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 Sweetheartedness
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 37
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I just learned a lot from HIGHFLYINGADORED! I appreciate the narcissist definition. Makes total sense! AND......serial daters are probably narcissists. So the problem with moving from fish to fish maybe a symptom of a much bigger problem....HUH.....INTERESTING (NOT sarcasm). OP, you like fantasy. When she no longer seems fantasy-like, you go on to the next one, until the fantasy is fractured.
 KToned53
Joined: 3/2/2012
Msg: 38
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/5/2013 3:29:53 PM
Yes, just keep dateing untill you meet the one. You will know, but nothing perfect. I thought i met the one 2 times. The second time she said I Sweep Her Off Her Feet. 23 days later she does a 180 and throw me under a bus. So you never know. Just keep trying
 TheOneThatGotAway63
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 39
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/5/2013 3:33:30 PM
Yes you are a serial dater. Someone who cant be happy. I bet its you.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/5/2013 4:59:27 PM
Dear Casanova,
Sorry, yes you are a serial dater. Nobody can help you, but you. Knock it off!
Jan
 John255317
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 41
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/5/2013 6:03:11 PM
I think there are a lot of people on here that will say they are not serial daters or that they want a relationship but they are actually looking for something that is not ever obtainable nor does it exist. We all think and feel the "online dating" thing is a really good idea. And on paper or better yet, in our minds, we think it is but then we get out into it and it isn't what we thought it was. And I think part of that is where the "fantasy land" ideas come in. Everyone is different and I think alot of people think because some things are different that it makes it a deal breaker and off they go looking for the pot of gold over or under the rainbow. Where as in actuality, we don't give people the chance to be themselves and the other person never gets to be themself either. Things take time and along the ride of time, TALKING and discussing things if two people are open probably would lower the odds of the serial dater on here. Just a thought.
 bofast
Joined: 1/12/2013
Msg: 42
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/5/2013 6:29:26 PM
You have to be kidding.
 Trish...
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 43
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/5/2013 7:12:11 PM
I think that you either know or don't know if the person you are with is the "one". I always have the talk after about a month if we are exclusive. or just dating. If we aren't exclusive I move on as I know that person is always believeing the grass is greener on the other side .....
 spicy_KFC
Joined: 10/12/2012
Msg: 44
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/6/2013 11:33:37 AM
Not sure that counts as SERIAL dating, but you do have some questions you need to ask yourself about your intention. In my case, I was with what I consider a serial dater, unfortunately I didn't know until it was too late. I was with this man for several months enjoying everything that a relationship of that length brought, including a sexual relationship. It wasn't until the day I told him I was pregnant, he informed me he dates as many as 7 different women a WEEK! He would text me after work that he was meeting a "FRIEND" after work and would meet me in an hour, or three hours, or "could we meet tomorrow, something came up". He is addicted to that MEET and then afterwords, goes on the hunt for the next woman to meet. Somehow I ended up being one of those he held on to for several months and integrated into his life (or at least some of it). So here I am, 2 months pregnant with his child and he wants nothing to do with us anymore. I have now gotten in the way of the "relationship" he had with me and the "FUN" he had with everyone else.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 45
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Posted: 2/6/2013 3:24:46 PM
Casanova
1. A man who is amorously and gallantly attentive to women.
2. A promiscuous man; a philanderer.

Philander
(of a man) to make love with a woman one cannot or will not marry; carry on flirtations.

He's not a serial dater, he's a Casanova, lol
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 46
Am I a Serial Dater??
Posted: 2/6/2013 3:37:56 PM
Well, that depends an what your compatibility issues are. Are they deal-breakers or quirks? If its always the same issues the common denominator is you. The "longest relationship was 4 yrs" bit is sketchy. That looks like commitment and intimacy issues on your part....Mucho trabajo for any woman.

O and the grass is never greener on the other side of the fence, unless your neighbours are growing pot over there.
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