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 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 61
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Why do men refer to women by their hair colour if they are blonde? Not nearly as often do you hear I met a beautiful brunette or brownette etc.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 62
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Posted: 9/10/2011 2:00:57 AM
^^^^yes, that is one thing that I meant by my comment in my post. Short haired brunettes seem to be women who do not rate high on the attractiveness scale, guess blonde blue eyed women will always be the hottest women around to most men?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 9/10/2011 9:02:29 PM

fifi47 said:

yes, that is one thing that I meant by my comment in my post. Short haired brunettes seem to be women who do not rate high on the attractiveness scale, guess blonde blue eyed women will always be the hottest women around to most men?


Nah, don't believe it. Many, many things are more important than the color of the hair or the color of the eyes.

I myself am not fond of short hair on a woman. There have been some very long threads here on that exact subject. And there has been quite a bit of research, as well. All pointing to the conclusion that the vast majority of men find women with long hair more attractive than women with short hair. So grow your hair, or buy a wig, or ....

If I could enhance my appeal to the women by doing something as simple as growing my hair, I would swear off barbers!!!
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:00:06 AM
^^^^I prefer to enhance my appeal to men who realize that women who have short hair are definitely worth their time, as I have never been one who cares what "research" says. It will be a cold day in hell if I wear a wig or grow my hair to appeal to some man who is as closed minded as the majoity of men seem to be, according to what "research" says. I look younger and more attractive with short hair versus when I have longer hair (according to any man I have ever known who knew me with both hairstyles)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 9/11/2011 11:48:42 AM

If I could enhance my appeal to the women by doing something as simple as growing my hair, I would swear off barbers!!!


...Many thanks to those of you who don't define beauty by hair length.



...mae
 softshoe100
Joined: 8/3/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 3:09:05 PM
Love your short hair mae.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 67
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:26:26 PM
southaustingal
WHere do you find the over 70's?? Surely you exaggerate..... You should be going for the younger guy than you.. Fair is fair. I wouldnt consider anyone over 55 no matter how old I get lol!.......for obvious reasons...
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:29:28 PM
Maeflowers

Yes, the older woman with the long blonde mane down her back just looks rather sad and inappropriate. i.e. anyone over say 50..... ... I have had comments from guys that they usually prefer long hair but on a mature woman it is often just not flattering or suitable. Many women are beautiful with shorter hair. THe long hair is reminiscent of youth and innocence along with the firm body etc.... naturally men prefer it.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:32:28 PM
I put up a persona with ashblonde longer hair to see if I would get more hits than the
shorter brunette/auburn haired person I really am. THere was very little difference in the responses from what I could discern..... Sure I am blue-eyed and busty and that never goes out of fashion I guess. One guy said he actually preferred me darker. It is whether the colour suits your complexion etc. That black rooted blonded look that many women display I would not find unappealing.

 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:44:22 PM
Yes well a lot of men are not tall for a start and ginger is not a popular colour from what I read. Marianne was more real and human and more approachable I would say.
Most men are the guy next door and that is what they are comfortable with.
A woman who will take care of the house and cooks etc. Produces babies. Not loll around all day doing her hair and nails.

 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:48:23 PM
I think once we are middle aged romance is not so easy to find and really we should be looking more for the companion and hoping for the starry eyed heart thumping scenario is just not appropriate as it is nature's way of getting us to breed after all.
Of course there has to be chemistry I agree but it is harder and harder to find the older we get. This is a fact of life. Best not to expect it and if it happens than fantastic!!
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 9/11/2011 6:58:22 PM
I'm around 50 and have long blonde hair and have no feeling whatsoever that I'm too old for it. I've always had long hair except for once in my life and I hated it. It's all about what my personal preference is. I don't have it long to suit anybody but myself.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:42:25 PM
Yeah what a 24 year old is doing with a broke older man who knows?? Father complex. He may be hot in the cot.... Viagra of course!! Tells her what she wants to hear. She doesnt know he is broke..... She is not so hot..... Many reasons.

Retiree may be well heeled, good for his age, lies about his age, she lies about hers...
Who knows. SHe may be playing with him or leading him on....the 36-40 year old.
It doesnt do to envy anyone as you dont know the real dynamics and sometimes people are just meant to connect, for whatever reason.

If you prefer the younger ones, and most do, go for them........
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:46:22 PM
From what I have read is the ginger haired women that are least attractive with dark hair preferred running close to the blonde... CHemistry takes care of what we are attracted to in the end and fantasy is just that, fantasy. Negresses who blonde their hair conversely just dont look good often and it is sad they cant embrace their ethnicity fully and not always wanting to look more Caucasian...
I agree that very rarely does a blonde dye her hair black at least not for long but women are always blonding their tresses whether it suits them or not. I guess the lighter colour is more appealing and feminine . The tall dark handsome man is our stereotype often too. I notice that blondes are often referred to by their colouring much more than a brunette.. i.e. I went out with a blonde last night but rarely do they say I was out with a brunette for instance....so the preferences are there in general for sure........
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:52:19 PM
No offence to the long blonde haired beauties who are 50 and look fantastic.
Just that I see some pretty weathered mature women say nearing 60 and over, with the long blonde hair and look great from the back but the front view is a shock:
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 76
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Posted: 9/15/2011 4:55:23 PM
Ok....I'll try to bring this thread back on topic..,

It's been so long since I'd met anyone who I thought "wow...I want to know more"...After 2 1/2 months of dating the "same" woman....(I'd a sabbatical of not doing more than a meet n greet for over a year and a half)...I still wanna know more...

So,



How long has it been since you last met a person your own age for the first time and thought, "WOW! This could be the one!" ?


Beimg well over 45, meeting a person my age for the first time, and thinking "WOW"...is really nice...is she the "one"??? ...well, time will tell.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 77
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Posted: 9/15/2011 5:04:15 PM
Lets face it, scent aand pheromones play a big part in the wow factor and sexual attraction and they are just not there in the mature years.... there are subtle factors at play..... So a woman and a man can look great, have all the work done, keep fit etc. but the chemistry is just not going to be there as it was in youth, when we were ripe for breeding. They dont exude sexuality. Remember we are basically animals and to wanting to be sexually attractive when we are no longer capable of breeding is just against nature on a primitive brain level. So to hope to "fall in love" is a bit unrealistic I think. One reason why younger men go for the mature woman often is that they dont want a family or children with them and are looking for mother..........

......
 Strider19607
Joined: 7/12/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 9/15/2011 5:14:36 PM
WOW ... Lets see , met the one that was a gold digger , met the one that was hopelessly addicted to various prescription meds and booze, met the one that had no car , no home , no job , no money , living off the ex and friends , met the one that was completely unavailable ( emotionally or otherwise ) met the one that wanted to get married after 3 days of chatting texting and phone calls , met the one that has so many men chasing her on POF , that she actually took a phone call from one of them during a date ( go figure ) ... The " One " has taken on an entirely new meaning ...lol...just saying ... some where out there ... ( clears the throat ) The " One " is still looking for me , and I am still looking for her .
 000mary000
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 9/15/2011 6:40:07 PM
Hmm...I came to this site in hopes but as the other sites, Tagged, Facebook I still find myself utterly lost. I read a few replies here and must say...meeting someone in person face to face seems the only remedy. I absolutely had nothing but horrible experiences meeting someone online. Both myself and He must had a person in our thoughts whom we expected when the meeting occur He either thought this young taunt thing would be appearing or vice versa. I now come to the conclusion never meet from online it will after awhile give you such insecurities and especially being older then you ever felt before.

I as well, met a small few and each time they were lazy non workers, wanting a younger girl then what I appeared, talked basically about themselves and past loves that I wanted to slap them upside their darn heads.

How seriously at our ages do you expect a wee virgin to appear for coffee? I am me, nothing more then me. I gave all to raising children alone so? Don't expect a jewelry material girl to appear in a tight fitting skirt with cleavage that can stop a car.

I find on both sides people hold much expectations of the other or they are such damaged goods they are no use for the other. Just my opinion. This is my first response to the forums and please don't crucify me.
 TABITHA890
Joined: 9/1/2011
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Posted: 9/15/2011 7:15:52 PM
I know exactly what you mean. Older men love me and then if I talk to someone who is my age or just a little younger, they say do you like younger men like I am a 100 yrs old and they are maybe a couple of yrs younger than me... I went with one man who said he was 56 and if he was shy of hitting 70 I would kid you not. Do people think you have no eyes to see?lol If he had been truthful that is one thing but to lie like that? Think I will just hang out with my dog and cats and just stay home and not have someone act like I am Grandma Moses.lol
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
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Posted: 9/15/2011 8:00:14 PM
Met the one who said he was 6' and the next one who said he was 6' and the third one who said he was 6'. In person we were nose-to-nose and shoulder to shoulder. All three listed themselves as "athletic." Which was an um, "interesting" adjective since they all waddled walked. Which was possibly because each was carrying at least 30 pounds of belly.
It's been a long WOW hot ----- not --- summer.
 Strider19607
Joined: 7/12/2011
Msg: 82
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Posted: 9/16/2011 9:02:52 AM
I love the profiles that say athletic , then you look at the photos and wonder if going to the Dairy Queen drive through is considered exercise . Average is even better , average what ? Beached whale ? and the few extra pounds are hilarious ... seriously " A few extra pounds ? The site could easily be called PLENTY of Fat , Instead of plenty of fish ... Guess I should learn to drink the Koolaid , lol
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/16/2011 9:57:16 AM
Dear Strider,

Given that you are a person who "gets" Cold Mountain, i just tried to send you a private message, but i'm too old. Just think of all the "potential fishettes" you might find swimming in your mailbox if you'd expand your upper age range a bit. LOLOLOL: One can of peas hereby opening:

And yes: this post actually belongs in one of the several currently "happening" around the thread topic of "over 45 persons' age parameters."
 landale57
Joined: 9/8/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/16/2011 1:23:39 PM
I have to admit that I am thoroughly entertained by this thread...both from hearing the sometimes comedic dating experiences and the expectations, realistic or otherwise from both genders. The problem is that the initial "wow" is almost always related to the physical and visual. The personality or chemistry "wow" takes longer and unfortunately we often don't get there because of dismissal due to the lack of physical attraction. As sad as it is, lack of attraction is not a switch we can flip and make it all better.

As we age, I do believe the initial wow is still possible and I definitely believe the delayed or transitional wow is much more possibleis we give it time.
 sushisue
Joined: 8/8/2009
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Posted: 9/16/2011 10:43:43 PM
Yes I've met a "wow" guy on this site. I'm 59 and he's 60. I think he's adorable. He has a girlfriend in another state. Story of my life, lol...
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