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 michele6259
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What a nice thread. Thank you Kaylee.


Friday evenings, after work, porch sitting
Someone to slow dance with
Pillow talk
Grab ass at the kitchen sink
Wild flowers for no reason
Projects around the house
Reading while he watches the game
Looks across a crowded room
Packing his lunch
Sunday morning breakfasts
Weed wacking , I dislike weed wacking
Driving for 100’s of miles without having to say a word
Sharing good news and bad
Him laughing at my imperfections
Forking and spooning
 southmeetswest
Joined: 4/26/2010
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/14/2011 6:56:26 PM
thank you to everyone who shared on this thread. so many poignant memories and thoughts.

the thing that strikes me as i read each of these is that we have all loved and been loved. do you realize that some never have experienced this in their lifetimes?!

and of course we all loved and lost in some way or another. some through death, some through divorce or breaking up. life changes constantly and life goes on.

one poster, a lady, glen..something
struck a chord, a happy chord, when she said she hoped we all had the chance to experience finding happiness with the person that is for us again.

and she also mentioned the softer side of posters showing through on here. that makes me smile. i realize that we all have had some pain, we all have some defenses, and have worked on healing. in the final analysis we all want to love and be loved again.

kaylee
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 12:22:47 AM
What I miss most, is waking up with someone. That's not the same as going to bed with someone. I hate waking up alone. I'm at the stage in my life where sex means little or nothing to me. Sex has always been the cause of every good relationship I have had, going bad. And you can't just go to bed with a friend. So, I really miss having someone there when I wake in the morning. But, hey, I'll get used to it, but I'll never like it.


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 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 5:35:21 AM
um...when I get a really good 2-for-1 coupon, LOL...there is not much I miss anymore about a partner, they say when you like being alone & stop looking, it happens...YIKES! I better get out my running shoes
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 2:31:17 PM
^^^^^^^ yes. I have one of those "Entertainment" books filled with 2 for 1 coupons. Now I hate that I can no longer use them. I certainly can't ask a woman for a date and use a coupon. That is tacky, even for me. I am the king of tacky!


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 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 8:33:07 PM

yes. I have one of those "Entertainment" books filled with 2 for 1 coupons. Now I hate that I can no longer use them. I certainly can't ask a woman for a date and use a coupon. That is tacky, even for me. I am the king of tacky!


use them -tell her the coupon makes it possible to see her twice as much


 WesternRose
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 10:15:19 PM
Ditto Glenoran1,
I have a few more to add to the list.

1.) Arriving home form work during an unexpected thunderstorm, pulling into the driveway and having him come out with the umbrella to meet me when I get out of the car.

2.) Having a warm towel to dry me off with in the garage should I have gotten soaked if he was unable to do so.

3.) Always being able to share the what I want for you after I leave here thoughts with each other.

4.) All of the repair lessons so that I would be able to take care of things without having to call the specialists in.
 dd3va
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Posted: 10/15/2011 10:24:50 PM
Someone to smile with.
 2Nice4ya
Joined: 6/10/2011
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Posted: 10/15/2011 11:36:32 PM
It do happen to most people though,,,thats why we have this site
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 10/16/2011 9:58:07 AM
^^^^^ Taoistic1, bitter-sweet it is, but it also highlights whether the person making the comments is remembering through a glass-half-full or -half-empty frame of mind, or just perhaps, they are remembering both (a balanced approach).

When a person studies for a test, 'last in is first remembered', because it's fresher. Same with a relationship. The ending, especially emotionally-charged as it usually is (be it a passing or a break-up), tends to make it the part that is remembered most forcefully. It is good to remind oneself (or be reminded by threads such as this) of the good times that went before, especially if the relationship was a happy one -- all the little things that drew you close and kept you close.

It is a reaffirmation of the promises of happiness that are inherent in a good relationship. Whether those promises are broken later on is a moot point; thing is, they did exist, they were shared by the partners, and love was expressed and received in wonderful ways.
 southmeetswest
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Posted: 10/17/2011 4:02:02 AM
glenoran

i really appreciate your insight and ability to convey the messages.

your example

"last in is first remembered"

that is so true initially.

thankfully, my favorite, trusted healer, TIME, allows the good memories to resurface.

kaylee
 HappinessOK
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 10/17/2011 7:41:49 AM
Sunday is the worst day of the week for me as a single person..its the day that all my friends are doing their family time. I have noone to hang out with and I jst miss that wonderful feeling of having someone of your own to hang out with to do together things. Cooking for one is no fun either!

Going to a wedding or similar function I miss having a partner.

Recently I returned from a wonderful vacation ..I went on my own..when I came home I felt soo alone and lonely..there was noone to tell what a wonderful vacation I'd had.

Most of the time Im ok with being single....to do as I please, when I please.
 unspoiled
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Posted: 10/17/2011 3:11:14 PM
Being greeted upon arriving home.
Having someone to think about.
 LuvADKs
Joined: 8/31/2011
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Posted: 10/17/2011 4:33:37 PM
I haven't read all the other replies, but here's my 2 cents:

I miss having someone around to do things with on the weekends. During the week my job and my kids take up most of my time. Friday evening is usually "out with friends" night. But Saturday and Sunday evenings, it would really be nice to have someone around.

(But I get over it come Monday morning...)
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/17/2011 4:39:40 PM
Southmeetswest, thanks for the kind words. Yes, time has helped enormously, and I'm delighted to hear it has for you, too.
 southmeetswest
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Posted: 10/18/2011 6:25:41 PM
i could have used a spider killer last night. that thing was huge and hopping up and down. i got it though!
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 56
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/18/2011 7:09:59 PM
I just evict spiders. I don't kill anything I don't have to.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 10/18/2011 7:28:30 PM
I used to be the designated spider killer. But now I have a cat that catches and eats spiders, flies and ants, so the bug problem is covered.
 southmeetswest
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Posted: 10/18/2011 7:47:37 PM
glen

i don't like to kill anything either. but this thing was not eviction material. larger than a half dollar and was jumping like a tai kwon do expert!

i was afraid to let him get away and out of sight to show up later in the bedroom! would never have been able to sleep til i hunted him down.......
 Cynderella
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Posted: 10/18/2011 9:07:59 PM
I miss someone who worships my piggies (toes) lol

I miss being missed...
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 60
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Posted: 10/19/2011 12:14:38 AM
Yes, Southmeetswest, that's true. I've awakened with spider bites on occasion. Sure does itch! Admittedly, at those times my pacifistic nature tends to give way to more aggressive tendencies. But by then the spider has usually done an efficient disappearing act (grin).
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 61
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/19/2011 7:26:56 AM
I am in a new relationship after being single for just over 7 years and I didn't realize how much I missed being snuggled to sleep, random texts meant to make me smile, the caress of fingers on my skin to slowly wake me up in the morning, walking arm in arm or the feel of my man's arms around me after a tough day at work. It's been a long time coming...
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 10/19/2011 7:40:39 AM
having a man besides the Lord to trust in...
 Technoartisan
Joined: 3/12/2012
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what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 5/2/2012 4:56:08 PM
I think what I miss most about my last relationship was her dancing. I don't dance. Not at all. She, though, is quite good at it. I'd sit at the computer and spin-up some upbeat tunes and she'd just start moving. Nothing made her happier and I got enjoy watching.
 Aura1shine
Joined: 3/2/2011
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Posted: 5/3/2012 3:44:42 PM
Kaylee: Thanks to start this post. It helps to remind us to work harder to maintain a relationship when opportunity given to us again. Something that we are treasured during a good time in relationship, evaluated what was the cause to end that relationship and not have a history repeat itself.
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