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 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 15
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Maybe your doctor can switch you to a low daily dose of Tadalafil. In addition, you would probably benefit from some form of psychoanalytic therapy. Like others have said...go see a doctor.
 dayzee
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/11/2011 2:25:19 PM
Hubby has needed to use Viagra for years...but didn't actually start taking til last year. Was I taking it personally that he needs to use it? No, as he had no control over it ....what man doesn't want to have an erection?? But after awhile he got frustrated when it wouldn't work as fast as he wanted (that lag time is a mood killer for sure), or wouldn't work at all (and of course, the more he worried about it, the less it helped.) So he stopped bothering to try and he told me to go elsewhere. Now THAT I took personally.... not being worth the bother of using it.

So, in short, we don't care that you have to use it .....we just want you to use it if you have to...the alternative it worse in my opinion
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/11/2011 5:13:21 PM
I wouldn't take it personally . But the fact that you're able to function fine with yourself - suggests that there is a mental component to the issue. If I were you , I'd go see a sex therapist to find out what's going on. You're way too young to be needing drugs - ya think ?
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:01:39 PM
and you should stop smoking if you value your erections...
 sinlov
Joined: 2/25/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:16:38 PM
I think it just depends on wether it works or not.
also guys that can't always get it up so to speak usually
master other skills if ya know what I mean ....
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/11/2011 10:21:45 PM
Some women will think that its them not turning you on. But if you explain a head of time you may be able to get around that.
Try other things to stay hard maybe. You guys watch porn together maybe. or try some roleplaying. something to keep things interesting. It might add that little extra spark to your sex life that gets you going. THe only problem there i have found is once you start taking sex to new levels you find it works so great you start thinking of crazier and crazier things to do.

ON a side note. Be careful of viagra. It is a vasodilator. It will disrupt the blood flow to your eyes, which is why im sure a side affect is a change in vision. Well that disruption in blood flow can actually cause you to go blind. For good. Thats a more rare case, but you can damage your eye sight. and if im not mistaken I believe they added DEATH as a new side effect. We have free samples in the office i work in but i have never read the side effects of it.

Try to find natural ways to stay hard if you can. Im sure easier said then done though.
wish you luck
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/13/2011 6:54:55 AM
Your pecker can be like the canary in the coal mine, to determine other things that may be wrong with you. So you need to first look at, do you smoke, do you drink a lot. Those two alone can reduce your ability to keep an erection. Then do you exercise, and I mean here, do you do anything cardio, at least 20 minutes a day? You need to keep all these things into consideration.

But like someone said, check with your doctor. Check your heart and your blood pressure.
 binxy1234
Joined: 1/11/2011
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Posted: 8/16/2011 12:29:25 AM
you shouldnt use it unless a docters gave you it your better off using a herbal version that has no side effects my friend recommends these www.spanglefish.com/herbalmaleimpotenceaid
keeps telling me they rock good luck
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/16/2011 9:17:20 AM

THe only problem there i have found is once you start taking sex to new levels you find it works so great you start thinking of crazier and crazier things to do.


What a horrible problem to have.

We did the school girl customers yesterday, today we can do the hiding in some public place.

 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 8/16/2011 9:28:20 AM
You OP....are more than likely living with that mental part of performance and being insecure!

If one is healthy, and yet you still have a hard time staying hard, it becomes your mind that is the problem, not your penis. Many times performance can be tied to pressure, fighting, being unsure about the one you are with, and why.

Many will think back to when very young and could get it up over and over and think it all has to do with being youthful, but much more of it has to do with being mature and knowledgeable about your past, present, and future. Long ago, I did not think as much as I do today about "std's", and about those I was with at the time. I would just either get up and leave when done, or have them leave.

Now, I am much more a man with considering who I am with, why, and if I do not want to wake up with them, bedding them becomes a mental issue with me, and thus can be a Physical one as well. I can struggle at times if the one I am with is not tested, and we both know that we are healthy and clean, and that has nothing to do with my penis, and much more to do with my brain and being mature enough to care!!

cd...........
 Kariann71
Joined: 4/26/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/16/2011 10:36:30 AM
If the problem is physical and the only cure is taking a pill then hey, you gotta do what you gotta do. No shame in that. If it's a mental problem then I'm not a fan of popping pills for that. I think too many people out there look for the easy way out instead of diving in and taking a close look at the real problem. Many people aren't willing to dig down deep and work hard to overcome mental/emotional issues. Why put in the time and effort when you can just pop a pill! Yeah, I'm not a fan of that mindset. If the problem is mental then you should seek out some intense therapy and get the problem worked out so you don't have to rely on a pill to do what should come naturally. If you aren't willing to do that then be prepared for some relationship problems down the line.
 WhoAreYou777
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 26
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Posted: 7/25/2012 7:25:57 PM
My ex boyfriend had issues with rectile disfunction. When we were intimate at first I was very upset. He only could have "missionary" sex and his penis would get soft before I was "satisfied". Before I realized what the issue was it did make me feel badly about myself. I had never had a guy "go soft" before. It most certainly turned me off, especially due to the fact he seemed unaware to his "issues". Some woman probably can deal with it but don't feel badly about yourself if you can't help it.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:13:17 PM
No not a reflection on my attractiveness but no way I would go back to that well again.
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:28:45 AM
Urologist told me that doctors are now saying ED is mostly a physical condition. Decreased blood flow to the penis due to narrowing arteries. Also add damaged nerves from compression of that area from bicycle riding, trama from a hard accidental hit, diabetes, etc. So it is a problem associated with male aging in most cases.

I find it strange that women who bad mouth a man for using ED drugs to compensate for aging, don't see the hypocracy when THEY use wrinkle reducing makeup, uplift bras, vaginal moisturizers, hormone therapy, etc, to compensate for female aging problems.

Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house.
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/26/2012 12:20:05 PM
I was under the assumption that Viagra would only help maintain an erection, not give you one.....
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Posted: 7/26/2012 1:17:08 PM
Your pecker can be like the canary in the coal mine, to determine other things that may be wrong with you. So you need to first look at, do you smoke, do you drink a lot. Those two alone can reduce your ability to keep an erection. Then do you exercise, and I mean here, do you do anything cardio, at least 20 minutes a day? You need to keep all these things into consideration.


Absolutely correct.

As a Consultant Urologist with well over 27 years experience I can tell you that there are a host of reasons for ED, premature ejaculation, not coming at all etc, etc, etc.

From as young as 35 onwards, on average, it's a man's lifestyle that is the main reason for erection problems. Drinking too much, smoking, and long term bad eating habits, is a huge cause of erection problems. Lack of sleep through certain lifestyles, and more important than anything else, lack of exercise! To be honest I could go on, but it's a long list.
Here in the West of Scotland thousands of men suffer from ALL of these problems, and all at the same time! And there are many more who's only problem is their diet, but that alone is serious whether you're overweight or not.

Diabetes Type 2 is extremely common amongst overweight men (and women) in developed countries (USA is the worst) and it can easily go undetected. It is caused by the lifestyles I've mentioned and can be potentially a major health problem for men in their 40's and 50's and older. ED is just the tip of the iceberg - and no amount of Viagra is going to sort out what is indeed a far bigger health issue. In fact, Viagra taken on top of other medication for said health problems is dangerous and ill-advised.

And incidently, Diabetes 2 can be reversed through proper diet and at least 25 minutes of cardio exercise a day.

Your penis is like your heart - they both need sufficient blood (flow) to function properly.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 7/26/2012 2:44:24 PM
you need to get yourself checked out!
you are way too young for ED, OR YOU ARE ON MEDS,!!!
i read in the bbc, that Americans consume over 80%, of the WORLDS pain killers, and anti depressants
we are way over medicated,
why!
because their is billions of dollars in that business, and these companies just do not care about what damage they do to people, they only care about profits
also, you are 43
not 18
why are you sleeping around, find one woman,get comfy with her, and have a good relationship
even if you do not want to get married,or very serious, take a lover
changing parners ,like socks, cant be good for your self esteem,and must add a lot of stress to your life
what are you trying to prove...
 Sailing78
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 32
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Posted: 7/26/2012 6:56:45 PM

Your pecker can be like the canary in the coal mine, to determine other things that may be wrong with you.


Yup. It may even be the women you're with, or at least the state of the relationship that you have with them. Maybe you're just not completely attracted to them. They may be hot and sexy but emotionally there's just something missing. Not all guys are robots that get hard the instant they see a pair of boobies, despite certain popular stereotypes. For some people (men and women) it can take a little extra time to warm up to a person and get over the initial insecurities and anxieties when in a new relationship.

OP, considering that you don't seem to have issues when alone indicates that it's most likely a mental/psychological problem. Some serious introspection might reveal to you how this mental block is holding you up.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/26/2012 7:24:00 PM
There must be underlying health issues or you are stressed. If you are going with women who are relative strangers then that can happen. I think you may have trust issues or fear of letting go and perhaps you should try to develop a friendship first and have some kind of trust with a woman. I dont know if you are having problems with casual encounters. You need counselling perhaps on a psychological level. I would find it offputting for a man to have to use Viagra especially at your age. Wouldnt bother again.
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:19:14 PM
I am not sure how long the erection lasts with V. I know I am not interested in being pummeled all night long or even for more than a few minutes at a time before we wrestle around and do something else. I keep hearing men say they can go all night and I am always thinking "noooooo thank you"


I do know that finishing together is preferred as is finishing inside, but since I have not had the experience of being with a man who had to have V, I wouldn't be able to answer how it made me feel. I can only assume I wouldn't care much for the idea if he was able to "handle it" on his own but not with me.
 QuietTexan
Joined: 7/11/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/30/2012 11:17:16 AM
Look into c*ck rings. They are inexpensive, dont need a prescription and can make it temporarily bigger / harder than normal. If your partner asks, just tell her its for enhancement not for ED. Just a suggestion.
 MakeUTingle
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/14/2012 1:43:35 PM
I'm wondering whether there are any women who have a fetish for flaccidity?
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/29/2012 11:06:01 AM
op stop choking the chicken so much and you wont have as much trouble staying hard with a woman
 jasonh39
Joined: 9/28/2010
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Posted: 11/29/2012 6:44:23 PM
Good question.
And nuts to those that called it ED.
There are many reasons this happens. Medication, neuralgic issues, or even stress. Ignorance is not bliss.
If your technique is clean, most women are just fine with the little blue pill. Especially considering how long it stays up, and how hard it is.
Little trick...
Take the pill, and then spend as much time orally pleasing her as possible. This gives the pill time to take effect. After a few times, then tell her. Her experience with you will make her more likely to be accepting of anything considered out of the norm.
Good luck.
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 12/2/2012 4:39:11 AM
those commercials crack me up - "This is the age of knowing how to get things done."

My viagra is a pretty girl.
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