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 WanderingRain
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I miss taking care of her.
She was a total career girl and I worked at home on the internet. I had time to pause my work and prepare food, her breakfast, etc... When she came home, we'd eat together. That's the part I miss. I still cook way too much for one person.
When I drive, I look over to the passenger side and see an empty seat.
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 1:00:37 AM
Thank you, OP, for starting this thread. It's a wonderful affirmation that the folks on here who replied still have love in their heart. May each and every one of them who desires it find the lifemate with whom they will be happiest longterm.

There are a great many things I miss about being in a LTR. Here are just a few ...

1) One-liners and puns galore, out of nowhere, or on a running theme, and laughing till we got the hiccups;

2) Coming around the corner of the building outside and our eyes met and we both broke into a foolish grin that we couldn't seem to wipe off our faces;

3) Spontaneous hand-holding, kissing, etc.

4) Brainstorming or just plain chatting. Or, companionable silence while we were each on our own computer, which faced each other;

5) Sharing every aspect of our day, and it always felt fresh and interesting and new;

6) When we were both working, and were on our way home each in our own vehicle, coming from different directions, we'd keep trying each other on the CB till we were within range. That first moment when I heard his voice, it was the sweetest sound in the universe.

7) I miss being with someone of that calibre, that closeness, feeling like newlyweds after a decade-and-a-half plus. Someday, when the time is right, I hope to have that wonderful experience again. And this time, I hope we both can live and thrive well into our 80's, 90's or better.
 meowsaidthetigress
Joined: 7/9/2011
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 2:46:21 AM
I miss unconditional love and acceptance during times of extreme happiness, as well as during lifes tribulations. I cant express enough how it feels to have both the men I loved in life pass on. Twice is a void that can never be filled and I accept that fact quite well these days.

Currently I just simply miss the companionship of someone that enjoys me as well.
Ahh the beauty of chemistry...
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 10/14/2011 8:35:38 AM
I'm with VGE on this one.......Sundays.
Especially this time of year....after a morning of lazing and playing in the bedroom....a big breakfast and then kicking back for an afternoon of watching football......preparing a big ole Sunday dinner for the evening.....or going for a long drive looking at all the beautiful Fall colors......
 evskypr
Joined: 6/19/2011
Msg: 80
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 8:39:46 AM
I miss a relationship sometimes when I see other couples walking holding hands, sitting together in church or a restaurant.I do miss the togetherness
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 81
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 8:43:46 AM
I miss having someone to come home to ... knowing that someone would notice if I didn't come home. I mean, my kids would notice after a couple of days if they didn't hear from me, but by then it may be too late ...
 VirtuallyLove
Joined: 9/8/2011
Msg: 82
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 8:44:05 AM
One of the more peripheral things I miss is the diet-variety I enjoyed in my last relationship. I get so damn sick of my own cooking, but I dislike shopping and cooking so much that even that sickness is insufficient to motivate me to do much about it (that may change, of course!). It was such a treat to visit her and be served up all the stuff she loved, which I liked as well but took too much preparation by my standards.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 83
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 8:52:51 AM
I remember when being married, some of our friends were single and expressed feeling like a fifth wheel when around couples. Those friends are now married and I feel like the fifth wheel now when around them and other couples.
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 10/14/2011 9:31:07 AM
I hear ya, Maleman. Other than those 17 years of marriage (common law and then 'papered'), I've been a 'fifth wheel' all my life, and it's a terrible feeling.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 9:46:05 AM
I miss having someone that truley misses me. As another poster has said....sure kids and family would wonder after a few days .
I can remember..I was working nights and a girlfriend had stopped by after work and we got carried away just chatting in the car. I didn't know in the meantime that there had been a major storm come through our home area and wiped out power lines.
By the time I pulled in the drive...He was just getting in his car to come search for me.
Now...this was before I had a cell phone..He bought me one the next day!!

I miss just having that one person that totally understood me and had my back!

I miss the silence when we were both in a room alone and no words needed to be said.
I miss hearing his voice...after years...it still made my heart pitter..patter.
I miss how well..we worked together...we had common goals....we had the same vision for our home and where our lives were heading.
I miss having a partner that there just was "no doubt" of each others devotion.
 xHD1200x
Joined: 11/11/2010
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 10:09:43 AM
Having somebody grab me a beersie from the fridge and do my laundry haha, well i was spoiled i guess.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 4:30:35 PM
southmeetswest- I love to grill and I still do for me and my children/friends, I also love to cook, I don't do that as much since I've been divorced.
I'm ok going to things alone, but I admit, bargain hunting, concerts, parties, going out now and then seems kinda weird by myself.
I guess the single oddest thing is being around the friends we had as a couple, no one chose sides or hurt my feelings, they are still my friends, it just is a little odd. After a year, people still ask me about the ex.
 Bigrockinguy
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 10/14/2011 5:45:46 PM
As my dad passed away about 6 weeks ago,i guess having someone there other than immediate family to consul me,and just turn to.
 southmeetswest
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Posted: 10/14/2011 5:53:28 PM
bigrockguy

my condolences on the loss of your father. it is sad when we lose our parents. our 1st and original connection to another human being.....

missing our parents and all that they gave to us and helped us over the years is a whole 'nother thread. i still think of both mine and wish i had realized earlier in my life how smart and wise they were while they were here and i could tap into that. probably would have avoided some big mistakes if i only known how smart they were!

my best to you,
kaylee
 dobbie101
Joined: 1/24/2011
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Posted: 10/14/2011 6:32:02 PM
I guess the strangest thing that I miss is the little letters I used to write. That was a long time ago that I was in a long term relationship. Allow me to explain...I used to write little lunch time messages that told her how I felt about her that day never negative, no matter the day or any issues...how I wanted her to have a wonderful day....I just wrote about little nonsensical things, not really consequential to world peace or anything great, but just little things ...and then those little notes were put in the car...or on her handbag...or even as letters sent to her work..
Now I tend to send little gifts to people I know...just telling them how special they are to me...not often...an affirmation of their value.
 michele6259
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Posted: 10/14/2011 6:36:00 PM
What a nice thread. Thank you Kaylee.


Friday evenings, after work, porch sitting
Someone to slow dance with
Pillow talk
Grab ass at the kitchen sink
Wild flowers for no reason
Projects around the house
Reading while he watches the game
Looks across a crowded room
Packing his lunch
Sunday morning breakfasts
Weed wacking , I dislike weed wacking
Driving for 100’s of miles without having to say a word
Sharing good news and bad
Him laughing at my imperfections
Forking and spooning
 southmeetswest
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Posted: 10/14/2011 6:56:26 PM
thank you to everyone who shared on this thread. so many poignant memories and thoughts.

the thing that strikes me as i read each of these is that we have all loved and been loved. do you realize that some never have experienced this in their lifetimes?!

and of course we all loved and lost in some way or another. some through death, some through divorce or breaking up. life changes constantly and life goes on.

one poster, a lady, glen..something
struck a chord, a happy chord, when she said she hoped we all had the chance to experience finding happiness with the person that is for us again.

and she also mentioned the softer side of posters showing through on here. that makes me smile. i realize that we all have had some pain, we all have some defenses, and have worked on healing. in the final analysis we all want to love and be loved again.

kaylee
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 12:22:47 AM
What I miss most, is waking up with someone. That's not the same as going to bed with someone. I hate waking up alone. I'm at the stage in my life where sex means little or nothing to me. Sex has always been the cause of every good relationship I have had, going bad. And you can't just go to bed with a friend. So, I really miss having someone there when I wake in the morning. But, hey, I'll get used to it, but I'll never like it.


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 Darren Jason
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Posted: 10/15/2011 4:08:06 AM
since ive been on this site ive had some good and some bad i guess its really what the person is like deep down i miss not being in a relationship
because it gets a little lonely at times when u havent that certain some one to cuddle up to i love to cook and never had a chance to cook for any one but myself
some people find it sad
but i know ill find that some one some day plenty of fish is a gud site but only thing is that some peolple are only after one thing
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 5:35:21 AM
um...when I get a really good 2-for-1 coupon, LOL...there is not much I miss anymore about a partner, they say when you like being alone & stop looking, it happens...YIKES! I better get out my running shoes
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 2:31:17 PM
^^^^^^^ yes. I have one of those "Entertainment" books filled with 2 for 1 coupons. Now I hate that I can no longer use them. I certainly can't ask a woman for a date and use a coupon. That is tacky, even for me. I am the king of tacky!


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 CynM
Joined: 7/11/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 2:50:00 PM
Putting together a puzzle - used to love to do them by myself; it was relaxing time in my head. Made the mistake of doing some puzzles (competitive puzzle play) with 'the love of my life'. Still can't do puzzles.

Sometimes driving a place I know so well that I don't really see it anymore and then, for whatever reason, my focus shifts so I see it with fresh eyes as if I'm showing it to/sharing it with someone special. Damn I hate when that happens.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 8:33:07 PM

yes. I have one of those "Entertainment" books filled with 2 for 1 coupons. Now I hate that I can no longer use them. I certainly can't ask a woman for a date and use a coupon. That is tacky, even for me. I am the king of tacky!


use them -tell her the coupon makes it possible to see her twice as much


 WesternRose
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Posted: 10/15/2011 10:15:19 PM
Ditto Glenoran1,
I have a few more to add to the list.

1.) Arriving home form work during an unexpected thunderstorm, pulling into the driveway and having him come out with the umbrella to meet me when I get out of the car.

2.) Having a warm towel to dry me off with in the garage should I have gotten soaked if he was unable to do so.

3.) Always being able to share the what I want for you after I leave here thoughts with each other.

4.) All of the repair lessons so that I would be able to take care of things without having to call the specialists in.
 dd3va
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Posted: 10/15/2011 10:24:50 PM
Someone to smile with.
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