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 ssirishchick
Joined: 6/22/2007
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Is that how you do it? Travel, join clubs, etc.? Those are some great ideas. I sent out a lot of posts to guys I think might be interested, and I get very few responses (next to none). You might as well go on with your life, and maybe someone nice will come along unexpectedly.
Maybe I should stop trying so hard, but I'm very lonely for companionship with someone my own age who is not looking for a supermodel, someone who is athletic, or "weight proportionate to height".
When you have had kids, you are not going to be in the best shape of your life, no matter how hard you try.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 52
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Posted: 8/20/2011 8:26:06 PM
how long has it been?

five billion, nineteen million and a half days ago

give or take 24 hours



The mere thought of kissing some of them is appalling, not appealing.


Mmmmm...kissing...well, kissing's another thing entirely... not requiring "mr right", just "mr right, right now" :)

and yes, I'm JUST talking about kissing ;p

 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 8/22/2011 5:10:32 PM
"I have to wonder if one can meet one their own age!'

Why do they have to be your own age ?

Heres what I think about finding miss right as a man today .IF you have the money and the time I think any man could .

So which is it money or time ? Christ at an given time in any large city or town .How many singles meets or get togethers are there ? And we can travel cant we ? Screw the internet that's where to go !

So I think any half way decent guy with the means aka money that can talk LOL ..Can find Miss whatever .

So whats really going on here ?

My assumption its the women ! Sorry but when you do the math thats what you will come up with .
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 8/26/2011 6:35:45 AM
When I was still looking, I met a Mr. WOW just about every six months or so.

Some were not wowed by me, and some turned out to be not so WOW on closer inspection.

However, I met my present Mr. WOW in January, right on here.

He lives about 3.5 hours away, but we both have pretty flexible schedules, and we've been able to spend every other weekend (3-4 days) and four whole weeks together since we met.

He's 3.5 years younger than I am, which I think falls in the same age group, and I find him very attractive.

But more than that, he's a really great, kind, good man, and that's what I like more than anything else.

So, it can work. Don't give up!!!!
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
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Posted: 8/28/2011 12:15:10 PM
Okay,' Lilli...'...I won't give up...
It's just So disheartening to *Look* and *Search* and *Seek* and several other forms of investigation...
and sometimes even _finding_ someone that's -at least- Very close to my tastes...
Just to find that Either:...
They are looking for someone 'younger' / more handsome than me...
...looking for someone wealthier than me...
Or just Too Darned Far Away....
If I could travel for weeks at a time, I'd have been Off-the-Market...Years ago..!!
I have Great taste in women, but little details always put a *Crimp* in making a connection...!
* C'est-la-vie' *
~One foot in front of the Other...!! ~
 hdgal51
Joined: 7/15/2011
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Posted: 8/28/2011 2:10:38 PM
I'm very impressed Lilli, that'd you drive that far to be with Mr. Wow. I've tried long distance relationships before, and sorry to say, does not work for me, especially when winter hits. And, also discovered the LD guy I was seeing, was dating someone else in his own town and dumped me because he "liked her more". Now I stay within, what I think, is a reasonable distance. But it has been forever since I found a man my age I'm attracted to. Seems we only have one thing in common and the rest is nill. I've tried to let go of my likes and dislikes and be more open. That hasn't worked either. I'm at a loss and don't understand why I don't get more responses...even my emails usually go unanswered. I still think men my age are looking for younger, richer, and more attractive. I always considered myself a pretty good catch. guess I was wrong. So I am giving up... on here anyway. Good luck to you Lilli and your Mr. Wow.
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
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Posted: 8/28/2011 3:15:01 PM
What do you think is a reasonable distance if you do think you may have finally heard from a man your own age who just might be "Someone" with WOW potential but doesn't live in your town?
 hdgal51
Joined: 7/15/2011
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Posted: 8/28/2011 6:19:13 PM
I think 35 miles is reasonable...especially in this age when gas prices are so high. I mostly get emails from guys who live 2 hours away, some from other states. I'm not driving that far. I did have a bf about 90 minutes away several years ago. And even though he said he would come to my house half the time, it never worked out that way. I ended up doing most of the driving.
 libralaughing
Joined: 7/30/2011
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Posted: 8/29/2011 5:18:43 AM
Recently did ... we'll see how that goes, hmm? I don't want to 'jinx' myself since I am very pleasantly surprised. Overall though, even in the short time I've been 'looking,' I had found an equal number of:
1. Young ones. Yes, very young ones. Should I start thinking about adopting? (No, this is not a put-down for woman/men who prefer someone much younger - it's just MY preference.)
2. Older ones, often much older. Again, just my preference.
3. Probably Married With Children (and/or a Player.) I have to question those individuals who e-mail me but somehow 'can't' post a pic, or they'll only attach a pic to my personal e-mail (no, don't give it out) OR who ask me if we can webcam at a specific time. Guess the wife and kids are out of the house then.
Just have to say it makes life interesting ....
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 8/30/2011 6:59:29 PM

I have found the online way of meeting men to be more frustrating in many ways than meeting men IRL, as the men seem to be pickier about what they are looking for in women. Probably since they can possibly find a better one with the next profile.


Fifi: since women are human beings I would have to assume they do this as well. My memories from youth are of women wanted someone who was a good provider, tall, dark and handsome.

When I view profiles of women in my area the more attractive (physically) and in better shape women are the pickier they are in who they will date. It's not just men. Some of them will not date men even their own age but two to ten years younger.

The men who are like this do not have a corner on this character trait. It's human.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/9/2011 7:19:00 PM
Why do men refer to women by their hair colour if they are blonde? Not nearly as often do you hear I met a beautiful brunette or brownette etc.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 9/10/2011 2:00:57 AM
^^^^yes, that is one thing that I meant by my comment in my post. Short haired brunettes seem to be women who do not rate high on the attractiveness scale, guess blonde blue eyed women will always be the hottest women around to most men?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 9/10/2011 9:02:29 PM

fifi47 said:

yes, that is one thing that I meant by my comment in my post. Short haired brunettes seem to be women who do not rate high on the attractiveness scale, guess blonde blue eyed women will always be the hottest women around to most men?


Nah, don't believe it. Many, many things are more important than the color of the hair or the color of the eyes.

I myself am not fond of short hair on a woman. There have been some very long threads here on that exact subject. And there has been quite a bit of research, as well. All pointing to the conclusion that the vast majority of men find women with long hair more attractive than women with short hair. So grow your hair, or buy a wig, or ....

If I could enhance my appeal to the women by doing something as simple as growing my hair, I would swear off barbers!!!
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:00:06 AM
^^^^I prefer to enhance my appeal to men who realize that women who have short hair are definitely worth their time, as I have never been one who cares what "research" says. It will be a cold day in hell if I wear a wig or grow my hair to appeal to some man who is as closed minded as the majoity of men seem to be, according to what "research" says. I look younger and more attractive with short hair versus when I have longer hair (according to any man I have ever known who knew me with both hairstyles)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 9/11/2011 11:48:42 AM

If I could enhance my appeal to the women by doing something as simple as growing my hair, I would swear off barbers!!!


...Many thanks to those of you who don't define beauty by hair length.



...mae
 softshoe100
Joined: 8/3/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 3:09:05 PM
Love your short hair mae.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:26:26 PM
southaustingal
WHere do you find the over 70's?? Surely you exaggerate..... You should be going for the younger guy than you.. Fair is fair. I wouldnt consider anyone over 55 no matter how old I get lol!.......for obvious reasons...
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:29:28 PM
Maeflowers

Yes, the older woman with the long blonde mane down her back just looks rather sad and inappropriate. i.e. anyone over say 50..... ... I have had comments from guys that they usually prefer long hair but on a mature woman it is often just not flattering or suitable. Many women are beautiful with shorter hair. THe long hair is reminiscent of youth and innocence along with the firm body etc.... naturally men prefer it.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:32:28 PM
I put up a persona with ashblonde longer hair to see if I would get more hits than the
shorter brunette/auburn haired person I really am. THere was very little difference in the responses from what I could discern..... Sure I am blue-eyed and busty and that never goes out of fashion I guess. One guy said he actually preferred me darker. It is whether the colour suits your complexion etc. That black rooted blonded look that many women display I would not find unappealing.

 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:44:22 PM
Yes well a lot of men are not tall for a start and ginger is not a popular colour from what I read. Marianne was more real and human and more approachable I would say.
Most men are the guy next door and that is what they are comfortable with.
A woman who will take care of the house and cooks etc. Produces babies. Not loll around all day doing her hair and nails.

 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:48:23 PM
I think once we are middle aged romance is not so easy to find and really we should be looking more for the companion and hoping for the starry eyed heart thumping scenario is just not appropriate as it is nature's way of getting us to breed after all.
Of course there has to be chemistry I agree but it is harder and harder to find the older we get. This is a fact of life. Best not to expect it and if it happens than fantastic!!
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:58:22 PM
I'm around 50 and have long blonde hair and have no feeling whatsoever that I'm too old for it. I've always had long hair except for once in my life and I hated it. It's all about what my personal preference is. I don't have it long to suit anybody but myself.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:42:25 PM
Yeah what a 24 year old is doing with a broke older man who knows?? Father complex. He may be hot in the cot.... Viagra of course!! Tells her what she wants to hear. She doesnt know he is broke..... She is not so hot..... Many reasons.

Retiree may be well heeled, good for his age, lies about his age, she lies about hers...
Who knows. SHe may be playing with him or leading him on....the 36-40 year old.
It doesnt do to envy anyone as you dont know the real dynamics and sometimes people are just meant to connect, for whatever reason.

If you prefer the younger ones, and most do, go for them........
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:46:22 PM
From what I have read is the ginger haired women that are least attractive with dark hair preferred running close to the blonde... CHemistry takes care of what we are attracted to in the end and fantasy is just that, fantasy. Negresses who blonde their hair conversely just dont look good often and it is sad they cant embrace their ethnicity fully and not always wanting to look more Caucasian...
I agree that very rarely does a blonde dye her hair black at least not for long but women are always blonding their tresses whether it suits them or not. I guess the lighter colour is more appealing and feminine . The tall dark handsome man is our stereotype often too. I notice that blondes are often referred to by their colouring much more than a brunette.. i.e. I went out with a blonde last night but rarely do they say I was out with a brunette for instance....so the preferences are there in general for sure........
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:52:19 PM
No offence to the long blonde haired beauties who are 50 and look fantastic.
Just that I see some pretty weathered mature women say nearing 60 and over, with the long blonde hair and look great from the back but the front view is a shock:
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