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 americanbulldog89
Joined: 4/5/2016
Msg: 401
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No disrespect meant Karma, but I'm 65 and you could not keep up with me. I do over 1000 push-ups a week along with weights and a lot of walking every week six days a week. Also have a spring set
that I use as well. I have been doing this routine for over 20 years now. I read your post and I honestly have to say I can't blame you. Hopefully you can find a guy more age-appropriate who's in my kind of condition. There's a dating site called fitness singles.com maybe you should check that out. Everyone there is into working out and looking good. Not being sarcastic here but good luck you're going to need it.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 402
Confused about You're too old for me responses from women
Posted: 4/13/2016 7:43:11 PM
Not sure I understand your post, bulldog (English is not my first language, I do miss certain nuances at times). The pics in my profile are several months old - I'm about 15 pounds lighter now and a size 2 or 4 in pants. I let myself go a bit starting last year after a bad breakup, and I just got back into better shape again. IF and weights, amazing stuff. I hardly ever log onto my account anymore, I have much better matches on Tinder and now that it's getting nicer outside, I want to meet men in real life. Real life is a confidence booster, as I get attention when I get out by men that are attractive. I used to not pay attention to that, but when I went walking with a friend the other day, she told me that guys were looking me up and down. I have to stop being so absent minded and notice this stuff, lol. In real life, no one knows how old I am, all they see is how I look. During daylight hours, without lots of makeup on, wearing casual clothing. Online, age is everything, and it's to my disadvantage, at least on POF.

I did go on one date with a guy in his early 50s who is a former Marine and body builder who was absolutely HOT and ripped and muscular. We've been trying to get together again, but it hasn't worked so far. He could put many guys in their 20s to shame.
 americanbulldog89
Joined: 4/5/2016
Msg: 403
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Posted: 4/13/2016 8:25:20 PM
Karma, that last sentence about good luck you're gonna need it didn't quite come out right. All I meant by that is you obviously want a guy that is in really great physical condition and there are not a lot of us around and you probably already know that. Good luck in finding a guy like that , the Marine guy sounds like just the ticket, hopefully you can get together with him as he sounds like your kind of man.
 excusezmoi
Joined: 3/11/2016
Msg: 404
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Posted: 4/22/2016 8:56:12 PM
I have my own unstated age limitations. If I consider a guy is too old for me, I don't want to rub his nose in it. The reason isn't necessarily his physical appearance, but may be more to do with the fact that he's retired and at a different stage of his life than I'm at. So if a guy in his 70s for example (I'm 58) contacts me, I won't say 'You're too old for me', but I will still say no, and base it on distance or ethinicity or anything else except age. However, if someone in their 20s contacts me, I consider that entirely inappropriate and tell them so. If other women want to be cougars, and boys want to be their cubs, I really don't care, but that has no place in my own world.
 excusezmoi
Joined: 3/11/2016
Msg: 405
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Posted: 4/22/2016 9:23:44 PM
[ Okay well you had your opinion but here's just my opinion. I personally know at least five men who married older women. Two of these guys spend a lot of time running their wives back-and-forth who are undergoing chemo treatment for cancer. One of the wives had both breasts removed]

I know a guy who left his marriage at age forty-something to take up with a 19yo. They were in love. She got wracked with cancer and died.

My aunty took up with a man forty years her senior, had two kids (my cousins) was very in love and heartbroken at his passing.

I've communicated with significantly younger men who are way 'too old' for me and older men who consider me too old for them.

Once in a while something good DOES happen that apparently and statistically shouldn't or oughtn't. Age isn't necessarily the overriding factor...but can be a starting point.
 americanbulldog89
Joined: 4/19/2016
Msg: 406
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Posted: 4/22/2016 11:11:38 PM
One of my closest friends, just spoke with him today on the phone, lost his wife at age 32. Left him with three small children to raise on his own. Like myself the richest man in the world calls Nebraska home.
He lost his wife many years ago. There are several mid 80 widowers in my neighborhood. I'm not buying this argument that we men as we age all need a woman to be our nurse that's total bulls..t. In many cases it's the other way around. Also don't buy the argument that women live very much longer than men anymore. Just read a study yesterday where two researchers discovered that the lifespan of white females in Western world countries is declining. He said it was attributed to drug use and suicide.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 4/23/2016 6:19:23 AM

I'm not buying this argument that we men as we age all need a woman to be our nurse that's total bulls..t. In many cases it's the other way around. Also don't buy the argument that women live very much longer than men anymore. Just read a study yesterday where two researchers discovered that the lifespan of white females in Western world countries is declining. He said it was attributed to drug use and suicide.


I don't buy the whole nurse with a purse thing, since the difference is about 4-5 years, and it means if you marry a woman that is the same age, you both live into your 80s. (Though it might work that way for me.)

Statistically, women live 5% longer than men. It's true everywhere in every country in the world.

Even true with most animals.

I have read those studies as well. It only means men are living more healthy, BUT while stress, smoking, drugs, lack of medical attention can explain why Russian women live 11 years longer than men, when those things are equal women still outlive men by about 4-5 years.

The only exceptions, if you get castrated before the age of 15, the records indicate castrated men lived 14 years longer than their un-castrated fellows. But there aren't a lot of records, since these men were were in institutions for the mentally disturbed and in the 70s they used castration to stop homosexual 'deviants and this was surprisingly commonplace in the USA.

I am afraid until medical science discovers ways to make us longer lived than what nature intended, we won't be able to close this longevity gap with women.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 4/23/2016 7:44:10 PM
Ever since I got divorced a little over 20 years ago far younger women have pursued me. Frankly, initially it shocked me. Yet over time I have become accustomed to dating women from 25 to 15 years younger whom I have met IRL. Rarely have I come onto them. Rather they gave me signals or openly asked me out. I have no explanation but this has been my experience.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 4/23/2016 10:51:41 PM

I'm 65 and you could not keep up with me. I do over 1000 push-ups a week along with weights and a lot of walking every week six days a week.


It's too bad you missed Literate Hiker. How is your flossing?
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 4/23/2016 10:54:23 PM
Apparently Baby is now poof!. Has anyone heard from her? Voluntary or Purged? It's a wasteland here.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 4/24/2016 5:36:43 AM

Apparently Baby is now poof!. Has anyone heard from her? Voluntary or Purged? It's a wasteland here.


It would appear she self deleted, as this was her last MSG.

"Guess I'll take a little break from here again. I'm finding the environment a bit hostile for my tastes at the moment."
 Whisky_River
Joined: 12/2/2015
Msg: 412
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Posted: 4/24/2016 6:29:34 AM
Oh...I was wondering what happened to her.
Hostile? What thread was she on at the time...lol.
All in perception...been there.

I would never tell someone they're too old for me....as I have my settings set for a certain age.
If I think they may fibbing and a lot older than their stated age....it's easier to just say...I don't see us as a match.
 glenn58john
Joined: 5/12/2016
Msg: 413
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Posted: 5/27/2016 6:54:17 AM
The best way to avoid women telling you that you are too old for them is to do what I do, don't contact them in the first place.

I gave up dating before I even started
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 6/8/2016 2:54:37 PM
A lot of people are looking for someone younger or better than they are. Some are even looking for perfect (as if they are).

Welcome to dating, the world's biggest cat-and-mouse game.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 6/9/2016 11:42:44 PM
Looks like you ran smack dab into cougerville. De women want dem youngins sontines.

I would suggest just looking else were. Like everyone else, they are entitled to go after what they like (younger males) just as much as you like younger females.
 WhereforeAndWhyNot
Joined: 1/26/2016
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Older is as older does....
Posted: 6/11/2016 6:30:06 AM
Hey Nineteen
No we can't dance together
No we can't talk at all
Please take me along
When you slide on down

Hey Nineteen
That's 'Retha Franklin
She don't remember
The Queen of Soul
It's hard times befallen
The soul survivors
She thinks I'm crazy
But I'm just growing old

Hey Nineteen
No we got nothing in common
No we can't talk at all
Please take me along
When you slide on down


(Steely Dan excerpt)
 tuppton
Joined: 6/3/2016
Msg: 417
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Posted: 6/15/2016 11:00:11 AM
well when you are a woman at 65 it scares the guys away even guys my age are looking for a younger woman ,
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 6/15/2016 3:17:30 PM


well when you are a woman at 65 it scares the guys away even guys my age are looking for a younger woman


Well … yes and no. I have dated women as much as 20 years younger, and as much as 10 years older. I want someone that I find attractive, someone that is fun to be with, and someone who is adventurous.

The percentage of women meeting those criteria does go down with age. But if you are attractive, fun, and adventurous, I could care less what the numbers on a birth certificate say.
 Red_Fish_Blonde_Fish
Joined: 6/3/2016
Msg: 419
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Posted: 6/15/2016 4:36:20 PM

well when you are a woman at 65 it scares the guys away even guys my age are looking for a younger woman

You are very pretty w/ a lovely figure & great smile- don't sell yourself short!

You manifest what you believe, so I want you to think you will meet Mr. Right soon!
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 420
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Posted: 6/15/2016 6:29:40 PM
Like Henry said...adventurous.

Be willing to throw the dice.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 6/15/2016 6:38:32 PM
tuppton

But do you really want a 65 year old guy? Plenty of women want younger men too and get them.
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 422
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Posted: 6/16/2016 4:51:15 PM
Never see them in public it seems.What are they getting from them?
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 423
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Posted: 6/16/2016 5:06:21 PM
^ I'd rather not think about it. Yesterday I was dining alone on a pub patio, and had the great misfortune of having to hear a drunken pornographic conversation between a guy in his twenties and a woman my age who was relentlessly persuing him. She wasn't looking for a tennis partner, to be sure.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 424
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Posted: 6/16/2016 5:10:38 PM
Did they leave together?
I like to be on my own to over hear...
Hard to stop myself from joining in.
I pretend to read but can feel my ear growing LOL
My personal fav was when she told him
" ok, tonight I am leaving Hubby, pick me and the kids up at 8"
and he was like
" I have to go back to work for awhile"
I assumed awhile was Eternity.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 425
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Posted: 6/16/2016 5:49:04 PM
^ I think he escaped, but I was trying really hard to consentrate on my newspaper. Some drunk people are loud talkers.
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