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 1978CY
Joined: 4/4/2010
Msg: 26
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I consider her observant to noticing how I react to things.

Thinking otherwise IMO is just plain silly
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/11/2011 4:22:32 PM

I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?

I think you should ask your friend if he's paranoid about other men ~~~ because I don't know too many men that are worried about HOW someone learned to give a great BJ (just that they know how) vs. those gals that don't have a clue or worse? Won't. Seems to me he's worried about something working instead of worrying about something that isn't. JMO
 PRSweetie70
Joined: 8/4/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/11/2011 5:13:39 PM
Every guy has different things they like done while getting a blow job. She was doing what he liked, maybe some other guy wouldn't like it as much.

So, I'm confused. Is he saying he wouldn't take her seriously because she's a slut?

Would he rather be with a girl that was bad at sex?

 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 29
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:26:18 PM
Very well said. Too many men act like women should be ecstatic for the chance to perform oral on a man, and that said woman should be awesome at it regradless of circumstance. And far too often, these same men are far too unwilling to perform the same on women, or only give it a half hearted gesture, but expect a full service from her.

My opinion of performing oral sex on a woman is: Pack a lunch. Bring an audio book. Wear a snorkle, Put the light on my hardhat, I'm going in! I'm gonna be here a while. A single orgasm from her is, for me, not nearly enough.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 30
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:37:23 PM
Oh please, this is like assuming someone who hasn't had many partners is good in bed because they HAVE had alot of partners.

Some people like to actually read books, look up sex stuff on the net and are genuinely interested in learning. Far too many are not and are selfish bad lovers.

Good sex doesn't equal simply facking a whole whack of people.

Me and my friends had a playboy magazine when I was 14 and we read this story about how to give a BJ. I found it extremely interesting and I kept it in my memory banks for future use. I guess it was slutty of me to be thinking about that? Har.
 rebehcity
Joined: 8/8/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:34:12 PM
Having had a few in my life they all differ, the last one scraped her teeth like a shark and it hurt , which i told her so , some do it so soft , your not sure if there or licking . so all in the beholder ,hope this helps/
 misshoney1988
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/12/2011 6:49:57 AM
Well he shouldn't have been sharing that information with you as it is disrespectful to the girl he is or was dating. A real man doesn't do that.
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/12/2011 7:32:53 AM
Do people DO this?! I mean, if she gives great head, why on earth would it matter where she learned to do so (or if she learned it--some people are just naturals)? If he's the lucky recipient now, how would it having any bearing on him who came before?
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 8/12/2011 7:45:25 AM

Do people DO this?

I wondered the same thing. I can't remember ever having sex with someone and wondering how she acquired some particular ``skill.'' I wonder if people who think that way ever really enjoy sex? It would seem difficult to really enjoy something if one was always thinking negatively about anything that seemed ``too enjoyable.''
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 8/12/2011 7:51:42 AM
@abelian: Right? My reaction to something *awesome* my partner is doing in bed is along the lines of, "Oh my god, that's fantastic. Don't ever stop!" I can't fathom what would possess someone to react by wondering if they needed to bow out of an involvement because of it.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/12/2011 8:06:29 AM

I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?


Nope..I do believe she likes giving them, and therefor must have the same treatment given to her that she gives out. Simple.

What the past is, is the past.
 totalazzhole
Joined: 3/27/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 8/12/2011 8:22:16 AM

Too many men act like women should be ecstatic for the chance to perform oral on a man, and that said woman should be awesome at it regradless of circumstance. And far too often, these same men are far too unwilling to perform the same on women, or only give it a half hearted gesture, but expect a full service from her.


probably true..and you could say the same thing , reversing the genders..

Too many women act like men should be ecstatic for the chance to perform oral on a woman, and that said man should be awesome at it regardless of circumstance. And far too often, these same women are far too unwilling to perform the same on men, or only give it a half hearted gesture, but expect a full service from him.


so? what's your point? many people, lovers, men AND women, can be selfish..& one-sided..

thanks for the "revelation".... lol
 1dudeman4u
Joined: 8/8/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/12/2011 11:59:06 AM
I have to say, it does cross the mind. Most real men get over that or never even bring it up though. I dated a girl who couldn't give one and know she's a pro. LMAO To bad we broke up years ago and she got married. I say if it feels good, don't mess it up.
 barryw717
Joined: 6/25/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 8/12/2011 1:58:01 PM
No that just means that she really likes what she is doing in turn she is good at it. It is the same for guys if they like giving oral they will be good at it.
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 8/12/2011 2:05:03 PM
Look at a blow job as any real world job. If you hate your job then your.performance is half ass and it will show you are only doing it because you have to. Or feel obligated. But those who love their jobs go to work happy and perform their duties with pride. They Excel at what they do because they love doing it. You can have little exp in a job but still out perform others simply because you love doing it. A bj is no different.
 jumpingflea
Joined: 8/4/2010
Msg: 41
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Posted: 8/12/2011 2:12:01 PM
He should totally break up with this bj queen. And he should also introduce me to her. Thanks!
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 8/12/2011 2:15:04 PM

Look at a blow job as any real world job. If you hate your job then your.performance is half ass and it will show you are only doing it because you have to. Or feel obligated. But those who love their jobs go to work happy and perform their duties with pride. They Excel at what they do because they love doing it. You can have little exp in a job but still out perform others simply because you love doing it. A bj is no different.


dayuuummm..that is so cool of an attitude...
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 8/12/2011 2:27:17 PM
LOL why thank you Pingshooter. I have to have that attitude since I lack exp, which is more then fine by me, but I have seen that if I'm with someone I love and I love making them happy then I really love what I am doing. The end result, well............... I don't wanna brag lol.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/12/2011 9:25:37 PM
JustBrad: did you read the OP?


I was having a debate with my guy friends yesterday, and I was hoping to get some more feedback (these guys were so stubborn) lol

So, my friend told me he was dating a girl, and when they slept together her blowjobs were "too good," meaning she must be a slut and have lots of practice.


That type of attitude/labeling is what no_1_bby dislikes, and I agree with her. I am in no way a man-hater, and I have never seen any post by her that indicates that she hates men (quite the contrary). Perhaps YOU don't notice such gender labeling but believe me, it does occur, it is perpetrated by both men and women, and it's wrong.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/12/2011 10:09:31 PM
My first girlfriend, waaaaayyyyyyy back in high school, was a sexpert at BJs. we were each others firsts. And jsut like me, she'd done her research, gotten some books (Now where she managed to hide and read those books in her very Pentacostal holiness family home was beyond me......but she was damn good at what she did, and enjoyed her work. Bless her little heart. I never once thought she was good because she was doing the football team. Thats jsut a crass thought for a gentleman to have.
 NSH71
Joined: 8/8/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/13/2011 11:01:03 AM
Okay, your "guy friend" seems very judgemental. Just because a woman gives "too good" of a blowjob, doesn't mean she's a porn star. She could have practiced as a young girl, on banannas, cucumbers, etc. Plus, men aren't the only ones that watch porn. Imitation is key. Your guy friend shouldn't judge on her performance, as much as he should focus on how many other men she's performed that he KNOWS about!
 singleous
Joined: 7/23/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 8/13/2011 11:24:40 AM
Why do your threads always consist of blow jobs? You seem to be worried about what these guys have to say about blow jobs for some reason.. Who cares if you've had experience.. or have a tongue ring.. it doesn't make you easy or slutty..
 X_vendetta_X
Joined: 5/6/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/13/2011 9:06:06 PM
it really just means she has had too much meat in her mouth. or he is really small.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/14/2011 5:26:38 AM

If you do it too often does it not cause your hair to start breaking and splitting at the ends. Not to mention the cost of the electricity. I think a good towelling is a much better idea.


Thank goodness you're not blonde.

Great sense of humor regardless..thank you.
 nokissntel
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 8/14/2011 6:24:46 AM
practice is good! and yes maybe she learned from a long term relationship. wouldnt question her past, after learning of her skills.. should of asked beforehand.
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