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 onlytakesonedan
Joined: 7/24/2011
Msg: 76
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Well he shouldn't have been sharing that information with you as it is disrespectful to the girl he is or was dating. A real man doesn't do that.





lol, aw isn't that cute?
 poetfury
Joined: 6/16/2010
Msg: 77
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Posted: 8/17/2011 9:05:57 AM
@ Mikemans47

most people don't kiss sluts,they're only good for one thing as far as their lips are concerned.
 brownsugars
Joined: 8/4/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 8/17/2011 11:09:20 AM
no! all things come from the heart,and dont judge a book by its cover or assume a talen is from something else or a past experience.dont question her if u really like her,just enjoy ur time together!:)
 brownsugars
Joined: 8/4/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 8/17/2011 11:10:39 AM
hay this angel swallows but as long as its with the rite man...........
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 80
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Posted: 8/17/2011 11:39:58 AM

Why do gentlemen prefer blondes then? I could always bleach it!!!!



I must not be a gentleman... Please don't tell my mother.

______________ Back on topic...

I can't believe someone would spend their time worrying about how someone got good at giving head. But people do. I've been with women who fretted over me doing something "new" in the bedroom. They jumped to the conclusion that some other woman taught me something, rather than be happy they had an imaginative and exploratory lover.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 81
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Posted: 8/17/2011 11:56:09 AM
Ok JustBrad... lemme break it down for you s-l-o-w-l-y so you can follow along.




He stated that MEN would be referred to as GODS. GODDESSES is a feminine title.

No. Go back and read what Cowboy posted. Here... I'll make it easier for you.



Three women were like giant leaps ahead of the others and the reason was simple and consistant.

Not all women will want to do it this way but the ones that do will be worshiped forever by men all their life as gods of BJ's. And it didn't take tons of practice on different men. ONE evening and listening and being willing to follow directions and they are done with training.

Out of those three BJ "gods" I asked all three how they learned and one was friggin barely nineteen and she looked surprised and just said that was how she always had done it and assumed everyone did it that way. (we men could only WISH that was true) All the others said one man had taught them by giving specific instructions on the key part and they just enhanced it over the years with partners special requests to enhance their repertoire. But no giving a bunch of guys blowjobs does not make you great at blowjobs. She might of given a 1000 average blowjobs. But a gal could spend ONE night with the right guy and be an expert. Experience with multiple partners is not the key.

His referral to "those three" and "all three" goes back to the "three women" he mentioned early in his post. Therefore.. they would indeed be GODDESSES.




You are the only one who has made such a polarizing distinction in this thread, and often do so in other threads. Nobody said anything about guys being studs (or really about guys being anything) in this thread... What's your man hating thing?? "That sh*t has got to stop"

BWAHAHAHAAAA!!! You don't know me very well, do you? When you have actual proof that I'm a man hater, we can talk.

I'll just say this about the MAN (singular, so there's no mistake about it being applied to ALL men) the OP is talking about... he's not very smart jumping to the conclusion that a skilled woman pleasuring him is a slut. Going to argue that point with me?




That type of attitude/labeling is what no_1_bby dislikes, and I agree with her. I am in no way a man-hater, and I have never seen any post by her that indicates that she hates men (quite the contrary). Perhaps YOU don't notice such gender labeling but believe me, it does occur, it is perpetrated by both men and women, and it's wrong

Yes indeed. That's what I said. And thanks for sticking up for me Vixen!




But nowhere did I read that "man+many partners=stud." I stand by my statement. She has repeatedly drawn biased conclusions about gender labeling even where none was stated on either side.

No one specifically mentioned the men+many=stud here.. you're correct. It usually follows a women+many=slut discussion tho, which is what this is. I see them as the same thing. It's gender labelling that needs to stop. The day I posted that there were about a half dozen discussion regarding that sort of labelling. Right up there with endless "is it gay if I let my girlfriend peg me?" questions... and people that state that if a man enjoys anal stimulation he's automatically gay. Nope. Wrong.

I will continue to speak out about such things until hopefully, one day, they don't exist anymore.

"Be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 82
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Posted: 8/17/2011 2:33:39 PM
They jumped to the conclusion that some other woman taught me something, rather than be happy they had an imaginative and exploratory lover.


And the truth is that there probably are things that ex-partners taught us! A man I was dating (who was the best sex so far) and I had a great open line sexually and he told me once about something another woman taught him. Big deal. Of course, if someone is going on endlessly about their ex's, well ya know...

And...so good I'm copying it as more people on these forums needs to LEARN this:


"Be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi
 SugahPunkin
Joined: 5/28/2010
Msg: 83
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Posted: 8/17/2011 4:28:31 PM
I dont think there is such a thing as too much practice.

I agree with alot of the posters that it has to do with her wanting to do it because she likes it.
I dont just do that because the guy likes it. I do it for me. In fact, Id prefer he not orgasm for as long as possible because I enjoy it.
I dont know if this helps but I once had a longterm boyfriend swear I was a man because only a man would know how to do what I did.. LOL.. He said that was a compliment and actually said it breathlessly while in the middle of a bj. It would take him a long time .. I mean, I was glad He couldnt orgasm. He would even let me do it while we watched movies.. laying on the bed all comfy.. hours long.
He would orgasm probably just under 10 minutes intercourse. It was all good.

Does that make me good at it? I guess it did for HIM.. but that doesnt mean the next guy would like it.

I also had one fella make me stop and was kinda acting as if he was in sheer torment from my bj. He would pull me off gently and say wtf? What is that youre doing?? And I said Im sucking your *. Is it bad?? He said NO... Ive never felt that way..it feels like youre tickling it and Im gonna pee.. I kinda laughed and stopped.. He made me do it again and said no... no.. do what you were doing before. I have no clue. Sure enough a minute or so later he screamed again and said there! That.. what is that??!
I had to stop I was laughing. I still have no clue what I did. He eventually orgasmed.
Ive always done the same things.. I dont know. Now Im kinda..well... nervous about giving one.
Its been a long while now.

 onlytakesonedan
Joined: 7/24/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 8/18/2011 8:16:15 AM
look, once you go around the block a couple of times, you shouldn't wonder about the skill set your lover has. or how they acquired them...it's not really any of your business.

if people are hung up on that type of thing, imagine the other issues at play.
 lakersyr08
Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 85
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Posted: 8/18/2011 10:49:17 PM
no, because many girls nowadays have dildos and they can practice on them so that they can get really good, or maybe they have friends that have taught them the technique they need to give good head
 M.Warturz
Joined: 6/10/2011
Msg: 86
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Posted: 8/19/2011 7:54:07 AM
hell to the no thats a keeper are u kidding alota girls do not know were there doing. So one that does is a bonus to the situation
 Greeneyedminx82
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 87
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Posted: 8/19/2011 9:20:39 PM
I watched porn to learn how to give my first bj and people fail to realize porn is very instructional. wether a guy thinks im good at from to much expierence which isnt the case or not thats his problem i know the truth and really no man should complain just be happy your getting one
 Greeneyedminx82
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 88
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Posted: 8/19/2011 9:37:12 PM
Lol thats way too funny
 dontbesostupid
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 89
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Posted: 8/19/2011 10:08:00 PM
u thank the guys before you who trained her right. lol
actually i found that more intellegent women give better bj's and all around sex experience. i dont have alot to compare to but just my observations so far
it doesnt mean she is a slut
 eyemitebite
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 90
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Posted: 8/19/2011 10:47:35 PM
I am afraid I wouldn't know how that feels lmaooooooo! The best head I ever had from a woman was ho-hum at best and the worst I ever got from a guy was great....the best was positively mindblowing! But a more direct answer....I would have already found out what types of relationships she's been in before I assumed anything.....after all it could be as simple as the fact that she's really into it. That would turn me on way more than the physical "skills".
 Don-Que
Joined: 8/12/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 8/20/2011 8:47:25 AM
Nope, she just had a good, patient teacher instructing her all the way!!!javascript:smilie('')
 totalazzhole
Joined: 3/27/2011
Msg: 92
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Posted: 8/20/2011 9:21:21 AM

people fail to realize porn is very instructional.


really?

you mean it IS "OK" to go from azzhole to puzzy to mouth with sh1t-covered finger(s) and /or d1ck????
hmmm.

I wouldn't know about this; after too many bad experiences, (biting and suctioning like a Hoover gone berserk, apparently trying to suck the skin right off, etc.) - this AFTER being assured during convo that they are 'awesome' at giving head-- I have learned to turn down/reject any offers/attempts at a girl giving me head; I'll go down on her if we're in a good relationship and/or she's very hot, but she can skip it.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/20/2011 1:13:31 PM

AFTER being assured during convo that they are 'awesome' at giving head

Generally speaking, it's a good idea to avoid anyone that brags about thier skills. Experience has taught me if they have to brag about it, they aren't any good at it.
 APrinceforyou
Joined: 8/1/2011
Msg: 94
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Posted: 8/20/2011 2:23:30 PM
Never assume anything about anyone. Just because my X wife couldnt give head worth a darn before she went on a cruise and came home as the best on the planet means nothing. Does it?
 complete_moron
Joined: 6/4/2011
Msg: 95
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Posted: 8/20/2011 2:39:55 PM
Generally speaking, it's a good idea to avoid anyone that brags about thier skills. Experience has taught me if they have to brag about it, they aren't any good at it.


Bingo. Same with guys who keep a number of women they dated as some sort of a trophy. The real trophy is to get one woman and keep her the longest possible. Having too many makes the guy look like a player and someone who can't even get into a real relationship.

Same with bragging about sizes and performance. The biggest losers do that, because - even if it's true- they have nothing else to be proud of nor ever accomplished anything they could brag about.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 8/20/2011 3:20:45 PM
but i just don't like seeing girlfriends in that way. every time they try it they wanna look slutty. some men enjoy it but i don't get off on it


Like Arnold in Total Recall, I kinda like women who are "a little slutty". Besides, that's one of my top three visuals, half of my dyk disappeared in her warm mouth, and her eyes fixed on mine. It swoons me!!!!!!
 Possessions
Joined: 10/3/2009
Msg: 97
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:11:08 PM
You do realize that have instructional books on how to give a good blowjob?


Sounds weird but before I ever had sex I had instructional books because I feared being terrible in bed. Never have I had a complaint. *shrug*

Maybe she just reads a lot. ;)
 suziqfun
Joined: 8/21/2009
Msg: 98
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:50:01 PM
I was 60 years old before I gave my first blow job and one man thought I was incredible. So blow jobs are what you feel and how you do them is what comes naturally as far as I know. No one had really given me much instruction but when I began I did it because I wanted to pleasure the man. I had never watched porn so my technique was my own. So thinking I'd had much practice would have been a very huge insult to me.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 8/20/2011 6:44:12 PM
Hmmm . . . they complain if you're not that good, they complain if you're too good. What's a girl to do?
 dave402
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 100
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Posted: 8/20/2011 7:33:42 PM
Yeah, no kidding
I'm not going to complain about the latter.
If a girls giving me a breathtaking, toe curling, eyes in the back of my head bj I'm not going to ponder, "hmmm, I wonder how many sexual partners she's had?"
Appreciate expertise and afterwards......exhale
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