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Joined: 7/23/2011
Msg: 101
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Oh jeez-I feel like I put up with these "slut" assumptions all the time-and its annoying. I am liberated, watch porn, have gay best friends and sex positive women friends and we all compare notes and share tricks. (which do exist-the biggest one of which is Listening to your partner-lol) and due to all that-or the pride I may take in a job well done-I get crap for it. One guy called me a slut as part of dirty talk-who assumed that's what I liked because apparently women who like pleasing their partners must like being called sluts...? I wont tell you how that one ended-lol. But it is a bit infuriating to have to straddle the Virgin/Slut doublestandard all the time.
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 8/21/2011 6:47:09 AM
Well the OLD standard is you're either a wife or a whore lol
The one who you take home to mom.....or the one who gives you a bj underneath the bleachers ;)
But you're right. It's not fair that a man can often have many different partners, and his reputation isn't tarnished
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 103
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Posted: 8/21/2011 7:30:38 AM

Oh jeez-I feel like I put up with these "slut" assumptions all the time-and its annoying.

Tell me you don't have a picture of a beer coaster on your chest.

The term "slut" simply means a women who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. This was a "dirty" word years ago. It only remains that way because women that fit that "label" just don't like that label.

In the '70's...these women were "flower children" that believed in "free love". Doesn't that sound sweet...but pretty much means the same thing. Today...they are sexually independent. It's all about "self-image". Behave in a manner that is consistent with your personal moral and what difference does it make what someone else calls you?

Double standard? I'm not so sure. I had a friend...actually from grade school on. He'd sleep with anyone and honestly anything with an orifice and (presumably) a pulse. I called him a "whore" his face all the time. He didn't get respect from us for that. But he was fine with it.

I'm sure you gals also know of a man like that. Did you respect him because he would have sex with anyone. There is no official "label" for such a man...but the circumstances are the same.

The guys would spend "time" with the high school slut...but nobody wanted to "date" her. And...the "nice girls" would never be seen alone with the high school "man whore".
Joined: 8/9/2011
Msg: 104
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Posted: 9/5/2011 11:54:56 AM
listen ladys i suck a mean**** n i was taught by my husband.he told me what he likes and i practiced n practiced. not all woman who can give a great blow job is a slut. most woman dont ask there man how they like theere****sucked. if u dont ask ull never now.everything in life is learned..taught..xoxo
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 105
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Posted: 9/5/2011 5:59:40 PM
This isn't about blowjobs.

This is about a man's sexist attitude and ignorance, and there is no room for debate there. To be politically incorrect: he's a retard.

A good bj, hand job, tittyfuk, dry hump, dirty dancing, come hither look, or any sexual act is good when there is ENTHUSIASM. Technique is cake icing, sometimes not so good. I had a terrible lover once, his technique was just BAD, in everything. One of those suckerfish kissers and seesaw rockers and I never could teach him. But he became my lover because I had to give him an "A" for effort.

Enthusiasm. You wanna be there with me in particular. And you want it a lot. I won't think you're a slut for it, maybe a little freaky to be turned on by fat old broad like me, but hey, each to his own.
Joined: 8/20/2011
Msg: 106
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Posted: 9/6/2011 2:26:09 AM
If you think there really is no such tricks, then you haven't had a guy service you!
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 9/6/2011 7:14:40 AM
fat old broad .

no way more like a well smoked juicy ham, a real treat in Barcelona! Women with meat and a little age is sexy you know!

if theres 100% enthusiasm then its 70% of the job is done. thats a B straight up.

another 50% for technique and you're at B+ lookin at A-.

not so bad huh?

The best BJ technique I ever experienced was from a female Harley Davidson mechanic - she knew nothing about motors but she could suck start a seized engine block back to life thats for sure.
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 9/6/2011 7:51:22 AM
I've been married 25 yrs, enthusiasm definitely makes the BJ, not experience, the woman has to love the art of giving head, period... now I just need my wife to be more enthusiastic... hahaha
Joined: 7/12/2010
Msg: 109
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Posted: 9/6/2011 8:32:11 AM
If a guy is good in bed does that make him a gigalo! - No. We all learn by experiances, and some people are naturally good at some aspects of sex. If your friends can't under stand that concept maybe you'd be better of talking about cooking.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 110
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Posted: 9/6/2011 10:07:47 AM
a real treat in Barcelona!

I was in Barcelona for a week, and there was nuthin' but gazelles far as my eye could see (one bar wall to the other), and not a porker amongst 'em. 'Course, I was a sailor then, and had those sailor eyes I was lookin' through, lol.
One ravenhaired Sra, in a white big knit short short dress, all tanned, grabbed a handful of my crotch denim as she strolled by the bar. I was in luvvvvvvv, briefly, as my eyes fixed on the tiny short skirt swishing 'cross her tight lil ass as she strolled on without breaking her stride.
But she planted her cute lil butt on the lap of one of a group of 4 guys, then disappeared, quadruple rates no doubt, while her friend showed me the upstairs of the bar. She tickled me, as foreplay, made me laugh out loud and squirm, and several of my fellow seamen later ****ed about the laughing guy in the room next to them during their sessions. I never admitted that it 'twas I.

I agree with those who say that enthusiasm trumps all. But playfulness is right up there, and direct eye contact, well, that's over the top.
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 111
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Posted: 9/6/2011 12:47:05 PM
You mean, if she's really good do you assume she had to suck off a million guys? The answer is no -- she can get that from an LTR. Especially an LTR, because the guy is more apt to train her than a guy looking for a one-night stand. It isn't rocket science to learn to do so well, but from what I gather indirectly, it's more of a comfort zone issue with doing it in and of itself, and of what it takes for proper execution.
Joined: 8/14/2008
Msg: 112
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Posted: 9/6/2011 4:01:54 PM
I dated a woman once who didnt know how to give a bj. she went online and then practiced on me and she got good at it.miss her. so a woman who gives good bjs might not be a dont need a lot of partners to get good.
Joined: 9/24/2010
Msg: 113
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Posted: 9/6/2011 5:02:53 PM
no i dont think it means they have had to much. i mean realy depending on your age you could have had numerous partners and learned from them. if she does give and likes giving blow jobs i want to hang onto her.
Joined: 6/4/2011
Msg: 114
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Posted: 9/6/2011 6:16:56 PM
It doesnt matter if a lady has been with many men or none. The experience is about the lady and man. Each man enjoys different methods. Just because a man has been with alot of women doesnt make him good in bed.
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 115
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Posted: 9/6/2011 7:16:13 PM
If the lady is comfortable and enjoys giving it should be good.To those guys that feel they can explain could show her how,right?
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 116
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Posted: 9/6/2011 11:46:06 PM
The things is, it ain't rocket science, brain surgery or nanotech, and ain't nobody buildin a piano when the blowing is being done.

As someone above said, good in bed and numbers of lovers does not equate.

I've known a couple of military men who had been with hundreds of women, their wives had nothing good to say.... even though they loved them, the reported techniques were just awful. That's what you get when you pay for sex, bad lessons.
Joined: 8/1/2011
Msg: 117
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Posted: 9/7/2011 12:32:22 AM
Well, I was married for 23 years and that's where I got my practice. And not to sound slutty or anything but i am 1 of those women that Absolutely Love It!
Joined: 7/31/2011
Msg: 118
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Posted: 9/7/2011 1:49:23 AM
Hot Damn.... Finally, after surfing and reading at least 200 forum posts, i do believe I can lend some insight to BLOWJOBS that are "that good", I know, because all I ever hear is those 3 little words.... (Ooooh - Mmuuuhhh - Gggawwwwddd).

I was always known as .... the girl with the pretty face, great smile, funny as hell, and an awesome personality, but that's when I was FAT and weighed 393 lbs. Today I am still all that, but since losing 212 lbs, since 2002, I have discovered a TALENT THAT I ROCK AT, and if I could get a job based on my "MAD ORAL SKILLS", I'd be the flippin CEO of some corporate company, lol

FYI GUYS..... It's a known fact that at least 85% of women HATE, LOATHE, and DETEST giving head. It's the gag reflex number 1, but to some women it's just too time consuming and they honestly... don't know how. For example, there are 3 types of blowjobs....

FIRST is the most known type, which for most women, is basically the up & down slob on your knob, till hopefully she takes too long and you are so totally bored; the

SECOND is one of the same motions, however; there's 5 ways of movements that you can incorporate into what I call S.O.S. (Synchronized Oral Sex) and done too his or your favorite CD. These 5 moves include the following:

followed by;

followed by;

c) DOWN & UP again, when you come up POP THE TOP, go DOWN & UP again and POP IT TO THE SIDE, DOWN & UP again, but on the way UP you go REAL SLOW and use your TEETH to TICKLE him (almost like when someone traces letters on your back, like when you were a kid)
followed by;

d) Repeat C, but after you TEETH TICKLE him and are at the top, USE 3 FINGERS AT THE SHAFT and slightly tighten, put your lips about an inch above his**** use your fingers to pull him down and make his****SEEM STIFF AS HELL, as you're going DOWN, push him from the SHAFT and UPWARDS INTO YOUR MOUTH, WHILE SPINNING YOUR MOUTH IN A CIRCULAR 1/2 CIRCLE MOTION.
I refer to my BJ's ..... as a TOE CURLIN', KNEE LOCKIN', THIGH TIGHTENING, ASS CLINCHING ride, no less than 45 minutes - no more than 1 1/2 hours that involves SHAKING, GASPING, PANTING and sometimes LOSS OF STRENGTH, all mixed in with seductive eye contact, a few little sinister type giggles, total ability to TEASE you till you're weak, and ABSOLUTE SATISFACTION because after I'm done controlling the actions, and blowing ur mind, and teasing you physically, sexually and mentally - you'll have NO ENERGY to do anything, but pass out with a smile on your face.

Ok and the THIRD type is .... the kind that is VERY SLOW and RELAXING, not out for an end result, but mostly just enjoying him enough to where he either wants to GO TO SLEEP (which is a good thing) or where he just pulls me into his body and wants to SPOON.

I personally like TWO & THREE, lol. Now, up until about 5 years ago..... I somehow mastered a good portion of BLOWJOBS, but not from EXPERIENCE... because I WAS IN CONTROL and I WAS THE ONE WHO COULD make him do what NO MAN WANTS ANY WOMAN TO HEAR or SEE HIM DO, lol.
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Msg: 119
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Posted: 9/7/2011 4:05:58 AM

and if I could get a job based on my "MAD ORAL SKILLS", I'd be the flippin CEO of some corporate company, lol

Actually, you could do that by starting an escort agency...
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 120
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Posted: 9/7/2011 7:31:23 AM

you get an A+
you could be the worlds first BJologist.

with that kind of technology you could rule the world!

I bet all your guys -
1.)took the trash out.
2.) left the toilet seat down after use
without reminding!

I'm surprised you haven't had a decent proposal (better than Redford)
Joined: 7/31/2011
Msg: 121
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Posted: 9/7/2011 11:21:06 AM
Well thank you kindly bilby..... HOWEVER, you're perception of how men could or should of reciprocated is completely WRONG, lol.

I take out the trash and I kill bugs, being that I manage a termite/pest control company, lol.

I'm the girl that doesn't use body parts or sexual inuendos too lure a man too me, or for that matter, keep a man around. Oh, how I wish I could be so crass and shallow, as to use myself in order to get free drinks or whatever else women want, which they apparently don't feel they should pay for, BUT I HAVE SCRUPPLES AND MORALS, and just prefer to PAY MY BILLS and SUPPORT MY DAUGHTER, instead of relying on anyone else.

Back to your comment ...... I honestly can say that I LOOOVVVEE being able to get a man to basically stand or sit for a period of time without hearing more than 2 sentences, lol. I love the little gasps, the pants, the oooohhh, the huffing and puffing.... HOWEVER; there's obviously other things that aren't so great about me, which is why most of the guys I've met pretty much say what all girls want to hear, and then work it to their advantage.

The last guy I met on this site was in my eyes AMAZING.... We emailed and talked via the phone for 3 weeks before meeting. He told me he was an engineer working out in the Imperial Valley with SDG&E, installing those transmission towers and lived in San Jose, Ca. He apparently was DIVORCED and had been for 2 years. This is the type of guy that most women wouldn't even look at, because he was only 5'5" (women don't care for short guys), a little chunky, bald, cheap, liked the OPERA and CLASSICAL MUSIC, and had an IQ that was off the charts....

I was crazy about him... We dated for 5 MONTHS and he told me this****n bull story which didn't sit well with me, so I perpetrated and dug a flippin tunnel, just to find out... HE WASN'T DIVORCED AT ALL - In fact, he and his WIFE live in Glendale, Ca. and all the negative and nasty stuff he said about her was all BULLSHIT.

So, as you can see.......... Talent like mine, doesn't get what I want in life and if it were possible to make AN INFOMERCIAL (like Extenze), and teach women that there's a trick too making it easier for her and make him think that she's all into him and the different types and ways of doing this.... HELL, I'D BE RICHER THAN THAT PURPLE ASS DINOSAUR BARNEY, lol... But, unfortunately we can have sex toys sold on early morning cable channels, but no infomercials involving how to give a mind blowing bj, lol
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Msg: 122
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Posted: 9/7/2011 2:34:39 PM
i think its like anything else in life if you like doing it you will always do good at what you like and if you are trying to be a good partner you will excel at what pleases your other half so that dosent mean you need to be a slut to make your partner happy
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Msg: 123
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Posted: 9/7/2011 2:52:22 PM
Hello, If a girl gives really good BJ's it is because she really likes todo it.Some girls just do it because they think they have too. Other girls do it because there pushed into it by just plan old pear pessure. And if she is good at it and likes todo it what the hell are you waiting for.
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Msg: 124
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Posted: 9/7/2011 3:00:37 PM
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Posted: 9/7/2011 3:07:36 PM
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