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 Ravenstar66
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No

Unless they move in together or get married. He should offer to help out once in a while with babysitters fees when they date though... that would be nice.

YOUR kids are YOUR responsibility...
 dadasaurus
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Posted: 1/29/2012 9:41:55 AM
someone elses problem man
 wvarose19
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Posted: 2/5/2012 6:51:17 PM
so you would pay for a baby setter to watch the kid so you can get the mom drunk and have sex with her but you would not buy the child a pair of shoes! what kind of man are you!
 wvarose19
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Posted: 2/5/2012 6:51:59 PM
so you would pay for a baby setter to watch the kid so you can get the mom drunk and have sex with her but you would not buy the child a pair of shoes! what kind of man are you!
 wvarose19
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Posted: 2/5/2012 6:52:36 PM
so you would pay for a baby setter to watch the kid so you can get the mom drunk and have se!!! with her but you would not buy the child a pair of shoes! what kind of man are you!:
 5150Rivergirl
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:42:41 PM

Mom shouldnt be out getting drunk and having sex. Theres the problem. lol.


Would it be better if she wore her hair in a bun, wore her apron as she was slaving away cooking? (by the way, I do all that, minus the bun, usually just go for the straight ponytail).


God forbid a mom (who is also a woman) have sex! Gasp!
 5150Rivergirl
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:48:13 PM
I could have sworn I once replied to this thread..

I have never asked or expected a man to help or pay for a sitter.

It is my responsibility. Usually my parents will watch her and have her overnight anyway, because they enjoy having granddaughter/grandparents time. Sometimes they have asked me and taken her on vacationing with them during the summer, while I have to work. So my situation is a moot point as I rarely have anyone outside of family watch her. I have been asked if they would like to, to make it easier for me to go out, but I politely decline.
 uniquedork
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Posted: 2/13/2012 9:57:38 PM
That's great you feel a little old fashion. You don't see that very often any more. That being said, I am a single mom and I don't expect anyone I am dating to help me out financially. If it was serious as in living together or engaged that's one thing but if just gf/bf status, nope, I wouldn't want a man to ask me to help his rent, food, or gas money when we were just dating. Things can always change and once I have gotten to trust and know someone things might be different.
 ARiveros3
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Posted: 6/26/2012 2:29:28 AM
I have three children myself, and quite honestly, I don't want a man to feel like he HAS to take care of my children. It's one thing to pay the baby sitter so we can go out, or to bring my kids a toy or something.... (Although to be honest, I would feel better if you didn't do either of those things until you've been around my kids and I for a while)

I would expect you to pay for the date, yes. But to pay my bills? Or buy diapers? No. It's not your responsibility. It is their father's and myself's responsibility to financially support them.
 Lint Spotter
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Posted: 7/3/2012 3:42:45 AM
quote] Especially seeing as how my children have given him gifts for holidays, birthdays, & even fathers day as a gesture of respect for him as the man in the household I don't consider a man I'm dating as the man in my household nor have I ever encouraged my children to give a Father's Day card to anyone.

I think it's presumptuous to expect someone to pay for another's children... if you want to give a gift, then give it freely - don't attach conditions.
 Lint Spotter
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Posted: 7/4/2012 9:16:57 AM

Why would you not do so?
I don't understand women that parade an array of men in front of their children and allowing them to give such an exhalted title to each of them in turn.

I really dont think giving a gift equates to "paying for ones children".
What you are doing isn't gifting, it's exchanging. There is a difference.

When I give someone a gift, it's with no expectations of someone giving me something in return. Gift are free.

When you start expecting or demanding gifts, I would then call it a payment.
 Lint Spotter
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Posted: 7/4/2012 12:34:39 PM

It would be like your girlfriend not getting you something for your birthday and just ignoring you.. same premise..
Not the same premise at all. We're talking about dependent children, the cost of babysitting and other such sundries as opposed to a significant other purchasing a gift for the person they're with in a romantic relationship.

My children are my responsibility financially and socially - not the responsibility of a guy with whom I'm going on a date.

Get the natural father to kick in... not the poor schmoe that has asked you out to dinner and a movie.
 Lint Spotter
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:18:35 AM

My children are not brats. Why on earth would you use such a disrespectful term on little precious human beings?
Keep in mind that your children are not necessarily precious human beings to anyone other than yourself.

This is a serious relationship I am speaking of. We both genuinely care about the children in both of our lives.
This thread is about dating, not established relationships. Congrats on taking the thread off topic though...
 Lint Spotter
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Posted: 7/6/2012 11:46:41 AM
Queenbee... you have a huge chip on your shoulder. Your kids might be precious to you, but to me they're not. That's not an insult, it's a fact.

If my children were to insult someone in YOUR family, say a parent or sibling or any other beloved family member of yours, & deemed it acceptable because it is not THEIR family member, you are perfectly fine with that?
I would understand that they don't know me or my family and slough it off as it deserves to be...

Perhaps you were raised differently, or live in a trashy area where people have no morals or respect for self & others & families.
While I've not insulted anyone, you've just gone off on a little tangent and have chosen to insult me.

I'll be the bigger person and not take offense to your comments...

Have a fabulous day... I know I will.
 GarnerGirl71
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Posted: 7/9/2012 5:31:50 AM
I am a single mom fully capable of supporting myself and my children. I have had to cut off "luxury" items like eating out and cable to feel more financially secure, but those were easy choices. One guy I dated would say things like "good thing you have a rich boyfriend who will buy you cable" and it would really piss me off. I don't want or need someone to pay my bills for me. If you want to do something nice, take me to dinner or on a weekend trip. Or don't and we'll cook dinner and rent a redbox... makes little difference to me. I want you time and attention, not your money.
 Frogy27
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Posted: 7/11/2012 7:52:17 AM
ok to the ? that was asked i have dated a few woman with kids and i feel that as a man and gf other have that i need to step in a be kids dad and take care of them with money and so on i choice to date a woman with kids kids are my problem now
 rockondon
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Posted: 7/16/2012 8:57:58 AM
I think this thread was a case of a guy trying to make himself look good by making a thread about how he's willing to pay his date. As though treating single moms like they're prostitutes makes him look more endearing.

And Terra's post on the first page confirmed a lot of the suspicions I had about him.
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