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 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 19
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I think you have a stalker and it's time for a restraining order. Run like Usain Bolt (world's fastest man)!
 thundergatti
Joined: 8/21/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 9/7/2011 5:03:43 PM
its all good, told her i wasnt interested, I will be much more discriminating before a meet from now on. lesson learned.
 worknovertime
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 21
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Posted: 9/10/2011 2:38:24 PM
Yes... everyone seems to have a story...

I met a guy..his photos were full body...just not his.
He was 20 years older and 100lbs heavier (if it was even him in the pictures).

I took one look, told him I didn't like being lied to.
Turned and left.

Didn't sit down. Didn't hold a conversation. Didn't sugar coat anything.
Just left.
 voschi
Joined: 8/24/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/10/2011 5:58:27 PM
seriously..you owe her nothing other than saying "i'm not feeling it"

anything else is just a cheap parting shot on your part
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/10/2011 6:58:42 PM
Luke I said same thing in earlier post about "prefer not to say". I agree with your more blunt take on this.
 ExploringLife2Gether
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 9/11/2011 12:31:59 PM
I have taken photos of models (face pics only) and modified them to make it somewhat difficult to tell exactly who the person is but enough to say the person is good looking. Then I send it (private). I never post it for all to see. Only once did a woman comment that I didn't look like my picture. I told her that I was on vacation when it was taken and people always look different on vacation. We had sex the first night we met. Woman don't care who is in the photo. It's just a tool to eliminate unattractive people. If you are attractive (and I am), it doesn't matter if you send a fake photo and meet later. This way, you don't run into problems with the girl printing and sharing the photo with her girlfriends that you may have hooked up with before.
 bunnyBiotch
Joined: 6/7/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 9/11/2011 12:38:25 PM
Oh boy, I think just about everyone has gotten this at least once(heavy, bald, no teeth, man boobs, jail time, etc)... Learn from it and move on... You don't have to be mean and nasty about it, she already knows she's heavy(which is why she had one photo from years before), just tell her you're not interested and move onto the next...
 Magina314
Joined: 1/9/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 9/12/2011 10:44:47 AM
Girls, girls, i'm young and i'm dumb, i'm right here, look no further. 22 years old, my pictures are teh same as me, come get me tiger Rawr!
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 29
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Posted: 12/3/2011 12:41:36 PM
I can't tell you how many times I have gone to meet a man who says he is 5'10 and turns out to be shorter then myself.


People sometimes lie on here.It's not big shocker.Either do the polite thing and excuse yourself and just run for the bathroom and exit out the back way.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 30
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Posted: 12/3/2011 12:42:07 PM
Been there, done that. Except I've never done it in the company of coworkers, they'll be busting your chops for awhile on that one.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 12/3/2011 12:53:42 PM
Dude, your not being shallow. She misled you! That's not right, not fair! I think this is rather common, as I've heard of this before. It makes me recall a stand up comics line once was "I think people should include a copy of a recent newspaper with the date noticeable if possible to prove the time of the picture".
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 12/3/2011 1:04:38 PM
^^^Then why bother adding to it?
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 12/3/2011 1:16:43 PM
Thank you for actually having the balls to just go and talk to her even though she turned out differently. Are you really moving out of state, if not..that's a little douchebaggish. She sounds like a real winner if she is wanting to run away and get married, but I have a feeling she isn't being serious. Well, at least I hope she isn't. Was she unattractive BESIDES being 50 pounds heavier? Does she have a good personality at least?

This is why I always tell people that I am not "skinny minnie" before meeting. I don't want anyone to be suprised that I am "thick".
 earthboundangel67
Joined: 9/2/2011
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/3/2011 1:40:26 PM
yep, had that happen ....more than once! I think if someone does this, and you truly arent interested , just say so. No need to lie in turn or make it a long , drawn out process. Nothing wrong with mentioning that their profile & pic didnt really match up. Dont need to be nasty about it either. One can always send more pics & full body photos privately... makes it easier to recognize the person when you are meeting. Or as some do after various experiences, and go on cam to chat before meeting. It can be very much like a blind date .... especially when people are less than honest in their profile.

I am one that believes in upfront & honest. Have it on my profile , multiple times, call a spade a spade. I am what & who I am. I hope to one day be able to put down a few extra pounds & eventually average....am a work in progress. Have current pics & full body , so no false advertising! Do have a couple of older pics, but not much difference , and they happen to be good pics.And, same as christy, I do mention it to any potential dates as well...just in case they havent gotten past the pics... lol. Usually when I do meet someone, they tend to say that I am much better in person.

Personality does count, but physical attraction is important too. To me, honesty is huge as well. If they lie about a few things online, and dont fess up before meeting....what else are they gonna say or do that isnt quite up to par. However, it is online, where pretty much anything goes. You always take your chances when you start chatting and plan to meet someone. I dont really get the lying thing, but apparently many like to do it. All I can say is good luck!
 Midnight_Whispers
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 12/3/2011 4:57:51 PM
I love that one, take a pic holding your name first.. :) Thanks a fantastic Idea
 Lolita_LeBron
Joined: 1/12/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 12/3/2011 8:06:03 PM
Be honest with her because she wasn't being honest with you. In fact, be brutally honest. You are not wrong for feeling what you are now feeling because you bragged to your friends and they ended up laughing at you. People who post pictures of themselves looking way different from what they now look like are perpetrating a fraud and they know it. Do they care? No. They think that if you actually got to know them, that you would forget this little lie.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 12/3/2011 9:22:07 PM
A similar situation happened to me once, met a guy in a chat and we talked on the phone. He wanted to meet but I wasn't interested as I didnt like his personality but I didn't tell him that, I just said no..well over the next few months he would call me up and ask me to meet and always I would say no. He looked good in his pic but still not interested. Finally I agreed to meet him (after several months) and right away I knew he wasn't the guy in the pic and told him so.

He made excuses like he had put on weight and blah blah but he wasn't that big and the guy in the photo was buff..

Told him " for 1: you are a lot shorter than the guy in the pic and 2: your nose is a lot longer Pinocchio"
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