they want younger. Women in their 50's tend to be contacted by the over 60's but are flattered by the very young men who make contact. It's also not an age thing for some of us it is really difficult to meet anyone of any age.
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 8/6/2011 1:59:35 PM

the problem i have found is that men, in their 50's, still have not matured and figured out what the important things are in life (which, i guess is why they are here).


Excuse me? Oh yeah, you'll get lots of requests from men local to you with that comment.
Broad brush you are wielding there, does it ever get heavy?


Do men NOT know that there is a time to have children and an age to NOT !!!


So..you're saying that men who have contacted you, want you to bear them children?


the most frustrating part of trying to meet people online, is that they seem not to understand life's process, they don't understand themselves, nor do they understand that relationships are not handed to them on a silver platter -- you must work to make it work.


Well, you're not helping matters much with your attitude toward me displayed here.
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