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 TheWonderingGuy
Joined: 4/30/2011
Msg: 24
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...Page 2 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I had to move back home for awhile when I got out of college and my dating life totally died. Maybe if you meet a girl who becomes extremely attached to you it can work but I've never been able to create that sort of attachment in relationships.

I would say get your work and living situation under control first women can wait. If you get super lonely just put on some nice clothes and go bar hopping you'll find that the women who won't date you will hook up with you. Funny how that works.
 Simon4567
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 25
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 9/6/2011 10:46:21 PM
Is it possible to date someone while living with the rents(not saying that I am looking)?


Yes, I have met women who said they don't mind dating men that are living at home with family. There are some who understand that times are hard. May Mythra bless them.

I live alone in a cave, 2000 miles away from family. I don't know why they tell me this.
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 9/6/2011 11:45:02 PM
OP , I think you are full of it .

But on the topic and regardless , since I have nothing better to do , I am on plenty of fish so it is not like I have a date . lol

Living at home is a drag . Women do not like it . Women want stuff like they want you to live in a high end real estate area from where you commute to the financial district in your BMW .
Or at least , women do not want to go to your rec room for a date where they are rudely accosted by a talk with your dad about his aggravated hernia and how it makes him more gassy than the family dog .

I suggest you hold off on dating for a while , and in the mean time you might lobby washington to end the fed and get back to sound currency and limited government and the free enterprise system which made america great in the years gone past .....
so's that you might actually get a job and then get your own pad and lots of hot dates , but the dates will probably not come from pof . Try bumping in to women with your shopping cart and try to look like you have your own place .
 buckeye1332
Joined: 5/19/2011
Msg: 28
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 9/7/2011 2:59:00 AM
oxny42,

I'd have to say you are going to have a tough time. Being unemployed is definitely not in your favor while searching for dates, and living with your parents at 25 will also keep you looking. For me if I met a woman in your shoes, I wouldn't date her because she doesn't have her life in order. Nothing against you as a person, just I know there are few people who would consider someone in your present position. Now once you get things straightened up and in order, I'd say you would be suprised how much easier it will be to find women to date.

If the law thing isn't working at this time, have you considered finding some sort of other job in the meantime until you find a job in practicing law? This would be my advise because the network and cover letters doesn't sound to be too profitable for you.
 romeoproductionz
Joined: 8/9/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 9/7/2011 10:16:01 AM
no dude...not every 1 is gonna be the best in life...Women can have multi kids,and i need him to save me n treat me like a queen attitude and some stupid guys still bite on it...

remember some 1 will always buy what ur selling(you)

do what i do i only date women that make alot of money, cause then money is not a issue then it goes down to how good you do her...cause what can u give a woman that already has money?

sex and attention....nothing more

just start out slow and know that there are so many lonely women with money just looking for a good time...I make a living off these women and i drive a new car,always stay on point in my fashion,and own a condo on E. 30th between park n lex....

I came to NY with the clothes on my back and less then a year i was living the good life
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 31
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 9/7/2011 5:14:49 PM
oxny42- Your profile says you graduated from law school in '06, so you finished law school at 19?! Oh, wait, that's right you just graduated.
Here's a little tip for you.......it's easier to tell the truth than to keep track of lies.
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 32
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:46:19 PM
Lying in his profile. Trying to make out he's a hedge fund manager. Yeah, he's a law grad all right. No wonder they all have such a bad rep. Can you spell "sleaze"? Living at home is not the issue here. It's common these days. Integrity issues will keep this guy sleeping solo.
 sexymind85
Joined: 8/10/2011
Msg: 34
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:26:42 PM
I can't comment on whether or not you're a liar-I haven't done any investigative work with your profile.

BUT I sure can comment on your question. Get a fr*ggin job at McDonalds, dude. Didn't you think it might not be easy to get your dream job right out of school? Didn't you consider the possibility that you might need money while you applied for better jobs?? Didn't you just assume you wouldn't get any play at your parent's house and make decisions accordingly??? Guess not. Some planning ahead might have helped you out. Put that (supposedly) big brain of yours to practical use.

P.s. My friend is in your situation and he hasn't gotten play from any new girls since being at mommy and daddy's. I tell him to quit whining, too.
 Indian20
Joined: 9/28/2010
Msg: 35
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Posted: 9/7/2011 9:10:54 PM
Yawls crazy!! I was digging this thread until dude got treated for lying and just like....left.
N E ways, if you ever endeaver to return, just to see what people are saying on a thread that you found so important to set up a bogus profile about that existed for over a year.....
Personally, I find that the majority of women, at least the ones I meet, won't date you if you're broke. Furthermore, there would be a special woman who would like you enough to take up the struggle with you, but you'll probably leave her once you get on your feet and start making good money...it's funny..then why should you expect understanding from her...
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/23/2011 3:35:48 PM
I agree with Cindy. Any female that holds a temporary inconvenience is definitely not worth my time. This economy is rough as it is and it's not going to get any better. So many are out of jobs and looking for work. To people that have a job, just be thankful you HAVE a job to make a pay check to take home and do whatever with it.

I'm thankful that I have a job, a place to live in, clothes on my back, food in the fridge, money to pay for gas, a car to drive that's in stable condition, even tho I live with a roommate if a female does not like that she can press the next button. Just as much as I will press that next button because that would save me a waste of time.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/23/2011 5:14:37 PM
I think I'd rather have one of my own occupying my basement than occupying wall street right now.
As long as the young person is actively seeking employment and seriously helping out around the house, family helps family.
 MisterRiiight
Joined: 8/3/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/23/2011 5:39:33 PM
OP: You could always try the George Costanza approach. Just walk up to a woman and say "I'm oxny42, I'm unemployed and I live with my parents". Okay, that was no help but that was a funny Seinfeld episode. My only suggestion is what others have suggested - at least make your profile reflect your actual situation and not something you cut and paste. You even say Ma*ch.com in it FFS.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/23/2011 7:41:35 PM

Delete it all and start again.
This time try honesty.
It's the best policy.
And it shows integrity.

Hope you send in "your" resume to your job interviews.
Not someone elses.
Providing your are really unemployed.


I thought "honest lawyer" was an oxymoron.
 1776or1984
Joined: 12/25/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/23/2011 8:03:33 PM
I can see a woman not wanting to date a guy that didn't have is act together enough to be self supporting.

Man, things have changed a lot since I turned 18. Just about everyone in my graduating class made plans and did something with their life. Some of them worked two jobs to make ends meet but I can't think of any that moved back with their parents.

OP, what is wrong with taking a night job rather than doing nothing till you find a job in your profession? Get some real world experience in business, might come in handy one of these days.
 slimmer9999
Joined: 10/29/2011
Msg: 45
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 11/23/2011 8:18:31 PM
I have never heard of an attorney out of work. Can't you work for the state?
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 48
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 11/23/2011 10:20:30 PM

I find it very strange people have an issue with people living at home in this economy.


I think people have more of an issue that his profile says he's 26, and he "finished grad school in '06", which either makes him a child prodigy that graduated undergrad college at 19 and went on for a graduate degree, or a liar/troll...
 QueenBeeSweetness
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 49
Unemployed Living at Home With Parents...
Posted: 11/24/2011 1:01:24 AM
I dont know...it is pretty iffy for me.

I prefer men with their own homes because that is the level i am on, i am not going to tiptoe around his Mom or sneak into his window, i suppose i MIGHT if everything else was right, but TBH, not my ideal.
 cutiecaliente
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 53
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Posted: 11/25/2011 4:50:03 AM
volunteer at law firms...and go and get some other job...
even if you have to work at a store or something else...
you are doing something for yourself...
unfortunately it is double standard...
whena man lives at home... he is a loser
while the woman... she will take care of her parents
 Out_of_the_Ash
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/25/2011 1:59:06 PM
It all depends on the situation and even what country you live in, as some are hit harder with this economical crisis than others and also make you jump through hoops for an eternity giving you false hope and even give you "work" where you don't actually get paid for like 6 months (UK, I am looking at you, 1 in 5 households in England are broke as f**k and it's hella expensive to just breathe in the air).

How hard are you looking for work? Are you just lazing around or are you helping out around the house and paying bills with EI?

I think in this time it should slide a bit. Sure it can be disconcerting and first impression is that they are lazy but that is not always the case.

I also don't see a lot wrong with families living together. Why not? If you get along with your family, it's better than random room-mates who are more likely to f**k you over.

So long as it is temporary and means to an end, I don't see the problem.
 Out_of_the_Ash
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 55
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Posted: 11/25/2011 2:05:29 PM

^^^^^^^ yeah right... over a year ago.
Do we ALL look stupid?


Busteeed.
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 56
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Posted: 11/25/2011 2:32:14 PM
OP I don't think it will be too hard to find an "outlet" like you describe


Just make sure your honest about it and don't lead a woman on.............


edited to add
so I just went back and reread all the replies............now who can believe anything the OP says...............whatever
 Suffox1
Joined: 9/15/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 11/25/2011 5:01:00 PM
What everyone else has said plus:

Go find some employment of any kind. It will boost your morale a bit plus if you get a job working with the public you might not have to use POF anymore?
 JamesHermes
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 11/28/2011 10:38:28 PM
A lot of people our age are living with parents right now. The economy is screwed up and it's hard to find work even if you go outside of your own field.

That being said no one needs to know you live with your parents. It's not like you're going to bring a potential date home the first night. Unless of course she's homeless but then she's not going to care who you live with.

My first girl-friend was from out of state and she was up her with her husband who threw her out of the house. She ended up staying in the spare bedroom at my parents house for a week before asking me out. We dated for another week while living together in my parents house before she went back to her home state. I would of gone with her but I had a contract I couldn't get out of. I was going to go meet her again when my contract expired but the long distance thing wasn't working out and ended up asking her to just be friends.
 JamesHermes
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 64
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Posted: 11/29/2011 1:26:07 AM

It sucks donkey azz to date guys who live with their mom and dad. It's really embarrassing when you're having sex on the kitchen table and in walk his parents.They also really hate it when you try and watch porn together in the living room.


That's why you don't do it in public living spaces. You can do that when you get your own house but when you live with other people, even if you have room mates not saying your parents, you don't have sex in public.

I've had a lock on my bedroom and bathroom door sense I was a teenager. I wish the locks were there the entire time growing up because my mom has no respect for privacy. My dad, he knocks on the door and waits for an answer. My mom just walks in without any warning. I can't prove it but I'm pretty sure my mom's a pedophile and was intentionally trying to see me naked.
 JamesHermes
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 69
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Posted: 11/30/2011 5:35:00 AM

Got be able to take care of yourself before you can take care of a woman,..


I use to think I needed a job to go on dates. Not that I ever got many dates anyway but that really isn't the case.

I've been on several dates where we didn't pay for anything. Walking is free and gives you plenty of time to talk. And if she'll invite you over you can eat in instead of eating out. (That didn't sound right...)

There were also dates were we did spend some money but it wasn't always me spending money on her or her spending money on me. We were both equals.

Basically I don't have to take care of her. We take care of each other. That's what a relationship is. If a relationship was just the man does everything and the woman does nothing then I'd rather be single.
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