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 kari135
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2. Comments like this, come usualy from women who ran out of other excuses why they can't find anyoneone interested in them.


(Disclaimer: I am not looking for anyone at all, my profile is hidden.)

Comments like that are more likely to come from women who are frustrated with the mail settings of the men their own age. I frequently see profiles of men as much as 10 years older than me who limit the women who can contact them to those 5 to 10 years younger than me.

Equally annoying are the men who don't have a profile photo - or even private images - but still say a woman must have a photo to contact them. Double standard, that...
 Betterthanblond1331
Joined: 5/29/2011
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Posted: 10/18/2011 6:38:58 PM
I agree with Kari....many of the profiles I've looked at have an age range from 10 - 15 years younger, to one or two years younger...

As to the women who run out of excuses? Well, I'm from San Diego. Most of the men in my age group are interested in women 20 years younger. It's quite common to see a 'couple' and actually have to try to figure out if he's dad, grandad or boyfriend. I guess maybe it depends on where you live.

I'm not looking any more...but if a man within 5 years either way asks me out? Of course if we are compatible I'd go out with him!
 strangercr
Joined: 2/1/2010
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Posted: 10/20/2011 5:21:42 PM
Hello All

The question seems to be...can we meet someone because we are in our fiftes...hmmm
First I am fifty four...a widower, so I was thrust into this world.
First thing, what are your expectations...look at yourselves and decide for real....not what your fantasy is but what do you want. At fifty our life span is getting shorter....fast and as it has been pointed out, many of us might have a medical issue or two. Be comfortable with yourself....and if you are not work on it...yes it is that simple.
Read the classics...lots of life lesson plus it will give you some conversation points.

What do you like to do...besides online dating there is a group called... Meet Up. Every kind of interest is covered. I belong to twenty groups and they are free....just another opportunity.
Gentlemen if you want a trophy, be a trophy. Sorry guys and gals but the only way to lose weight is excersise...if you do not have time or the energy...then find someone who likes to watch TV. I have had 2000 woman write me on various dating sites...I am on many.........another thing, there are so many dating sites. Okay, some cost 100.00 a year or more...one date cost that much....so make it worthwhile and search for a date that will satify your desires. There are millions....and millions of people on dating sites...you can find one woman or man....just do not exceed who you are...so be realistic.
Do not bring any bitterness to the table...many woman write to me that guys will complain bitterly about life...yeah that is why I go on a date, to get upset. I am extremely selective who I will date because of time constriants, so read a profile then read it again.
Gentlemen most ladies do not like to be asked personal questions on a first date.
So asking her about her under garments is out.
Do not think because you paid for dinner you deserve sex or even a kiss on the first date...my God be resonable....lots of complaints about that one.
You live in a small town, so you will have to travel. Make a mini vacation out of it...so you do not get upset if it does not work out.
There are more woman at fifty then men...A LOT MORE...so guys no excuses.
We have to find our MOJO....what makes us happy.....my happiness is not in a woman but in living my life with a woman who loves to live. Just my two cents!!! which isn't even worth two cents.

Oh so the answer is...no dating was hard when we were kids and it does not get easier.

Charlie
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 10/20/2011 8:02:05 PM
Kudos to you, Charlie. That's one of the best dissertations on the subject that I've seen to date.
 Betterthanblond1331
Joined: 5/29/2011
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Posted: 10/20/2011 10:46:10 PM
Charlie...you ROCK
 pegman1961
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 206
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Posted: 10/20/2011 10:46:24 PM
Im turning 50 end of the month and havent had any luck with pof sinnce early 40's a part of me still wants to meet but a larger part says not really a priority!
 pegman1961
Joined: 5/3/2009
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Posted: 10/20/2011 10:49:03 PM
Im aware of my start date of 2009 ....third time and very set in who i would like to meet
 Houseoftango
Joined: 7/10/2009
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Posted: 10/21/2011 7:42:06 PM
would love to start up a conversation with you
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 10/22/2011 1:33:35 AM
nice to know it doesnt get any better
sadly thinking that there was a Porsche 510 out there with my name on it, that I have been missing all these years.
Fiery crash with a beautiful corpse seems so preferred entirely too many times than remaining here.
 mzhon
Joined: 7/14/2011
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Posted: 10/22/2011 2:41:06 AM
Charlie, very well said! Thank you for all of us over 50+
 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
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Posted: 10/23/2011 12:20:32 PM
Absolutely!! its way more difficult to find like-minded people especially in the dating field..after all most people are still married first or second time round..

Also have you see what happens to most people after they turn 50..they become unattractive..fat and ugly (sorry but I say it like it is..) they seem to take very little care of themselves.
 nomartian
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Posted: 10/25/2011 8:33:11 AM
"Faint heart never won fair lady".....and all that.

Meeting someone is nearly always reliant on a little bit of 'fate'...

Since you've signed up to pof, why not simply enter a limit of say 3 yrs older to 3 years younger, within 25 miles ( or whatever range your happy with on both scores), and press "search"................then, decide on a number between 1 and 10, scroll down that far, and say "Hi". You should have no idea who will be online at the time ( no cheating)...look on it as striking up a conversation with someone you've never met before at a perfectly normal social event.....

Not saying it will come to anything....but wouldn't you at least reply to someone who messaged you under the same method?You just might make a friend.
 lindylady
Joined: 6/9/2006
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Posted: 10/27/2011 6:00:25 PM
One can meet people but as you say most are unattractive . In the 70s forget about it !!!
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 10/27/2011 7:43:27 PM
Heading back to the gym.Afraid of what will happen if I don't .
 angie823
Joined: 9/25/2011
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Posted: 10/28/2011 12:48:00 PM
At least you can get them out of their home for 5 minutes. Most men I have chatted with, want just that - to stay at home and have a virtual date on the phone or computer. Lazy, lazy, lazy. They say they're looking for dating or a relationship, but won't make the effort to get off their as..s!
 angie823
Joined: 9/25/2011
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Posted: 10/28/2011 12:49:59 PM
Charlie,
I do agree with you. Thanks for telling it like it is to both the ladies and the men.
 bushysteve56
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 10/28/2011 7:01:29 PM
l must fall into a subsection of that 5 % you speak of, l am as fit as a mallee bull and can walk for hours up steep hills. My work is merely a hobby that gives me something to do between weekends away and the only medication l take occasionally is Viagra but not often enough for my liking.
My biggest hurdle in finding my life partner is that George Clooney jumped the queue and got the good looks that were intended for me. Steve
 brese55
Joined: 10/11/2007
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Posted: 11/21/2011 10:57:54 PM
I did go back to school for another degree....the only thing that did for me was make me feel even older.....guess that is why I am still single.
 HeresL00kingAtYou
Joined: 8/20/2009
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Posted: 11/22/2011 2:47:26 AM
There are fun places the 40-60 crowd hangs out. You need to find out where they are. When you get there you can't hang on the wall. Talk to people. Make friends. The person you're talking with may have a friend worth knowing who shows up. Get involved in weekend activities that include people your age. At the end of the day ask someone you've shared a laugh with if she wants to get something to eat. There's online dating too.
 uandme4us
Joined: 4/28/2009
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Posted: 11/25/2011 2:11:59 PM
Yes, I find it hard to find people our age in their 50s that arent alcoholics, or have so much anger toward their ex that that is all the guy wants to talk bout, like he is taking it out on me~then when I think Ive met someone who doesnt have baggage, they lie about what they look like yes men do that too! lol Whats a woman to do?LOLOL Then this guy who is 73 pursued me big time, only to tell me at lunch that his last date lasted 19 days in the Phillapines and cost him $10K but at least she was 24 yrs old he said. ( I call that pedophillia) He didnt bring her home, he didnt marry her, he slept with her and went packing. I found that story of his GROSS. Anyone else agree with me on this one? Im a happy gal except I miss the comforting cozy feeling of having someone to love and beloved. I want it to go like this: he comes home from a hard day of farming (or whatever he does), I got home early and made dinner, he appreciates the dinner and says ,"hon I have to lie down" He falls asleep and I lay there looking at this wonderful hard working man and thank God for "us". We wake up in the morning and, he doesnt make love to me, He makes Love that lasts......thats what I want. Is that asking too much?
 ohenryx
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Posted: 11/25/2011 8:00:51 PM

Then this guy who is 73 pursued me big time


Hmmm.... Your profile says you are 55? And you're dating someone 18 years older than you?


only to tell me at lunch that his last date lasted 19 days in the Phillapines and cost him $10K but at least she was 24 yrs old he said. ( I call that pedophillia)

I found that story of his GROSS. Anyone else agree with me on this one?


Well, no, actually I don't consider it pedophillia and I don't find it gross. A 24 year old is an adult, not a child, so this cannot meet the definition of pedophilia. And it is not "gross", it is just a commercial transaction between two consenting adults. It is none of my business, and I have no particular opinion about it.


We wake up in the morning and, he doesnt make love to me, He makes Love that lasts......thats what I want. Is that asking too much?


I can't quite make sense of that last statement of yours. You want to try that one again?
 MurphyBed
Joined: 8/11/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 2:52:03 AM
I do find it hard to meet any woman over 45 who is not looking for a sugar daddy or to take them to the cleaners. I agree with you about that 73 year old man who had spent all that money on a 24 year old girl. I mean my God he is old enough to be her great grandfather. I believe like you about the comfort cozy feeling of just having someone close to you that you can trust and believe in and will not leave you and also just cuddling and spooning seems to be a lost art. it seems to just jump into bed and start going at it. I guess I was born too late as I love the older movies of the 40's and 50's. No foul language and nakedness. I know that on this profile I have it set to intimate encounter but that does not mean it is what I am only looking for. Uandme4us you are a spectacular woman and I wish you all the best and be safe out here.
 MurphyBed
Joined: 8/11/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 2:59:59 AM
I think what she was trying to say in a more gentile way is that instead of waking up and then going at it pounding the hell out of her so he can get is rocks off. He starts off slow and tenderly kissing her and especially her ears and eyes and lips and doing other things to get her juices so to speak flowing and get her prepared for penetration and then taking his time and doing his best to try and make sure she is completed as well as he is. That is really and truly making love. And then taking the time out to bring her coffee in bed and talk as he gets dressed for work or for the day's activities.
 llianeg
Joined: 6/28/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 5:03:51 AM
Yeah...online connections...sounds like a great idea; but probably not.
 TuffGuy666
Joined: 11/22/2011
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Posted: 11/29/2011 6:39:44 AM
Ready_Real: something happens to people over 45. And I'll be darned if I know what it is.

It's called Old Age. Our DNA degrades over time so that each new cell division is worse off than the prior one. Eventually we wear our and die. The lucky ones are born with better DNA, but alas, even they wear out and die too.

As Betty Davis once said, "Growing old is not for sissies"

That's life. :)

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