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 livin71
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 202
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I have my kids 50% of the time and have encountered the same issue in that I am not always available at the drop of the hat. This has posed a problem dating even with woman who have kids. The way I see it is the right person will understand.
 1nozlnts
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 203
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/29/2012 9:04:10 AM
Single father of 5 kids here and I am having all the bad luck. All the stuff I hear is hapenning to single mothers I am getting to. No child support, mother changes when she is going to see them, she moved outta state without telling anyone then cpl months later aka last week just shows up saying she is going to stay. And the dating thing good grief charlie brown is about as clean as I can say that deal. Its like everyone is using people or getting used and I am tired of it. Its like there is no way to find something worth while or its just a roll of the dice
 ontario_woman
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 204
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Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/29/2012 1:45:09 PM

Single father of 5 kids here and I am having all the bad luck. All the stuff I hear is hapenning to single mothers I am getting to. No child support, mother changes when she is going to see them, she moved outta state without telling anyone then cpl months later aka last week just shows up saying she is going to stay. And the dating thing good grief charlie brown is about as clean as I can say that deal. Its like everyone is using people or getting used and I am tired of it. Its like there is no way to find something worth while or its just a roll of the dice


Hang in there. When your children are grown, they will appreciate everything that you've done for them. Try not to worry about dating too much. Girlfriends come and go; your children will be yours for life. If a woman can't appreciate that, she isn't worth your time.
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 205
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/29/2012 5:16:56 PM
Actually no problem for me...Its called balancing your life out. I get asked out all the time, I choose who I will go on a date with.
So why are you having problems?
 fall_blossom
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 206
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/30/2012 8:57:28 AM
A while back it stated on my profile that I had no children for privacy reasons. When men found out I did have children they'd say thing like, "not interested, trying to start my own little league" or "not into that, good luck" . It occurred to me being forthright would be less disappointing and that the latter message was written with intent since for a man to be interested I will need 'good luck'.

What I find is a lot of men without kids message me then when I meet them it is obvious that they're looking for a one night stand. I often wonder if I didn't have kids if that interest would go further. Hard to know since that person I once was is in the past. Now I have to keep on plugging away going from one coffee date to the other in hopes that one man will find that spark he is looking for whom is mature enough to accept the fact I have another man's offspring and come to terms with the relationship won't be exclusively the two of us, but sometimes the four of us .

Now I will go and read what others have written on this thread.
 fall_blossom
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 207
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/30/2012 9:02:07 AM

I know this is going to sound bad, but it depends on how confident you are or how hot you are, Hot women and confident women with kids has no/ zero/ nada /bupkis problems on getting dates, average women with low or no self esteem, the ones worried about their weight, finances etc, has the most problems with dating.
Good point. I have been told on dates that I need to change my appearance. A few men have told me to cut my hair, colour it blond, wear makeup, and tighter clothing. So, this could have a lot to do with men not wanting to go on a second date with me since they cannot show me off. I think I would cry if I cut a foot of hair off to please men's tastes. :(
 fall_blossom
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 208
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 1/30/2012 9:31:47 AM

oh and one more thing. i dont put on my profile that i am a single mom! there are too many wierdos out there! some guys on here are looking for single moms! women who put in the profile that they are single moms need to be very careful! thats like running around outside yelling that you live by yourself! i only wish there were a cure for stupid!
When it is stated in a woman's profile that she has kids, it's obvious she is a single mother. However, when this very important detail is hidden and men find out she has the plague (oops...I means children) the majority loose interest or want to meet up for a roll in the hay. Some men are cool with single moms while others are not. It depends on the man's mentality. I wonder if race plays a role in this mentality?
 Tealwood
Joined: 12/16/2008
Msg: 210
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 2/2/2012 5:39:54 PM

Now I have to keep on plugging away going from one coffee date to the other in hopes that one man will find that spark he is looking for whom is mature enough to accept the fact I have another man's offspring and come to terms with the relationship won't be exclusively the two of us, but sometimes the four of us .

Now I will go and read what others have written on this thread.


So who granted you the knowledge to determine who is and who is not mature?

Would it be fair to either suggest you have a very enhanced view of who you are....or you simply fail to acknowledge that the guys equally have a right to decide if they wish to date you with your children and the potential financial and emotional requirements that easily are recognized as part of the package.

But you are right..some are cool with it...and some simply do not want or desire single mothers with children....but who are you to then suggest they lack maturity?....I have met single woman who will not date me because I am a single custodial father....I never suggested they were lacking maturity...just exercising their freedom of choice.
 Laidbackguy1964
Joined: 4/20/2017
Msg: 211
Do all single moms have problems with dating?
Posted: 5/22/2017 3:57:12 AM
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