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 ComputerGal11
Joined: 8/28/2011
Msg: 26
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No, it's not age-specific. A lot of it is related to lifestyle -- level of activity (exercise), smoking, alcohol usage, prescription meds needed, etc.

So yes, the need for assistance increases with age, but the specific age varies by man.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 27
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 1:17:40 PM
I've never had the need....only the Partner is missing...!!
 DennisKay
Joined: 7/7/2010
Msg: 28
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Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 5:55:15 PM
Unfortunatly some of us have erection problems due to Diabetes.I'm now 55 and I've suffered for quite a few years. I can and get erections thanks to the pills and am grateful for that but I've always suffered from premiture ejaculation. so sex has and still is not of the highetened experience that others have. Any Suggestions?
 MagikMan59
Joined: 8/2/2011
Msg: 29
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 6:12:01 PM

Unfortunately some of us have erection problems due to Diabetes.I'm now 55 and I've suffered for quite a few years. I can and get erections thanks to the pills and am grateful for that but I've always suffered from premiture ejaculation. so sex has and still is not of the highetened experience that others have. Any Suggestions?


If you are willing to get surgery, there is an inflatable bladder that is placed inside the penis, and a pump that is placed near your kidneys, with the air release valve behind the testicles. NO JOKING
So you press on the pump until you're erect, handle your business, then press the release valve when your done.
Sorry but I don't know of any doctors who have performed this surgery, and I'm sure you don't want any inexperienced Dr. messing around down there. Do your research. I'm sure it isn't cheap either. Good luck.
 Bucketlist099
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 30
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 6:45:13 PM
Many of the people who have responded to this post have already indicated most of the possible causes of ED. I am 59 and have been suffering ED for only about the last 2 years and I can attribute it entirely to being diagnosed and medicated for diabetes. If it were not for that I would not have ED. However, I will say one more thing about ED cause and that is simple erotic attraction. With the right woman, attractiveness, eroticism, etc. I can get it up pencil hard just like I could before diabetes meds and even harder than I could at times when I was much younger. Other times, if the lady isn't just right, I have trouble.

Also, for me, I have tried all the pills with only limited success. I have penis pumps, with limited success. I also went to DR. and got a prescription for TriMix injection. TriMix works well in getting me hard, but, I am too hard!! and it is not only uncomfortable for me but can be quite uncomfortable for the lady, especially if she has never had children. What works for me a large percent of the time is a sexy lady and then putting on a simple rubber****ring that you can get in an adult store for $3 bucks. Much cheaper than any of the other "fixes" and more reliable and not painful for the lady.

Just my 10 cents worth on the issue.
 Bucketlist099
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 31
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 6:48:45 PM
Yes. Depending on where you are there are physicians specializing in the problems some of us gentlemen have and there are meds to treat premature ejaculation. I go to the Nashville Men's Medical Center and know this because they talked to me about it. I don't have premature ejac problems but am treated there for ED. They or a comparable Dr can treat your premature ejac and give you a chance to experience the full benefits of sex providing you have the partner.
 Bucketlist099
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 32
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 6:51:37 PM
Here in Nashville the Male Medical Center does this surgery. I considered it but rejected it because of the cost which, no surprise, med insurance will not touch. They consider our happiness in being able to handle our male abilities to be of know medical value. Never mind that lack of satisfying sex can cause depression which can then cascade into a host of physical disorders.
 simcoelonewolf
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 33
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:30:43 PM
Not sure if this has been mentioned, but if the problem continues, get his blood sugar tested. It could be an indication of diabetes.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 34
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:32:18 PM
In Canada more docs are coming around to understand that 125-175 mg testosterone enanthanate once a week will do wonders for a man past 50.
 LADYINRED126
Joined: 10/10/2010
Msg: 35
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/7/2011 9:13:49 PM
This is very common as the hormone testosterone decreases as a man ages. That being said, it does not occur with all men. There are other variables such as lifestyle and alochol consumption as wellas side effects of medication. Always rule out psychological issues by consulting with a urologist first.

"THE SHRINK"
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 36
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 5:55:05 AM

Always rule out psychological issues by consulting with a urologist first.


Huh? The prostate is about as close to the brain as a urologist ever gets. I guess my prostate could have "psychological issues", but that's a totally new concept to me, and to the medical profession as well, I think.

I'm sure there are exceptions, but I think that in the vast majority of "cases", the solution to the flaccid dyk problem lies within the dynamics between two "lay" partners, and not in some defect in just one of them. Reach out to, and embrace (in the broadest terms) your partner first- melt the obstacles, and the erections will come. lol
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 37
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 9:48:33 AM
My ex had that problem when he was in his early 40's ... but he was a heavy smoker and a heavy drinker. And I think some medications can cause that problem, or just being out of shape in general.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 38
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 4:31:19 PM
Men who drink and smoke and are overweight will have erectile problems even in their forties. He may have had sex with someone else but if you dont really trust him I would be re-evaluating your relationship. Sometimes it is just stress or fatigue.
If it continues this way I would be worrying, for sure.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 39
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 4:32:44 PM
Yes not uncommon in their forties if they are not so fit or healthy... THen who would want them anyway????
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 40
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 4:34:20 PM
Unfortunately with diabetes and so on you will not really have the prolonged experience that you and your partner may want.... I guess you have tried all sorts of things to delay orgasm by this stage. We may imagine that others are having more heightened sexperiences than us and more fun, but it is probably not true.
 sailor-
Joined: 3/16/2008
Msg: 41
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Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/8/2011 6:49:17 PM
wel dont no what the fuss is all about as i am 67 and still rise to the ocassion granted my partner ,may have to help a tad .but it still works well i just am not 16v any more
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 42
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/12/2011 11:04:14 AM
A strong erection requires a good blood supply thru good, unblocked arteries. An ED problem is usually an indication of the rest of your arteries. Diabetes causes ED because diabetes damages the arteries. Some medications cause it too, but if you have ED problems, start a healthy diet and lifestyle NOW!
 DSMTraveler
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 43
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/13/2011 6:25:32 AM
Now that we've given all the advice the poor man could use, perhaps we should go back to the OP....

Honey, just because a man doesn't have an erection with you (when he has before), it doesn't mean he doesn't find you sexy and it doesn't mean he had sex (with someone else) just before he came visiting.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 44
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/13/2011 3:16:49 PM
All depends on the man in question . And if he's been consistent about taking care of his health or not.


If that's your final answer, I think you're only halfway right. When there's a sexual issue/dysfunction within a couple, more probable than not the fix needs to address both constituents of the "couple", not just one of them. The OP's facts indicate that a newly 50 guy friend had a flat one time, so she brings her tv knowledge to bear, lays the whole problem at his feet, or lap, or wherever, i.e., wonders whatever is wrong with him and his (her diagnosis is that he either needs a pill or he has somehow misbehaved, and never thinks to examine her part in the failure of the "coupling". That facile but fallacious approach seems widespread, which leads me to believe that too many women are watching way too much commercial tv, and believing what they see and hear there.
All we know here is that for the (apparently) first time, the OP's friend failed to get hard when either she or somebody else wished/wanted him hard. There are thousands of reasons why that could happen, and she fixed on two of them, and his diet and exercise makes four. (Noting that, once again, a woman's take is that the problem resides solely within him, and/or his behavior).


And attitude may play a part as well


As stated, I fully agree with this statement, but would only point out that on those few occasions when I approached a woman with a sour attitude (again, for any of a thousand reasons), whatever sexual excitement/stimulation I felt from anticipating some joyous event vanished in no time, and that attitood display shriveled me like a spider on a hot stove. (paraphrasing Little Big Man). lol

I have often seen, in these threads on this issue, the suggestion that the true test is whether he can get hard and cum solo. If so, the problem is not solely within him, but lies somewhere between him and her, and the dynamics of the mix. And that is no less true when he has mustered erections in her presence on prior occasions, as the OP seems to suggest.

btw- the manufacturers of those blue pills, and competing "fixes", pay handsomely to market their wares on tv, and the most effective way to sell anything is to first persuade the target consumer that he/she has an urgent and pressing problem, e.g., an epidemic of limpdickitis, and the product purveyor has the equally urgent solution. Lotsa snake oil has been marketed successfully all kinds of ways, and tv audiences are more vulnerable to such pitches, I think, than most (cuz their minds tend to get mushy, lol, imho).
 sassyscorpiochick
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 45
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 9/14/2011 12:28:43 AM
My SO is 60 and has no problems what so ever. He is extremely healthy too though.

But my ex was in his 50's and things didn't always work quite right.

I agree smoking, drinking, being overweight, and high blood pressure are all contributors to the cause of these types of problems.
 laughtostayyoung
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 46
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 3/17/2012 5:41:32 PM
It works both ways - I have found that now that I am in my 50's I really don't over analyze sex and any problems I had are now distant past memories. By the time men reach 50 sex should be ENJOYABLE and not something they think about. The thinking is what makes most guys go limp (medical issues excluded).
 fall_blossom
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 47
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 3/19/2012 8:38:54 AM
I am not going through all the posts so my post may be a repeat. ED could be due to medical issues such as heart disease and smoking for those who smoke. Get that checked out.
 Balsamica
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 48
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 3/19/2012 9:04:08 AM
Rather worry about getting it up than keeping it down and not be so driven by the thing.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:10:52 AM
My dad, 94 years old and seems not to have any problem, going by the complaints of his "nurse" (lucky guy)

Though it wouldn't surprise me if the silly bugger is quaffing 1/2 a bottle of cialis and playin' with a Tengo (tm) Big Bubba's but plug on the sly. (randy 'ol basterd! good luck to him!)

either that or his best mates are Jesus and Methuselah!
 MDIYM59
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 50
Erection problems @ age 50?
Posted: 3/21/2012 4:11:23 PM
When I was with my ex-wife (I was 47 then) it would take a while between rounds so I started to think I had ED problems, after my divorce I met a very sexy woman (I was 50 at that time) and I could go again almost immediately. My cure for ED is to be with a really sexy woman. Works for me, lol.
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